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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by NemzySeries(m): 1:10am On Jul 31, 2015 |
phelpy:urs is fair....her hubby dunt want dem to cum ova.....konji kills faster dan cancer oooo 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by yeman2012(m): 1:12am On Jul 31, 2015 |
prinwa:sorry to say I disagree to agree..how you go say you husband come's once a year?? you ma think am na?? abi na inside Ocean him day work? |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by AdaEkube(f): 1:27am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Madam of all places this is where u decided to bring ur problems to.Most of them advising you r not even married and r desperately searching,some don't hv an international passport let alone applied for a visa to travel anywhere. this is something u should talk to God about,Mk Him d number one person in your home,pray for ur hubby,dats wat wives do.next time he's in town u discuss with him,tell him how u feel and u guys would settle dis with one understanding.Marriage ain't roses like dat,there are sacrifices u make to keep it going. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 1:32am On Jul 31, 2015 |
prinwa:You actually do not have a marriage. What you have is a copulation arrangement. Life is all about priorities. Two cannot walk unless they agree. You and your husband have conflicting priorities. One has to give. Case closed. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 1:34am On Jul 31, 2015 |
AdaEkube:Some sacrifices are not worth it. It is not that he has a plan to live together with them but it is not materializing, from her comments he has no plan. That is completely different. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by funkyjms: 1:35am On Jul 31, 2015 |
TV01: Fantastic |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 1:35am On Jul 31, 2015 |
NemzySeries:konji is manageable when there is an expiry date. This one is endless. That is what is worrying the woman most. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by daradave: 1:36am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Dear op, I think I Ave a similar case to urs only difference is mine has bin gone for just over 2yrs but hasn't bin home since den. We Skype daily, talking about our day. He talks to d kids to, so most times we don't feel dat we are apart, he gets to help dem with stuffs, to d extent that wen my kids fight u hear stuffs like "I will tell dady wen he returns frm work" honestly it's not easily but it's possible to manage. The only missing part is d sexual aspect which Ave learnt to adjust too without any shady dealings. So the companionship I think u can find a way round it but the sexual aspect you Ave to find a way to adjust and adapt. Although mine is not indefinite cos we are joining him in a few months frm now. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by AdaEkube(f): 1:41am On Jul 31, 2015 |
mbulela:From her comments she said he has tried to get their papers in d past bt to no avail.r u saying she should leave her marriage or start sleeping around or wat??. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by NemzySeries(m): 1:45am On Jul 31, 2015 |
mbulela:hehehe....calm dwn my fwend,make dis issues no pain or worry u pass d woman ooo ![]() |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by NemzySeries(m): 1:48am On Jul 31, 2015 |
AdaEkube:Haba...aw wud we say she shd start sleeping arnd na? but if she open small fone boot for hauz e no bad na ![]() |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by yeman2012(m): 1:50am On Jul 31, 2015 |
AdaEkube:she tell you say God na her neighbor ...and wytn bring international passport for this matter again.. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Jideams(m): 2:13am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Hi MADAM Said you are in your late 20s, I cannot but drop some line of words. I have a good understanding of how you feel as I lost my marriage in the same circumstance. Truth be told, its hard and I do feel for you, not sure what your husbands position is over here but things are not what they used to be. Now call him, sit him down and discuss the situation, let him know you cannot hold it for any longer ( but make sure you are telling the truth). Both define what is required and understand what it takes for him to move down. U both have a duty to play, once he his down he his in a strange land and cannot operate as it used to so you will both have cut down on things till you find ur ground. If you cannot hold it, call your parents and let them know, call his and discuss with them if they are alive. Make sure you make your case know and if you want to move on let it be known to everyone before you get yourself involved with another man. Your dignity matters a lot. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Certifiedboss: 2:22am On Jul 31, 2015 |
prinwa: Dear,believe me it's difficult down there . He might have a job that can care for him over there and also he can be sending enough money for you and the kids . But sometimes taking the whole family down there is a different ball game . It might be top expensive for him . Maybe you should encourage him to save up and set up a business here and he return permanently . Life outside the shores of this country is not as rosy and it seems expecially for a family man |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:24am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Brandnew2:so people with kids don't get lonely or emotional? |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:25am On Jul 31, 2015 |
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:26am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Brandnew2:after your first post I had doubts of your sanity...buh now you've cleared my doubts with this...you're a fool!!! |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by adozie(m): 2:26am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Cutehector: ...and after the divorce will you marry her? What's the guarantee the next bf or hubby will be any better. I can totally understand why the guy wants his family to stay in Nigeria. He should probably make effort to visit more often and stay longer. Better still, plan on relocating back to Nigeria. Abroad is not always a bed of roses. You are always a second class citizen away from home 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:27am On Jul 31, 2015 |
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:30am On Jul 31, 2015 |
prinwa:I completely understand how you feel, I just wish I could make your wish a reality. But every marriage has got its challenges. Please be calm,am sure things will work out for good. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by pragmatistm(m): 3:13am On Jul 31, 2015 |
cococandy:Seriously seconded. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by marriedvirgin: 3:39am On Jul 31, 2015 |
My sister what makes you think he doesn't have another wife? My sister are you sure he has the necessary papers? hmmm this is strange,never heard of such.Anyway,God be your strength. prinwa: |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by marriedvirgin: 3:46am On Jul 31, 2015 |
The Embassy is right because usually they check if your husband has been filing his taxes and they check how much he has in his account.Also if he is not yet a citizen I guess you would have to wait long before he can be able to file for you as a foreign spouse.Applying for citizenship would cost him some money so you just have to hold your heart together because eyou might still have some few years to wait. God be your helper prinwa: |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by delishpot: 3:49am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Brandnew2: For real? having kids wiĺl even increase that lonely feeling. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by marriedvirgin: 3:51am On Jul 31, 2015 |
hahahahahahah when you asked the Op if her husband be youth pastor I laf tire. I know a Zambian pastor here in US who abandoned his wife and three kids in Zambia and came here.The pastor na total woman rapper.He even quarrel with one of his numerous girl friends the other day and called her a bi***tch ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() spikezz: |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by marriedvirgin: 3:55am On Jul 31, 2015 |
hmm love doctor kwa ![]() Brandnew2: |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by aspirebig: 3:58am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Cutehector: No just think am, once that idea is being nursed, the result is not often good. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by aspirebig: 3:59am On Jul 31, 2015 |
The guy is busy catching his fun there, simple. If not, why wont he allow them to relocate permanently. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by ibedun: 4:08am On Jul 31, 2015 |
whizqueen: Dirty Shiite woman, so marriage is about sex? |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by supereagle(m): 4:25am On Jul 31, 2015 |
Most of this people living in US particular keep one wife in Nigeria and another one in US. Those who are free bring in their wife without delay after marriage here in Nigeria, if you see anyone keeping a wife here and he doesn't want her to to join him overthere is a sign that there is a wife in US. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by crystalzoe: 5:05am On Jul 31, 2015 |
innervoice:y do we do this to folks seeking advice. how does Ur question help her? wat has happened has happened arranged or not all she needs now is advise on d way forward and not criticism. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by oduamine: 5:09am On Jul 31, 2015 |
In Europe family reunion is taken serious, firstly your spouse income must be enough to feed you and your kids. My opinion wait for him to get the citizenship then you can move with him but all still come down to your hubby requirement. Another thing is if he has enough money you can join him with the 11 months baby then appeal for the older kid when you get to Europe |
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