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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by otimize(m): 11:02pm On Jul 31, 2015 |
prinwa:I have taken time to read several comments that you have posted as a reply to posts on this thread. Forgive me but i dont trust your desires. Best advice thou, tell him you feel your marriage to him is a big mistake, show him this thread on nairaland, or occupy yourself with the things of God, cus u look like someone with so much fleshy thoughts. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 11:14pm On Jul 31, 2015 |
otimize:well that's your opinion. thanks for the advice. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by marychommy(f): 4:10am On Aug 01, 2015 |
My dear is not easy but will have to tell you this 'U ARE LUCKY ' do you kn how many couples dat have lived separately for a long time? Some haven't seen their husbands for about 4 to 7 years, you are here complaining about him visiting once in a year and you being able to travel and be with him. Where was he wen he got married to you probably he is living abroad what about those dat married their husbands here and things got tough for dem he decided to travel and have not been back for a long time my dear God loves you. I do understand but he is der doesn't make him happy you are even more happy than him cos you are here with your kids and he is der all alone. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Skmoda360(m): 7:20am On Aug 01, 2015 |
skyfullofstars:what you need is a family meeting with him being around, his family and your family. try and locate his best friend if any when his around to try talk to him. I know it's not easy woman. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by EmmyDe25(m): 10:36am On Aug 01, 2015 |
prinwa:Hmmmn..... Fact is, he doesnt want you guys to come on board. But for your age, i'm wondering why the man is leaving you all alone in the cold nights. If you've stayed faithful over the years, then i can boldly say you are the last of a dying breed. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 11:40am On Aug 01, 2015 |
AdaEkube:I will never be the one to advise her to leave and I cannot demean her union and vow by asking her to sleep around. However it seems you missed this part of her Comment; recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 11:51am On Aug 01, 2015 |
otimize:These are the sort of sanctimonious comments that grind my tits. A woman who has been sexuality active in the past is suddenly guilty of having fleshly thoughts when she complains of loneliness and sexual deprivation. Is that the height of your empathy? What is fleshly about desiring the company and warmth of your husband? Occupying yourself with God himself (not just the things of God) is no substitute for conjugal satisfaction. No need being so spiritually minded that you are earthly useless. Her husband needs to prioritize the health of his marriage over whatever benefit he derives from being abroad. 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 11:54am On Aug 01, 2015 |
Jorussia: Are you kidding me? She has no reason to complain? Marriage is not bondage o No woman should be put through such hell consciously. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Jorussia(m): 12:53pm On Aug 01, 2015 |
mbulela:If you are not ready to endure hard times in marriage, you better don't get marry. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by mbulela: 8:12pm On Aug 01, 2015 |
Jorussia:I hear you but marriage is not synonymous with hard time. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Jorussia(m): 8:24pm On Aug 01, 2015 |
mbulela:I know its not synonymous with hard times, but,hard times will surely come in a marriage.Marriage is always bed of roses. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by iamnemo(m): 7:57am On Aug 02, 2015 |
My dear. I can relate to your feelings of deep sadness, frustration and loneliness which can hover over you like a veil when you are in a long distance relationship. If you feel that you belong together, hang in there even when loneliness threatens to overwhelm you. Many long distance couples have found that all the emotional turmoil that they went through while they were apart was worth it in the end. Don’t listen to others that say a long distance relationship can’t succeed. If there’s enough love there and both of you are willing to put in the effort to make it work, anything is possible. Put your mementos of your relationship in a scrapbook. Create a page of all the things you love about your man like funny or sweet things he’s said to you. Going through your scrapbook when you are feeling down will be an instant boost of happiness and it will remind you why this relationship is worth it. And don't just sit at home. Hang out with friends as long as you are putting time in your relationship and nurturing it, you don’t have to hang up your social butterfly wings. Go out and spend time with your friends doing fun things that you enjoy. It’s a good idea to check in with your husband throughout so he’s a part of the activities even though he can’t be there. I know this won't be like having him there. But I think it can help you cope. But in future, this is the wrongest place to seek advice. Especially of this nature. Just look at this comment in quote and see the amount of likes and shares. Its sickening to say the least. Talk to your husband instead. You both know why you are doing this. Goodluck and hang in there. tellwisdom: 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by ifyalways(f): 8:12am On Aug 02, 2015 |
Your hubby have just a residence permit wherever he is. You obviously are either not working or don't earn enough that is why you were refused a mere tourist visa on " finance " grounds. How do I know? You said you were denied visa cos " hubby don't earn enough to take care of 2 people" which means, you used hubby as sponsor of the trip. Or you applied for a spousal visa. With two kids, what options do you have if you leave or stay ? Weigh your options in all honesty. Some people stay in same town with their spouses but see them once in two months. If you wanna still stay, my advisory : This is the time to invest, monitor and grow it. Invest in yourself. Grow in your chosen business or career field. Get some adult toys. Things can only get better. All the best. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 2:47pm On Aug 09, 2015 |
iamnemo:Much respect for this, bro. Unfortunately, there aren't many with wisdom like this on nairaland. It's highly unfortunate indeed! I just hope people realise that bringing sensitive issues as this one to this forum is more often than not counterproductive. Thanks for your well reasoned out thoughts! 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 8:59pm On Aug 09, 2015 |
prinwa: Honestly I laughed hard when u made this statement. Of course he won't tell u in plain terms it will be like this. This part of the arrangement is always hidden until the lady has kids. One of my female friends, is about to fall into this type of Trap. When I explained the scenario of exactly what you are missing in your marriage , thats what she will also miss and go through. She said she will be busy with work and when children rolls in, she won't even think of companionship or having someone to warm her bed in the lonely nights, I looked at her in disdain and asked her , pease tell me, are u a robot? That u will see and be with your husband once in a year.. My dear I give you , just 2years, its either u pack out or u have a lover warming your bed and keeping u company... U r a full blooded human being, period! She no marry the guy again.. Its better for her to be single and free than to be married and caged , living like a single mother... I say single mum even better pass her situation.. Simple put a caged mum without warmth or companionship.. What a life! 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by rolled: 11:48pm On Aug 09, 2015 |
kaorama:God bless you |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Blonchilli(m): 10:21am On Aug 10, 2015 |
Amelian:Still waiting for ur gossip blog or do u ve more stories? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Obierika(m): 8:20pm On Sep 24, 2023 |
marychommy: Why should a married couple be apart for 7 whole years?! |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by emoboy4u: 8:32pm On Sep 24, 2023 |
Obierika:Those ones are just deceiving each other except the husband is some military person |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Gee64: 8:44pm On Sep 24, 2023 |
Lord, please let her not fall into gbola temptation. You see, toto needs regular oiling to make it wet all the time. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by princessyere1(f): 1:56am On Sep 26, 2023 |
Cutehector:😂 lol |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by jahsharon: 7:15pm On Sep 26, 2023 |
tellwisdom: It's obvious that you are suffering from generational inherited psychiatric disorders.
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by tellwisdom: 9:29pm On Sep 26, 2023 |
jahsharon: Who be this??. Is your coochie itching u ![]() |
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