agarawu23:
The girl left her conversations with the DJ on her phone until the husband to be saw it ? we shouldn't rush into conclusion that the lady is trying to fvck the DJ.

They have been together for so long before planning to get married, and the guy never complained about the girl trying to cheat or flirt. if he hasn't, we shouldn't think what we are thinking.

But if the guy knows the lady for flirting around, he should end the wedding once and for all instead of planning to fvck around after the wedding because it will only shorten his life.

Na one day e dey take start.

modelmike7:
......... Still for you.............. Proverb 26:4. May God have mercy on your soul. He loves you more than you know my dear brother. I do also....... With the love of God! Whatever situation you may be going through will come to an end soon. It is well with you my guy! But please, dont Blaspheme anymore, it is dangerous. God bless you so much!

and for you statement 45:56,,,,,go hug a tree!!!..........

Him go fucck around , she will too n dia kids go learn cum dey fucck around too

tsdarkside:


and for you statement 45:56,,,,,go hug a tree!!!..........

......... Proverb 26:4.

modelmike7:
......... Proverb 26:4.

statement 34:99.....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...forget it...

agarawu23:
The girl left her conversations with the DJ on her phone until the husband to be saw it ? we shouldn't rush into conclusion that the lady is trying to fvck the DJ.

They have been together for so long before planning to get married, and the guy never complained about the girl trying to cheat or flirt. if he hasn't, we shouldn't think what we are thinking.

But if the guy knows the lady for flirting around, he should end the wedding once and for all instead of planning to fvck around after the wedding because it will only shorten his life.

wow, you are better off in Romance section than politics section where you pick fights unneccassarily. Bye from Politics and welcome to the thing you do best. Romance

Hmmmmmmmm,dat is true

DECOtech:


What if the DJ's is the only one that has been discovered?

Hmm... This matter is not at all shallow oh.

then the husband should call the wedding off nd switch off all his fone,dissappear from all soical networks and travel to an unknown plce for some time...this is becuse there re some people tht can beg for life..in other for him not to fall for these cheap sentiments ..he should dissappear..a broking wedding is better than a broken marriage!!!

makavel7:
Its obvious the DJ has already eaten the apple and collected receipt. all we're all doing commenting is just POST-MORTEM!

Na u know that one oooo

If there is anything I cannot tolerate is a flirt....God please let none cross my path....

proxillin:
My friend’s wedding is coming up by next month. I am to be one of his men in suit.

I noticed they are quarreling recently. He opened up to me yesterday.

They are looking for a DJ to play at their reception, so his wifeToBe got a number of one DJ, added him on whatsap and they started chatting. My guy trusted the lady that she is just doing business chat with the DJ.

One day, my friend was going through her whatsapp chat with the DJ. The WifeTB told the DJ that she needs the service of the DJ for her friend’s wedding. She didn’t tell the DJ she is actually the one wedding.

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

My guy saw all that, yet he kept quiet and didn’t want to raise the issue with the lady as their wedding is close, before people start saying he is jealous, he is spying on his girl blahblah.

But my friend could not endure the whole thing again when the DJ started calling her repeatedly. They engage in confidential phone calls. She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying. At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.
My guy finally confronted her, why all conversations with the DJ are not business and formal. Why is she hiding things from him?

The wifetobe went mad she alleged my guy is jealous, wrongly suspecting her.

My friend told her, he actually read their chats where they agreed to go out on a date.
That’s when she admitted that he actually asked her to meet him somewhere for a hangout.
She said she had nothing in mind for him. She is only going to meet him as friend at a restaurant. Nothing is going to happen. It’s just a harmless date.

My friend opened up to me that he regretted making decision to marry her. He told me a lot of things that he can’t cancel the wedding again. He will be part of the wedding, but after the wedding, he will start f***cking girls. He will make life difficult for her.

I told him, it’s better to remain single than to go into a hateful marriage.
Deep down in me, I can’t advise him to cancel the wedding.
I have summoned them for a meeting to discuss it and settle it. But that lady can be arrogant at times. My peace meeting may or may not be successful.

Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?

There are no excuses. That girl doesn't understand what marriage entails. She isn't even ready. It would still be an offence to go out on a date with an old friend when plans are just underway for your marriage, but going out with someone you just met- the DJ of your event is all the signs your friend needs to call off the wedding.

It might hurt bad but it won't be half as bad as a worthless wife in a matrimony.

That's a category A b1tch he's about bonding with.

And if he doesn't bleed now for once, he'll be doing paternity test in the next 5 years.

deadZONE:
She is a call girl...
even the ring cant
change that.

She's not only that but also deceptive. This is quite unfortunate.

proxillin:


I do ...

I could have advised the guy to quit. But I didnt. He might end up marrying the girl and I will turn to their enemy.

Instead, I called the 2 of them for reconciliation meeting.

We all know the truth is to cancel the wedding. But I will never let it out.

At times its not a sin to lie

@poster
There is a Chinese proverb that says that it is only a friend that would tell you that you have spit on your face. Bro you need to be that friend now. Since you have acknowledged the fact that you think he should cancel the wedding but you do not want to tell him, why not advise him to at lesast postpone the wedding? His happiness is much more important than any money he has spent thus far on the wedding.

The honest truth is that there are just too many red flags

1. She told the DJ her friend is getting married. I honestly don't buy the argument that she said it to get a better deal from the DJ. Ask any DJ or wedding caterer and they would always tell you that the bride makes it clear that it is her wedding! Please how would you get a better deal by saying that it is your friend's wedding? In fact the DJ WOULD even CHARGE MORE because you are a third party!

2. She excuses herself from her fiance to answer calls from the DJ. We all agree that there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for this. How can my wife to be, excuse herself from my presence to answer a call? I would call of the wedding right away

Finally your friend said that he would get married and cheat. Does he think that he is the only one with the ability to cheat? What makes him think that his wife wouldn't cheat as well? Why go through ALL THIS STRESS

It is obvious that she is not ready to get married so your friend should put postpone the wedding(or better still cancel it). You are obviously a good friend but you have to tell your friend the hard truth.

Let us know how it goes during the reconciliation meeting you organized

She's an unserious fellow. Nov ready to be a wife. You waste your time and life marrying her. You'd never enjoy the marriage no matter how much you try. And if she's below 26, then it's all even a bigger joke because reports have shown that 78% of under 26yo brides are not mentally and psychologically prepared for marriage (my research findings).
So bro, be bold, do the needful, threaten her you have decided to call the wedding off. Note, I didn't say ' that you will call it iff', I said, 'that you have already called it off'...that she's now free to go and dick-ride the DJ.

Your life would be miserable for a few days or weeks mourning the death of a promising marriage but afterwards, you'll be like LG - Life's good!

@OP; from my point of view, the answer to your question is NO; IT’S NOT NORMAL FOR HER TO DO THAT.

I really can’t understand why she told the DJ that his service was for her friends wedding. Also, what exactly did she think she would achieve by going on a date with the DJ or any other man for that matter; OWING TO THE FACT THAT HER WEDDING DATE HAS BEEN FIXED AND IT’S NOT AS IF THEY ARE STILL WAITING TO PICK A DATE. Some people do have cold-feet to the period leading up to their wedding day but going on a date with another man SHOULD BE A NO NO; as it is not what would calm her cold-feet; it’ll only make it worse.

It irks me that she refers to the date as a harmless date. In all, she has no business meeting with the DJ in that restaurant and claiming that nothing is going to happen. It’s starts from somewhere and before you can say JACK ROBINSON; SHE IS ON A NO RETURN. At this stage in her relationship, she’s still sampling other guys on a date. I really shake my head for such a woman. It is not only when a woman is caught
red-handed before it becomes an avenue for cheating.

You listed a few things in your write-up as below;

DJ started calling her repeatedly.

They engage in confidential phone calls.

She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying.

At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.


Some ladies really do have guts and she is rubbing it in her fiancés' face. She really has no RESPECT FOR HER FIANCE; what a pity/shame.

She says her fiancé is jealous; right, okay let me reverse the role (Please ask your friend's fiancee this question when you meet her) and say if her fiancé does some of the things she is doing with this DJ with one of her brides-maid or her wedding planner what would she do? I can guarantee that she would raise the house down; fight him, quarrel with him, nag him etc. But in her case, she concludes that he is jealous and wrongly suspecting her; yeah right. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind.

There would have been nothing wrong if when she contacted the DJ initially to discuss business she then hands the DJ’S contact to her fiancé for him to finish the deal. Then she would not have gotten so attached to this DJ who is also taking advantage of her.

Your friend is not married yet and he is regretting his choice and also alluding to the fact that his fiancee is arrogant. It is better for him to count his financial loss and shame before the wedding takes place; than when the wedding occurs, he starts misbehaving by sleeping around. TELL YOUR FRIEND THAT HIV AND AIDS IS REAL. Also note that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Aside that, what makes him think that she would not sleep around as well just to punish your friend since he is doing it as well. He better be aware that she can also make his live miserable just as he plans to do same to her; I term it a disaster waiting to happen.

In all, you as his friend can only advice him about the pros and cons about going ahead with this marriage as you can’t decide for him. Be there to support him in whatever decision he takes as it’s him who would live with whatever situation that arises whether he goes ahead with the marriage or not.

Lastly, remind your friend that MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES.

I rest my case.

A pig will continue to be a pig no matter how hard u try to make it clean. Any slight opportunity to go to the pit will be maximized. Marriage is a life contract so, watch before you go into it.

What an irresponsible girl.If I am that guy.I would tell my fiancee to either delete the Dj number and cut off all communications with him in 24 hrs or get out forever from my life.Cancel the wedding and replace the idiot with a respectful and better lady.She can then marry the Dj for all I care and inevitably get dumped after.
It is completely wrong to manage a marital relationship where mutual respect is lacking. What nonsense!!!

sevule:


@poster
There is a Chinese proverb that says that it is only a friend that would tell you that you have spit on your face. Bro you need to be that friend now. Since you have acknowledged the fact that you think he should cancel the wedding but you do not want to tell him, why not advise him to at lesast postpone the wedding? His happiness is much more important than any money he has spent thus far on the wedding.

The honest truth is that there are just too many red flags

1. She told the DJ her friend is getting married. I honestly don't buy the argument that she said it to get a better deal from the DJ. Ask any DJ or wedding caterer and they would always tell you that the bride makes it clear that it is her wedding! Please how would you get a better deal by saying that it is your friend's wedding? In fact the DJ WOULD even CHARGE MORE because you are a third party!

2. She excuses herself from her fiance to answer calls from the DJ. We all agree that there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for this. How can my wife to be, excuse herself from my presence to answer a call? I would call of the wedding right away

Finally your friend said that he would get married and cheat. Does he think that he is the only one with the ability to cheat? What makes him think that his wife wouldn't cheat as well? Why go through ALL THIS STRESS

It is obvious that she is not ready to get married so your friend should put postpone the wedding(or better still cancel it). You are obviously a good friend but you have to tell your friend the hard truth.

Let us know how it goes during the reconciliation meeting you organized

Thank you. You know what? I will share this thread with my friend. I will ask him to come and read comments on here.

I can't openly tell him to cancel d wedding. But I will trick him to read it

toksbisola:
@OP; from my point of view, the answer to your question is NO; IT’S NOT NORMAL FOR HER TO DO THAT.

I really can’t understand why she told the DJ that his service was for her friends wedding. Also, what exactly did she think she would achieve by going on a date with the DJ or any other man for that matter; OWING TO THE FACT THAT HER WEDDING DATE HAS BEEN FIXED AND IT’S NOT AS IF THEY ARE STILL WAITING TO PICK A DATE. Some people do have cold-feet to the period leading up to their wedding day but going on a date with another man SHOULD BE A NO NO; as it is not what would calm her cold-feet; it’ll only make it worse.

It irks me that she refers to the date as a harmless date. In all, she has no business meeting with the DJ in that restaurant and claiming that nothing is going to happen. It’s starts from somewhere and before you can say JACK ROBINSON; SHE IS ON A NO RETURN. At this stage in her relationship, she’s still sampling other guys on a date. I really shake my head for such a woman. It is not only when a woman is caught
red-handed before it becomes an avenue for cheating.

You listed a few things in your write-up as below;

DJ started calling her repeatedly.

They engage in confidential phone calls.

She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying.

At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.


Some ladies really do have guts and she is rubbing it in her fiancés' face. She really has no RESPECT FOR HER FIANCE; what a pity/shame.

She says her fiancé is jealous; right, okay let me reverse the role (Please ask your friend's fiancee this question when you meet her) and say if her fiancé does some of the things she is doing with this DJ with one of her brides-maid or her wedding planner what would she do? I can guarantee that she would raise the house down; fight him, quarrel with him, nag him etc. But in her case, she concludes that he is jealous and wrongly suspecting her; yeah right. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind.

There would have been nothing wrong if when she contacted the DJ initially to discuss business she then hands the DJ’S contact to her fiancé for him to finish the deal. Then she would not have gotten so attached to this DJ who is also taking advantage of her.

Your friend is not married yet and he is regretting his choice and also alluding to the fact that his fiancee is arrogant. It is better for him to count his financial loss and shame before the wedding takes place; than when the wedding occurs, he starts misbehaving by sleeping around. TELL YOUR FRIEND THAT HIV AND AIDS IS REAL. Also note that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Aside that, what makes him think that she would not sleep around as well just to punish your friend since he is doing it as well. He better be aware that she can also make his live miserable just as he plans to do same to her; I term it a disaster waiting to happen.

In all, you as his friend can only advice him about the pros and cons about going ahead with this marriage as you can’t decide for him. Be there to support him in whatever decision he takes as it’s him who would live with whatever situation that arises whether he goes ahead with the marriage or not.

Lastly, remind your friend that MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES.

I rest my case.

I will make my friend read this thread. Let comments here do the talking for me.

Ladies are mad homo-sapiens sha, idiot when you knw say ur eye still Dey town why you one marry....after everything all Dey say is The guy is jealous, some even wants you to catch another guy ontop of them before you react..haaaaa, werey lobinrin mi Ooº°°ºoo.

Exactly this happened to me. Tell your guy to get on his kneels and thank God for this revelation before the wedding. God loves him.

babyfaceafrica:
then the husband should call the wedding off nd switch off all his fone,dissappear from all soical networks and travel to an unknown plce for some time...this is becuse there re some people tht can beg for life..in other for him not to fall for these cheap sentiments ..he should dissappear..a broking wedding is better than a broken marriage!!!

God bless you sir.

Life is such, such is life

Your guy fck up...If I was d one I wnt av confronted her since my mind is made up she wnt on a date behind my bck...I go just lock up then prep for the wedding..then d day of the wedding I dne jand go vacation away from my future troubles

itoski:
Your guy fck up...If I was d one I wnt av confronted her since my mind is made up she wnt on a date behind my bck...I go just lock up then prep for the wedding..then d day of the wedding I dne jand go vacation away from my future troubles

The woman will either assassinate or employ village witches pm you. She will even pay them mini wages

agarawu23:
No evidence to prove she is flirting with the DJ and I don't blv a lady can be so stupiid to leave a flirting conversation for her 'husband to be' to see.

We guys think negatively especially we the flirting ones. we assume what isn't possible.

if the lady is a flirt, the guy wouldn't have made up his mind to marry her.

you can read his statement about fvcking around after marriage, you should know the guy is a player with negative mind. he might have exaggerated the whole story

we shouldn't judge so quickly

No bro, she is actually guilty.

Remember the husband confronted her and she tried to deny it , and then accusing him of being jealous and not trusting her. However, she accepted that they have been chatting and even fixed time for a Date @ a restaurant and said it was a harmless date. She accepted to all that the moment the husband told her that he has already read their conversations(chat messages).

Had it been the husband to be didn't have anything to hold on to while confronting her, she would have denied it entirely.

2ndly, clear conscience fear no accusation, if it is actually true that she is innocent, I don't see any reason to trying to lie about the whole issue in the 1st place.

And if she thinks lying about it is good,thus leaving the hubby in the dark so that he wouldn't know for fears that he might get jealous, then she is guilty too, because she knew that what she is doing is bad, thus, trying to cover it up. Why would u cover a good deed up? We only cover the bad ones up, and that's what she tried to do Until her games went up.











My point is this, she is not a good girl, she is a flirt.
The guy didn't do anything bad or wrong for snooping around her. She gave him reasons to,( answering discreet calls and even taking permission from ur fiancee to answer another person call, it shows that she is hiding something)

delors:
She's an unserious fellow. Nov ready to be a wife. You waste your time and life marrying her. You'd never enjoy the marriage no matter how much you try. And if she's below 26, then it's all even a bigger joke because reports have shown that 78% of under 26yo brides are not mentally and psychologically prepared for marriage (my research findings).
So bro, be bold, do the needful, threaten her you have decided to call the wedding off. Note, I didn't say ' that you will call it iff', I said, 'that you have already called it off'...that she's now free to go and dick-ride the DJ.

Your life would be miserable for a few days or weeks mourning the death of a promising marriage but afterwards, you'll be like LG - Life's good!

Enough already with the age thing. I guess your mum was above 26 when she got married. I don't know how old you are but i do know if you are above 30, your mum got married in her early 20's. Go figure

Just maybe the fiancee is planning a surprise whatever for the groom come wedding day. Who knows? *shrugs*
Just my 2 cents.

DrGroove:
The wife to be is f o o l ish.
what type of phone is she using that she can't have it passworded,pattern locked,face locked,voice locked,all d lockable that somebody will have access to see her chats and go thru her phone in her absence?

seriously

If it truely happened like this,then no mor Deal o,me go close dat chapter forever,few days to...marriage cancel,look somewhere else bro

aoshi:
or
onyioshi
Enough already with the age thing. I guess your mum was above 26 when she got married. I don't know how old you are but i do know if you are above 30, your mum got married in her early 20's. Go figure

Onyioshi or what's that your yeye name,
Where in my comment did u hear me mention your mother? Why bring my mother into this issue? Abi u want me to robe your mother up? Abeg dey watch before u attack people o...I know u just recently opened d acct perhaps to attack but for f+cks sake, don't bite here, check my records.

If u v got no reasonable advice for d guy, why condemn condemn others who voice their own piece? Brain brain brain brain...bikonu, brain brain.

DECOtech:


God bless you sir.

Amen..and you too!!!