emusmith:


Don't you think we know all that before asking this?

Haven't you met women whose husbands work abroad? They're many.

If the couple, while looking for money separates... What happens? Pls, answer discretively or don't reply at all. Thnx

That's the point you do not get emusmith.

We humans have turned God's idea of marriage and sexuality upsidedown - divorce, homosexuality, beastiality, equality in marriage and so on.

When the Bible says "give no place to the devil" or "flee from all appearances of the devil" what do you think it means?

Marriage is priority, before money or ministry. That's why the Bible even mandates that the criteria for being a deacon is having a good marriage and home. Marriage is too important to God than we think.

Buy what do you see these days, divorcees calling themselves a pastor, wives claiming equality with husbands, emotional and sexual insensitivity etc.

On no account should two people get married if they won't be close to each other most times. ITS A WAY TO INVITE SIN!!!

IsiCaterpillar:
My bf is a corporate wanderer so to maintain my sexual sanity I masturbate a lot and he is cool with it.

I can't cheat on him so I watch porn and stay with BoB = Battery-operated Buddy.

Do u use toys or dido

6fit:



God looks at d motive and not d action....not all dat call me father, will enter my father kingdom...so dont b suprise to c those aplauding d laddy who is been sincere in heaven and u judging them in opposite of heaven.....even yur tongue can pronounce statement dat will land u in hell..so watch yur staatement

Leave him alone. Talk is cheap. Is he the one who paid the price for sin?

If asked to go as far as witnessing to call girls, he will have an excuse not to. His type, stand from afar and correct/instruct everyone except themselves.

I pray God puts love in our heart.

6fit:



God looks at d motive and not d action....not all dat call me father, will enter my father kingdom...so dont b suprise to c those aplauding d laddy who is been sincere in heaven and u judging them in opposite of heaven.....even yur tongue can pronounce statement dat will land u in hell..so watch yur staatement

there's only a bad motive behind a good action! there's never been good motive behind a bad action! u dig?

I like your sincerity! Don't mind the hypocrites and liars!!

raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period ).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome

GlorifiedTunde:


That's the point you do not get emusmith.

We humans have turned God's idea of marriage and sexuality upsidedown - divorce, homosexuality, beastiality, equality in marriage and so on.

When the Bible says "give no place to the devil" or "flee from all appearances of the devil" what do you think it means?

Marriage is priority, before money or ministry. That's why the Bible even mandates that the criteria for being a deacon is having a good marriage and home. Marriage is too important to God than we think.

Buy what do you see these days, divorcees calling themselves a pastor, wives claiming equality with husbands, emotional and sexual insensitivity etc.

On no account should two people get married if they won't be close to each other most times. ITS A WAY TO INVITE SIN!!!

On no account? What if later, work separates them as usual? Most ladies just wants to get married... Let him be in UK, me in nig. In three years time, he'll come carry me.

That's it.

GodblessNig247:


what abt if that person's husband becomes impotent and can not have sex with her husband. Do u prefer she divorces her husband? u know thats not biblical or you prefer she cheats on her husband? In that kind of precarious situation what do u expect the 23years old christian to do? Pls just be objective and dispassionate in ur reply. Thank u pastor

Well marriage is for better and for worse..she should decide for herself if she loves him as a person or his manhood only. Besides who says an impotent man cannot give his wife pleasure...I will advice her to stay close to God and not give in to temptation but be faithful to her marriage covenant, her husband and Christ.

I am a bit close to God (avoid mentioning title and being modest). I tried sometime to get some young people talk or as question about this issue of sex and related terms. They avoided doing that and kept asking about marriage and business. I knew it was a problem for people their age. About three young people met me sometime later and were confessing to me that they are involved in sex/masturbation and they are supposed to be serious christians. I counselled them, prayed with them on the way out.

Now to the topic: until I got married I had no girlfriend and sex was not an issue. I faced my studies squarely. My personal belief was that my work is learning since my parents were working to pay the fees. I also attended a church that encourage people to pray before they choose life partners. Those decisions not to get involved have paid off for me now. I am very thankful for my past decisions. Masturbation/sex/cheating is a choice. If you decide not to do it you will not do it. I was once away from my wife for some time and despite the fact that I sometime feel lie doing it with someone/masturbating, I decided not to. It has not happened once and it will not happen in Jesus name.

If you know you have a great destiny you will not do it. Don't mind whether your partner is doing it or not you just don't do it. There is reward for every deed both devine and otherwise. make up your mind.
But someone is saying it is sweet, yes wait for it, for the right time and it will be sweeter.You will become someone to look up to. Divine hands will work in your favour. You are going somewhere, do not terminate the journey with sex/masturbation.

If you have been doing it before you can turn a new leaf. God is more than ready to forgive you. It is well.

6fit:



God looks at d motive and not d action....not all dat call me father, will enter my father kingdom...so dont b suprise to c those aplauding d laddy who is been sincere in heaven and u judging them in opposite of heaven.....even yur tongue can pronounce statement dat will land u in hell..so watch yur staatement

emusmith:

On no account? What if later, work separates them as usual? Most ladies just wants to get married... Let him be in UK, me in nig. In three years time, he'll come carry me.
That's it.

emusmith:

emusmith post=37716491:

1. See myself? You see, that's an insult. I'm sure you do more. I respect all. Don't prove otherwise.
2. You didnt start your life as a saint? Who cares? Lol, flatter yourself more, I don't even know you... How would i call you a saint?...For childishly "condemning" someone whom you've not even listen to if she believes in your religion?
3. You think Jesus didn't know the PLAIN TRUTH before asking the "far to see" and the "sad to see" if they were sinless, they could throw a stone? He knew the TRUTH, yet waited, in love! The result was outstanding.
Love conquers all

Leave him alone. Talk is cheap. Is he the one who paid the price for sin?
If asked to go as far as witnessing to call girls, he will have an excuse not to. His type, stand from afar and correct/instruct everyone except themselves.
I pray God puts love in our heart.

Iam not judging anyone! I can't!

I don't hate anyone! I can't!

But I detest sin and downplaying it!

Because my words sounds harsh doesn't mean I'm condemning - its just the truth. It can be bitter!


1 Timothy 1:8 But we know that the law is good, if a man use it lawfully; 1:9 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, 1:10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

STOP ABUSING THE LOVE OF GOD! STOP ABUSING THE GRACE HE GAVE US.

GOD WILL NOT LOWER HIS STANDARD FOR.ANY SINNER



2 Timothy 2:19 Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.

YerYer:
Self servicing isn't a sin, although overdoing it in men can lead to blindness. Thanks to modern technology, long distance relationships are a little but more manageable, couples can have phone intimacy or Skype sex. They can sext as well via text messages and what'sapp.

Of course there's nothing like the real thing, but self servicing along with their partners overseas can be enjoyable and help with relieving stress.

Can lead to blindness? Funny-theory"....abegi ma hear word.

emusmith:

Sub- Topic :How do married women whose husbands are in diaspora cope sexually?

[s]Having heard how some women lament how their husbands have been in diaspora for years, I feel compassion for them and to think that they are not better than widows beat my imagination.[/s]

The average married women rather die than cheat especially if she is Christian and wouldn't give in to adultery.

[s]This is quite logical, spiritual and emotional. Is there an exception to them?

What do you think? (Mature Contributions[/s]

The bolded is a lie, Nigerian ruminant.

GOOGLE IT

Why are mixing reality with religion. I am indifferent about what you do in your closet but I hate to see comments like the bible does not support it.etc

This topic need be handled without spiritual sentiments. It's having headache and some1 prescribing psalm 23.

As for me check the relationship, if it's innocent distance issue stay in it and keep your closet and be true to urself.

If it's fraudulent distance relationship, omo! Carry ur bag waka.

That's the basis and not the Konji thing. Needing sex is secondary ooooo.

There are bigger issues sort it out first. E.g u go London marry illegal immigrant, u come Naija, or oyinbo no give you visa again. You no fit go the guy no fit come and somebody dey preach bible to u.

Wake up assess your relationship and use ur head.

Tkia.

ladyF:
Hmmm.....I really feel for them o. Body no b wood. Maybe they will buy toys and maybe Skype their spouse while they are at it? Idk sha. ....lemme join 1miccza and continue reading comments from others *spreads mat*

you didnt intruduce your self again

LadyF

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Romans 6:12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.

Romans 13:14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.

James 1:15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.


IT IS BETTER YOU DON'T GET MARRIED AT ALL, THAN FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO END YOU IN HELL.

EVERY SIN STARTS FROM OUR HEARTS - WHEN WE CONCEIVE IT!

WHY SHOULD MAN LUST FOR HIS OWN WIFE

raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period ).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome

i dey feel you babe

that is cool

A bat and ball cost a dollar and 10 cents. The bat costs a dollar more than the ball. How much does the ball cost?

2ts:
Why are mixing reality with religion. I am indifferent about what you do in your closet but I hate to see comments like the bible does not support it.etc

This topic need be handled without spiritual sentiments. It's having headache and some1 prescribing psalm 23.

As for me check the relationship, if it's innocent distance issue stay in it and keep your closet and be true to urself.

If it's fraudulent distance relationship, omo! Carry ur bag waka.

That's the basis and not the Konji thing. Needing sex is secondary ooooo.

There are bigger issues sort it out first. E.g u go London marry illegal immigrant, u come Naija, or oyinbo no give you visa again. You no fit go the guy no fit come and somebody dey preach bible to u.

Wake up assess your relationship and use ur head.

Tkia.

Why do you call it spiritual sentiments?

Who is the originator of marriage? Is it not God?

How come every time people discuss the Bible when it comes to marriage and relationship, everyone starts complaining?

The originator of life and marriage gave us a manual - the Bible. And you prefer to profer solutions with your brain?

No wonder many marriages are a SHAM! No one consults the right manual - The Bible again

raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.
For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs....

Kudos to you and your bold post
(much more refreshing to read than the useless LadyF (arts) post that is above yours)

AmeLonRo:
I am a bit close to God (avoid mentioning title and being modest). I tried sometime to get some young people talk or as question about this issue of sex and related terms. They avoided doing that and kept asking about marriage and business. I knew it was a problem for people their age. About three young people met me sometime later and were confessing to me that they are involved in sex/masturbation and they are supposed to be serious christians. I counselled them, prayed with them on the way out.

Now to the topic: until I got married I had no girlfriend and sex was not an issue. I faced my studies squarely. My personal belief was that my work is learning since my parents were working to pay the fees. I also attended a church that encourage people to pray before they choose life partners. Those decisions not to get involved have paid off for me now. I am very thankful for my past decisions. Masturbation/sex/cheating is a choice. If you decide not to do it you will not do it. I was once away from my wife for some time and despite the fact that I sometime feel lie doing it with someone/masturbating, I decided not to. It has not happened once and it will not happen in Jesus name.

If you know you have a great destiny you will not do it. Don't mind whether your partner is doing it or not you just don't do it. There is reward for every deed both devine and otherwise. make up your mind.
But someone is saying it is sweet, yes wait for it, for the right time and it will be sweeter.You will become someone to look up to. Divine hands will work in your favour. You are going somewhere, do not terminate the journey with sex/masturbation.

Please, dont relent in giving this advice to youths and married youths as well. I guess you are a counselor. THis is the best comment on this thread. GOD Bless you. Amen.

masturbation is a deadly sin,it all about getting organism in a way NOT ORDAINED BY GOD..ITS WISDOM OF THE DEVIL AND WHAT IS DERIVED IS NOTHING BUT DEMONIC PLEASURE..

IT KILLS,IT DESTROYS ONES DESTINY,IT BESETS,ITS LITTLE FOXES THAT DESTROYS THE VINE,IT OPENS DOORS TO DEMONS AND WATER SPIRITS,IT IS SEX WITH DEMONS,IT BRINGS BAD DREAMS AND BAD LUCK, IT DEFILES THE BODY AND SPIRIT AND MAKES ONE A HAVEN FOR DEMONS,......IT SEPARATES ONE FROM GOD AND THE HOLY SPIRIT,....BE WARNED..

Still better than formication tho

raayah:


Haha.. what about ugly girls like me that dont have plenty choices.

I dey tell you say you fine you dey argue with me. No vex me o!

GlorifiedTunde:


Why do you call it spiritual sentiments?

Who is the originator of marriage? Is it not God?

How come every time people discuss the Bible when it comes to marriage and relationship, everyone starts complaining?

The originator of life and marriage gave us a manual - the Bible. And you prefer to profer solutions with your brain?

No wonder many marriages are a SHAM! No one consults the right manual - The Bible again

Origin of marriage is what? Lol. Ignorance is bliss.
The bible is well known for it's tolerance of polygamy. Even Jesus Christ has no quotes attributed to him about the issue despite living in a time when it was rampant.
Monogamy, or the marriage you speak of is primarily a Roman ideology, not Christian.
So if you want to discuss your God's idea of marriage, don't forget to add the extra wives and concubines.

Tobbey:
Still better than formication tho

In what way is.one sin better than the other when.both will.lead to hell

Whether you steal one.naira or one million naira - all na.hellfire.

First and foremost: Sex/ Sexual urges are good, normal. HOWEVER, Only MARRIED couples are licensed to enjoy SEX. If you ain't married and you're having sex, you are like someone driving a vehicle without a license. That's ILLEGAL 2. Those who have urges to masturbate have a mental picture of sex. And this started by VISUALISING /Watching Pornography. 3. Sexual urges, as powerful as they are, can be controlled. The trick is, don't aggravate it. And 4. This thing starts in the mind.


More to come...

Ilekeh:
Why are Nigerians so backwards like this?

Kilo ti e de gan? Ta ni a se? Ta lo n binu si wa?

Anyway, where in your bible did God mention "self-service"? Who told you Jesus didn't jerk off when Jazabel denied him Mouth Gig?

Careful now young man!

i guess

emusmith:

Sub- Topic :How do married women whose husbands are in diaspora cope sexually?

Having heard how some women lament how their husbands have been in diaspora for years, I feel compassion for them and to think that they are not better than widows beat my imagination.

The average married women rather die than cheat especially if she is Christian and wouldn't give in to adultery.

This is quite logical, spiritual and emotional. Is there an exception to them?

What do you think? (Mature Contributions)

Keep your decision on bedroom issues between you and your spouse. Sex is not the beginning and end of a relationship but it is vital. Talk about the situation and lay out your impressions and worries to your significant other. Whatever resolution you both arrive at, trust me your clear conscience while you're at it will assure you that you're sinning against no man or God.

Chizzled06:


Origin of marriage is what? Lol. Ignorance is bliss.
The bible is well known for it's tolerance of polygamy. Even Jesus Christ has no quotes attributed to him about the issue despite living in a time when it was rampant.
Monogamy, or the marriage you speak of is primarily a Roman ideology, not Christian.
So if you want to discuss your God's idea of marriage, don't forget to add the extra wives and concubines.

Who is ignorant? I who read and know my Bible or you?

Which is the first marriage in the Bible?

Why did God not make more than one for Adam?

Why didn't God get two women from.his ribs?

God didn't know.better abi?

The polygamy era was the old testament - the era of the LAW!

There were too many things wrong with the Law. And that's why Jesus came - Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law ...

And who says Jesus did not speak on marriage

Ignorance is trully bliss

Vaseline crew where una dey dem wan ban una oooo.
make una come fight for una rice rigt oo