Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.

Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks

Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake. Ftc,I dedicate it to all swit nairalanders who corrected me

If u don't want her to nag then stop been broke





On a more serious note, all u can do is have a heart to heart discusion with her, make her understand the situation of things, try not to hide anything from her,
Probably, whenever u tell her u are broke, she might not believe u, cos she feels u are not.
Everthing bores down to fruitful communication and understanding. At least her heart is not made of stone nw

let’s not over complicate things. If your wife is nagging you 24 x 7 it means that she is no longer attracted to you. Plain and simple. The good news is that you can bring back that attraction because you once had her attracted to you!

Do NOT REACT, instead LEAD her emotions. By changing your perception on your wife’s nagging and by being emotionally in control… now you can LEAD her emotions to what you want it to be. You as the man should INFLUENCE her emotions and not your wife influence you. If she is upset, don’t be upset instead be calm. If she feels hurt and scared, don’t show that you are hurt; provide protection and the feeling of security. Why? Because YOU ARE THE MAN. You are in charge of everything in the relationship. If you don’t take on this responsibility she will, and that won’t lead to a happy marriage. Bad for you, bad for her.

She is irresponsible. She too should support d family. Jst 10months n she is naggin

Feel for you bro. Juat 10 months and it is like this, what will happen if god forbid you lose your job.

Is she working, if she aint contributing to the marriage in anyway knowing how hard naija is. Tell her to shut the fo.ck up.

If she said she have not eaten in 4 years tell her another 4 years wont kill her.

This is how men die before their time and what will she do? Move on to the next man immediately

hmmmm, that's some kinda bad character she has. its obvious she doesn't knows what she's doing in her marriage, and things like this isn't good.

I think you should let her know the effect her nagging is having on you, you shouldn't just sit there and bottle your feelings inside.

its obvious that her personality is to satisfy her needs, you shouldn't blame her. people have different personality traits and they get afraid if their needs are not met. you should understand her rather than taking it to heart. she wants comfort and she get satisfaction from it, its like her life necessities, and when not met she panics.

she won't stop it, she'll keep nagging. you can help by taking her to see a councillor or talk sense to her. I mean a mature heart to heart kind of conversation, she will feel bad by putting you through emotional turmoil and might stop.

also, let her know condition of things on time so that she can cope when times money isn't available,by so doing, she won't nag much.

I understand your plight, its not a good feeling when you do everything to please someone but they take them for granted.

whenever she starts nagging, you can go out and cool down. dont sit there with her nagging her head off at you, if you ain't there, the nagging will stop.

Nags when you are broke wahala dey oooo....pls husbands on Nairaland come advice him ooo help him find a solution quick cuz if it gets outter hand, she will do more than nag (find other husbands to support the ministry)

Op.... I wouldn't say much... As you've clearly put it.. She's not happy with the marriage... If you dig deep.. You'll noticed that, the man she would've married is still communicating with her, perhaps, telling her how he's doing too well and how he's sitting untop of money and how she's missing out.
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You have to study your wife.. And you have to scold her if need be... You have to keep love aside and scold her severely to know that you're the man of the house... These kind of wives will leave you or even divorce you, if you lose your job...
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Just play a prank on her... Design a Sack/Termination letter and show her.. And she will leave u with few months.
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You actually married a woman dat will not be able to stick with you when things get rough... And what is she even doing at home? Can't she work?

bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake

No! You didn't spell it correctly. In order to be corrected, you must pay lesson fee lollllllll

Tell her you are broke and wont have any money for the next 4 months

let her do her worst. if she wan pack out,, help her to call a moving company.

If making money was easy she wont be where she is right now

This is what happens when one marries a parasite that sees her husband as her daily meal ticket.. IS she a cripple that she cant go look for a

Job to support the home?

I will give you 2 pragmatic options that you can use

1. Anytime she starts her nagging, increase the volume of the music that it becomes deafening loud and drowns her voice. You can play personally by psquare or shakitibobo by olamide then start dancing while ignoring her

2.leave the house for her anytime you are broke and go and stay with a friend. When she doesn't see you for a while she'll start to behave herself

by the way what does she even nag about sef because if a man is nagging you'll tag it as complaining, if a woman is always repeating herself regularly you'll tag it as nagging

. Are you sure there's nothing you're doing to that woman to make her continually because women don't nag for nothing

Just 10 months and she is already nagging??
Which kind wife be that? You mean to tell us that 10 months after , she is already frustrating the home? Chai!! This one was quick! The ogbanje wey vanish before you marry her don resurface.


My advice, when she starts nagging, leave the house for her.Na her mate dey fry akara for junction.

OP, I advise that you involve her more in financial matters. Let her know the total income the family makes and how it is spent. Take monetary decisions together and she won't have any cause to whine about you being broke.

I suspect she doesn't know how much you earn and she feels you can do much more than you are doing now. Or maybe there is something you are spending on that she doesn't believe in.

Again, since she is the type that complains a lot about money, tell her to get a job/start a biz and use the income to meet her needs.

I'm not exonerating your wife, it is often said there's a reason for 'her' nagging.

From what you put up there i can deduce she nags because you are not good with managing finances, may be you are the type that must spend as long as the money is there unless you want to confidently tell me you married an insane woman.

From my screen, you dont speak of being responsible, much more to your wife who is close to your skin. The lifestyle you have up there says your pay is not so bad yet you are always broke, people who earn less are managing better. Why is it that you guys have get to the point of recurrently waiting for the next pay like your life will stop if it dosen't come in the next one week? You dont have savings, investments, future financial security in case of the unforeseen and you say your wife should not fear for the remaining days of her life from what she has seen these ten months.

She may have food to eat but just decide to rub the "brokeness" in your face to see if it will make you sit up. Man, you are no longer a bachelor that can live only for today, you have to make your family financially secure. Seek ways to improve on your financial management and stop using the word broke more than the jobless or a student. If your wife is better with management, keep ego aside and let her do the managing. Also assist her to get any small job or business. You get work, e be like this, naim be say you for run comot house if you and her no get anything.

SAMBARRY:
I will give you 2 pragmatic options that you can use

1. Anytime she starts her nagging, increase the volume of the music that it becomes deafening loud and drowns her voice. You can play personally by psquare or shakitibobo by olamide then start dancing while ignoring her

2.leave the house for her anytime you are broke and go and stay with a friend. When she doesn't see you for a while she'll start to behave herself

by the way what does she even nag about sef because if a man is nagging you'll tag it as complaining, if a woman is always repeating herself regularly you'll tag it as nagging

. Are you sure there's nothing you're doing to that woman to make her continually because women don't nag for nothing

The wife talk say na hungry dey make her nag
The woman funny no be small. It can pain reach vein when you are receiving nags when broke.

Eeyah....you can't blame her completely. Being broke can be frustrating at times. Don't listen to these people telling you to end the marriage o Hian!

Talk to her about the nagging ish, nagging irritates me frankly! you should also try and save since you earn salary. Plan towards having money at all times even if salary doesn't come early. She should go and look for work to do too....relying on you for everything isn't fresh!

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Maybe You started the whole ish by tending to her needs and she's accustomed to such life... But Bro you can't kill yourself or steal for her to be comfortable..
Whenever she's nagging just pick up a shirt and ur charger and go meet a friend and hang out, try to be yourself at work also.. Do the Best u have on u... Thrz no better advice because I can't ask u to to end ur marriage or borrow u money.. Neither am I gonna ask ur wife to come marry me.
Don't give her space to nag when she nag finish she will go out and find a work and support you at home. Stay Calm and Humble. Don't react by beating or harming her.

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No matter what coming to nairaland to ask for advice wouldnt resolve the issue,be a man,face your family and tackle the issue squarely,marriage is not a bed of roses,you experience the good,the bad and ugly time,it is your ability to make wise decisions and stay true to yourselves that will make it work.

Hmmmm.. Let me learn cos this one pass me..


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