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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by redcliff: 11:39pm On Sep 08, 2015
Poseidon000:
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If I am you. I won't give room for such nonesense. She either stop or we end the marriage.

It is really pathetic that you find yourself with such woman.
I don't like divorce but I won't advice you stay with such woman who is so money centered.
It's just like sleeping in same room with a snake.
If you ain't careful. It will harm you one day.
I am 90% certain that your wife will abadon you when things goes awry(God forbid) and she strike me like a person who may cheat or betray you.

You need to seek your inner self and ask your self,if you wanna build your future with such insensitive woman.
If it comes out yes.then talk to her about such attitude and it effect on you. If she continues.

I strongly recommend you leave that woman. Even you don't feel the effect now. you can't escape it when you get past your productive days.(When you turn old man).

Please be careful with that woman. She is a potential snitch.
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Its obvious you are not married... smh.

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by debaj10: 11:41pm On Sep 08, 2015
I'm sure most of us on this forum are now aware of the state of our economy.
I would've expected all our focus to have shifted from by-gone politics to the abyss we're about to fall into.
We know people in government read these threads so when do all you PDP/APC sychophants plan to start giving constructive advice/criticism to this government on economic issues?
We're in a sinking ship and still playing the blame game instead of desperately searching for ways to save OURSELVES from drowning!
Isn't that the epitome of foolishness?!?

Please, copy and paste in other threads. Enough with the childish wranglings.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Poseidon000: 11:41pm On Sep 08, 2015
redcliff:

Its obvious you are not married... smh.
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by onoja12: 11:44pm On Sep 08, 2015
Gbam,i always tell guys this.if you get girl friend you want to marry form broke for 1 year,if she stay with you na your wife if not.,guy run

richommie:
Obviously she's a gold digger.

The only way to know a good and trustworthy woman is by appearin poor
When the money comes beetch gets closer

#Yolo

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by ronald4lif(m): 11:44pm On Sep 08, 2015
Let her get her ass off the upholstery and get herself a job. She can't be a liability and make a ruse at same time. You're a husband, not her dependant. What insolence. undecided

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by LordTrezy(m): 11:44pm On Sep 08, 2015
Cutesexy1:
And you think the best way to resolve the issue is by bringing it to nairaland,be a man,face your family and tackle the issue squarely,marriage is not a bird of roses,you experience the good,the bad and ugly time,it is your ability to make wise decisions and stay true to yourselves that will make it work.
bed of roses...


You are damn cute.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 11:45pm On Sep 08, 2015
Didn't read, just the title. Never be broke. Shikena.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by gaburiel(m): 11:46pm On Sep 08, 2015
There is but one path, don't ever get broke again.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by awesomesossy(f): 11:46pm On Sep 08, 2015
bettercreature:
That is not possible,sometimes you invest all your money on businesses and even lend from bank,its simply not possible not to get broke
That lady is normal the OP just have to live with it
Yeah I know...I was just kidding anyway... but if I was to really advice I ll say he should minimize how much he spends on her wen he has so much.....i think dat way she ll learn not to complain or she ll complain all d tym till she eventually gets tired of complaining...den maybe later after OP is sure she has changed....he can den start spending normally like he used tooo......well am not married sha...so really dnt know how my advice soundsgrin

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by tsdarkside(m): 11:47pm On Sep 08, 2015
welcome to the club.......na you sabi,to make such matter to a thread.....you have no fantasy....goood night.....
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by slimmyjimmy(m): 11:50pm On Sep 08, 2015
yanabasee:
You fvcking inspire me ! Op take this advice nigga
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 11:50pm On Sep 08, 2015
I do not think any unmarried person here has the moral high ground to advise BRAVAGAD0O. Marriage is beyond your chewing gum sexual semesters in blue rooms.

BRAVAGAD0O, most women nag when the liquidity dries up. It doesnt mean they are bad people, it actually what makes married people more financial savvy than most singles. The demands of your wife should make you, not break you. You can not chicken out of marriage because your wife treats you differently when you are broke. I believe a strong man will work harder to keep a happy wife instead of complaining about her nagging attitude.

Let me give you an advise:
1. Stop being in charge of spending at home. Sit your wife down and both of you should calculate feeding allowance commensurate with the size of your young family. calculate the electricity bill. Calculate the petrol bill for generator and calculate her monthly allowance then sum it and know that it is your responsibility to provide that to your family.

2. Make your wife the custodian of the funds above, and make sure you keep some money for your beer, cos you will need it.

3. Work smart enough to provide 2. above in 3 months installments and you will have peace of mind.

When you follow this guideline for about a year, trust me, your wife will tell you she doesnt wanna control expenses again, cos when she sees 3 months allowance at once, she will spend more than necessary, and start managing when she realizes you are broke and she has collected what is due for the home.

It works for me, it should work for you. I usually pay mine 6 months ahead. But I plan to be making it annual payments soon. As I dey so, me and my home boys have excessive cash to spend on beer, after madam has receive a couple of millions to run the home for the whole year. Whatever I make is none of her business. I go home and my food is smoking on the dining table and no one sees me spending money at home.

The woman manages the home, men manage the house.

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by miky(m): 11:52pm On Sep 08, 2015
i think thats a woman behaviour in general.. Just pray you dont have rich friends who are male, then she would start comparing you... Grind down ,know yourself as a man and prosper.. Does she work? if not she needs to find one asap. Better sort it out before you die too early

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Toks2008(m): 11:52pm On Sep 08, 2015
BRAVAGAD0O:
Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.

Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks



Hmmm this reminds me of my case 3years ago when i had issues with my business and in my own case she just woke up one day and said she will leave when she clocks 30 and stagnancy remains and guess what,she did lol! and that was after 11years of union and 5years of marriage and i begin to wonder if nah sin to face financial hardship but i guess its more of the Nigerian factor thing because in all honestly if my ex had something really doing that brings home money for her maybe she would have endured because been broke is very temporary for a very hard working man.

So in your case bro i guess you should try your best to get something for her to do or she should try to make some money herself so that in such occasions when you are on a tight budget,she can help the home-front and that is the essence of marriage anyways.

Please take it easy with her,some ladies are not too tolerant with financial lack and im beginning also to wonder how you met her,how long you dated her and your words to her regarding your financial state.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by millhouse: 11:52pm On Sep 08, 2015
Kai
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by vRendoh(m): 11:52pm On Sep 08, 2015
grin STOP GOING BROKE MY GUY grin

END OF THE STORY! shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Rhea(f): 11:53pm On Sep 08, 2015
[size=18pt]Stop being broke then[/size]
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by winny4u: 11:54pm On Sep 08, 2015
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Sultanchidi(m): 11:55pm On Sep 08, 2015
Must u share everything on NL
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by idupaul: 11:56pm On Sep 08, 2015
Poseidon000:
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If I am you. I won't give room for such nonesense. She either stop or we end the marriage.

It is really pathetic that you find yourself with such woman.
I don't like divorce but I won't advice you stay with such woman who is so money centered.
It's just like sleeping in same room with a snake.
If you ain't careful. It will harm you one day.
I am 90% certain that your wife will abadon you when things goes awry(God forbid) and she strike me like a person who may cheat or betray you.

You need to seek your inner self and ask your self,if you wanna build your future with such insensitive woman.
If it comes out yes.then talk to her about such attitude and it effect on you. If she continues.

I strongly recommend you leave that woman. Even you don't feel the effect now. you can't escape it when you get past your productive days.(When you turn old man).

Please be careful with that woman. She is a potential snitch.
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This person don talk am all ..OP if U are wise you should take his advise

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by bettercreature(m): 11:57pm On Sep 08, 2015
awesomesossy:

Yeah I know...I was just kidding anyway... but if I was to really advice I ll say he should minimize how much he spends on her wen he has so much.....i think dat way she ll learn not to complain or she ll complain all d tym till she eventually gets tired of complaining...den maybe later after OP is sure she has changed....he can den start spending normally like he used tooo......well am not married sha...so really dnt know how my advice soundsgrin
Don't mind the OP,i dont think its as serious as the way he wrote it here,most ladies nag when their husband is broke,some men are even worse exp me who is typing this,i always switched off totally when am broke

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by AmasB(f): 12:00am On Sep 09, 2015
Wa ho that is life for you sat her dwan let her know your pains
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by MrBasketball: 12:01am On Sep 09, 2015
MrsPhyno:
Didn't read, just the title. Never be broke. Shikena.

Rhea:
[size=18pt]Stop being broke then[/size]

And to your own little sense... A man never get into hard time in this world.

All these girls with their fish, saying the same rubbish.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by winny4u: 12:03am On Sep 09, 2015
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 12:03am On Sep 09, 2015
@ OP

Bwahaha... I almost spill my milk for the title of the thread! Make sure you always have money.
grin grin grin grin cheesy cheesy
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by deebrain(m): 12:03am On Sep 09, 2015
bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake


You are wrong. It is entease. That is Trick somebody.



Thanks.

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by edward1984(m): 12:05am On Sep 09, 2015
bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake


Aunty na C no be S ( Entice ) . Op whenever she nags tell her " Until Death Do Us Path " shey na path or part ? This is the secret of marriage, when you marry that's when the true color comes out, you have to learn to live with it. 10 months is still a fresh marriage. Talk to her and make her know she makes you feel less a man. Be a man and good luck to your marriage.

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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 12:06am On Sep 09, 2015
MrBasketball:


And to your own little sense... A man never get into hard time in this world.

All these girls with their fish, saying the same rubbish.
I knew someone would quote me...... Leave me alone.

If he can't live with his wife nagging, he should know what to do.
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by kinibigdeal(m): 12:06am On Sep 09, 2015
BRAVAGAD0O:
Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.

Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks




Proverb 31:10-12

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no lack of gain. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Vs 26

She opens her mouth with wisdom; and on her tongue is the law of kindness.

Points

The point is either of you are not Godly. Your wife might have been mislead by some friends or either way round. There might have been some external influence threatening your marriage that you don't know. Some underground comparism might be ongoing. You need to be sensitive before it goes out of hand. Nagging in marriage is normal, but consistent nagging is dangerous. Let me draw your attention to what Albert Einstein said "Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. Meaning you might have notice some of these attributes during your courtship or dating which you ignored. Also. Kinnan Rawling quote that "A woman never forgets the men she could have had, a man, the woman he wouldn't.

If your present is nothing comparable to the guy she snub at first, she will keep nagging until you are left with loopholes of evidence, and that can only happen with ladies that are never contented or promiscuously nervous about what their friends will say about them. I just hope you were not forced into the marriage at the first place
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by ronlyp: 12:07am On Sep 09, 2015
Tell her to Bleep off ur life,that's all ,no hard feeling just being real n honest
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Bhanjea: 12:07am On Sep 09, 2015
There is one basic relationship rule and dat is: Never patch up ur relationship..the lady must av been lyk dat since wen u av been courting her and u bliv u can make it work eida by working hard or thinking she will change wen u marry her,bros u re wrong.........But having married her there are 4 solutions I will profer
1. The lady seems to be jobless,why don't u get her a job or biz and let her know u guys are to complement each oda..(But if she gets a job without YOUR input,u go smell hell)
2. If u don't want her to work,den u will av to double up ur effort and avoid being broke,so dat u will av less issue
3. A nagging wife intends to frustrate you,u just av to be more than a man that u av been before and shld she push u too hard,plz don't complicate ur life by beating her,just walk away
4. Pray to God to bless u and also take a good control of ur home
But bros, I bliv u slept during the courtship days,u must av seen traces of this attitude in her
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by janefrancisca(f): 12:08am On Sep 09, 2015
Poseidon000:
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If I am you. I won't give room for such nonesense. She either stop or we end the marriage.

It is really pathetic that you find yourself with such woman.
I don't like divorce but I won't advice you stay with such woman who is so money centered.
It's just like sleeping in same room with a snake.
If you ain't careful. It will harm you one day.
I am 90% certain that your wife will abadon you when things goes awry(God forbid) and she strike me like a person who may cheat or betray you.

You need to seek your inner self and ask your self,if you wanna build your future with such insensitive woman.
If it comes out yes.then talk to her about such attitude and it effect on you. If she continues.

I strongly recommend you leave that woman. Even you don't feel the effect now. you can't escape it when you get past your productive days.(When you turn old man).

Please be careful with that woman. She is a potential snitch.
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jeez undecided Are you for real? if you were to be a marriage counselor, i swear 80% of your clients will be separated in just a week after their wedding. This marriage is not up to a year for Christ's sake, its something that can be fixed.I will advice him to talk to her about how irritated he is about her nagging attitude. 2 stop being broke too often, maybe you should try to cut some unnecessary expenses down. Besides what is she bringing to the table as a woman?...that is why am against full time housewives. She should get a job...its useful in cases like this. at least when her hubby is broke, she should step in and cater for the family and herself. for those saying any unmarried person shouldn't advice, it should not be so. We may not be married but then our parents, siblings or folks are married and we av their experiences and lessons with us, besides some issues require common sense to resolve.

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