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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Chubhie: 6:27am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Once upon a time, It was only abundant farmlands that was needed to plough to create wealth for the family. I'm a farmer and I miss the wise ways of our forefathers. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Lawfredsam(m): 6:28am On Sep 09, 2015 |
bjprodint:its entice and not entise |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by vega84(m): 6:29am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Longmann:. What's that one ?who doesn't go broke once in a while? A wife should be able to stand by her husband @ all times, nt only wen his buoyant gosh! #vegatalks 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by ernecy(m): 6:29am On Sep 09, 2015 |
U are so on point, I total agreement with u Poseidon000: |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by aftatechbiz(m): 6:30am On Sep 09, 2015 |
The truth is that most young ladies(not all) of this generation in Naija are just like that. And the reason is that before getting married they have dated different men and enjoyed themselves, Mr Biggs today, Tantaliser tomorrow, Shoprite the day after. Some have dated men of their fathers or uncles age who has money and these has spoilt them with money and gifts though they knew they will not marry them. On getting married to a younger man now who is just starting to build his own career with little income he is getting, they find it difficult to cope. www.aftasms.com 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by slap1(m): 6:31am On Sep 09, 2015 |
bjprodint:Entice |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by maxti: 6:31am On Sep 09, 2015 |
I understand your situation perfectly. What I suspect is that she probably wasn't aware of your financial condition before marriage. There is also the possibility that she is into the marriage for money. Was she like this when you guys were dating? If she was. Then am sorry to say that it will take Divine intervention to change her. My sincere opinion sit her down. Let her understand your financial stand ( depending on u, you don't have to say it all, at least let her have a idea) Draw a budget for the house with her. Let it be participatory. Then both agree how much she gets for the upkeep of the home n herself monthly. You can give her the money in installments. Like every 2 weeks. I.e twice in a month. Best of Luck. N.B: In marriage/life, there Is no " one size fits all" Different things work for different couples. No manual for marriage. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by AdeniyiA(m): 6:32am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Kimoni:Exactly what i wanted to advice. Let your wife know your real worth, it's certain you laid the foundation of your marriage on faulty foundation of lack of information, communication and knowledge of/on marriage, you didn't present your real worth to her during courtship. And more importantly GET HER A JOB! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by biobash(m): 6:34am On Sep 09, 2015 |
BRAVAGAD0O: Bros... Did she know how your monthly pay is ? No You don't disclose that Don't let her know what's remaining. And finally try to plan ur spending & infact mayb รท into 4 parts (I.e.) Weekly....so that save...d remaining |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Greycious(m): 6:35am On Sep 09, 2015 |
op, from d look of things, i think u married a liability, she has nothing to contribute financially. Best solution: refuse to b broke, just like my ghanian friends 'r2bees'. Don't break ur marriage because of dat, u are already in it and u need to manage d situation as a man. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Jamb2016Expo: 6:36am On Sep 09, 2015 |
ok 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Jamb2016Expo: 6:38am On Sep 09, 2015 |
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Jamb2016Expo: 6:39am On Sep 09, 2015 |
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by xgogo: 6:39am On Sep 09, 2015 |
its common with our nigeran woman who are not working . they always feel insecured when the money seems not comming and meanwhile . get her a job maybe she will understand how hard it is to gain an income. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Jamb2016Expo: 6:39am On Sep 09, 2015 |
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Abbey2sam(m): 6:41am On Sep 09, 2015 |
i Goovo: It's Ball down |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by creepsyme(f): 6:44am On Sep 09, 2015 |
BRAVAGAD0O:some women are like patients who go to a dentist for toothache problm, while seated on the chair waiting for a tooth operation they are calm untill d operation starts in earnest then you see different kind of reaction. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by segcymoor(m): 6:44am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Na wah o |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 6:46am On Sep 09, 2015 |
You should know that women are borne to nag the hell out of men. They are insatiable. Too bad, she exhibits her negative trait at the earlier stage of the marriage. You have to give her the "talk is cheap" attitude;I mean ignore her attitude. The only time wives will appreciate husband is when the husband is lower into the final resting place called grave. May evil never happen to we men. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Truckpusher(m): 6:46am On Sep 09, 2015 |
BRAVAGAD0O:Go for a divorce now, you've got many years ahead of you to start on a very wrong note. I can tolerate every kind of woman but not biitches that thinks that I look like an ATM machine. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Truckpusher(m): 6:48am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Omotolu:Do not let any woman drive you nuts to your grave , drive her nuts until she locates her family house with speed. |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Abbey2sam(m): 6:48am On Sep 09, 2015 |
bjprodint: Entice |
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Etizz: 6:52am On Sep 09, 2015 |
You actually married a woman dat will not be able to stick with you when things get rough... And what is she even doing at home? Can't she work?[/quote] Am sorry to quote u, but dis last statement of yours is exactly what d OP and every husband need to know....... So it's left for him to choose a woman who will stay wit him in hard times or who will snitch in hard time........ If I may ask, what does she do for a living?? |
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Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by An2elect2(f): 6:52am On Sep 09, 2015 |
eyaa but you didn't tell us you lack good management skills...anyway, i wont nag if i was married but i would be worried if my hobby gets broke every time the month is past by half. If you can, pls engage in a minor job to complement the one you doing already. It helps. Or give her some money to start up a petty business. She needs to get busy, start earning and have work life experience too. Or is she working already i know of women who earn but still depend on their husbands for everything!! including money for match sticks so much so that even if they manage to spend, they would still ask for reimbursement. If that is your case, it is a bad one, only God can deliver your home 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 6:53am On Sep 09, 2015 |
twoondei:like its dat easy... |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 6:57am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Didn't you notice the signs of ingratitude and discontent in her before you proposed? Once you hit it big, she won't stop telling everyone how she stood by you in trying times? May God help you! |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by smsdigito: 7:01am On Sep 09, 2015 |
Poseidon000:I beg to differ here. Wait do you expect every woman not to have a dark side? By the way we have only heard from the man we haven't heard from the side of the woman. I think i tend to agree with some who comment here that the man needs to do alot of work on her emotions. Most Women are smart, like comfort and also like to feel a sense of security both for the moment and future.Maybe that explains why when the an is broke even if there is food, gen to lit the house and so on she still appears to be worried. And the man must ensure they understand he is in charge and doing his best. Let me tell you, if you do not know how to rule the emotions of your wife and allow yourself to be too sensitive as she is, the whole marriage may jamb rock soon. Be more mature as a man, handle issues with self control. So mr. Husband do what Italians will call "Mano armano" (i hope i got the spelling correctly) which means heart to heart discussion and let her understand the following points: *marriage is a rub my back i rub your back thing *women also can do something to support their husband bc its not the responsibility of the man alone to raise money in the family. *that in every successful marriage there must be sacrifice and perseverance *and that often times the reason for doing something and enduring today is for tomorrow's sake. The fact that its tough today doesnt mean it will continue forever. *both of you must learn to appreciate each other's contributions in the marriage. *you too try not to hide your financial details and spending from her Thats why i always tell people the choice of wife shouldnt be based on the outward beauty alone( as big the back side is, how pretty, flashy, dark or fair, busty) and so on or not how handsome the guy is, how many cars and houses he has, how fat is bank account is etc bc all those ones can disappear fast and hatred may set in. It is way beyond that. [url]talkinfotech.com[/url] |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Bollinger(m): 7:04am On Sep 09, 2015 |
richommie: All those moro.ns who liked your post should be flogged. It is absolutely normal for a wife to nag if her husband cannot fulfill his manly duties. If anything it should motivate a man to do better. You must be single. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Nags Anytime Am Broke, Please Advise by Nobody: 7:05am On Sep 09, 2015 |
from my own experience I had a of who nags too especially once I go broke... and what I did one day ended the whole nagging ceremony.... opened an account for her and every month I did deposit 4k into it and any time I'm broke I did give her the ATM to go withdraw. not without warning her that if she zeros the account she's on her own. so sir, u v to form broke for a complete 1 month and see how she handles u,cos seriously if she can't handle you at yur worst she doesn't deserve u at your best. or worst still her behavior maybe caused by boredom. get her a job or enrol her into any skills acquisition center. |
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