johnwell:




God bless you, I recommended the same movie to her.

megastu:
Her's is different. Her's is pure lust.

nnacent:
Im sure ur relation didnt court for 5yrs without major issues. Dont jst look at things frm d surface. Read what d op wrote again. Her only problem is dis normal last minute feet-dragging and a fresh feeling of love(lust) for some1 else, not some fundamental character flaw she found with her fiance. Truth is, it is easy to become bored in a lasting relationship. but my dear remain!!!

Squig:
Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.

PastorOsamede:


"Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety" (Proverbs 11:14).

Bored you said? My eldest sister courted for about a decade. She and her husband of today were so excited when their wedding was finally approved by my parents.

Sit there and be keep screaming "remain". I hope when issues surface tomorrow you won't come here to advocate divorce or separation.

Too many marriages are falling apart because people are constantly being encouraged and pressured to go ahead with weddings despite glaring signs of foreboding. Nobody wants them to talk about their fears and reservations.

Squig:
Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.

Sanjayd1:


Thanks for quoting me. I didn't even get the title right. OP, its "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor "
Ayin Eka, e tie didie?

MrPeterson:
I think you are the problem here . You,ve been with him for 5years , planning to marry yet you are busy giving someone else ur attention.
You want to change ur mind cos u met someone else ? Maybe just for 2month .
Hmm i guess he is richer than ur suppose husband to be .

You might be at d losing end if care is not taken .

Luvly pics!


Oko won lo de

vizkiz:
you see what I keep saying?

"Hoes everywhere"

Tashaamania:

The nonentity might turn out to be Mr. right. I'm just saying..
She shouldn't ignore any signs. Staying with someone for five years isn't a guarantee just as knowing someone couple of months back isn't. Anyone can pretend for any length of time.

OP weigh both options. if need be, take time off the wedding planning, postpone and figure out what you really want. Marriage no be beans especially when you're going into it with doubts, that's alot of pending trouble.

Amhappy:
If you can keep away emotion for a while my advice will be as follows

Retreat: Stop talking to your new found love for a while,form busy. This will help the wine to clear for some time.
Pray: Talk to God about this
Dream: Paint your dream man and put down the qualities you need in a man.
Grade: Pick a pen and paper and write the names of these men. Grade them on these qualities and score. Keep away sentiments ooo
Discuss: Share with another person, an older married woman preferably.

NB: This second man is yet to proposed so do not conclude that he wants to marry you.
What is causing the communication barrier between you and your first man?

bukatyne:


The funny thing is that he might know about her wedding plans and be luring her with 'wedding' so that he can 'chop and clean mouth'.

queenfav:
Its very simple..You are not ready for marriage yet.Being with a guy for 100 years doesn't make you emotionally mature enough to handle the commitment of marriage.This is why I tell my friends I am not ready for marriage now.In your mid 20's you are still stuck up on the mills and boons inspired romantic fantasies of a 'perfect' man somewhere.My advice,call off the wedding.Anyways,I blame bellanaija weddings for making it look like getting married is all about the proposal drama,cute engagement ring and lavish wedding ceremony.Its not my dear..I am single but I can tell you authoritatively that marriage isn't as easy as its cracked up to be.It takes work,a total decision to stick with your partner and guidance from God.just face it,have you asked yourself why you even accepted his proposal?Is it because you have dated for 5 years and its only natural to get married?Or maybe because he is ripe for marriage ie has a job,his own apartment and the whole nine.Personally I don't think you even know the meaning of commitment.Its sticking to a person,through great and not so great times..Be honest,you stopped loving your fiance a very long time ago.If not,chance no go dey to even meet the new guy.I am in a relationship,and I keep just platonic male frnds that I discuss my career with.No time to waste in smiling over a guy saying 'good morning beautiful' and other sweet rubbish to me.Not when I have a committed relationship relationship.You created the allowance in your heart to fall for the new guy.Biko,I repeat you are not ready for marriage.I see you to be a lady who wants fun,experience and the thrill of being with other guys.Please do that if it would hit you with a healthy dose of reality.All this advice will not sink in cos deep down you want to be with the new guy.Even your fiance is tired too..a man that can go a week ..then 3 months without calling you simply doesn't love you!!!That's a fact.Just do what would make you happy.That's what counts.Sometimes you'll win,sometimes you'll lose.But more importantly you'll learn!

Platnum1:
Wow. For u to even consider another man I think u shld cancel d wedding cos your fiance deserves a better woman. No offense but it's d plain truth.

Mariecakes:
Little doubts days, weeks or a month b4 wedding is quite normal... but big doubts, disconnection and less communication is not normal..you might have all these because of the new guy you just met...talk to your Old guy, try figure where things went wrong, he just might feel the same way as you do n it will be easier to end it now....or you can Find out what happened n fix it

vizkiz:
you see what I keep saying?

"Hoes everywhere"

Squig:
Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.

Martyr601:
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