I de o. Who be this

Miracle4Sure:
ilo, how far

Op you have a problem,no drag all of us (men) into your matter,as long as say my barney dey service my engine,i have no right/need/urge to cheat...thats my DNA murrachuker

Sabrwahaqqo:
What's not possibu in this ninejiriya?

kai! some people fit use grammer kill person for this NL

Haba! menene wanan malam

This op need Jesus I swear n u are proud fa.

KARMA still de go school

Speechless dats how she makes me feel... Y will I cheat on her, I won't, I can't n I never will. Dare to be a man not a truckpusher, tossed to n fro frm one woman to another. We need CHANGE

According to my ex boyfriend, yes it's possible. Still don't understand how

MrsPhyno:

I think I may be the only one who got ur reference o lool

yes well.... u see... iz komplicated because.... we are married but the groom doesnt know it yet

bestie in what sense

She didnt even sing it well..its like this
Why you lying
Why you always lying
Oh my gad
You fvcking lying

Go as tiger Woods.

Vock:
Guy,it's possible...I'm doing it and trying to extricate my self from the side chick cuz if my girlfriend catches me, I'm in deep soup,just pray for me brethren

Same as me, the worst I would want happen to me iis that she catches me. I swear with ma life, I love her 100%, we're good, gonna marry her. So proud of her, showed her to the world....but I find out that I flirt with oda ladies...don't know y coz ma lady is way better than dx chickz. When I was a li2 younger, I do blv that its nt possible to love nd still cheat. Now, its possible though we knew it doesn't worth it. I dnt agree with those saying its not true love....u need to blv that it is...u knew it from ur heart that u'll trade no oda lady foh her...nd nothing could separate u...u're responsible to her nd u've always got her back but yet you still cheat. Maybe spiritual, I dnt knw. Finally to answer d OP, its very possible

chuna1985:

Solomon Married 300 wives n had 700 concubine.... Do the math.

Because he was looking 4 d virtuous woman he wrote about in proverbs but ended up with ecclesiastes vanity upon vanity all is vanity

Chief there are some things u don't understand if u do u won't say dis tin u are saying...mod I feel ur pain man

ilobasama:
Brother you dont love your lady. If you do you wont cheat on her.

And NO, not all men cheat. Only weak and irresponsible men do that.

Once again, you dont love her, you can never love someone and cheat on them

....bros there are some tins u don't understand if u do u won't say dis tin u are saying....I feel ur pain

ilobasama:
Brother you dont love your lady. If you do you wont cheat on her.

And NO, not all men cheat. Only weak and irresponsible men do that.

Once again, you dont love her, you can never love someone and cheat on them

....bros there are some tins u don't understand if u do u won't say dis tin u are saying....I feel ur pain mod

The only true love is God's love for us,and to tap into that love,we have to be like God,think like him and walk lyk him.God will never do something that will hurt us.

Lol. If you say so

Dacman:
....bros there are some tins u don't understand if u do u won't say dis tin u are saying....I feel ur pain mod

ilobasama:
Brother you dont love your lady. If you do you wont cheat on her.

And NO, not all men cheat. Only weak and irresponsible men do that.

Once again, you dont love her, you can never love someone and cheat on them

men your level of intelligence dem never buy am for market make sense like die

see all the deluded men on this thread!!!! if any of you cheaters "supposedly" love someone then you wouldnt KNOWINGLY hurt that person.
so, as hard as you all may THINK you "love" her, you lot actually have no clue what love is. if you have NO RESPECT for your partner, NO RESPECT for your r/ship and NO RESPECT for yourself, then obviously love is not present in your life.

now, there are men who love their women dearly, and due to one issue or the other they happen to cheat (lets call it temporary weakness ). if these men are remorseful and never hope to do it again, then thats understandable (nobody is perfect), but if these men gladly seek for it every weekend, with no remorse whatsoever then these men dont REMOTELY know the meaning of love!

MRBrownJ:
see all the deluded men on this thread!!!! if any of you cheaters "supposedly" love someone then you wouldnt KNOWINGLY hurt that person.
so, as hard as you all may THINK you "love" her, you lot actually have no clue what love is. if you have NO RESPECT for your partner, NO RESPECT for your r/ship and NO RESPECT for yourself, then obviously love is not present in your life.

now, there are men who love their women dearly, and due to one issue or the other they happen to cheat (lets call it temporary weakness ). if these men are remorseful and never hope to do it again, then thats understandable (nobody is perfect), but if these men gladly seek for it every weekend, with no remorse whatsoever then these men dont REMOTELY know the meaning of love!

See, I'd perhaps agree with you completely, but you make the crucial (yet common) mistake of confusing RESPECT and LOVE.

Lasgidy1:
I'm deeply in love with my orente.

Orente. What's that? Her first name?

@OP I become nervous and sometimes boring whenever I m with whom I truely love, sometimes dead silence take half of hour time and I come easily when hem with such girl... but if it comes to cheating, that is when the best of me comes out, I will become more romantic, deceitful, fluent, smart, heartless and tend to stay longer during hem with the girl...

I can never cheat on my fiancee, that's why I don't put myself in tight angles.
I believe in faithfulness

Hmmm

Lasgidy1:
I'm deeply in love with my orente. She means so much to me and I hold her in high esteem. I can't do without hearing from her at least 3 times daily despite my schedule at work on all days but I've come to realize that despite my unfailing love for her, I still cheat on her. Though, once she caught me cheating on her but she won't walk away. I believe she's forced to assume now that cheating is in the DNA of most men.

To the guys here, is it really possible to love your wife or babe so dearly and cheat on her? When you cheat on her, is it still fair to boast of your love for her? Also, why do most men cheat? Is it really true that cheating is in the DNA of men? Should we conclude its as a result of rampant moral decadence? Is there a way to stop it?
Cc: mods please do the needful

Yes. Men cheat for different reasons;

He’s a liar. He never intended to be monogamous, despite his commitment. He doesn’t understand that his vow of fidelity is a sacrifice made to and for his relationship and the person he professes to love. This man views monogamy as something to be worked around rather than embraced.

He is insecure. Deep down, he feels that he is too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too stupid, or too whatever to be desirable. He uses flirtation, porn, and extramarital sex as a way to feel better about himself, to reassure himself that he is still desirable, worthwhile, and “good enough.”

He is immature. He thinks that as long as his partner doesn’t find out, he’s not hurting anybody. He doesn’t understand that significant others almost always know when something is up. He doesn’t “get” that his partner will eventually find out what’s been going on, and when that occurs, it won’t be pretty.

He is damaged. Perhaps he is acting out early trauma experiences, such as physical abuse, neglect, or sexual abuse. His formative wounds have left him unable or unwilling to fully commit himself to another person. He may also seek sexual intensity outside his relationship as a way to self-medicate (escape from) his emotional and psychological pain.

He has unreasonable expectations. He believes that his spouse should meet his every sexual and emotional need, 24/7, without fail. In his narcissistic and self-focused way, he doesn’t understand that his spouse may be juggling multiple priorities (kids, work, home, finances) in addition to him and the relationship. When this spouse inevitably fails him (in his view), he feels entitled to seek intimate attention elsewhere.

He is bored, overworked, or otherwise put-upon (in his mind), and feels deserving of something special that is just for him—hiring prostitutes, viewing porn, or having affairs. Or maybe he wants more attention from his mate and thinks a period of pulling away will cause her to comply.

He is confused about love. He mistakes limerence—the “rush” of early romance—with love. He does not understand that in truly loving relationships, the early, visceral attraction is gradually replaced by sweeter feelings of longer-term attachment, honesty, commitment, and emotional intimacy.

He is addicted. Perhaps he has an ongoing, problematic relationship with alcohol or drugs that affects his decision-making and disinhibits him. He may also have an issue with sexual compulsivity, meaning he uses sexual activity as a way to self-soothe, escape uncomfortable emotions, and dissociate from the pain of underlying psychological conditions.

He wants out. He is looking to end his current relationship and is using external sexual and romantic activities to give his wife or girlfriend “the message” without having to be direct. Or, if he is a man who doesn’t like being alone, period, then finding a new and “better” person before leaving a current relationship provides a safer and softer landing.

He lacks male bonding and a peer community. Having undervalued his healthy need to maintain solid, supportive friendships and community with other men, his reaction to a busy or distracted spouse is all the more injurious—as he expects all of his emotional and physical needs to be met by this one person.

nnamdiokere45:
no vex if shez doin same too

I can't find any reason for doing that because she's got what those ladies out there got thereby making you cheat on her.

I am deeply ashamed of Nairaland men!

ronald4lif:


Wetin dey worry madam ehh.

My eyes are on you

I still find it very hard to come to terms with issues like this. How can one possibly or plausibly cheat on a woman you fervently claim to love from the in-depth of your heart? And as for men being branded polygamous and philandering in nature, I think cheating/flirting is a man's NURTURE, not his NATURE. I stand to be opposed.

eph12:
I honestly believe it's possible. Having sex with someone does not mean you love the person. Sex just brings this temporary amazing feeling and after the gymnastics and all the feeling is gone. Love remains whether there is sex or not.
We don't cheat on our partners not because cheating means we don't love anymore but because of the respect we have for them.
I would get hurt if my spouse cheats on but not because i think she don't love me but because i thinks she don't respect me.

u nailed it very hard. Love and sex are too different things....

Cheating is an art form engaged in by both sexes. The reason is that since monogamy is not natural, it must be artificially avoided. Cheating does not mean that you don't love your usual partner, it just means you love them enough to spare their feelings. I don't condone adultery or fornication..but then my definition of these twin vices is outside the norm.

GogobiriLalas:
Cheating is an art form engaged in by both sexes. The reason is that since monogamy is not natural, it must be artificially avoided. Cheating does not mean that you don't love your usual partner, it just means you dont love respect, or regard them highly enough to spare their feelings. I don't condone adultery or fornication..but then my definition of these twin vices is outside the norm.

Well said @ bold. Now, here is a post of plain and unadulterated truths (with slight corrections). Bravo, lol.