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Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Nobody: 12:53am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Choiii... And someone is somewhere getting excited he will be getting married soon while his babe is out here describing, analyzing and/or maybe verbally dissecting his physical structure. Abeg ooo na only dat guy I just pity cuz OP will probably be cheating on him anytime she come across any interested handsome dudes I dey come first make I charge my phone 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by henryhemon(m): 12:54am On Dec 01, 2015 |
@Op, You seem to have made up your mind already and know what you want,you don't need our advise in between in all honesty let him go,stop wasting his time. Change your foul mouth not for him but for your future's sake. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by vislabraye(m): 12:56am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3: Hahahahaaa. Your explanation is funny. Marriage no be by force. If you don’t feel anything for him, then don't do. So that in future you won't Bleep another man. Btw, I thought looks is secondary to a woman. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by kilokeys(m): 1:01am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Omotayor123:Gollibe... The character is nt the problem.. He looks like u.. Dats all 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by fittty(m): 1:01am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Girls sha. Keep waiting for Mr Handsome. When you don old finish, if na cripple man sef you go rush take am. Mtshewww!!... In fact go and take clay and mould ya own man... Girls done seem to understand that looks fade away. You meet this cute handsome guy with 6 packs and couple of years time the looks depreciate due to age. 2 Likes
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Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by sweatlana: 1:39am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3: My dear u have a talent in comedy .lol pls develop your comedic flare |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Ballmer: 2:20am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3:You should rather drop your own contact instead. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by akinladejo: 2:23am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Tell her to walk away cos she will not be happy and the marriage will not last. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Princess4eva(f): 2:23am On Dec 01, 2015 |
There is no magic bout it when you feel nothing for a guy. Don't get into a marriage out of pity. I was once in your shoes during my undergraduate days. The guy was so much into me, pocket money, food stuff,etc. He even brought travel documents to UK but I declined. He was crying, you know what it is for a grown man to cry? It is deep affection that will help you to overcome the many challenges marriage will throw at you. Thank God I am happily married now to a man I love and who loves me double. 5 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by bolajibreeze: 2:24am On Dec 01, 2015 |
What does an undefined colour even mean, lol, Aunty look at tinubu, obasanjo and fashola, they ugly as shit even after the money but their wives are beautiful as Bleep. You think they were blind or they were stupid? If you see somebody that is 'focused' or has good motives towards you clinge am o, u won't be young forever my dear, two of u go ugly, soon u no go know who ugly pass, if love is in between all these things like 'head shape' 'undefined color' become trivial 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by trapQ: 3:17am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3 this is the same thing I'm facing. Except that my boyfriend is very very very presentable. He is actually my best friend too. He is cute and dresses very well. He is obsessed with me even tho we've never had sex or even kissed yet. yh, lol. He's been asking me to marry him, and all the while I gave silly excuses, until recently when I realised that I just have to. Because the way he treats me eh, as if I'm a queen. He even went as far as telling friends and our pastor that we're engaged, just so no one will snatch me, lol. I don't love him, but I have to force it because the guy has proven himself worthy. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by cbjonstage(m): 3:19am On Dec 01, 2015 |
bellong:Gbam!!! U sounded like nollywood chief priest. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Atmmachine(m): 3:25am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3: Please, can i have his contact ?? |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Rajosh(m): 3:26am On Dec 01, 2015 |
op it's obvious you're not matured enough for marriage. you don't love him yet you're considering marrying him. So what next after marriage? Cheat on him serially? kill him? divorce him? the way you described him showed you're truly not matured enough for marriage. osinbajo is small in size but today he's the v.p . don't be shortsighted. look at the big picture. But if you think you definitely can't stay with him, end the relationship And stop wasting your time and his. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by BluStreak(m): 3:34am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3: Babe, what you have just said up there is the gospel truth. You have just projected the driving force behind his patience and niceties on a slide. If not that this your story is recent, I would have thought you are someone I know cos I witnessed a similar thing some 7yrs ago. The guy is married now though. We were friends then. Please don't do it. You will leave the rest of your life in regrets and will eventually resent him and chances are that you will abscond with someone else cos the type of man you desire will cross your path along the way thereafter. There is also a higher chances of you becoming emotionally unavailable for him at some point. You are not attracted to his looks and he can't change that. If he wasn't fashionable that you can fix but physical appearance that goes beyond just facial looks has no fix. The summary of it all is "Don't do it". He will be hurt, but it's better he is hurt now than the hell you'll both live in thereafter. Take my word. There is no need jumping off a cliff with your eyes closed. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by OlayinkaM1(m): 3:37am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Omotayor123:She has nothing against his character but his physical look 1 Like |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by MathsChic(f): 3:51am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Best comment so far. Op take this advice. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by MathsChic(f): 3:52am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Onegai:And you took it down because people don't get it? I wouldn't. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by gen2lpatty(m): 3:54am On Dec 01, 2015 |
She may not sound desperate, I think she's desperate to be a wife. You don't find someone attractive yet you have been leading him on till Mr handsome runs along. Much like if the desirable isn't available, then the available becomes the desirable. Naija gals be desperate since 19BC 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Adaeze003(f): 3:54am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Aitee1: Abi blues go change to raggae Sister girl *in cookie's voice* you have two options, agree to the marriage or let him go. Oh... I think I just stated the obvious. But be warned... holding on and then dumping last minute might make him do terrible things to you(yes, people these days are crazy) so, don't lead him on. Secondly, if you marry him for lack of options or pity, your marriage might be the worst thing to happen to you. Some men will be nice till you marry them and are knocked up, then the fangs will come out to play. All in all, be careful and make your decision now! Don't drag the dude along. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by frrank(m): 3:58am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Aitee1: I lost my phone & the contacts stored in the phone memory & sim. Kindly inbox it to me. |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by DedeNkem: 4:21am On Dec 01, 2015 |
You're one selfish b*itch! What the f*uck is wrong with you? If you don't feel sh*it for him, why are you f*ucking leading him on? How would you feel if some jerk treats you the same way you b*itch are treating this poor guy? You claimed you feel nothing for him and yet you kept having dates and spending time with him. You already planned to keep him as a side show to fall back to if the "man" you want doesn't show up. That shows how pathetic you're. You also claimed he's doesn't want to leave you alone. No b*itch, you're the one who doesn't want to leave him alone! That's why you've been leading him on, you f*ool! I keep wondering, how the hell did that great guy meet a f*ucking selfish drama b*itch like you? You don't deserve him at all! You also claimed he's ugly and talked about him as if he was some expendable sh*it. How do we know you're not an ugly mudaf*ucking orangutan? If you think he's too ugly for you and don't feel sh*it for him, then let him go!! That's the only good thing you can do for him right now! Yes, I believe everyone should have a choice in choosing a soulmate, but you have no right to mislead him into thinking you're into him when you're actually not interested in him! You're not his type. Do the right thing by cutting him loose. You don't deserve him. He'll meet a good woman who'll love and treat him the way he deserves, and fortunately, you're not that woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Nobody: 4:23am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Lolz I like this gal, she doesn't want to be with a wowolistic fellow in order to avoid the perpetuation of wowolism in her generation. Do whatever floats your boat girl, if na fyne you want na fyne you go get but I can't guarantee happiness o! 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by misspicy(f): 4:25am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3:don't even dare it.....you will be fed up soonest,just be patient https://www.nairaland.com/2718566/husbands-physique-does-not-turn |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by femi4: 4:27am On Dec 01, 2015 |
cococandy:Yes mummy....love your comment |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by Toks2008(m): 4:50am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3: Please out of the other prince charming,which one have proposed to you? You need to read this.. My candid advice for the ladies I simply laugh at the naivety of some ladies who claim they are in search of a man who will truly love them and appreciate them. Why i laugh is because deep inside these ladies,they know if a man truly desires and appreciates them but what they are actually looking for is totally different from what they claim. I have heard many ladies set standards as regards the type of man they want and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that except the fact that they cross the line by wanting to be with a man they have strong feelings for and even if they meet a man that truly desires them,as long as they don't have feelings for such man,its a NO. I'm sorry to tell you this truth; many ladies will end up been an object of ridicule in their affairs until they learn the fact that all you need is a man that will truly love,appreciate and value you and every other thing is secondary. Don't be carried away by his money,looks or razzmatazz but be sensitive to know if he sincerely wants you and cherish you. If you are fortunate to have a prince charming who also truly desires you,good for you but never make this a must. Yes i agree that your feelings towards this person is important but your marital happiness does not lie in what you feel for him rather its the way he feels towards you. Of what use will it be if you end up marrying a man you are crazy about but will make you cry all the time?,Of what use will it be if you end up with that man that has all you want except the fact that he turns you to a punching bag or makes you unhappy? Some ladies are actually fortunate to end up with man of their dreams but to be on the safer side,be sensitive to know if that man truly desires you because not every man that comes for your hand in marriage truly loves and cherishes you because many guys these days marry for selfish reasons. Trust me,its better to be with a man who truly wants,desires,appreciates you than to end up with a man you want but does not really want you. As a lady,you are genetically structured to naturally love a man that treats you well and a cute guy will turn ugly to you when he treats you like poo while that guy you felt nothing for will look so cute and adorable to you after he treats you like a queen so the best part is that you will fall in love in a short while with any man who truly shows you he cares even if he is a short fat ugly man.(watch beauty and the beast) and you will agree with me that all a woman needs is a man that will love and cherish her all the days of her life. That is the man you need,and not necessarily the man you are crazy about because if a woman marries a man who truly loves and cherishes her,she is complete but if she marries a man she is crazy about but does not truly love and cherish her,she is finished. Hope this helps https://www.nairaland.com/2440267/costly-mistake-many-ladies-make 5 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by noblegrex: 4:53am On Dec 01, 2015 |
kagorba3:I care for yours! |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by abimic(m): 5:08am On Dec 01, 2015 |
U seem to have made up your mind about not going to like him and there's only little we could do. One thing is, no Mr. Right and no Miss Right anywhere, u grow the one u have to make him/her what u want,that's refining! There are many great people that are ugly and yet, they married cute ladies and yet they have happy homes. Looks form a little in Marriage as character is the most important, u would not want to marry a very handsome dude that makes u a punching bag or wouldn't hesitate showing his affection for other ladies even right in your presence. If u marry Mr. Handsome and something goes wrong with his looks in the long run, will u quit the marriage? That couples are fine does not necessarily translate to cute kids. Seek God's face but what I know is, love can be grown, watered, nurtured and maintained. If u think u can't really get along with him, just let him go, pity and convincing u to head where u are unsure of can't save the day for u as u will be the one in it and not us. But still, looks form a part of decision but not the main pointer as that isn't stable, character matters most! Serious women know what they want and if u are one of them, follow your heart. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Family Please Advice A Wife To Be!!! by feaworaoja007: 5:31am On Dec 01, 2015 |
If you"re really pretty like you said, i"ll marry you! M 4 real...quote me,maybe i'm d ansa 2 ds ur dilemna! |
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