IndianaJay:
Op..............I have a question.

Why marry a philanderer when there are many men out there who will love, respect you and not be promiscuous?

I've always said....promiscuous people have no business being married, you can't intentionally tie someone's destiny to yours when you know you have no respect and will break your marriage vows in a flash.

I'm not even talking about the men who try to resist the temptation here, i'm talking about the men/women who readily go in search of temptation while their spouses are home playing dutiful hubby/wife.

Women should stop marrying these philanderers, there's no happiness or light t the end of that tunnel.

It's how bitter resentful old women are created.

If you read the first point,i mentioned emphatically that a saint can turn to a demon and except there is a tag that is placed on every man's head to know which one will not turn a philanderer after marrying you,maybe your assertion of ladies not marrying a philanderer.

Any unmarried lady will never understand no matter how hard she tries to until she is married and faced with that hard fact that most men cheat on their wives and it is only the man who gets caught that takes the heat.

I tell ladies point blank,if you divorce your hubby cos he cheats on you,then you are not only dumb but clueless because there is no guaranty that the next ten men you come accross after that won't do worse,if you also chjeat on your man to get back at him then you are the queen of fools cos you are doing yourself more harm than good BUT IF YOU DIVORCE A GUY THAT CHEATS WITH IMPUNITY,I SUPPORT YOU...Because it is bad enough for a man to cheat on his wife but totally insane for him to do it to her face...

This is one fact many ladies will never come to terms with until they are faced with the harsh reality...LET THAT GUY BE,your marital or overall happines must never be dependent on a man's fidelity towards you...there is more to life than watching your hubby,or crying over the fact that he is seing other ladies...

Polygamy is not a sin so why kill yourself because your hubby decides to be with another lady when he can actually marry another lady.

For the guys, adultery is a sin and if you indulge in it then start preparing to spend your eternal life in hell but if you must indulge in this hell bound act,please respect that woman by going very far to mo sa fun e to avenue.

post=39467497:
Made lots of sense... I've learnt a whole lot from this post. Bravo @Toks God bless ya

AMEN sis.

This is not about loving front page but I may have to point Lalasticlala or ishilove to also check ths thread cos i think ladies should learn from this so if you guys dim it fit you can put this on fpage.

Thanks

classicB:
"What some married women dnt understand is, that their husband is having sex with other ladies out there doesnt make them less of a wife, lover, mother..., a man can actually love u and still have sex outside. This is because a real man have sex with his d!ck and not his emotions, meanline a woman having sex outside her marriage is slowly destroying it because most times women have sex not only with their vagina but also with their emotion that is why a cheating husband will not allow his wife cheat bck." As said by a married level mate.

u dan marry?

That 90% of men who cheat on their wives are not ready to divorce their wives but it is these wives that push the man out with impatience and hot temper so you will need lots of patience to deal with a philanderer because in most cases,they always come back home after having their feel of the side dishes


If a man cheats there is neither love, intelligence or respect. There is AIDS, clamidia, syphillis, ghonorrea, herpes, hepatitis ABCE. Not worth having a man if you have to worry about him coming home with these

tomyka81:
If a man cheats there is neither love, intelligence or respect. There is AIDS, clamidia, syphillis, ghonorrea, herpes, hepatitis ABCE. Not worth having a man if you have to worry about him coming home with these

I agree totally but it does not change the aforementioned fact.

Toks2008:


I agree totally but it does not change the aforementioned fact.

I guess I am just not the kind to wait around and see whether a man brings me a death sentence home.

tomyka81:


I guess I am just not the kind to wait around and see whether a man brings me a death sentence home.

This is why i always say no one is free from stds..ok if you run is there a guaranty that the next man wont give you.

I think every wife should just warn her hubby and also beg him to use protection for his side dishes if he must eat out.

Toks2008:


This is why i always say no one is free from stds..ok if you run is there a guaranty that the next man wont give you.

I think every wife should just warn her hubby and also beg him to use protection for his side dishes if he must eat out.

wrongnumber:

Confused?

My future hubby will not cheat on me, so why should i bother ?

Toks2008:


This is why i always say no one is free from stds..ok if you run is there a guaranty that the next man wont give you.

I think every wife should just warn her hubby and also beg him to use protection for his side dishes if he must eat out.

Ummm where are you getting this from? Not ALL men cheat. Real men have self control and aren't guided by their temporary feelings and emotions. But yes, I am very much STD free. Every woman should make her worth known to her boyfriend before he becomes a husband and say if you cheat, I am gone. No man is worth your life. There are some diseases money can't sure and love won't heal.

tomyka81:


Ummm where are you getting this from? Not ALL men cheat. Real men have self control and aren't guided by their temporary feelings and emotions. But yes, I am very much STD free. Every woman should make her worth known to her boyfriend before he becomes a husband and say if you cheat, I am gone. No man is worth your life. There are some diseases money can't sure and love won't heal.

I should be asking you where you got your conclusions from cos i cant remember writing that all men cheat.PUMA

Toks2008:


I should be asking you where you got your conclusions from cos i cant remember writing that all men cheat.PUMA

if you run is there a guaranty that the next man wont give you.

Your above statement suggests that there is a high prevalence of cheating men and a woman is likely to run into one. I don't even know what a puma is.

Dunno how true this is but I heard about a couple, the man was such a womanizer that the woman had to choose a girl for him out of all his concubines cuz she complained they were too much.

VenusBetty:
Dunno how true this is but I heard about a couple, the man was such a womanizer that the woman had to choose a girl for him out of all his concubines cuz she complained they were too much.

When it comes to explaning to ladies about the sexual recklessness of many married men,no matter how hard you try,the unmarried ladies mostly will never understand until they are faced with the situation.

So yes its possible and more so is the fact that polygamy is not forbidden in our culture and while islam promotes it,the bible does not condemn it.

So i keep asking ladies why the need to kill themselves if a man has a mistress when it is a fact that he can actually marry another lady at will.

If a lady finds herself with a faithful hubby i say a big congrats and if otherwise i will just advice her to face her life and that of her children..no man is worth the stress and as i will always reiterate,leaving a cheating hubby is nver a guaranty that the next man wont do even worse.

What i hate is when a man who decides to cheat now does it to the face of the wife..it shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union.

Toks2008:


What i hate is when a man who decides to cheat now does it to the face of the wife..it shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union.

Cheating.... Period.....shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union

tomyka81:


Cheating.... Period.....shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union

You don't need to start reaffirming that cos no one is disputing that.

I am been factual here and not trying to live in fantasy world.

Rukkydelta:
My future hubby will not cheat on me, so why should i bother ?

I love your spirit...

BTW are you the one on your profile pix?you look like a chinko doll.

Toks2008:


You don't need to start reaffirming that cos no one is disputing that.

I am been factual here and not trying to live in fantasy world.

What facts? You are citing opinion of yourself.just because you strongly believe something and move to gross generalizations in order to justify you wrong does not, my friend, make a statement a fact. Lol smiley face

tomyka81:


What facts? You are citing opinion of yourself.just because you strongly believe something and move to gross generalizations in order to justify you wrong does not, my friend, make a statement a fact. Lol smiley face

I have always wondered why majority of Nigerian readers take the words many or most to be a general term..is there something wrong with the foundation of their linguistics?

Toks2008:


I have always wondered why majority of Nigerian readers take the words many or most to be a general term..is there something wrong with the foundation of their linguistics?

I have no clue. I am not Nigerian. I do read, write, and speak English though. I know when someone is seeking to justify themselves by claiming baseless facts and making gross generalizations though.

tomyka81:


I have no clue. I am not Nigerian. I do read, write, and speak English though. I know when someone is seeking to justify themselves by claiming baseless facts and making gross generalizations though.

O.Y.O lowa

Toks2008:


O.Y.O lowa

? Lol

Toks2008:


I love your spirit...

BTW are you the one on your profile pix?you look like a chinko doll.

No, I'm not the one

wrongnumber:

Honourable lalasticlala what do you think?

missspicy, here we go again

What am I seeing on this thread? God, please help some of these people. Amen.

Toks2008:


When it comes to explaning to ladies about the sexual recklessness of many married men,no matter how hard you try,the unmarried ladies mostly will never understand until they are faced with the situation.

So yes its possible and more so is the fact that polygamy is not forbidden in our culture and while islam promotes it,the bible does not condemn it.

So i keep asking ladies why the need to kill themselves if a man has a mistress when it is a fact that he can actually marry another lady at will.

If a lady finds herself with a faithful hubby i say a big congrats and if otherwise i will just advice her to face her life and that of her children..no man is worth the stress and as i will always reiterate,leaving a cheating hubby is nver a guaranty that the next man wont do even worse.

What i hate is when a man who decides to cheat now does it to the face of the wife..it shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union.

I am scared at the bolded


SMH, I blame women who have made marriages do or die affair at the expense of their happiness and self-esteem.

If it is not easy for men to stay faithful, may it not be easy for women too. In fact it is no longer easy for women , more married women are cheating day by day. Welcome to the 21st century.

Please when come to face-to-face with your Lord and he asks you why you chose to fornicate or started what you knew you cannot handle (for Muslim guys), just tender the polygamous BS to him.

it's faultless. I'll give it 99%; 100% is for God ,otherwise that is what your post is.

classicB:
"What some married women dnt understand is, that their husband is having sex with other ladies out there doesnt make them less of a wife, lover, mother..., a man can actually love u and still have sex outside. This is because a real man have sex with his d!ck and not his emotions, meanline a woman having sex outside her marriage is slowly destroying it because most times women have sex not only with their vagina but also with their emotion that is why a cheating husband will not allow his wife cheat bck." As said by a married level mate.

clap for yourself

Neverquit:
Y'all are funny. So you think women don't cheat? If una get mind, go and do DNA test for your children. If you no get that kin kudi, just do it on the first born. Una go fear fear with the result. S.M.H.

All of una saying women need to involve emotions to cheat...how about prostitutes? Rubbish.

A woman that cheats = Prostitute
A man that cheats = Prostitute

Please, we need to stop justifying cheating. If you truly love and respect your spouse, you won't cheat on him/her.

Men, the same way you will feel if your wife/woman cheats, is the same way she feels when you cheat. So why should you then subject another human being to that kind of pain?

I agree. Not all men cheat, and I believe there are a few good ones left. No women should ever go into a marriage thinking that it's acceptable for a man to sleep around. I don't care about whether his emotions are attached or not. It's wrong.
They are now saying its okay for a man to cheat, but a woman can't do the same? What kind of rubbish am I seeing on this thread. Lord have mercy.