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Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 2:18pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
I don't see anything wrong with this question. It's not so much about what you asked but how you asked it and each person's reaction to this type of question is dependent on few things: 1. The askers motive behind the question 2. The askee experience with the question 3. The strength of your relationship. You have only known each other for 2 months and yet, you felt compelled to ask such an intrusive and deeply personal question. Your mistake is that you may have pre-judged her to have asked such question so early in your dating period. This kind of question should only broached when you have put a ring on it OR planning to put a ring on it like today. Go and apologize and start over. 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 2:45pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
The apology letter below is not an ideal apology. It is wrought with defensiveness, rationalization and justification. It nullifies the apology. Here is how it should go: First email from you: "Dear: (insert name), I am sorry for asking you such a question. I did not mean to upset or offend you. If she replies: It's okay. blah blah. Or she may tell you why she is vexed by the question etc. Second email from you:. OK. I understand. And, if she didn't tell you why the question was offensive to her, then your next question would be: If you feel comfortable telling me, please, I would like to know why the question upset you so". Then so on and so forth........You are now in damage control and restoration mode with further chats. This is the art of effective communication. Afterall, the dating period is for learning each other, NOT for coital acts and superficialities. If you proceed properly, your relationship should get back on the right tract. And, if it doesn't, well, then that is also the point of dating. No biggies. MRBrownJ: 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by krak101(m): 4:48pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
That's a fair question I believe... but again my bro, the woman folk ask for sorry on all occasions. Ask your father |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Ishilove: 5:31pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Samfigo1:She doth protest too much... |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by holuwatobhy(m): 5:33pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
End time question.
I laugh you in calabar. |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by kobonaire(m): 5:33pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
The OP is a noob |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 5:34pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Guy. That is an assertive question. Like saying 'girl, you have done it before. Abi?' Just saying |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by wristbangle: 5:35pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Samfigo1 There is nothing wrong with your question. Do not mind those ladies calling u names for asking such a sincere question. She is guilty of it, period! |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by amunkita(m): 5:35pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
She did what she did cous she ain't a liar nd wouldn't want to start it with you. Guy, 95% of Nigerian galz of today ve gotten pregnant before except the Virginasss... |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by kobonaire(m): 5:35pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
da ric he:So you de sell "fake friends"?? SMH .... yahoo yahoo ....4 1 9 |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by PencilBox: 5:36pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
SexyStrawberry: shaRRAP! Complex shit. You ladies are jst conFUSED. |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by danidee10(m): 5:36pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Op u get questionorrhea...hw will u ask dat kind of question I'm a guy but it sounds very silly....op think say na nairaland he dey comment 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by chuzero(m): 5:37pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Chei...end time question,abeg make I go ask ma own baby weda she dun get belle bfor.. l |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by kobonaire(m): 5:37pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
amunkita:So have you caught the guys that gave all of your lovely sisters bele?? |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 5:38pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
If it was me I would feign anger at the question. Don't u have the ppl skills to know how and what to ask? Anyways she'll probably get over it |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by amunkita(m): 5:38pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
kobonaire: Unfortunately all my sis re transgender.. Anymore queshion 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by kobonaire(m): 5:40pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
amunkita:Why you no join them in solidarity wear wrapper?? |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Jackrich: 5:41pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
There is nothing wrong with your question bro,she's guilty of it and never knew that someone she probably wants to build a future with could be asking about it . She doesn't want to talk about it because it pricks her conscience and at the same time she knew for sure that somehow your trust for her won't be like before - all she's doing right now is defense mechanism and damage control. Use your tongue to count your teeth. 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by amunkita(m): 5:42pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
kobonaire: And Who sayz I don't wear.. 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by akbahbah(m): 5:42pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Guy! U did not ask much as long as u did not meet her virgin. I can bet it with you, she has done a minimum of one abortion b4 for her to react to that question. Answer to ur question for her is YES.action speaks volume only if u can decode it. quote author=Samfigo1 post=41372122]Hello everyone! I didn't want to bring this up but I can't just imagine how this question could make her so annoyed. Before I say the question, let me take you down the memory lane. I started dating this girl for two months(I don't know if we're still dating, I'll tell you the reason why I say so), everything has been going on smoothly not until recently when we started asking each other questions. She has asked me so many questions, some of the questions are as follow: My Babe: Have you dated before? Me : Of course! My Babe: Why did u break up? Me: We didn't get along with each other, so we decided to call it quit. My Babe: Oh I see.... She has asked me series of questions but I never asked her any. One day precisely 3days ago, I decided to ask her this simple question that shouldn't take a minute to answer! Have you been pregnant before? She paused and looked straight into my eyes and said What sort of question is that? What do l take her for? Am I saying she had done abortions before? She hissed, stood and left, since 2days now we've not called, sent text to each other. Does the question sound absurd? why did she take it so personal? I have decided not to apologize because I don't think I have done wrong, that's why I said earlier that I don't know if we're still dating! [/quote] |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by FuckTheMod: 5:42pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
MzPecs:Dumbfùck girls with dumb response 2 Likes |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 5:43pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
You asked well, if she is not guilty she would not reacted way, guy open your eyes make you no carry wahala put for house. 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 5:43pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
so, what if she said 'yes, i have been pregnant before'. what will be your next move? |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Jackrich: 5:43pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
MrsPhyno:How much will it cost you to answer a 'yes' or 'no'? Getting angry over a genuine question will only increase any man's suspicion and whatever trust that has been built would be dented. Though the outcome would depend on who wants the relationship more. 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by FuckTheMod: 5:44pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
SexyStrawberry:And now, let me ask you again Have you been pregnant before 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by ReneeNuttall(f): 5:44pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
wats wrng wid d qstn? Dats an honest qstn dat deserves an honest answr if she's matured. I guess she wasnt prepared fine,bt if she is nt guilty she shld av declined rather dan walk away...no offence 2 Likes |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Nobody: 5:44pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
@OP: I personally don't see the wrong in your question, maybe you were too forward, maybe not...the POINT is from her response, she will most likely not be straight forward with you in the future and you'll be afraid of asking her other NECESSARY questions further in the relationship. *DON'T CONSIDER SUCH GIRLS FOR MARRIAGE.* Majority of Nigerian girls are like that... |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by JideTheBlogger(m): 5:45pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
I can bet she has aborted more than once... Mtchew** 1 Like |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:45pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Mhen u bleeped up big time. You threw away all the tools of social dynamics the way u asked that...more like riding "okada" with 4 passengers behind you and no helmet to protect your head. 2 Likes |
Re: See The Question I Asked That Made Her Angry... by Naff24(f): 5:46pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
VampireeM: Confirm....this guy was even polite with his question...My guy asked me if have aborted b4 yet I didn't get offended with him. 2 Likes |
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