I noticed this girl in church on Christmas day service. She happens to be an usher in the church. The girl charmed me immediately I set my eyes on her, such that I couldn't take my mind off her again.

Frankly, I haven't been anything close to a womaniser all my life, and I can't remember if I've ever met a girl for the first time and asked for her number, but for this girl, it was different. I was passionate to get close to her and be her friend. In fact, I was hoping for an opportunity to have a future with her.
I was able to get her phone number that day, and finally started communicating with her.

This girl is so lovely, attractive (not like she's d most attractive girl I've ever seen), intelligent, warm etc.
As I started interacting with her, I discovered to my utter dismay that she's just 17 years old, while I'm almost 30 years. I have a plan of getting married in 3 years time, and frankly, I was looking at a possibility of getting married to her, if all things fit in.
Also, I'm a professional while my new friend is just about to get into the university.

I am a very responsible young man. By God's grace, I've been able to keep my body, and still wish to continue so till I get married. I look quite young facially, and I'm smallish (just a meagre 5' 7" in height). She on the other hand looks a little bit mature (looks 23 or thereabout) and she's about 5' 6", so she doesn't look much younger than me.

I admire this girl a whole lot and I'm almost in love with her already, but I feel crushed when I consider her age. Even in that 3 yrs time, she'll just be 20, while I'll be approaching 33.

Please house, I need counsel.
Do I stand a chance with her in any way?
Does it even seem right for me to attempt initiating a relationship with her?
Will an average family (especially well-to-do ones) accept such for their daughter in this day and age?
How do I approach this situation, as my heart can't just let her go?

Please no insults, okay. I'm only seeking for advice.

Thanks in anticipation of your wonderful support and encouragements.

NB: Lalasticlala, I beg you, don't move this to the front page, no matter what. Thanks.

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Age is nothing but numbers.
She is 17



Just make sure you are compatible in other ways.

Op you are d reason why most women r cryin to God for husbands....

Move on...

Many fishes in the ocean.

Leave children alone.

Haa

Srzli op, if she was ur daughter what would u think and do?

Cutehector:
Op you are d reason why most women r cryin to God for husbands....

Why? Cos I don't want to marry those who are ripe for marriage?

Leave dey gal to study
Go out dea nd get ursef a mature lady

Suigeneris93:
Srzli op, if she was ur daughter what would u think and do?

Yeah, I've thought about that and that's part of the reasons why i'm worried.
If I were to move on with her, I wouldn't consider approaching her parents now. But I'm wondering if they can even accept me when their daughter is 20.

ILIDEFI:


Why? Cos I don't want to marry those who are ripe for marriage?

you are thirty for christ sake.. She is just 17... If u becom a father, will u see that ur daughter marries an old man?

falconey:
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Has it even gone to that

falconey:
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Lol. I'm not a paedophile o. As a matter of fact, I'm still a V, so it's not really about sëx. It's just about an unusual attraction I haven't felt before.

Cutehector:
you are thirty for christ sake.. She is just 17... If u becom a father, will u see that ur daughter marries an old man?

Allow the dude ur(our)advice to him is just useless cos his mind has already been made

17 and 30 Lord have mercy

ILIDEFI:


Lol. I'm not a paedophile o. As a matter of fact, I'm still a V, so it's not really about sëx. It's just about an unusual attraction I haven't felt before.

yua still a vDude honestly u need special deliverance

Emac34:

Allow the dude ur(our)advice to him is just useless cos his mind has already been made

oboy leave me alone na, wtf is ur problem

ILIDEFI:


Yeah, I've thought about that and that's part of the reasons why i'm worried.
If I were to move on with her, I wouldn't consider approaching her parents now. But I'm wondering if they can even accept me when their daughter is 20.

That quote, 'strike the iron while its hot' isn't always true. If I can remember, u just met her on xmas day, two to three days ago. I feel its too early to want to rush along things with her...take time to know her and you're a medical doctor, do you know her genotype and if its compatible with yours? there are a lot of issues to talk about bfr u can talk abt even dating her exclusively and longterm. Just don't be in a hurry to make a decision


My two cents

Look for an older girl...or wait till she's 20 atleast....

Cutehector:
oboy leave me alone na, wtf is ur problem

Sorry guy met no offences

she go dey call u baba b DAT
but age no mata sha

Suigeneris93:



That quote, 'strike the iron while its hot' isn't always true. If I can remember, u just met her on xmas day, two to three days ago. I feel its too early to want to rush along things with her...take time to know her and you're a medical doctor, do you know her genotype and if its compatible with yours? there are a lot of issues to talk about bfr u can talk abt even dating her exclusively and longterm. Just don't be in a hurry to make a decision


My two cents

I'm actually trying to give myself reasons not to get emotionally attached to her. Of course I haven't tried to find out if we're fully compatible, medically, socially and spiritually.
If I start checking out those things and I discover we're compatible in many things, it will be more difficult to back out then.
I'm actually looking at a possibility of backing out now, before I completely lose emotional control.

Emac34:

yua still a vDude honestly u need special deliverance

It's a choice bro, and I'm proud about it. I'm doing it to the glory of God, and I'm not ashamed of myself.

Cutehector:
you are thirty for christ sake.. She is just 17... If u becom a father, will u see that ur daughter marries an old man?

I quite understand your point. I've considered it also.
It's just that I don't even look more than 5 years older than her, if we stand side by side.

ILIDEFI:


It's a choice bro, and I'm proud about it. I'm doing it to the glory of God, and I'm not ashamed of myself.

Ur choice ur life
Bt yua still older than her so just let her be

Op really need some rest, I swear

Well, I think there's hope if your intentions are truly genuine. But you gotta wait till she's 18 or there about.

ILIDEFI:


I'm actually trying to give myself reasons not to get emotionally attached to her. Of course I haven't tried to find out if we're fully compatible, medically, socially and spiritually.
If I start checking out those things and I discover we're compatible in many things, it will be more difficult to back out then.
I'm actually looking at a possibility of backing out now, before I completely lose emotional control.

Hmmmn...so what will happen if she's ur soulmate and u passed her up for being too young only to end up with a much older knife for a wife

Suigeneris93:



Hmmmn...so what will happen if she's ur soulmate and u passed her up for being too young only to end up with a much older knife for a wife

That's my worry.
I dated an older girl for 3½ years before we fell apart. She was a very great, godly, beautiful, intelligent, virtuous girl and so on. We fell apart cos I wasn't ready for marriage when we initially agreed. Beside that, I wasn't so physically attracted to her, mainly cos of her height.
I've been with numerous girls before. I have quite a lot of them at work, yet I haven't been attracted to any.
This girl charmed me the very first time I saw her, and she nice.
This is why I'm worried.

My brothers and sisters why do you want to break this brother's heart before she does na. And op watin be "this girl charm me"? Cuz when i hear this words i just know a brother is in LUST ISLAND and what he really means deep down is to fvck that k!tty.

kizolo:
Well, I think there's hope if your intentions are truly genuine. But you gotta wait till she's 18 or there about.

Seriously, my intentions are very genuine, but don't see my family and friends approving of it, not to even talk of her own family.
It's getting me bothered cos for the first time in my life, I felt an irresistible yearning and attraction for a girl beyond my control.