I use God beg una, this is the REAL me. make una take me serious. Even if na only today.

How do you guys deal with a spouse with "suspected" psychological problem.

My girlfriend is like NEPA. At times she goes blackout or blank. During those times her reply to whatever am saying will be "OK, yes, no, nothing, am fine etc. She becomes so coldddd towards me.

And I do try to ask if I did anything wrong or if someone offended her. It mostly happens when we apart from each other, right now she's at my place and her NEPA don take light again.

I don ask questions tire, babe; "I fvck up? She said NO, "your best friend, chioma tell you say I fvck her? She said NO. Waten con be your problem?? She said "NOTING, am fine".

At times she'll admit that I offended her, I'll apologise and we move on without stress, while other times she'll keep saying NOTHING and still act colds towards me for upto 4 days or more.

During those times, I will have to become a clown just to make her smile and happy.

Abeg I need una contribution, she's the only girl I have ever taken serious and marrying her soon is now my priority. We have been together for like a year plus. This her attitude that is affiliated to NEPA started very early in the relationship . Whenever it happens, I do think of distancing myself or limiting my calls to enable her get herself back on track, and It confuses me if she needs me most during those times or far from her. The blackout usually last 3 to 4days.

NOTE; anytime she's not on her "blackout period", she showers too much love and affection on me, if on call, she wouldn't want me to end the call, if in physical, she wouldn't allow me step out of my door but to be in her arms all day.

Una don experience such from ur boyfrind/girlfriend before? How did you deal with it??

Lalasticlala. I use God beg you. Save a relationship.

Stupidity ooo

stupidity:
I use God beg una, this is the REAL me. make una take me serious. Even if na only today.

How do you guys deal with a spouse with "suspected" psychological problem.

My girlfriend is like NEPA. At times she goes blackout or blank. During those times her reply to whatever am saying will be "OK, yes, no, nothing, am fine etc. She becomes so coldddd towards me.

And I do try to ask if I did anything wrong or if someone offended her. It mostly happens when we apart from each other, right now she's at my place and her NEPA don take light again.

I don ask questions tire, babe; "I fvck up? She said NO, "your best friend, chioma tell you say I fvck her? She said NO. Waten con be your problem?? She said "NOTING, am fine".

At times she'll admit that I offended her, I'll apologise and we move on without stress, while other times she'll keep saying NOTHING and still act colds towards me for upto 4 days or more.

During those times, I will have to become a clown just to make her smile and happy.

Abeg I need una contribution, she's the only girl I have ever taken serious and marrying her soon is now my priority. We have been together for like a year plus. This her attitude that is affiliated to NEPA started very early in the relationship . Whenever it happens, I do think of distancing myself or limiting my calls to enable her get herself back on track, and It confuses me if she needs me most during those times or far from her. The blackout usually last 3 to 4days.

NOTE; anytime she's not on her "blackout period", she showers too much love and affection on me, if on call, she wouldn't want me to end the call, if in physical, she wouldn't allow me step out of my door but to be in her arms all day.

Una don experience such from ur boyfrind/girlfriend before? How did you deal with it??

Lalasticlala. I use God beg you. Save a relationship.

It could be temperamental issues.

Mayb she is highly melancholic.


Am like dat though, mood swings r unpredictable.
Can go frm being cheerful to very cold within an hour



Pls bear with her, Tiz nt her fault!

Probably just mood swings. In high spirits sometimes and low at other times.

Op ask her about it when next she is in a good mood. I feel that way at times especially in the mornings and the more questions you ask, the more annoyed i get. So i tell my friends that whenever they find me in that mood, its best to ask only once and then leave me alone.

ClassCaptain:
Stupidity ooo

classcaptain abeg coordinate this thread for me. Am very serious here.

Op u sef no ask d question seriously na. Everybody see o. After una go say 3rd party in marriage or relationship no good. D truth is if u're deeply in love with someone, affection or familiarity will not make u see the things u shd really see except someone points ur attention to it.

U never see wife at all No be only money person need 4 marriage. U're in a relatnship with an emotional girl who doesn't understand that marriage is not about her feelings but that her partner's feelings is her responsibility. At least u already know that urself that's why u ask her if there's anything wrong. Well if u have counted d cost and u want to go with her na u go suffer am o. If it be say she don go thru a lot of psychological trauma from d way she was raised. But despite that, she hasn't learnt that marriage is not about herself but abt her partner. If u marry dis kyn gal na 3rd party go dey settle case 4 una every month.

Erukumakanaki:

waten be ur own na? I go wire you e-slap o. Lubbish

Go to Nepa office to report her case asap!!dey don dey use her destiny control light!

your girlfriend is like Zaria in The passport of mallam illah



Call her and talk to her, Tell her your pains I know she will understand.

Diddyydiva:
your girlfriend is like Zaria in The passport of mallam illah




Call her and talk to her, Tell her your pains I know she will understand.

babe, seriously I don talk tire. On several occasion, I go preach long epistle on how her NEPA attitude can destroy our relationship. She nor dey hear. She started the new year with the same blackout. I jux tire

prettythicksme:
Go to Nepa office to report her case asap!!dey don dey use her destiny control light!

babe, talk better thing na, u na girl, u suppose gimme the gist on the button to press if my babe OFF again.

MzPecs:
Disadvantage of being a stup'id person, as you can see, no one takes you serious.

how dare you insult me. Oya talk better thing wey relate to the thread before I vex pass this one I dey so.

Ok

stupidity:
babe, seriously I don talk tire. On several occasion, I go preach long epistle on how her NEPA attitude can destroy our relationship. She nor dey hear. She started the new year with the same blackout. I jux tire

Continue to talk to her.

she will listen someday

sinaj:
It could be temperamental issues.

Mayb she is highly melancholic.


Am like dat though, mood swings r unpredictable.
Can go frm being cheerful to very cold within an hour



Pls bear with her, Tiz nt her fault!

like seriously?? you mean all those drama is part of her and a "girlie" stuff??

I wonder why ure sounding like my bf

Suigeneris93:
I wonder why ure sounding like my bf

lol. Na so your NEPA dey trip off too??

sinaj:
It could be temperamental issues.
Mayb she is highly melancholic.

Am like dat though, mood swings r unpredictable. Can go frm being cheerful to very cold within an hour


Pls bear with her, Tiz nt her fault!

So na federal government fault?

stupidity:
lol. Na so your NEPA dey trip off too??

Yes o, we're at that stage atm

falconey:


So na federal government fault?

lol.u funny

falconey:


So na federal government fault?

na GEJ fault

Diddyydiva:
your girlfriend is like Zaria in The passport of mallam illah




Call her and talk to her, Tell her your pains I know she will understand.

hw did u fyn dey book (passport of mallam illah)it was inspiring tho

anytime she blackout go on gen.

I swear I understand what you are saying. most times it could be because of something on her mind or most times u really offended her. what I do is that I try make her laugh. there was a time she was like that nd wasn't talking to me, all I did was play her best songs.. Thank God light been dey. Am talking of songs like thinking out loud and photograph by Ed sheeran with that song by Ellie goulding nd Loving you by trigmatic. When I was through she was just there shedding silent tears and telling me how she loved me nd I shouldn't hurt her again- How I hurt her? I still don't know.

I think its mood swings... Usually normal wen girls are ovulating or practically close to their period date... Usually done girls don't show traits of mood swings but others are aggressive during that period


Or she's always depressed



But stupidity seems you crossed over with a basket of sense #i like that

klassiquette:
I think its mood swings... Usually normal wen girls are ovulating or practically close to their period date... Usually done girls don't show traits of mood swings but others are aggressive during that period


Or she's always depressed



But stupidity seems you crossed over with a basket of sense #i like that

lol. Thanks for the comment jare.

Op its nt new. Am presently undergoing such dat since ystaday my guy has bin callin me bt i rfusd 2 pick his cal. Try and observe d time of d month dat it normaly occur. Women tend 2 ve mood swing days bfor or during their menstration. D gudnews is dat it last only 4 a few days. My 2 kobo

DeejayTafari:
I swear I understand what you are saying. most times it could be because of something on her mind or most times u really offended her. what I do is that I try make her laugh. there was a time she was like that nd wasn't talking to me, all I did was play her best songs.. Thank God light been dey. Am talking of songs like thinking out loud and photograph by Ed sheeran with that song by Ellie goulding nd Loving you by trigmatic. When I was through she was just there shedding silent tears and telling me how she loved me nd I shouldn't hurt her again- How I hurt her? I still don't know.

can you just imagine. Ladies are really complicated. I still don't understand why she doesn't open up and demand an apology if I am found guilty. This her drama gives me headache whenever it happens, coz am always playing back my memory to figure out what I did or said wrong to her. The worse part of it is when am out of town for days or weeks. It becomes an emotional torment to me.

JustOzito:
Op its nt new. Am presently undergoing such dat since ystaday my guy has bin callin me bt i rfusd 2 pick his cal. Try and observe d time of d month dat it normaly occur. Women tend 2 ve mood swing days bfor or during their menstration. D gudnews is dat it last only 4 a few days. My 2 kobo

like seriously!!! Its not fair na. We guys are the one suffering it. Since yesterday I have been asking my lady the "what happened" question. She got angry this evening bcoz it was becoming too much. During these times, do you want to be alone and far from him or his presence will makes you feel better?

RadicallyBlunt:
Op u sef no ask d question seriously na. Everybody see o. After una go say 3rd party in marriage or relationship no good. D truth is if u're deeply in love with someone, affection or familiarity will not make u see the things u shd really see except someone points ur attention to it.

U never see wife at all No be only money person need 4 marriage. U're in a relatnship with an emotional girl who doesn't understand that marriage is not about her feelings but that her partner's feelings is her responsibility. At least u already know that urself that's why u ask her if there's anything wrong. Well if u have counted d cost and u want to go with her na u go suffer am o. If it be say she don go thru a lot of psychological trauma from d way she was raised. But despite that, she hasn't learnt that marriage is not about herself but abt her partner. If u marry dis kyn gal na 3rd party go dey settle case 4 una every month.

thanks a lot. Noted#