debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

Opoki:

If you're planning to keep the baby despite the threat you bf is issuing then you hhave to think very very well.

One of my student once had a baby in 2014 and she's regretting the action. Keeping the baby might be very difficult and may halt a lot of things in your. Life. If you you're just scared of the abortion of a thing, then seek a professional.

You should watchout next time when you wanna get down.

Gbyte:


And the question about Genevieve and Waje is this, which of the two of them is married? Or you think they don't like to get married? And those are two out of hundreds/thousands of single mothers we have out there. The truth is, we are in a society that frowns and does not support baby mama in anyway, there is more to life for a woman than having money and a child, you need a companion also, you need someone to love and love you. Except you want to put that on the line, you can have the baby. Truth is, I have a lady I am dating at the moment, she has two kids, but trust me, its all for this period, we are never going beyond date, no way we are getting married. She has beautiful kids, but am I ready to be a father to two kids that are not mine ? Am i going to shoulder their responsibility with my own kids without seeing them in a different way ? Is my family going to welcome her ? Am I going to love her unconditionally without thinking otherwise whenever she needs take her kids to go see their real father to say hi ? All these are question's have asked myself and most of the answers is no. Many would call me names for dating her in the first place, the truth is, i didn't even know she has kids until we've started, she is beautiful and doesn't even look like someone who has a kids, she's lucky to have a family that loves her and took the kids as theirs, but this is reality here my dear, don't put yourself in a sorry situation this early. Living alone without a companion is not something easy or enjoyable

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Funminicrown:

I'm so happy to have read your comment and i give this the best comment since the beginning of 2016 on Nairaland. Your type is what we need here and not some gullible hypocrites fond of castigating people seeking for help while leaving their own problems unsolved.
You're blessed for touching a life positively today.

debbysmyles:
you can insult me but I already realised my mistake.

Gbyte:


You have an answer already, you do not want to bring a child to this world to struggle with you and your mom, she'd hate you for giving her more burden, just abort the baby, regret it now and be glad you din't bring a child to this world to suffer later.

There is more to been a mother than just having a child, are you really ready to be a mother? If no, please my dear, don't think of it, there is only joy in motherhood when you are ready and you have the finance, there is no joy when you are not ready, its all regret. And those asking if there is no condom, like they all use condom all the time.

You've made a mistake, you'd be making another one if you keep the baby when you are not ready for the baby. Thanks and I wish you all the best

justwise:


So killing the baby is the preferred option?

Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after few days, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright.

CaroLyner:
first of all at 21 you dont know about condom
and aftermath pills? am not upto 21 but i know
all these things.anyway the deed has been
done.do not get an abortion.Dont let anyone
force or coerce you to get one. You are your
child’s mother, and no one – not your boyfriend– can make you get an abortion. Let your “no!”
mean “no!” – no matter what anyone else tells
you. Your baby is a new, unique person who
deserves a chance at life. Period. If you ever
need to be reminded why you don’t want an
abortion, read real stories from real women who have had abortions. Their experiences will
remind you why you don’t want to do this, and
will help keep you strong in difficult moments

Gbyte:


Its not a baby yet, so you are fine if she keeps the baby and then the baby gets to suffer? Would you in anyway support her if you came to you for support? If you'd support her at all, would you do it with no strings? Lets wake to reality, the pregnancy is still in its early stage, its safer for her now than when its fully grown. This is reality, not some sentimental people who would keep the truth and say what they think people would applaud them for.

debbysmyles:
My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Opoki:

It may not be biblical but if she chooses the option, I won't discourage her and besides, that's not yet a baby but a foetus which can be likened to sperms spilled by some dudes even here on NL.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

debbysmyles:
My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.

DeeTus:
Go get pregnant and let him advice you. The best the chick could do is to go for abortion. Single mother sucks because men are scared to marry them due to unforseen problems.

justwise:


Not every sperm one spilled out turn to a baby, so this is a baby. Apart from when the mother's life is in danger getting rid of pregnancy is morally and biblical wrong.

jimmy1boy:
Thou shall not fornicate..... what does that mean to you?

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

debbysmyles:
I know his sister but his parent aren't based in lag.

Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after few days, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright.

Oma307:
You are wicked

Gbyte:


I love what you said earlier, but asking her to say the guy raped him is totally wrong. Do not type such again please. Rape is not something to joke with or lie about.