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Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by montezz(f): 12:48pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:I wish i could give you a hot kiss for this. So damn right! M sure some hypocrites will deny this,bt unfortunately it is very true. 1 Like |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 12:51pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
[quote author=misspicy post=43355197][/quote] babe don't play dumb, state your points and reasons, i am curious to hear and read from your view. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by montezz(f): 12:51pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
charlesikhalea:So true 1 Like |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 12:53pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
montezz: babe ther is no one stopping you from giving me one.... feel free to reach out The farmers, therefore, are the founders of human civilization. this actually got me thinking, nice quote tho, the farmers?? hmmm |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by montezz(f): 12:57pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:Lol...i am a farmer. I'm proud to be one. Your points was a hit back to back lol. Wen i tell people that i can never date a man who is not my kind of crazy 'else i'll cheat on him they take me for.....u knw d rest. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:02pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
montezz: trust me i know the rest, the thing is, we live in Nigeria, we are Nigerians, most of us grew up with culture and not so much psychology and exposure so thinking outside the box kind of takes effort, people just expects guys to be like this and girls to be like this, no ones thinks of deepen inside, probing past the surface to that point where understanding is the other of the day. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by montezz(f): 1:06pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:Yeah. I dont decieve myself i know what i want and go straight for it. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by misspicy(f): 1:08pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:lol ![]() ![]() the only thing I have to contribute is that, have it at the back of your mind that no matter how you think you are knowledgeable in women matter,there are exemptions to the rule,a certain percent of women are just not satisfiable 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:20pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
misspicy: Alrite then, oblige me in these certain percentage un satisfyable urges, what is it that can't be satisfied, attention, sexx? ... |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by Pumpkin34(f): 1:20pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Funny enough, I keep asking what women really want in a relationship. Even married women that are comfortable in their homes still cheat, 70%of girls cheat in a relationship but that doesn't mean you shouldn't trust because not all are the same. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:24pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
montezz: so if you want me, it means you would come straight for me? kind of sounds scary tho ![]() |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by montezz(f): 1:31pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx:Huh ![]() |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by antispexish(m): 1:37pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Before we move to the bottle throwing part, I must tell you a little about bunmi, then about the short scenario that led to the bottle throwing. Note, the knowledge about bunmis involvement came during and after the bottle throwing, and in different stages and different sources, but I'll tell it as it happened in real time. bunmi was not part of the clique, she was an outsider, we know her cus she was in same department with dave and dami and I, but the boys where not close to her. Secondly bunmi is dami's best friend, but their nature's are light years apart, dami and bunmi had been friends from secondary school. now bunmi lived close to dave, practically they live on the same street, but the street is long. dave used the closeness of his house with bunmi to hook dami to him during those toasting days in school.(One can see all the advantages dave had over others to hook dami). so in a way, bunmi was friend with dave and dami , but not with the clique, therefore there is a limit to what she knows or understand, she surely did not know about dave plans to get engaged to dami. now , during the over 4 years of dami's relationship with dave, dami had done the unthinkable, she had been confiding in her friend, seeking advice on how to handle issues with dave as she thought bunmi was more experienced about men matters. During those times also, dami innocently revealed to bunmi how good in bed dave was, all she practically knew about s*X came through dave. While dami was feeding bunmi these stories and seeking advice what to do next, dave , who never knew bunmi until she entered the university despite staying on the same street, was getting close to bunmi. Well the closeness was forced anyways, as dave had to drop bunmi in her house anytime he is going home and not stay in his hostel, and this happened often. It later became more frequent when dave started his masters programme. All these while, dave thought bunmi to be his babe's friend, but we did not know bunmi was looking at dave as the boyfriend she never had. things became worse as during the burial and few weeks after, bunmi practicaly integrated herself into daves family. She helped with the cooking and all other things, so daves sisters where grateful for her presence. what really happened between bunmi and dave is still sketchy, the story dave gave is different from that of bunmi, but one fact is that their mouths touched, who initiated it, I dnt know, but it happened while dami was in camp. Now dami came back from camp same day dave was having his birthday, or at least I saw her that afternoon. We did not want to go to the club for two reasons, one was because a member of the clique had an accident(a story in which you will understand why I dnt trust women), and the other reason was because dave was jobless, all the more reason why the drinks was mostly brought by the boys. So the clique was in attendance, dami, dave younger sister and some girls where also there. As the party was going on, bunmi came in ,wearing the shortest of the shortest of the shortest mini skirt I've ever seen with ma eyes. remember I said she is lightskinned, but her thighs were lighter. she was suprised to see dami I noticed. about an hour later, daves sister caught bunmi holding dave in a sexual way in the kitchen and she started arguing with bunmi. dami heard the noise and when she entered the kitchen dave sister just said " wo, ore re few gba oko e", which means " see, your friend wants to snatch your husband". dami started with bunmi, asking if it's true, bunmi was shouting ,telling dami to ask dave, dave sister was shouting that's it's true it's true, dave was shouting that everyone should cool down, the boys where shouting , asking what's going on, everybody started abusing each other, and I was thinking , hoping the boys where not as tipsy as I am, cus I can't fit to seperate fight. dave did a bad job of settling the matter, probably cus he was guilty of part, if not all of bunmis allegations. I was able to get a few things from all the noise, bunmi claims she dating dave, and does not care what anyone thinks, that dave told her he had broken up with dami. dave sister said she taught all bunmi said was true, as she wrongly thought dave had left dami cus he canceled the proposed engagement and dave did not give her details why. dami was crying while she was shouting , a tactic with bunmi picked up and it became a competition of who could cry and shout the most. Most of what Dave was saying was "koribe, koribe", meaning "it's not like that, it's not like" which actually was just getting everybody angrier! I cannot give a full discription of the situation, but if you had been in a shouting match where , emotions and alcohol are involved, you would understand. The situation calmed down for like 10 min, dami and dave where discussing in a heated but low tone in the passage, bunmi was seated in the sitting room, while daves sister was outside. All of a sudden, bunmi stood up , saying " mi o ni gba, okurin kan o Le lo mi ko wa lo be" meaning " no man can use me and get away with it like that". she went to where dami and dave was and told him he wanted to see him privately, this got dami angry and she told bunmi to leave them alone, bunmi refused and all of a sudden, a super fast encounter of hair grabbing, nail scratching, clothes tearing encounter ensued. stay tuned. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by cr7lomo: 1:39pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
The truth about life is that we leave in a very selfish world... The moment we start being selfless and start to consider and respect ur partner, cheating will become a thing of the past 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 1:43pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
montezz: lol, i didn't read that before posting, meant it kind of sounded scary tho.... in a fun way |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by cr7lomo: 1:51pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
antispexish: Guy, Na story u dey tell us ... Story out of ur own imagination... Gerrara here , infact in Igbo, si eba puo 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by DeeJ1(m): 2:08pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
HateU2: You see, one thing about relationships is that not everyone gets what he/she wishes for. Cos humans are not perfect. The 'Mr. Dami' may even be cheating on her which she got aware of and that may have contributed to her decisions. But the question is why resort to cheating when she still intends to maintain a relationship with her boyfriend? I feel if she has any issues, she should make it known to her boyfriend or just opt out. There is a high probability that the Dave knows about her movements, except he's a dull guy! Cos there'll always be traces, signs, red flags. Whenever he may be ready he may make his decision. That's when her likes will be be complaining they went out with a guy for 10 years who later dumped her. 2 Likes |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by ibile1: 2:17pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Good story..... |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 2:18pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Loving the story already, already gone to buy my big sized popcorn and a chilled 60cl new coke to ease things up...... ![]() ![]() |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by wasak(m): 2:31pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
I'm passing through such a difficult moment in my life right now.I find this thread useful, although it's not like I haven't heard anything of such before or even experienced. I'm so confused, can I ever love a girl again? Or even trust. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by torqque7(m): 2:44pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
wasak:Its a phase..ul get over it don't worry,itl hurt sure but ul be fine,P.s don't let the bad experience u had with one girl to affect ur future life and relationships..don't punish another girl for what ur ex did to u..goodluck |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by Summersland(m): 2:52pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Finish this story ogbeni na |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by charlesikhalea(m): 3:48pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx: Lolz funny guy, I must tell u this......this ur research will not apply on so many chicks, in this current world when we have girls turning into guys and guys doing likewise this ur doctrine holds no ground, the world is getting complicated by the day. Yesterday I read a post here of a guy falling in love with his friend's wife, I read another one on paper of how a married woman started having sex with her pastor.... The more u try to study humans the more problems u give ursef, in the end who gets a good wife or husband should just be happy............. 1 Like |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by antispexish(m): 4:01pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
and that's how everything went haywire, I did not know who attacked who first, but the fight was so strong that it took about 5 mins to seperate the two of them, never knew women are so strong when it comes to fighting for there rights. After they where seperated, bunmi had to calm down cus her mini skirt keep rising up anytime she moves vigorously. but dami will not, she kept on insisting that bunmi should leave the house. well bunmi can't leave like that, one side of her bra is loose. bunmi refused and said if she leaves , dami leaves also, and nobody present can tell dami to leave, not even dave. Some of the boys where even making matters worse by telling dave" you see wetin you cause!",which meant they somehow believed bunmi's story. This caused another round of argument. Some minutes later, dami , thinking(my thoughts aactually) her next move will show bunmi who really owns dave, grabs dave by the arm and was taking him to the bedroom, while telling bunmi that when she is tired, she will go to her house. bunmi blocked the same passage way where they had the first fight ,preventing them for moving, and insisting that the matter must be settled there and then. Actually I was confused on what bunmi is fighting for, either it's to claim dave to herself or she just want revenge on dave for using her, thinking her actions will break dami's and dave relationship up(hope you guys can see how a woman's thinking can change from wanting to sleep with a guy to feeling used after the guy has slept with her, in a short period of time). I could understand what dami was doing, despite my state of highness, she wanted to show bunmi that she still controls dave, cus they had made remarks about each others beauty and their ability to keep their man during their argument in the kitchen. dami also wanted to interogate dave to find out the truth. but she wanted to do both there and then, which was embarrassing both bunmi and dave. as bunmi blocked dave from moving, dami and bunmi went face to face with each other, eye ball to eyeball, pointing there fingers at each others eyes but refusing to get physical. guess they where both afraid to do cus they had inflicted numerous facial injuries on each other during the first fight, and they where quite visible, more on bunmi's face cus of her skin colour. The abuse and curses continued even after some boys got between them, then the unthinkable happened . bunmi is a street girl, good at swear words, more knowledgeable about dami than dami was of her, and also prepared for the fight. so her words where biting harder. This enraged dami that all of a sudden she ran to the sitting room and grabbed the empty bottle of red label that I had bought for the party under the bridGe at apogbon. sensing what she wanted to do , I quickly grabbed her by the waist, then she threw the bottle at bunmi. It hit her in the side of her head but did not break untill it hit the floor. bunmi went on her knees shouting " orimi , orimi". I believe I dnt have to explain what one experiences when a bottle is being broken at a party, the sound is bone chilling. The girls invited scattered and ran in all directions, one even made a mistake and ran into the master bedroom screaming, only to run out after realising it was not the exit she ran into. she was still screaming though on her way out. The other boys too who where not part of the clique took to there heels, maybe they thought dami had killed bunmi. All of a sudden , bunmi who was initially was holding her head with both hands , picked up a piece of the broken bottle and went for dami. dave was with bunmi in the passage at that moment, saw what is happening and tried to stop bunmi, only for us to hear yeeeeeeeeee!. This came from daves mouth as he, few seconds later, left bunmi alone. The clique, which I thought was made up of fearless boys, strong boys that will stand with you anytime, where no where to be found. Wrong!, my eyes found them, scampering for the exit. Dami was right behind me as bunmi advanced, different thoughts was running through my head, " why be say na me dey this position!, why be say na only me no get sense to run! why be say na me go die cus two girls dey fight over one man, the fact be say I never sleep with woman for like 2 months, God go allow me enter heaven so! these questions and fifty more ran through my head in less than two seconds. maybe bunmi thought I was going to try to stop her, she did not know I was about to pee in my pants, she decided to throw the bottle in her hand which missed by inches. she then took the flower vase on the table and threw it. gbam! it hit dami right at the center of her head, she went to the ground without a sound. bunmi, seeing dami fall, immediately started shouting , my head, my head, and she too feel to the ground and fainted. I stood there like a drunk Sam loco trying to understand what had just happened, I just saw the fasted and most delayed fainting moves on earth!. hope you have seen a drunk trying to look serious , well, that's how my face looked at that moment. What happened next? stay tuned. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by Biafrarep(m): 4:10pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Leriebloom:It happened to my best friend. He met this gal when she was a virgin before she gained admission into the university & he promised not to deflower her since he had intention of marrying her, d gal in question appeared decent & we called her virginia due to d fact she was a virgin, then suddenly when she was in her 4th year, she came to visit my guy one day & one thing led to d other & my guy discovered she had lost her virginity! She was constantly visiting my guy & despite how much he loved sex, he had to restrain himself all those times only for her to betray him!! I have a pretty gal I want to marry but every now & then I'll ask her if she has ever cheated on me & she wil say no but i'm scared!!! |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 3rdlegxxx(m): 4:20pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
charlesikhalea: My friend have you ever met a psychologist? i doubt that, we don't limit our thinking, we expect change, new happenings, we expect odd things, our thinking pattern is very different from yours, most people's thinking are limited to religious doctrines, i have the liberty of thinking outside the box and understanding that " every action is propelled by a reaction, a factor, something pushes something to happen' there is a reason behind everything, trust those cases you stated are not complex, the reason why you think a married woman having sex with her pastor or a guy falling for his friends wife is odd or weird is because you ask the wrong questions and most times you don't even bother asking at all, you just sign it off as God or Devil at work, you aren't intelligent enough to think of the "why and how" people can be complex, don't worry about them, worry about understanding how the mind works, how crazy it can be and then you might begin to understand people, married, single, heart broken, rapist, terrorist, abusive boyfriend or husband, the biafra fighters agitating for freedom to the married lady who just can't looking for sex outside, until you understand the why or how of these people then you will still see things from your point of view, limited and impossible. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by Leriebloom(f): 4:23pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Biafrarep:Some girls can be quite silly. And she actually believed that your bestfriend would still want her after discovering the truth. The guts of that girl. *shaking my head*. As for the girl you want to marry,if your relationship with her is built on trust, there is no need to be scared then. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by Nobody: 4:59pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
I think it goes both ways, you just have to to be sharp that's all so you won't fall mugu. |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by 1miccza: 5:04pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
halfricanadian: Sorry for the intrusion but the truth is "women" these days are never satisfied,i've seen worse cases than this |
Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by halfricanadian(f): 5:17pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
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Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by halfricanadian(f): 5:17pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
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Re: Dnt Trust Women, My Experience As A Privileged Observer by charlesikhalea(m): 5:22pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx: Lolz, this guy u too funny, the more u post the more the child that u re surfaces......I didn't mention anything about God or devil, u did that. My point about all this is simple, most humans cannot be predicted anymore, I didn't say anything was impossible either....u read my post but u lack understanding, as per the way I see things u my friend are a learner, u think outside the box? I don't even see a box, u say am not intelligent, I think u re only intelligent on Nairaland which is pretty common these days. Fake dudes claiming to be real, kids claiming to be adults trying to please every female cos they think they will be getting ass. Everyone else got my point, u kept lamenting about mind control, do u know what mind control is?! U think cos u try ur little tricks on kids u know stuffs about life?! U re just an irresponsible little boy who knows nothing about been a man.......I made my point in my first post, what ever problem u have with lack of understanding u should really fix it... 3 Likes |
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