halfricanadian:

ladies love to explore .

So also the men and that's the more reason why it's hard to trust

1miccza:


So also the men and that's the more reason why it's hard to trust

Trust i dont have that in my world

halfricanadian:

Trust i dont have that in my world

Same here and this gives credence to the Op's views

Leriebloom:

Some girls can be quite silly. And she actually believed that your bestfriend would still want her after discovering the truth. The guts of that girl. *shaking my head*.
As for the girl you want to marry,if your relationship with her is built on trust, there is no need to be scared then.

Why i'm scared is d fact that she acts naughty atimes, in fact she even told me it was over between us yesterday for no just reason only for me to call her friend who talked sense into her! Though she complains atimes that I dont take care of her which is a lie cause I do take care of her including feeding, cream, hair et al but recently things was a bit bad & she had to start work in a firm were guys are always toasting her & she complains I hav not taking her to see my mum since d 3yrs we hav been 2geda. I even sent her a luv sms now & she called back telling me she liked d sms. again d age diff, I'm about 10yrs older than her. I'm just confused but I luv her like crazy!

Biafrarep:
Why i'm scared is d fact that she acts naughty atimes, in fact she even told me it was over between us yesterday for no just reason only for me to call her friend who talked sense into her! Though she complains atimes that I dont take care of her which is a lie cause I do take care of her including feeding, cream, hair et al but recently things was a bit bad & she had to start work in a firm were guys are always toasting her & she complains I hav not taking her to see my mum since d 3yrs we hav been 2geda. I even sent her a luv sms now & she called back telling me she liked d sms. again d age diff, I'm about 10yrs older than her. I'm just confused but I luv her like crazy!

Maybe she is looking for attention or she has met another dude(i hope not), as for the age difference, it doesnt rly matter so far your gf isn't a minor.

Kinda makes one wonder....what's with the spirit in those 3weeks in the camp and relationships especially for ladies. I relate bro

GoldenJAT:
Op.... I stopped trusting girls.. Since my babe of 5yrs..changed immediately she went 4 her nysc. I still feel d shock... Bt nevertheless sum very few gud ones DE.

Biafrarep:
Why i'm scared is d fact that she acts naughty atimes, in fact she even told me it was over between us yesterday for no just reason only for me to call her friend who talked sense into her! Though she complains atimes that I dont take care of her which is a lie cause I do take care of her including feeding, cream, hair et al but recently things was a bit bad & she had to start work in a firm were guys are always toasting her & she complains I hav not taking her to see my mum since d 3yrs we hav been 2geda. I even sent her a luv sms now & she called back telling me she liked d sms. again d age diff, I'm about 10yrs older than her. I'm just confused but I luv her like crazy!

explore, look at other girls but don't cheat. Bear it in mind that is how cheating starts from little complains she will see reasons to give when she cheat.

raydatluvs:
Kinda makes one wonder....what's with the spirit in those 3weeks in the camp and relationships especially for ladies. I relate bro

it's quite painful.... Stopped blaming guys that treats them like shit Eva since that incidence, and 2 think that I went 2 service b4 her, without indulging in such promiscuity.

You can picture me standing in the sitting room, half drunk, but knowing fully well that there is trouble in the air, untill I grabbed dami by the waist, I've so far stayed out of the whole fighting and arguments. I just wanted to attend my friends party and have a nice time. By now, the thoughts or plans of telling dave about jide and dami had already been delected from the memory card inside my skull. thoughts that dave might have been cheating on dami, which prompt dami to go for jide had had been coming up in my head, right from when dave sister told dami about bunmi. but looking at the time frame, I knew dami did not cheat on dave cus of bunmi, it might have to be the other way round, maybe dave cheated on dami because of jide. I shifted those issues to one side, there are more pressing matters to attend to.
Daves sister came back to the sitting room, she was not in the compound when the first fight started ,as she has gone out when the kitchen argument ended. she took action immediately, shouting at some of the boys to come back inside, but before the entered she had to adjust bunmi's legs and skirt cus the ackward way she fell had forced her skirt up, exposing her.
She took bottled water , gave me one and told me to sprinkle water on dami's face, while she attended to bunmi. getting near dami, I noticed she was breathing. foolish me, for a long time, I thought people who fainted dnt breathe. well I opened the bottled water and emptied the water on her head, I dnt know the technique of how to wake people who had fainted, I was even prepared to splash a bucket of water on her face if not that she started moving.
To cut the story short, bunmi and dami both woke up, even though I'm half sure bunmi fainting was pretence. They both kept silent and acted weak, which I'm sure was an attempt to gather simpathy, they were both pampered, but the only thing we were happy for was that they kept silent.
I looked at dave who was still on the ground, and saw he had a cut on his middle finger, the bleeding has stopped but he was still wimpering, another thought struck me about dave dami and jide which I'll talk about later.

It was getting late, dami stood up and went to daves room, bunmi sat in the sitting room and dave went outside to talk to the click and explain his own side.
Now the issue was on how to get the girls home. dami, after talking to daves sister decided to leave for home, bunmi also left after daves sister gave her new clothes to wear and excorted her back home. The clique left too, but only after dave had told his side of the story.

Dave explained that he indeed kissed bunmi and they kissed for a while, but he did not sleep with her, he said bunmi instigated the whole thing and when he saw that it was getting too far, he stopped it. well boys did not believe him, cus its very hard for a man to stop such intimate body contact manoeuvres halfway when time and privacy was on your side. but dave swore to the boys and later to dami that he did not sleep with bunmi.

bunmi on the other hand ,claimed that she and dave agreed to a relationship,she told daves sister that dave forced himself on her. daves sister later told me on bbm that bunmi used words to imply that they had s*x during those 3 weeks dami was away.

as for dami, she told me she is quite sure dave can never sleep with bunmi, and that both of them where faithful to each other, she will never cheat on him and he promised never to cheat on her.( strong yimmu from me)

I purposefully added bunmi's issue and the fight to the story of dami, dave and jide cus I wanted it to be a little exciting. bunmi's case ended that day , but dami, dave and jides own continued for a while.
note: the story did not end in an exciting way, true events dnt normaly end that way. But I had a lot to learn which I will explain in my next post.

Leriebloom:

Maybe she is looking for attention or she has met another dude(i hope not), as for the age difference, it doesnt rly matter so far your gf isn't a minor.

She is in her early twenties, I dont knw if its because she knws I really luv her. There was a time she passworded her phone & I found out d code which enabled me to go through her sms & wassap messages but there was nothing out of place, again her room-mates double date & she do tell me about their excapades & I do warn her to be careful of them. One minute she is dotting on me, d next she is angry.

Biafrarep:
She is in her early twenties, I dont knw if its because she knws I really luv her. There was a time she passworded her phone & I found out d code which enabled me to go through her sms & wassap messages but there was nothing out of place, again her room-mates double date & she do tell me about their excapades & I do warn her to be careful of them. One minute she is dotting on me, d next she is angry.

Then your gf has serious mood swings.

Biafrarep:
She is in her early twenties, I dont knw if its because she knws I really luv her. There was a time she passworded her phone & I found out d code which enabled me to go through her sms & wassap messages but there was nothing out of place, again her room-mates double date & she do tell me about their excapades & I do warn her to be careful of them. One minute she is dotting on me, d next she is angry.

That ur girl is a fan of ja-z holy grail.

Ucheosefoh:
explore, look at other girls but don't cheat. Bear it in mind that is how cheating starts from little complains she will see reasons to give when she cheat.

She could be very jealous, if I laugh or get close to ladies she will start reading meanings despite the fact that there is one guy that always snoops around my office, if I'm not around he sometimes do come in & keep her company but if I'm in he will just walk past & pretend as if he doesnt know her though she told me about d guy(that he is just a friend & dat he is always scared that i might see him one day & embarass him), he is still struggling & always comes to play 9jabet beside my office. Though she do tell me that she cant imagine another man seeing her unclothedness. I dont knw if engaging her (which i plan to do on her birthday in April) will make her to have absolute faith in d relationship because she do complain dat I hav not introduced her to my mum.

Biafrarep:
She could be very jealous, if I laugh or get close to ladies she will start reading meanings despite the fact that there is one guy that always snoops around my office, if I'm not around he sometimes do come in & keep her company but if I'm in he will just walk past & pretend as if he doesnt know her though she told me about d guy(that he is just a friend & dat he is always scared that i might see him one day & embarass him), he is still struggling & always comes to play 9jabet beside my office. Though she do tell me that she cant imagine another man seeing her unclothedness. I dont knw if engaging her (which i plan to do on her birthday in April) will make her to have absolute faith in d relationship because she do complain dat I hav not introduced her to my mum.

Sit her down and give her conditions but before doing it make sure you are not cheating so to be on a safe side. That conditions should be that you are not comfortable with that guy staying near her and that anyday you find out she is cheating on you that ends everything. You know what? Since you have doubts extend the date of the engagement till you clear your doubts to avoid life time regrets. Na marriage no be relationship we are talking about. One thing I learn about most jealous people is that most of them are cheats but I'm not saying your girl is a cheat, but just be becareful. She broke up with you on Saturday bro I can only say hmmmmm

Is that the end of the story Oga?

Biafrarep:
Why i'm scared is d fact that she acts naughty atimes, in fact she even told me it was over between us yesterday for no just reason only for me to call her friend who talked sense into her! Though she complains atimes that I dont take care of her which is a lie cause I do take care of her including feeding, cream, hair et al but recently things was a bit bad & she had to start work in a firm were guys are always toasting her & she complains I hav not taking her to see my mum since d 3yrs we hav been 2geda. I even sent her a luv sms now & she called back telling me she liked d sms. again d age diff, I'm about 10yrs older than her. I'm just confused but I luv her like crazy!

the truth is,for a girl 2 cheat on a guy,there re always handwritings on d wall,..its obvious she might be having interest in another guy,maybe they've started dating or she's waiting to dump u before officially starting a relationship wit d guy because some good-girl-wanna be always like to form the "I don't date 2 guys at a time" stuff and all DAT..and also I saw u mentioning money for cream,feeding and all that as taking care of her,look bro,apart from material tins,women like fantasies,they like to be cuddle, kissed for no reason, told sweet sweet tins,hold her from behind and tell her how charming she is,take her to quite,good BT not really expensive place where u both can spend time with just each other,this might be the tins she's getting from d new guy,....and also check ur sex life to see if it sucks!,because as relationship gets older we tend to care less about this important aspect....and last but not the least...make sure u bleep her as many times as possible nw dat u av d chance just in case she's made up her mind to leave so it won't pain u DAT much.it always works ....thank me later

Biafrarep:
She could be very jealous, if I laugh or get close to ladies she will start reading meanings despite the fact that there is one guy that always snoops around my office, if I'm not around he sometimes do come in & keep her company but if I'm in he will just walk past & pretend as if he doesnt know her though she told me about d guy(that he is just a friend & dat he is always scared that i might see him one day & embarass him), he is still struggling & always comes to play 9jabet beside my office. Though she do tell me that she cant imagine another man seeing her unclothedness. I dont knw if engaging her (which i plan to do on her birthday in April) will make her to have absolute faith in d relationship because she do complain dat I hav not introduced her to my mum.

bro don't mind her ooh,he might be fukcing her,forget abt dose trash she's saying,.. By d way y is d guy having guilty conscience if his hands re clean,am talking from experience, most cheating gfs re d jealous onces,..,...I wish u gud luck sha!.......

stevecantrell:


No, rather look at it this way;

>> No prizes for Jide, he's simply a devil who tempted his prey and devoured it.

>> Dami on the other hand, despite being well looked after by 'Mr. Dami' still had deep issues about being satisfied in the relationship. Issues she probably never brought up or discussed with her man.
Rather, what did she do ?

She cheated. And it looks like she would continue cheating provided she doesn't get caught.

That's the point OP is trying to make.

I don't know about other ladies, but I hear Dami's type isn't in short supply.

If he had written 'some' or 'most' I won't have a problem with that but generalizing the way he did was over doing it.


But your last sentence had me grinning though....lol

firstking01:
women generally are weaker....all you gotta do is hit them @ their weakpoint, then come back later and give me a handshake...even that lady above me

And men whom women have successfully seduce are what.....?

beau49:




But your last sentence had me grinning though....lol

Heh heh ...they're like 'pure water' Corolla on the street.

beau49:




And men whom women have successfully seduce are what.....?

women are weaker vessels according to the bible, it is undisputably...that a man fell for a woman that seduced him doesn't mean he's a weakling...ok, was samson a weakling??

firstking01:
women are weaker vessels according to the bible, it is undisputably...that a man fell for a woman that seduced him doesn't mean he's a weakling...ok, was samson a weakling??

I believe you misinterpreting things but anyways no need to drag this further.

Ucheosefoh:
Sit her down and give her conditions but before doing it make sure you are not cheating so to be on a safe side. That conditions should be that you are not comfortable with that guy staying near her and that anyday you find out she is cheating on you that ends everything. You know what? Since you have doubts extend the date of the engagement till you clear your doubts to avoid life time regrets. Na marriage no be relationship we are talking about. One thing I learn about most jealous people is that most of them are cheats but I'm not saying your girl is a cheat, but just be becareful. She broke up with you on Saturday bro I can only say hmmmmm

She told me she got 2 knw d guy whn she tried to play bet & d guy helped her. I dnt cheat on her, i'm always busy at work & comes bck late, d mum even called me dis nite, I do send money 2 her atimes. It was even on val day i wanted 2 propose to her bt had 2 extend it. We used 2 live 2geda bt my mum was against it

Interesting story, not to forget the coment too

Biafrarep:
She told me she got 2 knw d guy whn she tried to play bet & d guy helped her. I dnt cheat on her, i'm always busy at work & comes bck late, d mum even called me dis nite, I do send money 2 her atimes. It was even on val day i wanted 2 propose to her bt had 2 extend it. We used 2 live 2geda bt my mum was against it

He don help her for bet and bet don end so his help is nolonger needed simple. You are the head and there are limit on what you can tolerate but on the issue of her waking up one day and said it is over and you running around to convinced her back did not go down well for me unless there is something that led to that you did not say. That break up alone is enough red light no girl will try that rubbish on me cus from there we don break up be that. My take is to becareful with her, give her time and study her more not forgetting heart to heart talk with her. Let her open up and tell you areas you are not meeting up and you do the same cus I believe her claims of you not taking care of her may be true, those things matter a lot bro.

halfricanadian:


ladies love to explore .

Finally, a lady who is honest about sexx and fun, you girls love to explore, the more rugged, bad and adventurous the guy, the better for u, when a girl wants to explore, good guys might just turn boring overnight Bleep

Thanks @ucheosefoh, you guessed right. She used 2 complain of my addiction 2 nairaland & i dont play or have much time for her. Again she likes "petting" & "outing". Last nite, I told her to come over my place after work & we had a heart2heart talk & she told me her fears, that she wants me to introduce her to my mum & more of my family members. i promised 2 be her perfect Romeo while she will be my Juliet, we dotted & played 2geda & she was very happy. I think in my struggle to make it big financially, i allowed drugdery to set in on our relationship & i took some things for granted. In her happiness, I wanted to give her back d money she used to make her hair & d one she spent on feminine medication but she declined & said she will accept only a fraction if i insist. I hope our new found joy lasts!!

Enjoying this Tale by Moonlight.


make I tanda here for the rest

like I said , real events seldom have exciting endings, and this one surely did not. I'm just going to talk a little about each of the main characters or group, what happened to them after dami and bunmi fought over dave, before I give my analysis(the main reason for the topic )

the fight happened about 4 years ago.

BUNMI.
I never heard from or saw bunmi again after the fight, guess the revelation that she had s*X with dave made her stay away from the clique or anybody who heard about the incident.

THE CLIQUE
The clique did not remain the same since that incident, some guys had said things they should not have said and had taking sides they should not have taken. The numbers where never complete again. The main mistake any group of boys will do is to allow girls, expecially their girlfriends be a member of the group. We thought that since these guys wanted to marry this girls , there was nothing wrong in them hanging around when we party together. To clear the air on " guys wanted to mary", I need to tell you that it was not only dave that was planning to marry, a member of the clique who I told you had an accident was already engaged to a lady, and she hangs out with the clique sometimes. A month after the accident,which is also a month after the fight, she discovered that her guy might not be able to get an erection again(he had revealed what the doctors told him to her), and what ensued was the quickest, most silent, breakup I've ever heard. That night, she sent him a text signifying they are no longer together, if the guy tries to get in touch, she will tell her parents and friends that he is impotent. The fear of the revelation caused my guy not to get in touch with her ever again, he even stopped associating with the already deplected clique cus of his issues. He died few years ago. The lady started dating another guy a month after breaking up with my guy and got married the same month dami broke up with dave.

DAVE
dave went from bad to worse, he had lost his mum, his job, his ride, some of his friends, and I'm sure his happiness, cus whenever I saw him, he was not really smiling any longer. Daves most devastating loss was the loss of his pillar, dami. Dami broke up with him a year after the fight, in the fifth year of there relationship, a month after she came back from service. Dave begged dami for almost a year to reconsider, but the more he begged, the angrier she became until abuse and curses forced dave to stop begging her again. dave is still Believing that things changed downhill within 3 weeks, when dami went for orientation, but because of his condition, I did not tell him that things had changed long time before that. Daves status still remained the same till now.

JIDE
jide tried all he could to get dami, she did not see him again after the fight. jide does not know where she stays and so could not track her. well , jide being who he is just forgot her and continued with his quest of sleeping with as many women as possible. that quest derailed for a while though. Sometime after the fight, jide and i went for a wedding in oshogbo, someone in the hood was getting married, I've not been to oshun state before so I decided to use that opportunity to know the town. at the wedding jide noticed a lady, from introductions and all, I got to know this lady grew up and lives in aKure, and she is studying in FUTA. I was of the view that this lady is taken by jides toasting skills cus they charted for a while, but on the way back, jide told me it might not be possible sleeping with her, that the man in charge of the weeding is her father , and he is a pastor. that even though she had been to lagos, she had not stayed more than one day, she does not know anywhere in lagos and she resides in akure.
Jide has cancelled travelling to akure to meet a woman he is not sure he is going to sleep with, but he kept calling her, inviting her to come to lagos, jide wanted to have the girl for one reason, she has big boobs and backside, but being a little plumpy did not allow her to look very sexy. sometime later, these akure girl agreed to come to lagos, she agreed to spend some days with jide. She eventually landed in lagos, very late in the night, on a saturday.

jide told guys(friends in the hood) the next day, that he had sex with her all night, I just concluded that this girl is no pastor pikin(dropped this conclusion when I saw the pics on herFacebook page, she was indeed pastor pikin). By Wednesday or so, jide was not drinking beer again, he was always found at the paraga joint drinking different sorts of concortion, opa-eyin, ale, monkey tail, small leaf, draw, jedi, iba, any mixture that that woman selling it could prepare. He does that , then goes back to the room where the akure girl seldom comes out from. The only time she comes out is when jide takes her to come and meet us at the bar, she takes only one malt drink, jide takes bottled water while she changes her face any time the discussion turns to s*X.
This continued for almost 2 weeks, could calculate the time cus we had to rush jide to the hospital on Friday night, 13 days after the akure girl came visiting. The cause?, chronic exhaustion!
Stay tuned.

Lol, Jide Don hear am

Biafrarep:
Thanks @ucheosefoh, you guessed right. She used 2 complain of my addiction 2 nairaland & i dont play or have much time for her. Again she likes "petting" & "outing". Last nite, I told her to come over my place after work & we had a heart2heart talk & she told me her fears, that she wants me to introduce her to my mum & more of my family members. i promised 2 be her perfect Romeo while she will be my Juliet, we dotted & played 2geda & she was very happy. I think in my struggle to make it big financially, i allowed drugdery to set in on our relationship & i took some things for granted. In her happiness, I wanted to give her back d money she used to make her hair & d one she spent on feminine medication but she declined & said she will accept only a fraction if i insist. I hope our new found joy lasts!!

the last minute ur complaining about,now ur blaming ur self...be vigilant

This story is strong....come and finish it op!!!