lolaed:


Her question and he having a plan B are not equivalent

lolaed:


IMO, she didn't state it the right way. But I only get in relationships where I can express my thoughts as they are and that's Y I reason with her. Guy should get more mature and see through her insecurity

freecocoa:
I did need to quote you because you said "she is just a wise girl" that I disagree with, hence the quote.

kennyman2000:
i see no problem with his response. Its what u asked for u saw. Why asked such question from him in the first place?

My kind of guy. Wouldnt let one unfaithful woman make me go crazy.

Thats such a good display of a very matured man act from ur bf who wouldnt let any woman destroy his self confidence or believes his whole life is wrapped to that woman, making him wanna start begging like a willy.

Your bf is trying to let u know that, there're lots of fishes in the river, just like u also told him there're lots of fishes in the river as well by asking such silly question.

Big ups to that guy! Tell your guy, i owe him 10 bottles of orijin. If u guys eventually get married. Pls, send me an IV. I'll bring his orjin for him.


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kaboninc:

What maturity?
Don't women want to or aspire or intend to be mature?
That's not an insecurity on the party of the OP....
Its an insecurity on the part of the boyfriend.
What's her motive for asking such a dumb question?
Trying to find out if he can "survive" without her?

MicroIce:


Ladies can b really overzealous.. Everything was going fine.. Until she thought of asking a very sensitive question.. If i were the guy.. Upon all these heartbreaks wey man don face.. I would gladly answer the same way over n over
We all know wen a lady says A.. She means Z

kilokeys:
Maybe he has "option B"..


U r lucky.. Pple like us have exhausted the English alphabets... We are now in Greek..

I have option Sigma sef.

We r 7 billion in the world Na.. An slowpoke sef go get at least 500 pple wey go love am like that.

We all have options.. U do too.. So it's best u never bring it up in relationships.. Enjoy the moment, enjoy what u have.. When u see a better deal, move..

He will too.


_{My 5,999th post on NL} I don't wanna waste the next number abeg

kilokeys:
Maybe he has "option B"..


U r lucky.. Pple like us have exhausted the English alphabets... We are now in Greek..

I have option Sigma sef.

We r 7 billion in the world Na.. An slowpoke sef go get at least 500 pple wey go love am like that.

We all have options.. U do too.. So it's best u never bring it up in relationships.. Enjoy the moment, enjoy what u have.. When u see a better deal, move..

He will too.


_{My 5,999th post on NL} I don't wanna waste the next number abeg

naijathings:


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lolaed:


Yes. It is wise to bring up whatever is of concern to you in your relationship. How you put it matters however.

Even at that, maturity ensures that each person sees beyond the initial outlook of hurt and try to understand what the oher person is driving at before reacting.

KashyBaby:
Don't worry if he got a plan b...next time he told u that tell him as well u have a plan B & C...u must have ur own tactics when playing his game,girls called it a reverse psychology ...

But remember this, not all men we dated are meant for us forever...so I betta step up ur game.

lolaed:


That is where you get it wrong. You probably see this as some kind of competition. It is not about which of the partner can hurt each other more.

and she claims to love him. So she is not at all trying to see if he can survive without her. He is the one who felt the need to appear as if he can do qithout her.

I believe in relationships, the first thing is to try not to hurt the other person even when it appears like they are hurting. In the long run, you may just have misunderstood their intention.

The girl likes him and is worried that the age difference might be a reason they wont end up together and so she asked about it. They should have simply discussed the possibility.

vooyour:
sweetie listen to me. HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR LOVE! If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you. He's trying to make you think it's okay for him to have another chick. infact if you think about it, he might be waiting for the other girl's relationship to crash so that he can leave you for her. You can talk to him about first. But I doubt he loves you the way you love him. You need to find someone who will love you completely! you deserve it.
good luck

lolaed:


Why did You sound like you are pained with this post? Are you on here for a fighting match?

lolaed:


You will keep doing that until you end the relationship that would have been right for you.

kaboninc:


Sweet lady....

She is worried about the age difference...well I can take that as something normal...

I've dated a couple of older ladies and I understand the fears - both from their own end and my own end too. She should have just talked about the age and he'd would simply reassure her that in as much as they are of the same age, what matter most are maturity, compatibility, how they view life, love, and....you know the rest.

But asking what happens to me if she gets married to another guy "out of the blues" could mean so many bad things...one of which I just asked: can I survive without her? And as you asked if he could appear as if he can do without her, he gave her a good response by letting her know that "anything can happen" and if for any reason, they happen not to be together, there are always options and they can always become good friends. A lady should value a man who tells you as it is - but in a mild way though.

Sometimes, we need to think with our heads and not out of sentiments.

And bae, its not out of competition. I don't know where you saw me referring to competition in anyway.

My grouse with you is that you see no wrong in her question and that shouldn't be.

lolaed:


Now our point seems to align better. She didn't ask the question right, obviously. She should have asked in a different manner.

MicroIce:


Babe.. If she wants me to act right.. Then she needs to act ryt too.. Who says its only ladies who have the right to b on d safe side.. she shud also imagine him asking her that question.. I wonder what was going thru her mind.. I'm very sure op b like.. 'lemme evn whyne dis boy small'.. Me sef.. I wud gladly whyne u back

kaboninc:


Yes bae!

Am so pained with that post, with your response and with the OP.

And YES again, we're on/in a fighting match!

MicroIce:


Babe.. If she wants me to act right.. Then she needs to act ryt too.. Who says its only ladies who have the right to b on d safe side.. she shud also imagine him asking her that question.. I wonder what was going thru her mind.. I'm very sure op b like.. 'lemme evn whyne dis boy small'.. Me sef.. I wud gladly whyne u back

lolaed:


Lol. Trust me, I am not someone you want to fight with.

kilokeys:
Maybe he has "option B"..


U r lucky.. Pple like us have exhausted the English alphabets... We are now in Greek..

I have option Sigma sef.

We r 7 billion in the world Na.. An slowpoke sef go get at least 500 pple wey go love am like that.

We all have options.. U do too.. So it's best u never bring it up in relationships.. Enjoy the moment, enjoy what u have.. When u see a better deal, move..

He will too.


_{My 5,999th post on NL} I don't wanna waste the next number abeg

kaboninc:






You guys are the reason we're having serious problems and challenges in our dear country.

kaboninc:


Fighting is a hobby to me!

And I'll only desist if I lose....

I wanna fight with you!!!!

Please fight with me...






BTW, apologies for referring to your submissions as a CRAP!

vooyour:
sweetie listen to me. HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR LOVE! If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you. He's trying to make you think it's okay for him to have another chick. infact if you think about it, he might be waiting for the other girl's relationship to crash so that he can leave you for her. You can talk to him about first. But I doubt he loves you the way you love him. You need to find someone who will love you completely! you deserve it.
good luck

vooyour:
sweetie listen to me. HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR LOVE! If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you. He's trying to make you think it's okay for him to have another chick. infact if you think about it, he might be waiting for the other girl's relationship to crash so that he can leave you for her. You can talk to him about first. But I doubt he loves you the way you love him. You need to find someone who will love you completely! you deserve it.
good luck

Infinitikoncept:
Maybe your bf is abbeyforex or moses Aleairpay or winetapper

Bbsharon:



Not like I really know her, he told me about her and she has a boyfriend presently who is far from her. But she is in same school with my boyfriend and am in a differnt school too. So that's why am confused if she is just his side chick or my competitor?