OK this is really eating me up, so am really like the breed of vampires in "vampire diaries" that can turn off their humanity switch and become emotionless monsters,difference is i don't eat people i just don't know how i turned it off,all i know is i was hurt and i made up my mind not to fall in love again but am scared now.
so i fell in love once for real and ended up hurt,i got vengeful went on a playboy ''hit and run'' rampage and finally got back to my senses after doing a lot of things am not proud of,then after staying single and lonely for 2 years i decided to give myself a chance because i was feeling shallow, ended up with this cute chick who fell heels over head in love with me she was everything any guy will want, at first i thought i was feeling love but then i continued drifting away till i felt nothing for her, after much complaints of me not calling, texting and refusing to see her i finally decided to let her go, she was hurt for a while as she didn't know the reason for what i did, but i was tired of watching her complain and cry.
So the problem is its been 2 years since and nothing seem to change, i feel so jealous and happy when i see two young people in love, and problem is 90% of my friends i looked up to who happens to have working relationships are busy breaking up, you know that feeling you get when someone you're looking up to screws up,that's exactly how confused i am. What really broke the camels back is someone i really hoped will give me some advice told me yesterday that "falling in love is a waste of time".
Am a smart, intelligent ,good looking guy.(not trying to blow my trumpet) but i just seem to pick out a turn off in any lady i come across,and sometimes it could be silly little things like accent, i feel uncomfortable when i stay with a lady for too long, say a day, yea my grades in school improved but they were never bad,
has anyone here been through this before?, is it just a stage i'll get through , is my friends advice true? cause am really getting worried.

Now I think it's truly a waste of time.

Dependin on wich part of ur body dat fall in love! De brain or heart!!

emmijes3:
Now I think it's truly a waste of time.

i dnt get you

Hollywood would soon be the name of a mental disease.

It is very exhausting

Especially wen u try to love d more nd u get hurt d more

faith551:



i dnt get you

"IT'S A WASTE OF TIME"...

How can falling in love be a waste of time

We are humans and no matter how we try to avoid it,the heart wants what it wants. We all crave to have that one special person who would just love us for who we are.

We do end up getting hurt in some cases, but then not in all cases. I understand you are scared,its normal but you can't be like that forever, learn to look at things from a positive point of view.

emmijes3:



"IT'S A WASTE OF TIME"...

come on, don't tell me you truelly believe that please

faith551:


come on, don't tell me you truelly believe that please

I do.

Ebiz12:
How can falling in love be a waste of time

We are humans and no matter how we try to avoid it,the heart wants what it wants. We all crave to have that one special person who would just love us for who we are.

We do end up getting hurt in some cases, but then not in all cases. I understand you are scared,its normal but you can't be like that forever, learn to look at things from a positive point of view.

Thanks really.

Vinshu:
Hollywood would soon be the name of a mental disease.

you mean this might be from watching too much movies?

halfricanadian:
It is very exhausting

Especially wen u try to love d more nd u get hurt d more

i wouldn't say getting hurt is my problem cause theoritically that has happened only once, but then it could still be

emmijes3:



I do.

That's so so comforting

faith551:



i wouldn't say getting hurt is my problem cause theoritically that has happened only once, but then it could still be

why does love av to hurt

Its annoying in dis same world some still av it all without pain life doesnt just like some people

My bestfrnd elder sister has it all bt some just cant nd wont..

halfricanadian:


why does love av to hurt

Its annoying in dis same world some still av it all without pain life doesnt just like some people

My bestfrnd elder sister has it all bt some just cant nd wont..

Believe me when i say am always lucky with the girls, am the problem here,Its seems i've just lost touch with that deep ecstatic feeling called love, and it scares me.

Stretching and yawning

faith551:



Believe me when i say am always lucky with the girls, am the problem here,Its seems i've just lost touch with that deep ecstatic feeling called love, and it scares me.

It means u av not found dat girl

U av not found d really chick girl

Dat will make u want to die for love

All d girls are just nature preparing til u meet dat girl so no rushing ok

I dnt no.....mayb u can ask frm peter and paul (psquare) i tink dey gonna advice u

Is not a waste of time just that you have to be careful of whom you fall in love with. Look before you leap

Op lemme clear your doubts, it's not falling in love, it's falling in lust, and once the feeling fades away, you say you've fallen out of love. True love is a decision not feelings.

faith551:


That's so so comforting

Really!! Alright then

Yeah not only waste of time... it's also a waste of energy and resources

halfricanadian:


It means u av not found dat girl

U av not found d really chick girl

Dat will make u want to die for love

All d girls are just nature preparing til u meet dat girl so no rushing ok

problem is i've been told this exact same thing for a long time now,i hope its true
I really appreciate your advice