enkaydewdrop:



I'm with you sister...
I'll choose vigilante over all this aches and pain...

When everyone is cold, I'm hot...
I'm stooling constantly...
My pelvic bone is constantly on fire... It makes it hard to sleep...
Walking is now an issue...
Can't sit for long without my feet looking like inflated balloons...
Only God knows how many litres of pee I offload everyday...
Now, I'm having on and off cramps and lower back ache...
There's no comfortable sitting position for me anymore...
I'm beginning to react to the smell of perfumes and food again, just like first trimester...

I'm not even bothered about the stretch marks and 21kg that I've put on... Those ones can be worked on...

I don beg my own pikin taya... E just dey use me play for almost 2 weeks now... Abi en tink say me and am na mate? Lol...

I thought yesterday was "the" day, cos I was having very regular, but somewhat painless contractions.... Like 6-7 in one hour... Only for them to disappear later...

Make dis pikin no let me chook hand inside my hoohaa, pull am come out oh...
Abeg make ona follow me beg am oh...
Hian!!!

That's enough rant for a Friday morning...


#Sigh...
***Waddles out of post...

This woman na real case study @ Enkay, abeg no vex chook hand inside your hoohaa ooo. Pele dear, you are almost there. Soon your precious one will be in your arms by God's grace.

Morning lovely Mama's, hope you are all doing great!
I'm so sad to hear the losses, Maamas, May the almighty console and bless you with the ones that are here to stay. So sorry, u'll all carry your Lo's sooner than you expect

A very Big Congratulations to all Mamas that have offloaded, May the Almighty bless your Lo's abundantly Ameeeen.

Happy belated birthday to all Maamas that had their birthdays and anniversaries..

Heartbroken, I feel you. I can imagine your state of mind. May God make this the last ever..

@enkaydewdrop Lol sorry for all the troubles. LO is just taking his/her time kikikikikikikiki. It will soon be over. I'm having the constant pooing too. Last night I had frequent painless contraction for like 3hrs. I think say the thing don reach. DH & I have told baby that next week is the appointed time ooo. From Monday I will increase pineapple intake maybe half ripe this time around as longer throat will not let me choose unripe pineapple over riped ones.

@brokenheart So sorry dear. Men can be very annoying. He go do away match and was yawning rubbish. It's clear he's just scoping the girl. However what our men don't know is that girls are longer smiling. You can get trapped in the process and destroy your life. That's why the bible says that the sin of sexual immorality is the sin against ones body.
I hope his remorse will lead to repentance. Watch and pray,also try to heal for your sanity. I had similar experience when I had a surgery during ttc days,was away for one month with my parents. My DH that claim he doesn't have enough money to fully pay for my surgery was having reserve for azonto. I was mad when I found out and wanted to report him to our church group leader. Well after much pleading,he reported himself for counseling and since then I won't lie the changes is unbelievable.

@zimunachimdi, u don't need to apply anything if u did plastibel ie the ring type. Wear diaper normally, bathe him normally, it ll fall out on its own. I have two sons and that is what I did. NOTHING.

Iyabetajos:
pls mamas while in hospital open your eyes....ask questions and above all prayers should not cease from our mouths

Good heavens! What sheer carelessness is this! Feel like cursing out at the person but i will do what's most just. I will leave the person in the hands of the Almighty God.

It is well!

@ mitchy, tnk u..
He's bin running temp, clingy(on my chest right now)v had only like 2hrs sleep. HMMPH!!!!

Eigmaticme,,, so sorry ma'am , may the good Lord comfor n give double. Hugs..

enkaydewdop , mitchy..... Hmmmm vigilante is real ooo. Me that like sleep wella, can't rem the last time I had 5hrs sleep straight.... Day time ;I go to shop, early momo; food must ready(hubby carries food to work, me sef like food wella) DS will bath, suckle,,wanna play,....thank God my mom is still around... I for hear am pass like this.

And to think a lady that had triplets in jan came to my shop this week looking fresh, Omo I bow for am o, she said she almost craze for the matter! U would never guess she had triplets!!

May we all reap the fruits of our labour ooo

thorpido:
Hmmm.You'll need to have a serious talk with your husband.He seems remorseful now but you really need to see that he has changed for good.If you' ve forgiven him,he has to give you his word that it won't happen again and actually show that.He shouldn't have any contact with the lady again and shouldn't chat and hook up girls again.He should let you have access to his phone so you can build that trust again.

Thanks alot sir. funny enough, I've always had access to his phone dats y i could even easily look through that night. I just never saw any suspicious stuff all dis while neither had he given me reason to doubt him. we talked last night & he said i wasnt sexxually welcomin like I used to b in d early months of marriage, dat i complain when he asks me to take a particular position or do his 'fetish', dat am always on my phone (browsing/chatting) even in d middle of d night, dat i got slack in d way i appear at home when hes back from work & i got used to stayin nuude indoors wich he doesnt like. He also said he felt inadequate at not bein able to make me cuum after lots of forreplay etc & he duznt evn no wen I actually com. ( i guess I need help in dis area, I enjoy sexx but I find it hard to climmax truly) & i was like.. why didnt u say anytin! Is marriage not for communication? He reiterated his promise not to do it again to wich i told him im not sure he wont yet he kept at it but am stil so broken.. i told him i was givin him a last chance, dat if he does it again, i'm leaving him. He's such a good man in all respects dat i just wonder how dis loop hole came by

@ brokenheart , it is well with u......only u knows n unstd how u feel.everybody has an imaginary action plan on how to handle a cheating partner when caught but until it eventually happen, no one knows what how they will finally handle it.
U unstd ur dh more than anyone here n u knw him better.....if he is the type dat wen u easily forgive him just because he apologised he still go back to do d same thing then i will advise u consider other option.

Am not saying u shldnt forgive ur hubby or drive him out totally but some cheating partner knows there wife is not ready to lose her home so she forgives dem at d 1st apology n she even makes more effort to keep them n this makes them do it again n apologies again n she forgives again.
My dear in as much as u wnt to forgive him,dont gv him on d plata of gold but also operate with wisdom.
As for d so called girl.....just ignore her n pretend u never know she existed.trust me u will be her only goal n project in life cos she will always visit ur fb page just to look @ u and get angry d more.

Nb
All my advice are still from my imaginary action plan if i catch my dh cheating n i don't knw if i will be able to do it or not or even do worse.

enkaydewdrop:



I'm with you sister...
I'll choose vigilante over all this aches and pain...

When everyone is cold, I'm hot...
I'm stooling constantly...
My pelvic bone is constantly on fire... It makes it hard to sleep...
Walking is now an issue...
Can't sit for long without my feet looking like inflated balloons...
Only God knows how many litres of pee I offload everyday...
Now, I'm having on and off cramps and lower back ache...
There's no comfortable sitting position for me anymore...
I'm beginning to react to the smell of perfumes and food again, just like first trimester...

I'm not even bothered about the stretch marks and 21kg that I've put on... Those ones can be worked on...

I don beg my own pikin taya... E just dey use me play for almost 2 weeks now... Abi en tink say me and am na mate? Lol...

I thought yesterday was "the" day, cos I was having very regular, but somewhat painless contractions.... Like 6-7 in one hour... Only for them to disappear later...

Make dis pikin no let me chook hand inside my hoohaa, pull am come out oh...
Abeg make ona follow me beg am oh...
Hian!!!

That's enough rant for a Friday morning...


#Sigh...
***Waddles out of post...

Hohohohoho, buhahaha. I think you should go to hospital so they'll know how many cm dilated you're. Is well my sister.
Vigilantee you'll soon be, is just a matter of time.

Teegali:
Hmmm @heartbroken,pls don't make the mistake of cheating back at your Dh,a woman does not have justification whatsoever ever to cheat .Try and forgive your husband though its not easy to forget.You don't even have to chat the lady up,trust me it will lead u no where, your Dh is the one you talk with as he is the one that owes you all the explanation.Has he been like this before ?,cos me I have learned that some men seems to look for alternative girls"objects " when their wife r pregnant. Men sha ..they always try to justify the reasons y they cheat. Pls take it easy,with your self dear and allow your body to heal and to avoid post partum depression. Above all pray for him that he changes as he as promised. God be with you dear,and joy and happiness will be restored in your home.

amen, thank u. I was like probably because am now fat cos he used to say he wished I'll go almost back, not exactly to d stature i was when we got married. He's never been like dis or probably was just very good at hiding it

heartbroken:

Thanks alot sir. funny enough, I've always had access to his phone dats y i could even easily look through that night. I just never saw any suspicious stuff all dis while neither had he given me reason to doubt him. we talked last night & he said i wasnt sexxually welcomin like I used to b in d early months of marriage, dat i complain when he asks me to take a particular position or do his 'fetish', dat am always on my phone (browsing/chatting) even in d middle of d night, dat i got slack in d way i appear at home when

Sorry love........this too sha pass........may God help our men cos this days d single babes only pay attention to men with wedding band.
If he is nt a cheat.....he will change for good n if he is one,he will only tighten d loopholes dat will make him get caught.

Since u hv forgiven him,u will hv to open ur heart to relate with him d way u do b4 now so dat things will b normal.
One love

cherrymum1:
@heartbroken. Babe don't dare chat that biatch up. What do u want her to show u or tell u? The dirty gory details? My dear u don't need the details. You will only be hurting urself. Thank God u have a man that is even remorseful. At least he apologised. Take him back. Work yourself back to trusting him.

It aff do. Oya come to mama. Chop kiss and collect hug. Abeg no tell mama this kind story o. Don't accept the babe on fb and on no account should u chat her up. Whatever u want her to be told, tell ur hubby to tell her and it should be said in ur presence. See thief, she want apartment just like that....hian babes we dey try o. She doesn't deserve to know that u are hurt pls. Don't waste ur voice, time, energy or English on her abeg.

You just made me laugh @ d ' c thief'. Thanks a lot. Hugs back

GenyEbere:
Heartbroken don't get even cos there is no justification for that,don't call or chat the idiot cos she is just an asshole,talk it out with your dh if possible relay it to an elderly man in his family,your mother don't need to know she will be down(and we don't want it),try and be strong at least for now cos postpartum depression is real(I have been there and its not funny)
Finally father I commit her family and dh unto your able hands,every evil woman planted to destroy the peace and happiness in her home we send the thunder of the holy ghost to locate them and destroy them in Jesus name Amen.
It is well with your home.

thank u lots. Amen

uwani:
@heartbroken, mamas have adviced you, please forgive your husband and move on, you dont have any business with the lady so ignore her and concentrate on your marriage. Even though it is a very painful experience, please give him another chance and kindly remove cheating on him from your mind *****e-hugs*****.

Team Captain and teamies, hope 3rd trimester is treating us well. (Team August),

To all the omoges on this thread 'how body'.

thanks alot.

BritneyStacy:

Sorry for the hurt please . ....I can best imagine your pains and disappointment... Especially at this period. Though it may not be easy as it sounds, pull yourself together. ...not for him but for your child!!
Don't tell your mum. ...because You may later forgive your husband and let go but she may not easily forget it.

But I have to hurt you with a little truth Dear, that is not his first time, but he has been successfully hiding it from you. ...but it's just that he is of this school of thought of some men that it's ok to cheat but just don't let it interfere with your family and don't flaunt it before wifey! Hence, his apologies. ..
Now for some women, as long as he is not flaunting it before them ,they decide not to worry their heads and console themselves with the belief that all men cheat .Others find it difficult to love wholeheartedly and trust again after finding out about the betrayal. I dont know which group you belong to....but whatever the case, watch out for your health and sanity! That includes insisting on the tests issues before resuming intimacy. ..

Forgive him if you can....I don't usually try to force people by saying 'you must forgive him' because this hurt can be phenomenal. ..even the bible knows this no wonder adultery is the only grounds for ending a marriage. But forgiveness is worth a trial....as long as he puts effort to right the wrong. ..like You say he is doing already!

Please don't add the girl or lady in question. Infact, block her so she can't even see your posts or follow you!!! You dont have any business with her...its your husband you have with...what do you want to talk to her about? ?? As you saw in the chat, she didnt know your husband is married....so forget her. Forgive your husband if you can and watch him try to gain back your trust !!!
Best wishes to you...

hmmmm.. i believe that not all men cheat & thought my husband was among d few good eggs. He was d one who told me he didnt tel her he's married that he told her he's in a relationship.. thanks alot, i have already blocked her & working at my emotions.

Liftedhands:
Brokenheart be strong dear! Youve got no business with the lady, dont even acknowledge her existence. I honestly wish I have something better to tell you. It's only God that will protect our homes from the claws of strange women.

smiles, thanks mum Ekene. Amen, I'm really tryin to b strong o.. When I was discussing with my hubby & called her a strange woman, he was like.. it's only a woman that has captured a mans heart dat is such dat he has no feelings wotsoever 4 her.

hajarahbadmus:
Brokenheart....hmmmm...you just opened a wound I have been trying to heal since March..
U just have to forgive your husband, try to love him like you used to BUT keep a very thick boundary for disappointments BECAUSE HE WILL CHEAT AGAIN..
You might find out and you might not..whatever happens, always keep yourself happy because your happiness lies in your hands..
He is not worth you having postpartum depression cos if you are ill, he will go out again..
So who is at the losing end..
Get yourself together, stay prayerful and stay strong..
May God bless Your home..

amen dear, thanks. So sorry for openin d wound, i had no1 to talk to & d pain was eating me up. Hows your healing process going? Hmmm, I pray he doesn't cheat again because dat wil b d end of d marriage- I can't live a miserable life & ive told him so if he truly values me in his life, he wil train his 3rd leg to behave. i stil love him that's why he's gettin anoda chance but i won't let love blind me again, my eagle eyes are on him sha & ive decided to have other things occupying my mind & not making him d center of my world anymore.

mubzay:
@heartbroken: may God heal ur heart and give u peace in ur home. Pls dnt fall into depression. Ehugs

Thanks alot, amen. Hugs back

To all mama that have given birth to their precious ones i say a big congratulationssssss
And to the one that loss in one way or the other, dont worry God will double your joy in jesus name. You are all in our prayers.

Okay, My friday rant... I have serious cattarh, though always have cattarh before pregnant and no drug has been working for me... Thought they say second trimester is sweet? Couldnt keep anything down yesterday and this morning too na serious headache and i had to pour water on my hair because since i was 6 weeks i no dey for mood to make hair at all...

Mama, abeg, na so he dey do somebori... I am 13 weeks plus. Also, i have been taking Ginger tea, i hope is okay?

Dont read and pass mama, please answer my bolded phrase.

#TeamDecember for supernatural delivery

airforcewife:


Heartbroken, I feel you. I can imagine your state of mind. May God make this the last ever..

Amen o, thanks

enkaydewdrop:
Hi everyone. I just came across this thread and decided to join you guys. I'm 27 weeks gone and due late June (hoping to port to early July, cos I want LO and his daddy to share the same birthday... Lol)
Hope it isn't too late to join...

I say make I find your trouble small. Kikikikikikik

heartbroken:

Thanks alot sir. funny enough, I've always had access to his phone dats y i could even easily look through that night. I just never saw any suspicious stuff all dis while neither had he given me reason to doubt him. we talked last night & he said i wasnt sexxually welcomin like I used to b in d early months of marriage, dat i complain when he asks me to take a particular position or do his 'fetish', dat am always on my phone (browsing/chatting) even in d middle of d night, dat i got slack in d way i appear at home when hes back from work & i got used to stayin nuude indoors wich he doesnt like. He also said he felt inadequate at not bein able to make me cuum after lots of forreplay etc & he duznt evn no wen I actually com. ( i guess I need help in dis area, I enjoy sexx but I find it hard to climmax truly) & i was like.. why didnt u say anytin! Is marriage not for communication? He reiterated his promise not to do it again to wich i told him im not sure he wont yet he kept at it but am stil so broken.. i told him i was givin him a last chance, dat if he does it again, i'm leaving him. He's such a good man in all respects dat i just wonder how dis loop hole came by

He wanted to cheat and that's why he did it.I don't like when people give excuses on why they did it especially when they make it appear like it's the fault of the partner.
He could have communicated with you.Simply tell you what he likes or what he wants changed.Try and work on the areas he spoke about too most especially being on the phone when in bed with your husband.
It's a good thing you've forgiven him.Unburden your heart too.Work with him so both of you are not distant.
May God keep your home together.

heartbroken:

Thanks alot sir. funny enough, I've always had access to his phone dats y i could even easily look through that night. I just never saw any suspicious stuff all dis while neither had he given me reason to doubt him. we talked last night & he said i wasnt sexxually welcomin like I used to b in d early months of marriage, dat i complain when he asks me to take a particular position or do his 'fetish', dat am always on my phone (browsing/chatting) even in d middle of d night, dat i got slack in d way i appear at home when hes back from work & i got used to stayin nuude indoors wich he doesnt like. He also said he felt inadequate at not bein able to make me cuum after lots of forreplay etc & he duznt evn no wen I actually com. ( i guess I need help in dis area, I enjoy sexx but I find it hard to climmax truly) & i was like.. why didnt u say anytin! Is marriage not for communication? He reiterated his promise not to do it again to wich i told him im not sure he wont yet he kept at it but am stil so broken.. i told him i was givin him a last chance, dat if he does it again, i'm leaving him. He's such a good man in all respects dat i just wonder how dis loop hole came by

First of all I have to commend you for having the mind to share this, I am so sorry for what you feel
Secondly and most importantly, you have to understand that cheating is a choice, he chose to do it. please don't feel like any of it was your fault. IT IS NOT. whether you added weight, or were not as sexy as you were before, do not let him talk you into feeling that your looks or behaviour justifies his actions. REFUSE TO TAKE BLAME. if you start accepting that you had a part to play in his indiscretions, you will never be able to stop blaming your self. Forgive him if you can, but please do not take part in the blame game. men have cheated on their wives with married women, girls with body odour, house helps, prostitutes, does it mean that they were better than their wives? what of those that sleep with their friends wives that have had 4 children, is their v.j tighter than their wives own? One thing men do is to try and make you take part of the blame for their bad actions. don't fall for it. you can apply discreetly corrections as per their complaints but don't go and turn into who you are not.

babylove01:
Good morning my able mamas esp my cap @fed..dy27.

Mama abeg change my moniker I accidentally deactivated my account. It was demijevu.

congrats to all mamas that put to bed.God bless and keep your los.

Have a lovely day.

Teamie, good to hear from you and thank God you are ok.

I will update asap. are you a 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th....time mom?

Are you team pink or blue?

1st time mom and I haven't checked but hope to check soon
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feddy27:


Teamie, good to hear from you and thank God you are ok.

I will update asap. are you a 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th....time mom?

Are you team pink or blue?

Iyabetajos:
congrats to all mamas that put to bed.God bless and keep your los.
tnx to all those that sent me bible verses.am grateful.
someone carelessly rushed Andres glucose i.v.he was to take 20ml per hour but they gave 50ml per hour for two days.his sugar level rose to an alarming rate d doctor tried his best bt my son didnt make it.dey even put him back on oxygen dt day .doctor said he was retaining fluid.i have left everything to God.pls mamas while in hospital open your eyes....ask questions and above all prayers should not cease from our mouths

OMG!!! This is too painful... May God continue to comfort you. You will carry ur children's children in Jesus name.


And to think that this same thing happened to my son, my mom noticed it on time.... It was in the middle of the night, ma so she start to find nurse up n down hospital, went to second floor, could u imagine the nurse there refused to follow her, dat they will query the nurse that was supposed to b attending to us, n dat one don go sleep, it took 30min for us to get her to come do it right. All tru my stay there I could not sleep. Too much negligence abeg.

Amhappy:

@brokenheart So sorry dear. Men can be very annoying. He go do away match and was yawning rubbish. It's clear he's just scoping the girl. However what our men don't know is that girls are longer smiling. You can get trapped in the process and destroy your life. That's why the bible says that the sin of sexual immorality is the sin against ones body.
I hope his remorse will lead to repentance. Watch and pray,also try to heal for your sanity. I had similar experience when I had a surgery during ttc days,was away for one month with my parents. My DH that claim he doesn't have enough money to fully pay for my surgery was having reserve for azonto. I was mad when I found out and wanted to report him to our church group leader. Well after much pleading,he reported himself for counseling and since then I won't lie the changes is unbelievable.

exactly! D spiritual soul tie is d problem. As in ehhn, my hubby too was cutting baby list saying som things are nt impt & me too was agreein because i know his income.. now, he's buyin them o.. he's doin anytin to appease me. how did u finally get over it?

@ heartbroken I stopped checking his phone for my sanity..just like urs, he doesn't hide anything from me..but I went I step further by reporting him to his parents...I was hurt,and betrayed. mine was worse because all the times I observed, I bottled it up nd avoided confortations. Was talking to him about it indirectly and he wl come out sober nd all...
The last one that broke the camels back was on my birthday and I told his parents I was done..i had packed my stuffs see when he realised that no be play..
I kept to myself for a long time..nd I found peace..
He now does everything to please me.. im trying to trust him but it's not working..maybe overtime sha
I don't let what he does bother me anymore..rather I an beginning to chanel the energy to my self development..
Just sit and think of what will work for you..
Don't believe it will not happen again..
It might happen but he will never let u know..
Men are bound to stray. .it doesn't mean he loves u less..
Develop a tough skin and don't forget to use CONSTRUCTIVE SILENCE..
Men are never comfortable when you are quiet cos he doesn't know what is coming next
Deal with wisdom and pray and everything will fall in your favour by God's grace..
It is well

@enkaydewdrop pele..it will soon be over..
Please go for long walks so the baby's head can drop into the pelvis faster..dint sit in one place o!
May God make it easy..

Blessedmum:
Congrats on d arrival of ur lo at Ginababy.

Good evening mamas plz I want all sabi mamas to look into my complaint. I ll be 25wks tomorrow bt I noticed dat since yesternight lo has positioned himself on d low left side of my tummy, he's using something to pin me down I dont knw if it's his head or nyansh bt it's so painful and makes sleeping and walking difficult for me. Av begged him to relocate bt d guy refused and is even kicking unaware of d pain am going thru, I took malt dis morning and he shifted a little and I felt relieved only for him to pin my tummy down again bt dis time around at d low center of my tummy. Plz has anybody experienced this and is there anything I can do to make him shift. Plz if u av experienced something similar do not walk pass, d pain is unbearable.

Cc zaynie, nurse kaffy4bill, Feddy27

I experienced it the last three days and it was really horrible... had to take paracetamol at some point and had lots of warm bath...it helped relief me a little... my lo was virtually playing around my vj.... and lower tummy causing me pains and discomfort plus back pains...atimes I hv to spank my tummy a little like baby behave na... but am fine now....so the pain will ease up...

melly245:
morning mamas in the house, and so the contraction stopped after 2 hrs and baby movement was reduced, i only felt some small kicks when i was hungry last night, but am feeling very heavy pressure on my vjay even though i ave emptied my bladder any need going to the hospital,or i should just stay calm. i can no longer wait for my son of consolation.
# teamjune#
# teamnoporting#

Pls visit the hospital and get checked to be sure all is well. Dont be scared if the nurses or doc will laugh at you. Reduced baby movement might be an early sign of baby in distress. Not trying to make you scared but dont take anything for granted. Check, check and double check has always been my mantra in this pregnancy. The nurses don know me finish

heartbroken:
exactly! D spiritual soul tie is d problem. As in ehhn, my hubby too was cutting baby list saying som things are nt impt & me too was agreein because i know his income.. now, he's buyin them o.. he's doin anytin to appease me. how did u finally get over it?

I can't really say but time took care of it. Just like in ur case he was remorseful. He uninstalled watsapp,stopped all form of communication etc. I was also very busy at that time working Sunday to Sunday. I won't lie ooo,I turned detective overnight. My first thought of forgiveness was after he went for counseling in the church (I never knew he did
until he shared his thoughts with me,apologizing and all that).Then he went further to willingly turn himself in for ttc tests at the hospital. Over time it died a natural death.

Hello mamas in the house.

I found this and just had to share with you guys especially June mamas, don't worry ur Los are already here hail and hearty.

Happy bumping to remaining mamas, and fertility blessings to us ATC mamas