Deux:
Thanks for the advice,
I really can't say much about 2, but I'm aware they met in skul, they started dating few months to her finals and they dated for two years plus bfr they eventually got married, tho they broke up at some point, but got back together. I hv always had my reservations about the guy tho even before I got to know about this..

HaneefahRN:



Personally I think she needs the harsh decisions now. It's still early before she carry belle and gets tied down. The man is obviously a dog in human clothing before he graduates to her sisters. Unless she can cope with a shameless cheat sha.

kajoula:
hmmmm what a mess, why are men doing these ?
Madam,

1. Make sure you have multiple copies (backup) of this chats somewhere else

2. Make it known to him, his level of unfaithfulness and that you will report the issue to his parents,
check on his action if he will sincerely apologise.

3. Show all these pictures to his Parents,siblings that you know.

4. Show all the picture also to the fiancé of your said friend who is set to marry so that the fiancé will know the devil he's starting life with

5. Observe his attitude, if he feels remorse about it before taking up action No4, if he doesn't feel remorse about it.
Dont reveal your friend secret.

it's dishertneing but Truth be told

1How did you meet and marry this man ?
2What are the flaws you saw in him,did you take time to discuss and reach conclusion on issues with him ?
3How log did you court?

LydayBobo:
Stay away from your spouse phone if you want to live long enough to see your grandchildren at least

banio:
People always marry 4 wrong reasons. I guess ur husband married U because U got good behaviour. But the first rule to marriage is bedmatics others such as behaviour, cooking, communication are secondary.
A wife should harass her husband like an Oloshi. Yeah, don't give him space. Then the thought of U will rule his thoughts always.

To the matter at hand, U got three options:
1) Quit
2) Stay and fight 4 ur man. He might change
3) Live with a cheat all ur life

megawax8:


You know the problem I have with harsh decisions? You never know for sure which is right.

You might say she should dump the marriage...... Could be a good thing but then, this is marriage not a relationship. It is never rosy. Its a good thing she caught him but i don't think first times are just enough to back out, perhaps a second.

She doesn't care to know what makes him do what he does? There definitely is a reason and if its her, chances are her next husband would cheat too. Also, couples are meant to support themselves not 'abort mission' at the slightest opportunity and to think that she has a child for him already, i don't want to go into the effect it could have on the unborn child and not talking about if she has the resources to raise a child.

If it has to get to a divorce, fine but remember, there's no ready made perfect husband for anybody out there.

*I rather I know he cheats than don't know he does while he cheats*....... All i'm saying is she should seek the advice of professionals or maybe older ones before taking radical decisions even if she eventually has to.

freecocoa:
But mehn! To have two shameless women as friends no be coincidence o, abi wetin una think?

begwong:

WHY BLAME THE MAN ALONE? THE LADIES{FRIENFS} THAT ACCEPT TO ROLL TOGETHER WITH HER HUSBAND ARE EQUALLY GUILTY THE MORE. THEY SHOULD HAVE THREATENED HIM THAT DEY ARE GOING TO TELL HIS WIFE, HE FOR NO CONTINUE, BUT THEY ENJOYED THE BLUE FILM ALL OF THEM. PLS SAY SUMTIN ELSE SIS

TheGoodJoe:


If the friends are not loosed he would have found another loose woman. The man takes the blame because he took an oath on the altar to love this woman for the rest of his life.

bennyrazz:
This is really nauseating for a married man to be behaving like this. Why did he marry in the first place? he should have continue living the life of a womanizer instead of settling down. Come to think of it, he is doing it with his wife's friend, how demeaning further more the ladies were even part of his wife's bridal train. By September the other lady wants to marry abi? lets see if her own marriage will be successful after putting asunder in another man's marriage? The only ingredient for divorce in Christian marriages is adultery and since she has proves of the whole thing she can go ahead and divorce and it is even good for her that kids are not involved