Acidosis:
We call them Career women. They need to go out there to compete with men, and pick up leadership roles.

Acidosis:
We call them Career women. They need to go out there to compete with men, and pick up leadership roles.

kennygee:


Okay. If the career woman leaves her Job to take care of the kids, will you meet her every financial need as well as her extended family's?

Or does she spend the money on only herself, won't she spend it on your kids and running of your house?

Wise men who knows they need to work together with their wives to achieve their goals knows how to make it work.

If they are both working, they can save more and achieve more. They can buy houses faster, buy cars faster, save for the kid's school fees faster and win easily.

But no, men who don't have the balls will always see a working woman as competition.

I am not saying every woman should have a maid, I am saying some can't do without it or a relative in the house. I am even strongly against under aged maids, but in this part of our world, people now trade their kids in exchange for a good life for them, send them to school while they do chores for u in the house since they can't afford to, then u pay their parents monthly.

As long as the maid is not being maltreated, is there really anything wrong in it?

Some women now pay for after school care for in their children's schools so they can pick up their kids when they close. The economy is too harsh these days for women not to work. If they must work, they will need help in the house.

Acidosis:


I perfectly understand your points. I also don't have any problem with maids. I'm not married yet but I'm more than willing to hire someone to prepare my meals, and tidy my home. As long as someone is getting paid for a job well done, nobody cares really. We all work to get paid, whether professional is added to the washer-man job, or not; whether you're called a messenger or an Executive Personal Assistant, someone is working and someone is paying - that's the most important thing.

The only problem I have with maids, or any kind of job at all, is maltreatment.

Now to my previous comment: I've come to realize a large percentage of women who hire maids do so to escape the duty that accompanies motherhood. It is uncommon to see a woman dump her 1 or 2 year old child with an underage maid. What you see mostly is an underage maid taking care of mature 10 year old boys and girls who cannot wash their own pants.

I'm not against women who have chosen to pursue their career, but again, this trend is grossly lacking some sincerity of purpose. Some women pursue career just for the purpose of 'working' and to be perceived as Mrs independent, not for any reason you've raised.

The problem with women is that, unlike men who mostly work to take care of their families, many women work for more selfish reasons (e.g. what if my husband dies?), and in a worst scenario, for NO particular reason at all.

Majority of women who hire maids do not pay these maids from their own salaries. It is the same husband who is buoyant enough to fend for the family (whether wife works or not) that ends up paying the bill. At the end of the day, you may discover that it is more expensive to hire the services of maids, day-care, etc., there by making a social sense of staying "independent", but no economic sense, as the wife's salary may likely not cover the day-care/maids' charges and the cost of running to and from work daily.

If the sincerity of purpose is well defined, there is absolutely nothing wrong in getting a maid to take care of the home. For couples who are extensively buoyant enough to afford very large homes, they would in fact require more than 2 or 3 maids. Like any other firm, people need to be employed, but GTB will not employ more staff simply because UBA and Zenith banks have more staffs (women should not follow the trend because everyone else is hiring maids; productivity is key!). GTB will only hire upon confirming that more staff will enhance its productivity level.

Sincerity of purpose is very key! And lastly, the definition of motherhood has not changed.

freecocoa:
So you'd rather she sit at home, all day errday?

Acidosis:


I perfectly understand your points. I also don't have any problem with maids. I'm not married yet but I'm more than willing to hire someone to prepare my meals, and tidy my home. As long as someone is getting paid for a job well done, nobody cares really. We all work to get paid, whether professional is added to the washer-man job, or not; whether you're called a messenger or an Executive Personal Assistant, someone is working and someone is paying - that's the most important thing.

The only problem I have with maids, or any kind of job at all, is maltreatment.

Now to my previous comment: I've come to realize a large percentage of women who hire maids do so to escape the duty that accompanies motherhood. It is uncommon to see a woman dump her 1 or 2 year old child with an underage maid. What you see mostly is an underage maid taking care of mature 10 year old boys and girls who cannot wash their own pants.

I'm not against women who have chosen to pursue their career, but again, this trend is grossly lacking some sincerity of purpose. Some women pursue career just for the purpose of 'working' and to be perceived as Mrs independent, not for any reason you've raised.

The problem with women is that, unlike men who mostly work to take care of their families, many women work for more selfish reasons (e.g. what if my husband dies?), and in a worst scenario, for NO particular reason at all.

Majority of women who hire maids do not pay these maids from their own salaries. It is the same husband who is buoyant enough to fend for the family (whether wife works or not) that ends up paying the bill. At the end of the day, you may discover that it is more expensive to hire the services of maids, day-care, etc., there by making a social sense of staying "independent", but no economic sense, as the wife's salary may likely not cover the day-care/maids' charges and the cost of running to and from work daily.

If the sincerity of purpose is well defined, there is absolutely nothing wrong in getting a maid to take care of the home. For couples who are extensively buoyant enough to afford very large homes, they would in fact require more than 2 or 3 maids. Like any other firm, people need to be employed, but GTB will not employ more staff simply because UBA and Zenith banks have more staffs (women should not follow the trend because everyone else is hiring maids; productivity is key!). GTB will only hire upon confirming that more staff will enhance its productivity level.

Sincerity of purpose is very key! And lastly, the definition of motherhood has not changed.

SirVintageCock:
I understands that you are not married from your epistle because it is filled with "what ifs"....and what's supposed to be the ideal.
I don't know about the women you associates with but my wife works to supplement my own income. Without my wife's salary buying good clothes and shoes for my children, sending money to my in laws would have been a mirage.

Baby, shout out to you. Keep it up my dear wife.

Fanirandele:
it is wrong to employ an underage housemaid. if you want to be a foster parent be one but employing a child as a maid is wrong. Nothing wrong with career women and only weak men are threatened . Just employ an adult

Eketem:
1. Underaged maids are illegal in Nigeria. Those who keep breaking the law will soon face it and get punished.

2. Where are these children's fathers? Why do they leave raising their own kids for maids and the mothers? Did you two not think it through when you decided to make a child? if only they would go home and raise their kids and stop lazying around getting big stomachs in bars and joints having free time to commit adultery and bring home all diseases.

Couples abroad without maids don't they survive?

If you agree to have a child then be responsible for raising your child. It is not a woman or mother issue. Wake up early and have a plan with your spouse, one cooks one baths the kids, get a good worthy creche, organise pick and drop ups, alternate. Get home, make dinner together or one watches kids one cooks.

You cannot have kids and be doing Lord of the manor having another child slave to raise your kids along with your over worked wife.

That is what headship means not this lousy laziness una dey do

Orikinla:
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Thank you.
It is only in developing countries you see underage children used as maids and male servants.
There are more millions of career women in America and the UK and they don't have underage housemaids like the so called career women in Africa.

Acidosis:
We call them Career women. They need to go out there to compete with men, and pick up leadership roles.

SirVintageCock:
I understands that you are not married from your epistle because it is filled with "what ifs"....and what's supposed to be the ideal.
I don't know about the women you associates with but my wife works to supplement my own income. Without my wife's salary buying good clothes and shoes for my children, sending money to my in laws would have been a mirage.

Baby, shout out to you. Keep it up my dear wife.

eyinjuege:


Thank God we have a man that is real here. More blessings for acknowledging and appreciating what your wife is doing in the family.

Majority of the women I know, career women all supplement their husband's income. In fact, some are the sole providers in their homes. That's why I wonder where the NL men see lazy Nigerian women they keep hammering about.

We should learn to appreciate the income women bring into their homes.
Most times, the men receive the praises of what women bring home because a wise Nigerian woman will not let outsiders know she bought the new jeep her husband is cruising around town with, or she paid the house rent or she paid school fees.

Acidosis:



I acknowledge your points 100%, however, my admonition to women is that they should work only when it makes economic sense (to contribute to the family), not to pose as a 'career mother' as frequently bn preached on this forum.

I've seen and heard complaints severally from women who simply want to work (and be a career woman) even if they have to work for free and drive to work daily in Hubby's car/fuel). I've seen women who just want to sell wigs and weavon (like a friend somewhere) for the sake of staying busy, even if they have to take a flight of N10,000 to deliver 2 weavon to a client.

My previous post was directed to these category of women who (even though their husbands can take care of the expenses), still want to work because someone somewhere condemned sit-at-home moms, not necessarily because they have the passion for the job or business.

That's what makes the difference between a married man and a married woman. ALL MEN work to make money and cater for their families. Meanwhile, SOME women work to stay busy, stay fit, maintain their shape, avoid overweight, stay independent, pose as a career woman, escape motherhood duties, and to preach against sit-at-home moms.

eyinjuege:


I understand you.
But I say again, most women work because they need to.
What % of men work in oil companies?, what % run successful businesses? What % are politicians?
These are the few ones that can comfortably maintain a housewife without batting an eyelid. Children go to the best schools, use the latest cars, phones etc
Others including bankers, telecoms now are also just hustling, except their top guns in the industry.
The women you see doing businesses by the side involving travelling a lot will never tell you their husbands aren't comfortable enough to meet their needs, nobody washes their dirty linen in public as society has always expected the men to provide.
In reality though, with the economy that has been bad and getting worse everyone just has to drop their own 2kobo.
I can't count the number of people with good careers, (some even single) abroad wishing they could just win the lottery/lotto and just quit the rat race. I say that atimes too, just win a million or so pounds and then only work at my own pace, and not because I have too.
'Sighs'.... Let me become more serious about this lotto thing abeg, e fit become reality.. Baba ijebu, here I come o

Fanirandele:
it is wrong to employ an underage housemaid. if you want to be a foster parent be one but employing a child as a maid is wrong. Nothing wrong with career women and only weak men are threatened . Just employ an adult

Acidosis:



I acknowledge your points 100%, however, my admonition to women is that they should work only when it makes economic sense (to contribute to the family), not to pose as a 'career mother' as frequently bn preached on this forum.

I've seen and heard complaints severally from women who simply want to work (and be a career woman) even if they have to work for free and drive to work daily in Hubby's car/fuel). I've seen women who just want to sell wigs and weavon (like a friend somewhere) for the sake of staying busy, even if they have to take a flight of N10,000 to deliver 2 weavon to a client.

My previous post was directed to these category of women who (even though their husbands can take care of the expenses), still want to work because someone somewhere condemned sit-at-home moms, not necessarily because they have the passion for the job or business.

That's what makes the difference between a married man and a married woman. ALL MEN work to make money and cater for their families. Meanwhile, SOME women work to stay busy, stay fit, maintain their shape, avoid overweight, stay independent, pose as a career woman, escape motherhood duties, and to preach against sit-at-home moms.
It's a good thing you made use of "some" here. In you previous posts you simply generalized.

Acidosis:
We call them Career women. They need to go out there to compete with men, and pick up leadership roles.

eyinjuege:


Thank God we have a man that is real here. More blessings for acknowledging and appreciating what your wife is doing in the family.

Majority of the women I know, career women all supplement their husband's income. In fact, some are the sole providers in their homes. That's why I wonder where the NL men see lazy Nigerian women they keep hammering about.

We should learn to appreciate the income women bring into their homes.
Most times, the men receive the praises of what women bring home because a wise Nigerian woman will not let outsiders know she bought the new jeep her husband is cruising around town with, or she paid the house rent or she paid school fees.

bukatyne:


You really think an average woman builds a career because she wants to compete with men?

Sadly, it's not all about you men.

Acidosis:


But that's the message of feminists.

damiso:
You know I have always wondered if 'career man' is a word * thinking aloud**

At OP,Using under aged children for child care is actually counter productive in my own opinion. A child will always act like a child so I am paying for a service and then also have to babysit/baby/raise you as well.lai lai if I pay you for childcare I don't want to also be caring for you as well. Like someone said if I want to be a foster parent let me kuku know I am a foster parent and face my parenting duties , I aint paying to be one.

Even my mother from 19 gbogboro never employed maids younger than 16. I remember them bringing her younger house helps and she would say no. Because of this myself and my siblings called all our house helps ' Aunty something or the other' and dem no born you well to disrespect them.

The other alternative as someone else has also pointed ,men be involved in raising YOUR children.

Acidosis:



I acknowledge your points 100%, however, my admonition to women is that they should work only when it makes economic sense (to contribute to the family), not to pose as a 'career mother' as frequently bn preached on this forum.

I've seen and heard complaints severally from women who simply want to work (and be a career woman) even if they have to work for free and drive to work daily in Hubby's car/fuel). I've seen women who just want to sell wigs and weavon (like a friend somewhere) for the sake of staying busy, even if they have to take a flight of N10,000 to deliver 2 weavon to a client.

My previous post was directed to these category of women who (even though their husbands can take care of the expenses), still want to work because someone somewhere condemned sit-at-home moms, not necessarily because they have the passion for the job or business.

That's what makes the difference between a married man and a married woman. ALL MEN work to make money and cater for their families. Meanwhile, SOME women work to stay busy, stay fit, maintain their shape, avoid overweight, stay independent, pose as a career woman, escape motherhood duties, and to preach against sit-at-home moms.

Fanirandele:
it is wrong to employ an underage housemaid. if you want to be a foster parent be one but employing a child as a maid is wrong. Nothing wrong with career women and only weak men are threatened . Just employ an adult

Acidosis:



I acknowledge your points 100%, however, my admonition to women is that they should work only when it makes economic sense (to contribute to the family), not to pose as a 'career mother' as frequently bn preached on this forum.

I've seen and heard complaints severally from women who simply want to work (and be a career woman) even if they have to work for free and drive to work daily in Hubby's car/fuel). I've seen women who just want to sell wigs and weavon (like a friend somewhere) for the sake of staying busy, even if they have to take a flight of N10,000 to deliver 2 weavon to a client.

My previous post was directed to these category of women who (even though their husbands can take care of the expenses), still want to work because someone somewhere condemned sit-at-home moms, not necessarily because they have the passion for the job or business.

That's what makes the difference between a married man and a married woman. ALL MEN work to make money and cater for their families. Meanwhile, SOME women work to stay busy, stay fit, maintain their shape, avoid overweight, stay independent, pose as a career woman, escape motherhood duties, and to preach against sit-at-home moms.

bukatyne:


You really think an average woman builds a career because she wants to compete with men?

Sadly, it's not all about you men.