loomer:
Cos naija ladies too get wahala, and sabi fat like elephant.

Na that fat de vex me pass, none sense, bros I de vex for this fat matter wetting sef dem de carry fat go heaven? Naija girls go fat like say fat Na evidence of good living.

Lol, what I observed about this is that mentality of ladies abroad differs. Most Ladies abroad don't have qualities of house material at all n d the country laws favours them. They don't need to cook for u, wash your cloth to back up my point download jennifer lopez song ~ I aint your mama. I want u to notice this Nigerians married abroad don't argue with their wife either wrong or right. They don't want trouble which cud lead to their deportation. Either Igbo, Yoruba or Hausa if u marry them here n take dem oversea they see u as d head. They no d right thing to do without being told n taking them abroad shows u really love them. A friend of mine came to Nigeria not too long n picked a girl who already has a child. They both returned abroad God is great. This girl is so humble n she respect every1. When my friend told me he wants to marry d girl I supported him n ask him to take eyes from d issue of her being a baby mama. He told me his moda living opposite d girl's house was in support n d neibours. God bless that girl she is my number 1 street sister.

Naija women living overseas have become more westernized than the westerners themselves. This is why the average Nigerian man living abroad will rather marry a fat white woman than a Nigerian woman living overseas. I have seen and heard situations were Nigerian/African women have ruined the lives of promising young men by formulating fictitious tales of domestic abuse and rape, simply because they want to get hold of his assets.

A lot of the Nigerian Girls I know in the UK and U.S ended up marrying Nigerian Guys who were based there.

Infact alot of them did not return after their Masters.

abbey621:
I don't know about any other country but the U.S is a demonic country that ends upsucking the life out of most men at the same time make women power hungry. Due to the feminist theory, the democrat controlled government tries really hard to over compensate for what they termed as injustice. From women's rights to gay rights,real men are no longer seen as a priority. To illustrate consider the rankings:

1. White Women
2. White Male
3. Asian and Hispanic females
4. Asian and Hispanic males
5. Black females
6. Black males.

The above illustrates the real problem black males face in the U.S. A country where shows like real housewives of L.A or Atlanta, Dr. Phil, Oprah and so on. Men are learning to accept their role as number 2 in the house while women are encouraged to take control. This to an African man is a taboo. Imagine not being able to rely on your wife to cook you a good meal or not being able to give your parents or siblings money without getting permission from your wife. Imagine not being able to have an argument with your wife without her calling the police and getting you kicked out of your own home. Our African brothers believe those women back home though they are not perfect are still respectful of the society and traditions to be humble. Of course this theory is not perfect as we have seen a lot of guys coming back home to marry women related to lucifer but as an African man the reward outweighs the risks!

I think the major problem with we Africans, who live in western countries is that there is this socio cultural expectation(s) that was ingrained in us, about how a man/woman should act/behave etc, and because it is in contrast with the liberal societal expectations of the West, then it causes friction.

Let like minds marry each other biko

If your brain and expectation is still stuck in the 19th century, then you know what to do
.

I fit marry from any nationality...

Greencard

babyfaceafrica:
confidence is different from pride!!!!!...I know what am saying.

No you don't. To give you a better perspective, you would like to live in a safe country like the U.S or Germany right? There have been terrorist attacks in those countries. If their citizens went about killing every Muslim in those countries in reprisal, would it be countries we know them to be today? Don't let your emotions take better of you. It is just because Nigeria is a lawless country that is why you think the way you do.

This is because when the women come abroad they lose some of their core values, culture, respect.

When you live with your wife abroad and you have a misunderstanding she doesn't call you "honey" rather she call you names like "oboy", "useless man" , its normal. If you get offended about it na you go suffer am.
Most naija guys rather marry the home based naija girls who unfortunately has been waxed well. These naija guys prefer to keep the girl in naija for the sake of losing their marriage to the influence of life abroad.

They rather send £500 every month to the girl and visit once in 6 months but little do they know the engine is being waxed in their absence

claremont:
Naija women living overseas have become more westernized than the westerners themselves. This is why the average Nigerian man living abroad will rather marry a fat white woman than a Nigerian woman living overseas. I have seen and heard situations were Nigerian/African women have ruined the lives of promising young men by formulating fictitious tales of domestic abuse and rape, simply because they want to get hold of his assets.

I like that point you made Mr. Claremont, being more western than westerners...

For some of them I have met, oh lawd, too obnoxious.
The laws are there to protect women, not for you to threaten and ruin men, but because they know they can manipulate their way, they turn everything up side down

Naija babes over there are more civilized and exposed.they'll be rude nd difficult to control compare to an average village girl in Oyo State

waltinnovers:
Majority of Nigerian girls or ladies over there are runs babe, they fvck to live, and they don't hid it and these guys know very well what they are doing, so if they finally one to marry, the will come back here even though the ones here do fvck, it be seen as a local fvck still have some respect internationally but international fvcker don't have any more respect. They are it is finished as Jesus said.
Ka Chineke mesieee okwu
Saalam

Lol guy..I'm shaking my head make i no talk abeg..Lol..shakes head again in wonder

I have a truck load of bois in Uk Us etc


The reports we get about our girls there guys u will faint wen u hear the reports.

Perhaps its not a problem with the females but the negative reports are way too high and rampant.I'ld rather marry a white if i'm there or find a good Christian black lady.My guys in UK rank it.. They dont mention Nigerian girls n the rank.They say no one wants them

They say first na whitey,after jamo,after blacks non-niigerian That Nigerian girls are worthless.

A million people have told me this at diff times..It's dis-heartening.I feel bad for our girls.

Majority of naija ladies over there are not court able not to say marry simply because of the things they are involved in to survive
the hardship of that country.

Nigeria ladies are cool headed, well trained unlike abroad ladies who behave like spoilt brat

CFCman:
I fit marry from any nationality...

Chop knuckle.

My take on dis is simple...1)d 9ja babes out der will definitely be living extravagantly...
2)Most of diz guys der r hustling(doing petty jobs 4 survival)..'una suppose know say naija babe no like limited cash flow',so definitely d girls must know wot dey do der n wouldn't want to give der marriage fingers...so dat naija guy now go enter town,carry any babe...d ones wey dey here no care wetin u dey do der,as long as dem dey see d leanest change...dem go get hope 2 follow u go der 1day

pippimp:


No you don't. To give you a better perspective, you would like to live in a safe country like the U.S or Germany right? There have been terrorist attacks in those countries. If their citizens went about killing every Muslim in those countries in reprisal, would it be countries we know them to be today? Don't let your emotions take better of you. It is just because Nigeria is a lawless country that is why you think the way you do.

dry.....its better to marry an humble gal than a proud one....just because a country is liberal does not give a woman the right to misbehave....Nigerian ladies at home are more well-behaved than those abroad,....fact!!!

Ugosample:



I think the major problem with we Africans, who live in western countries is that there is this socio cultural expectation(s) that was ingrained in us, about how a man/woman should act/behave etc, and because it is in contrast with the liberal societal expectations of the West, then it causes friction.

Let like minds marry each other biko

If your brain and expectation is still stuck in the 19th century, then you know what to do
.

If believing in the concept of respecting your husband or wife, honor and loyalty, the self integrity of being a provider, being head of the household and playing your God given role is 19th century thinking then we Africans are so lucky!

chachanga:
Boys will date, wine&dine even impregnate these ladies but still run back here for good old "home-loving" when marriage issues arises.

Apart from insane "family pressures" from home, it seems most, are, at heart still just akpu & ewedu boys when the chips are down .
Bone the Brooklyn swags & the Cockney accent; our sociocultural source-points did do a few numbers on us in setting some future marital expectations &sgendas for us also.

The situation gets further worsened when the said ladies too don't seem to realize that some changes do occur, but only trans-generationally and not instantaneously. So as for ur expecting Naija guys to fit the bill of your newfound, "enlightened" or "postmodern man concept, U go jonze tire!

Not many are comfortable with the extreme liberalism, feminism and women's rights practised and available to our sistahs naturalised abroad but they'll date & screw u just d same, only to dump u later or marry home-based Chichi, Enoh or Bola behind ur back!

Hence, You either get ready to search till you find that ur one-in-a-million guy OR you adjust your expectations and start learning to cook more than Chinese Noodles because if u do marry an Ewedu boy or his Akpu counterpart, my dear, you will cook.
And stop praying for your Mother-in-law to die. (the old woman probably attends MFM Church &she's got a few "Back2Sender" prayer-bullets for you too, in case u decide to be a assassin).
I may be wrong but the fault goes both ways.

Girls: Don't nurse "unnecessary" expectations just because dat guy dey folow u do UK Masters.
Boys: Stop screwwing and "partying-hard" with those ladies if you know you'll use it to judge them later!

To be candid,I didn't read your comment,,but it just seems to me a very sensible contribution..

Ayajayjay:
Nigeria ladies are cool headed, well trained unlike abroad ladies who behave like spoilt brat

Just like we prefer Ogbono to salad many of us prefer Nigerian ladies to others but the report we get are very bad and puts us in fear not just abroad back home.I know many decent guys lots of my friends me inclusive afraid of Naija women and remain single because the paroles we see and the report we hear are bad take it from someone who's friend and his babe were to marry but she came around asking me for sex promising me she will dump her ex after they've agreed to marriage just because she saw my biz glow for a while..Thank God i'm a warri boi...if i wanted free sex i could buy it nau...back to the topic the report we get about our ladies home and abroad is bad..I woke in the midnite i know what i see and the people i see..I can give a narrative..

Nigerian women are useless, when you taste the white berry, black berry becomes tasteless.

Ugosample:



Chop knuckle.

Chops the knuckle

Well, the main ingredient for a lasting marriage is love. If I love a Mexican-American or Caribbean-American lady, I don't see why I shouldn't take the relationship one step further.

No culture/nation has a monopoly of 'humble' wives, or wives that love to cook..

abbey621:


If believing in the concept of respecting your husband or wife, honor and loyalty, the self integrity of being a provider, being head of the household and playing your God given role is 19th century thinking then we Africans are so lucky!

Don't get my point wrong....
What you listed up there are good values.

I'm talking of the extreme cases......
Like feeling you have the right to treat your wife as shit (many men from Nigeria have no problems with this, we both know that)

Deliberate misbehaviour (We know we are all human and we make mistake, but doing things anyhow, because you feel your wife can not do shot is 19th cemtury thinking)

And the list goes on.

He/She who does not value family should not get married )

.

They have seen it all.

Is better one marries a white lady abroad than our sisters over there ..

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They dont trust themselves o......
It's as simple as that

CFCman:

Chops the knuckle

Well, the main ingredient for a lasting marriage is love. If I love a Mexican-American or Caribbean-American lady, I don't see why I shouldn't take the relationship one step further.

No culture/nation has a monopoly of 'humble' wives, or wives that love to cook..

Honestly, I love your submission.

If you are seeking a local Nigerian woman for marriage visit http://nigerianbrides.com.ng

Interesting thread. I used to ask this question to myself till, I came close, attempted to date a Nigerian lady in a certain European country. I'm not going to disclose the name of the country.

They are largely, feminists, in fact more feminists than the progenitors of feminism, the Swedish. Sadly, they come through as uncouth, belligerent, arrogant and seem to always live on the edge of some unrestrained emotion. And of course, a good percentage can not cook. I remember when I once made pepper-soup for a love feast- many ladies couldn't believe I made it. I was like, huh? The ones that act this way, are persons who have gone through a lot in solidifying their stay in the West, that their capacity to reason sensibly takes flight. This is not only Nigerian ladies, though. Black ladies. They just have this 'problem.' A good percentage. Why will a Nigerian man, with a Nigerian-like home training, get someone who could potentially ask for a divorce the next day?

Hence, the reason why men go and take what is the less riskier route, a lady from Nigeria. It is less risky. The black ladies often get their 'sense' when they are in their mid/ late thirties. Then, it becomes a bit difficult to find someone serious.

loomer:
Cos naija ladies too get wahala, and sabi fat like elephant.

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