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Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by HaneefahRN(f): 11:44pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
JustHere2Observ: I really can't see the issue here too. We don't know how it happened so can't say why she also reacted that way too. And him comparing her sister's probably irresponsible husband? Na dem sabi 3 Likes |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Nancy2016: 11:49pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
OP, providing money for provisions should not stop you from helping with chores. You both should work as a team. More hands make the work lighter. You made it seem like it's either your way or the highway. Although I dont understand why your fiancée made such a big deal about grinding the pepper, I think you made it a bigger deal by comparing yourself to her brother-in-law.The mistake a lot of African men make is they think that as long as they provide the finances they shouldn't lift a finger. You and your fiancée should sit down and talk about how you would love to run the house so that you both are on the same page before you get married. Also it is 'peel', 'audacity' not 'pill' and 'ordercity'. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Gofwane(m): 11:53pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
mhisbliss:yeah, i agree with you. He even mentioned that she's 30 years old. ......Ha! Op, you really sure you wanna marry that girl? |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Nancy2016: 12:02am On Aug 07, 2016 |
mhisbliss: So if she's tired or feeling overwhelmed she shouldn't ask her husband for help? |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by omochelsea004(m): 12:18am On Aug 07, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:i said i was even telling her that i will choose Pilling the yam & cooking it, but she insisted is either i go buy ponmo or i grind pepper, that she wont accept anything aside that two options, its obvious she is taking me for granted because of my gentleness & that was why i was forced to use her sisters husband as example for her to reason, must i do tinz in her way to satisfy her always, i can see clearly she is taking me for a ride for normally helping her in house chores |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by omochelsea004(m): 12:21am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Nancy2016:to ask for help is different from to give command, this is not situation of asking for help, its a case of giving command to her husband & that was the reason i reacted that way |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by HaneefahRN(f): 12:31am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004: Eeyah, I just saw that part. She no try at all. You guys should discuss it and sort things out, let her know your stand about such behaviour, and see her wrong doings. Break the silence. I don't think her sister's husband was a good example to bring up or maybe it's just cos I hate comparisons. But this issue is still funny to me sha, thanks for slightly making my mood better. All the best. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Nancy2016: 12:32am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004: You could have drawn her attention to it by maybe making fun of the situation by saying something like "okay boss" or "okay madam". This will make her realize that she was being bossy. If she's a sensible lady she will apologize. Communication is key and you need to tell her that you don't like the silent treatment. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by omochelsea004(m): 12:45am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Nancy2016:what i decided to do is to make her know say me self good pass her for silent treatment, maybe if she see say me i sabi give silent treatment pass her she go they rethink before result to it all d time she is angry, because i don talk am tire & still no changes |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Nancy2016: 12:57am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004: Silent treatment has destroyed a lot of relationships. It's certainly not a good way to maintain a healthy relationship. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Dondave11: 1:07am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Chairman, ignore her.. Her brain go reset to default.. If e come be say she clear enta sku nd neva get her sense back.. NO CALL HER.. Ignore her totally.. Show her say u sef dey vex.. Ah swear, she go apologize wen d tin don reach breaking point.. Nd she no fit hold hersef again.. P.S: resist any temptation of striking a convo with her.. Kill d konji for d main time.. Mind you, this will make her drop that silly attitude totally.. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by mhisbliss(f): 1:08am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Nancy2016:read my comment again this time slowly maybe you'll understand what i meant and maybe not |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by mhisbliss(f): 1:09am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Gofwane:i wonder o how long till menopause |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Afribiz(f): 1:14am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Go for marriage counseling, I beg u ... cos u never see anything na em u dey rant already. My bro u never ready for marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Nancy2016: 1:31am On Aug 07, 2016 |
mhisbliss: Actually I loved everything else you wrote. I only had an issue with the part I quoted. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by bomcey(m): 1:33am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Abeg make all those who say the OP ain't ready for marriage keep quiet, that's what my wife has been doing and I have been trying to manage her just for peace to reign and now is out of hand,Op please you have to be firm,very firm coz if you beg for nothing, you will continue begging ooh ignore her silent treatment #talking from experience# |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by GAZZUZZ(m): 3:42am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Dondave11: |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by MsGlobalwonder(f): 5:26am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004:first and most importantly, work on your grammar; your written English is painful to the sight and ears. Just here imagining how the spoken English will be...*sigh. And secondly, what in God's name is wrong in going to buy what both of you will eat while she is busy doing other things related to the food you will both eat? Why are boys of this generation so entitled,petty, wicked and selfish?? My goodness! While you do NOTHING, u can't assist someone u're not even married to (even if you are married to her, it doesn't give you the largesse to be cruel) to ease her burden. If they ask you now, you will reference daddy Adeboye et al. You are a wicked person! But if your friend or female colleague or boss tells you same, you'll run to do it without questioning. You are supposed to compliment each other sogbo, help her get things done especially when you can. This your case is typical. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by pedrilo: 6:02am On Aug 07, 2016 |
ikombe:u well? Abi na ur papa get nl? U wey woman dey control and will soon start beating like daddy freeze get mind to dey mend me! U nor dey fear? |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by mhisbliss(f): 7:17am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Nancy2016:you misunderstood the part you quoted |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by mhisbliss(f): 7:19am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Dondave11:smiles, its not only 40 am older than your mum. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Medunah: 7:19am On Aug 07, 2016 |
How can I wake up to pound yam, grind pepper, cook and still go out to buy ponmo?? Not happening!!!! Even in my father's house, they don't work me like that talk more of a guy I haven't married. There should be division of labour!! 1 Like |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by nwamehn: 8:16am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Medunah: Maybe, u would have to reread his message so that u can see where he said he decided to pound and cook the yam while the girl goes to buy the meat. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by nwamehn: 8:31am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004: Guy, I really pity u because u haven't found wife yet. A woman: 1. Who would always want to rub shoulders with u even in small issues like going to buy meat; 2. Who doesn't accept that she is wrong even when it's clear that she is wrong; 3. Who would prefer that peace doesn't reign in ur home by giving u silence treatment instead of apologising to u when she is wrong; 4. Who has such a loving and caring man yet takes him for granted. Whose fiance provides money for food and still assists her in doing the cooking yet she doesn't value it. Such a woman can never be a wife material. U have talked to her severally yet she doesn't want to change. Go to family section and see the advice of some more mature married men so that u will see for urself why I tell u that u haven't found a wife yet. If u continuously beg her now when she is wrong then be sure that u will be an everlasting beggar in that ur marriage. Don't mind some hypocritical ladies here advising u to go beg her. Just ignore her, if she comes back to her senses then good for her, if she doesn't, then u march on because the handwriting is too clear on the wall that she isn't a wife material. Love isn't all that matters in marriage. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by missyadorable(f): 10:33am On Aug 07, 2016 |
omochelsea004: That's what you get when you bring a small issue you had with your babe to the public forum.if you like go and be reporting her to people,your friends n family..they will abuse her...Keep your relationship matters away from 3rd party and settle whatever differences you may have btw the 2 of u |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by Peacefullove: 10:54am On Aug 07, 2016 |
AyamConfidence: Seconded! |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by TheMyth: 11:59am On Aug 07, 2016 |
Babe is giving you ultimatums and you are explaining yourself to her ,your situation is just sad. She is now ignoring you to add to it . Even though you were not wrong in the slightest you stupidly tried to initiate talks first and even throwing away your supposed evil male ego she still ignored you , and you want to marry her , and you think you will live long and happy. better don't listen to 90% of the people above , they are either feminazis or male pants . Cooking is majorly the duty of the female,the male can help if he wants to but not to the point she doesn't feel its her duty. buying of foodstuffs is even moreso .You better wake up , there is nothing hard about buying ponmo and grinding pepper ,if she went out she could probably do all this at the same spot. If she was living alone she would do all these things plus more . Her problem isn't doing the acts themselves but doing the acts for you(funny enough she is gonna eat too so she can't do this for you at all) . She is just exerting power over you , she obviously can't tell you to do everything alone since that's too blatant and its your money so she does the next best thing ... completely disregards what you said you were going to do (pound yam) whilst choosing. your options for you to make it seem like you have a choice she then later acknowledges that you wouldn't want to grind pepper and tells you buying ponmo would be better ... in essence she just took the long winded indirect way of telling you ... No you will not pound the yam , you will go and buy ponmo , its either that or we are not eating anything. imagine responding positively to this. like okay then you go and buy it, who is wearing the pants. When someone attempts to bully or brow beat you into doing something do you start explaining yourself or how what the person is doing is not good , general answer is no unless the person has power over you like a soldier lol. |
Re: Why Is My Fiancee Acting Funny? She Is Not Talking To Me Since Morning by mctowel01: 2:11pm On Mar 01, 2017 |
Medunah:Were the bills divided? |
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