DEllaluv:
Not yet married but talking about divorce..... odikwa wurious, wrong choice of words.....be like you never ready to marry, cos going into marriage with such a mindset...hmm

HaneefahRN:
Back to OP. Your choice of words are too poor. Is she a disrespectful person and you think she would disrespect your mum? Don't understand why you would say that.
I would not be smiling if I was told such. So immature

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

flyca:
OP, if she is your girlfriend, I will be surprised that woman is still with you. You made it sound like she has a trophy being married to you.
Hia!

Threat go full that house o.
Serve me dinner at 8 or I divorce you.
Greet me every morning or I divorce you.
Satisfy me in bed everyday or I divorce you.

Sweet marriage

pek:
Op, from someone old enough to be your father, I say grow up. You don't have a right to go threatening people unnecessarily; especially your future partner. If eventually you get married to her, she will live in constant fear. I won't want that for my daughter and I don't think any man will.

diva90:
But if your mum disrespect your wife, what will happen?
Your choice of words is very wrong. There are other ways to have said it instead of threatening with divorce.
Secondly I don't think it's okay to verbally and indirectly make it known to your wife that your mother is more important that her.
You can think it but never say it in any form

neocortex:


She is not yet a wife.

Jobia:
'..or I divorce you' is that a threat or what? You sound like you re doing her a favour by being married to her. . .
Unless you actually are

nathdim:
As for me the only person I trust in these life and in the next life is my mum
So no woman no matter how beautiful she is would ever try to downgrade her not even my siblings can try it
So if she likes she better dance to the tune of her music or she leaves

baddestchic:
you went too far ooooo..... there are other ways to talk to your partner than putting her on hot seat.... your mum just comes and goes... your wife is your family Now too.

neocortex:


Don't be surprised, we have seen girlfriends not wife
who are being punched daily and still stuck to their "man".




I actually respect the OP for saying his mind, because the fiancee now
have a choice to risk it or move on.

There are those who don't say anything before marriage but unleash venom on their
partner once "they cross the line. At least the girlfriend now knows the type of
man she is dating.
Simple!! there shld no ambiguities b4 marriage. better 2 mk your feelings clear.

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

neocortex:


Of course he is

abimic:

Mum can't be compared to wife nah, one can only have one mother but not the case for wife, so I disprove your word, mum comes and goes. Anybody CAn be a wife not anybody can be your mother. It takes a petulant wife to insult her mother in law. If they don't stay close, she visits let's say maximum of ten in a year and doesn't stay more than two weeks, where then would the insults come from? If she insults at her back, i wouldn't pick offense as if she had done it in her presence for if she did it in her presence and it looks, sounds slightly rude, she would surely pay dearly for it, very DEARLY, she would go to wherever mama is and apologize till she's satisfied and forgiven. If that's not cautioned, who knows if I would be the one to be disrespected next and belittled in a house where one should be the head, but divorce, almost impossible!!!!!except she's not ready to be submissive!

AfroKnight:
Sphinx02, you were not wrong in warning her. Such a warning would not arise if you didn't suspect that your fiancée could actually disrespect your mother one day.

If she needs to be threatened before she can respect the mother of her husband then you must be careful about marrying her. I have met seemingly lovely ladies who have no qualms insulting elders. Yet those ladies are quick to feel slighted at the barest shade.

All these uncultured ladies calling you mama's boy and telling you to grow up are the very ones who would fight their daughters-in-law if she made the slightest wrong move. Don't give your attention to such hypocrites.

You know your mother and you know your babe. If you are sure your babe is capable of shading your mother and you cannot condone it, kindly give the girl red card before you find yourself having to choose between your wife and your mother. There are good women out there who don't and won't disrespect their mothers-in-law. My brother married one. I will marry one such woman also.

A disrespectful wife is not an asset to anybody.

Nectarbaba:
Its your relationship. You set the rulez

abimic:

Mum can't be compared to wife nah, one can only have one mother but not the case for wife, so I disprove your word, mum comes and goes. Anybody CAn be a wife not anybody can be your mother. It takes a petulant wife to insult her mother in law. If they don't stay close, she visits let's say maximum of ten in a year and doesn't stay more than two weeks, where then would the insults come from? If she insults at her back, i wouldn't pick offense as if she had done it in her presence for if she did it in her presence and it looks, sounds slightly rude, she would surely pay dearly for it, very DEARLY, she would go to wherever mama is and apologize till she's satisfied and forgiven. If that's not cautioned, who knows if I would be the one to be disrespected next and belittled in a house where one should be the head, but divorce, almost impossible!!!!!except she's not ready to be submissive!

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

KINGinVAHALA:
Op you re even caring, mine isn't an option, I don't even need to say it out, my face alone in such situation would speak louder than using my mouth.

Disrespect me, I send you to exile to Uganda,
Disrespect my mom, I send you, your family, your past and your future to exile to somalia. This goes to any lady or "future wife".

Sphinx02:

Trust my mum 100%