Jobia:
well you can't be sure until he says it himself. Or are u related to him

I don't think he would have been that blunt if he isn't,
the partner with less interest in a relationship has
absolute control over it.

sheddy03:

making lots of senses here. but generally, wives are selfish. they welcome their siblings and family and chase away the husbands family.

my thoughts exactly

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

Not everyone my guy, some of us are heartless, conscienceless and don't care about what you people called love.

sheddy03:

not harsh my brother. I wonder why a wife will feel her husbands mum would be a threat to her marital livelihood.
my mama has vowed she will not come to my house again because of the disrespect she receives from my wife whenever she comes around, my mama rarely comes to my house. but, my wives siblings are very welcome. they can stay for as long as they want, one has been living with us for the past 3 years. clothing and schooling on me. but my mama is not welcome in my house.
OP, I will do your style. "disrespect my mama and I will divorce you"

Really ?

Rheetaa:


Interesting. Enter marriage with this mindset? No need. You've already got your mother, why mess up another woman's life who came to build her home with you as your mom did hers with HER husband? Let go of your mother's apron strings, boy.

Me? Boy? hmmmm!
OK o, I leave you to your thought.

neocortex:


I don't think he would have been that blunt if he isn't,
the partner with less interest in a relationship has
absolute control over it.

okay I get.

baddestchic:



i just feel there are better ways of settling issues other than fighting....see ehn some mother in laws have wahala. im not in support of insulting her i just feel there should be a way to settle it where by everyone hugs and goes away. abi is it hard for you to talk to them separately hear everyones side of the story and find a solution. if your mum is at fault yes she will still apologize, if shes at fault she still has to apologize but its you that will know how to talk to her

theres never a flame without fire abi is that now how they say it, i dont think anyone can just be rude to anyone unless the persons upbringing is faulty

U must be really funny, which mother in law would apologize to his daughter in law after insults ensued From her daughter in law? Even if no insults,mother in law would hardly apologize on top wife of pikin wey she born.... Forget that thing.... whoever was wrong, a good wife would even apologize regardless of who's faulty, get that first. .... My mother apologize... heheheh, even if she was faulty, wife would apologize first and i would talk to mother only if no insults ensued but if insults enter the place, wife must do the necessary thing and apologize heartily regardless who was wrong. But what would make a wife disrespects her mother in law if no b say she don dey eye another man for outside? If u feel discontented with what and how your MIL treats you, why not complain to your hubby and let him speedily resolve it if he is mature and responsible as they so claim than resort to self help. Don't u agree?

okirewaju:
Mtshewwwww

Disrespecting your mum is bad but your choice of word is worse.

Making meaningless threat

What is meaningless there? My mum has sacrificed everything for me, and I will not allow any harm or disrespect to come through me to her, I cannot be weakened by what you people referred to as love.

This sounds like blackmail!

abimic:

U must be really funny, which mother in law would apologize to his daughter in law after insults ensued From her daughter in law? Even if no insults,mother in law would hardly apologize on top wife of pikin wey she born.... Forget that thing.... whoever was wrong, a good wife would even apologize regardless of who's faulty, get that first. .... My mother apologize... heheheh, even if she was faulty, wife would apologize first and i would talk to mother only if no insults ensued but if insults enter the place, wife must do the necessary thing and apologize heartily regardless who was wrong. But what would make a wife disrespects her mother in law if no b say she don dey eye another man for outside? If u feel discontented with what and how your MIL treats you, why not complain to your hubby and let him speedily resolve it if he is mature and responsible as they so claim than resort to self help. Don't u agree?

you would notice that i typed there that if shes at fault she would apologize, if its the mums fault she would still apologize...i partly agree with your opinion... just saw the eyeing of someone outside but mehn, guys dey jealous o,already accusing her of infidelity.... i just feel theres no reason to start shouting divorce up and down....abi that one isnt a joke anymore, you guys are partners not just lovers and sometimes things will come up that you need to handle with maturity

teebillz:

Cute you. Me like me some.

Thanks

KINGinVAHALA:

Me? Boy? hmmmm!
OK o, I leave you to your thought.

Sorry I got a bit sensitive. I'd NEVER disrespect my mum-in-law or in-laws and my hubby has made it clear to them (even in my absence) that disrespecting his wife is a no-no. Some women ARE what they are and a real man strikes the balance between both sides without conflict.

Ego on the part of husband or wife'll only set the home on fire. And, guys, never show wife or mother that you love one more. Trust me, no woman would like that, not even your mother.

D op must be a learner

You made your opinion cleared and I have to respect it because you know yourself better and that makes you know while you were a bit sensitive, according to you.

Rheetaa:


Sorry I got a bit sensitive. I'd NEVER disrespect my mum-in-law or in-laws and my hubby has made it clear to them (even in my absence) that disrespecting his wife is a no-no. Some women ARE what they are and a real man strikes the balance between both sides without conflict.

Ego on the part of husband or wife'll only set the home on fire. And, guys, never show wife or mother that you love one more. Trust me, no woman would like that, not even your mother.

Don't worry about the advice, this and many more I'm already aware of, I don't know all though, I must admit.

Goodnight!

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the two shall become one flesh(ephesians 5:31) the same bible went futher to say in (mark 10:9) what God has joined together let no man put assunder!!! if ur mother is bigger than God then go ahead to divorce ur wive becos of ur mother... and prove to God that u love ur mother more than him who created u becos the bible says if u love me u wod keep my commandment and God says i hate divorce (malachi 2:16) but its obvious ur mother is bigger than God and remember God doesnt share his glory with anybody so stop all this ranting abt divorcing ur wife cos of ur mother.... and follow the word of God

I don't tolerate poo. I will do the same to my wife If she disrespect my mother. it's even better you sound a note of warning to her just the way the OP did so as to make think twice before trying it. No woman can take the place of my mother in my heart

baddestchic:



you would notice that i typed there that if shes at fault she would apologize, if its the mums fault she would still apologize...i agree with your opinion.. .i just feel theres no reason to start shouting divorce up and down....abi that one isnt a joke anymore, you guys are partners not just lovers and sometimes things will come up that you need to handle with maturity

I don't tend to see reasons why grown people should even disrespect themselves, it takes God and maturity to overlook somethings which is expected of all marriages, it isn't for kids... But wrong thing being repeatedly carried out shows puerility. First could be a mistake but second is intentional and outright stupidity. One reason women need patience most in marriages which haughty wives can't offer.

Guess he doznt knw dat!

Mums cn b very funny atymz...

Muafrika2:

She can take advantage of that trust to fight your wife.

abimic:

I don't tend to see reasons why grown people should even disrespect themselves, it takes God and maturity to overlook somethings which is expected of all marriages, it isn't for kids... But wrong thing being repeatedly carried out shows puerility. First could be a mistake but second is intentional and outright stupidity. One reason women need patience most in marriages which haughty wives can't offer.

that's true...

OP, am still insisting you are on the right track. Don't mind some of these ladies calling you mama's boy. They do dislike mother in-laws and their husband siblings. I could remember one lady that we dated for a while, she was telling me why would I care so much about my cousins that families are bad. Bro, I just concluded that I can't marry this kind of lady.

It's either the OP was raised by a single mother or his mum is a widow. OP, it's time to grow up

R u married?

vikyno:
I don't tolerate poo. I will do the same to my wife If she disrespect my mother. it's even better you sound a note of warning to her just the way the OP did so as to make think twice before trying it. No woman can take the place of my mother in my heart

Sphinx02:

we're abt 2 marry dats y we are setting boundaries.

Useless boundaries.

What a way to start one.

Totally harsh. Even if she doesn't and can't do such, this your statement can make her think twice about the marriage. There are better ways to pass information. Heck, I wouldn't tolerate insults from him about my parents but divorce won't be the key.

Well said my dear...

okesgift:
for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the two shall become one flesh(ephesians 5:31) the same bible went futher to say in (mark 10:9) what God has joined together let no man put assunder!!! if ur mother is bigger than God then go ahead to divorce ur wive becos of ur mother... and prove to God that u love ur mother more than him who created u becos the bible says if u love me u wod keep my commandment and God says i hate divorce (malachi 2:16) but its obvious ur mother is bigger than God and remember God doesnt share his glory with anybody so stop all this ranting abt divorcing ur wife cos of ur mother.... and follow the word of God

Abeg help me tell am!

Pidggin:
It's either the OP was raised by a single mother or his mum is a widow. OP, it's time to grow up

No wisdom in that statement.. .

No woman has the right to go on to disrespect her mother inlaw cause I know many women won't be happen if there own son's wife disrespects them like they disrespected there own mother inlaw.

Muafrika2:


I've seen some unfriendly mother in laws. An aunt of mine told her son to get rid of his wife for flimsy reasons and the fool did, despite the fact that they had a small kid.

According to psychologists, mothers feel like they are losing their sons when they get married. Many react by fighting the wife.

Daughter in laws can be evil too. But this one has taken one side so he'll never belive his wife's side of the story.

That's verry very bad of that aunt.
In Africa here, the problem is always more pronounced DIL and MIL because lines are not drawn and each side want a to be overbearing/territorial.
Women, SMH

nathdim:
As for me the only person I trust in these life and in the next life is my mum
So no woman no matter how beautiful she is would ever try to downgrade her not even my siblings can try it
So if she likes she better dance to the tune of her music or she leaves

I suggest you marry your mother or stay a bachelor for life. With people like you out there, no wonder many marriages are ending in divorce while others are miserable in the institution. Tomorrow, you hypocrites will tell people to go and marry when it is very clear that most Nigerians are not emotionally and psychologically mature to have healthy marriages. Too many mama's boys who did not get the memo that the bible clearly stated that "therefore shall a man leave his family and cling to his wife and they shall become one." Since you want to remain one with mama dearest, go marry her and I hope she satisfies you sexually too and bears your children.

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

You are not fit to be married. Do yourself and society a favor and stay single. Better yet, marry your mother who can do no wrong and let her Bleep you and bear your children.

You don't sound like you are mature enough for marriage. You are starting on a wrong footing. You are already pitching your wife to be against your mum. Only God can help you.

Just get married to your mum then.