CrazyQuinn:
I have and I've also given back, he bought me a gift and I bought him one too to show an appreciation of the gift he bought me. Is that not how it works?

That is how it is supposed to work but that is not how it works.

SMH for all the guys that said the bf deserves sex..one of the biggest vices in our society is that there aren't many people who are willing to help without expecting anything in return..He shoulda carried his money to f*ck a runz babe...get out of d relationship if he refuses..and please if you can try to return his financial favours..#sEx is overrat3d.

teebillz:


That is how it is supposed to work but that is not how it works.

so you don't agree?.........when something is scarce, it's of a great value. You should learn to appreciate the scarcity of it

blkmum700:
Nigerian girls are very funny,why won't i test the woman i tend to marry,that's how i dated a girl that's was running from sex the day i force her to have sex was the day i know one of her breast not good,now imagine i didn't test her,that's how i will marry someone with one breast looking bad.

The same breast you want to sample; a time will come when the breasts of the girl you will marry will become sagged.
Tomorrow, its same you guys that would cast girls for looking for physical attributes and money in a man! When you guys are sampling the physical assets of a lady.

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice because he was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

Please, is it bad or wrong to help a lover financially? Physically? And emotionally? Haba, and how did u know that his not taking good care of his parent b4 spending on his girlfriend? She may not want to have sex with him for a reason best known to her,but I believe she love d guy not based on what he has done for her or what his doing for her. Thanks.

CrazyQuinn:
so you don't agree?.........when something is scarce, it's of a great value. You should learn to appreciate the scarcity of it

I have no reason to disagree with you if that is how you see it. But for most girls, we know the true state of things.

Because u met him at supermarket that's y u refer him as supermarket boyfriend? And u said u love him? Hmmmm.

JustHere2Observ:
If you are not ready to have sex with him, then dont. He should respect your decision not to have sex until marriage whether you are a virgin or not, so my advice if you dont want to dont do it.

and she should continue collecting money abi... I pity her Yash

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice because he was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

Nairalanders, I love you too much . See as somebody carry another person matter for head like person wey dey sell Gala and LaCasera for Apapa-Oshodi expressway holdup. My brethren, leave this girl matter, go carry your own matter, no be this girl say make bag of rice 20,000 naira.

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alizma:


dear OP, sorry I will be taking your time but I hope you can sacrifice that time and learn something.

first of all, I want you to understand that if your description of him as being nice is satisfactory to you and you both have been in this relationship for a time above 3months with this sex issue as the only problem, pls don't be in haste to bid him goodbye as it may take you another three yrs to meet such a person.

though you didn't mention that you are a virgin or not but from your post, I guess you are not and I also guess your partner is not a virgin either. that being said, the decision to stop sexual relationship until after marriage is yours alone, probably based upon past experience and this experience and your decision had together been the forces and strength that had been helping you to maintain that promise to yourself. but on the other hand, your partner probably had no such experience(even if he had, I guess he had not mould it into such decision) and therefore had nothing to help him keep such decision and just like every effort without encouragement, he is losing interest in that decision of yours because unlike you, he has no inner force to keep the decision. understanding this and putting yourself in your partner's shoes will help you understand why he is acting strange and your inability to tolerate and manage him is nothing but something i will call selfishness.

if you agree with me on the things above, then let's look at what I think you should do.
sometimes guys(especially those who can at least invite any girl for a weekend and take reasonable care of her for the period) demand for sex not because the can't afford another girl but because they feel that they will be tagged a fool if the girl eventually leave and a guy get scared of loosing only a girl he feels has
value( not just sexual value) therefore you need to give him that assurance that he won't be considered as a fool even if he lost you. this you must do by investing in the relationship.
since you are working are earning something, you can start by buying somethings that he doesn't have him, in his name. you may even be spending part of what he gave u in buying any of the things e.g, cooking utensils, shirts, iron etc.
and then you let him know several times that you understands that it is not easy for him but he should just bear with you a little more.
it will get to a point where he will begin to see you as someone who also stands to lost something should the relationship go the other way, then he focuses his attention more on your future even as he tries to understand why his woman has chosen to abstain from something "everyone" consider pleasurable.
at this point, even if he will complain, you will see the fact that he still wants the relationship to continue that is if there is indeed tru love and he is ready and consider you as having the quantity of the woman he wants and above all, want you to be that only woman in his life.
remember, not all the guys who will tell you to leave him will stand with you for a month without seeing your pant but continue to provide for you.
be wise, caring husband materials de scarce more than dollar.
wish you success.

True talk Bruh, it was well adviced.

Perfectionist11:
SMH for all the guys that said the bf deserves sex..one of the biggest vices in our society is that there aren't many people who are willing to help without expecting anything in return..He shoulda carried his money to f*ck a runz babe...get out of d relationship if he refuses..and please if you can try to return his financial favours..#sEx is overrat3d.

It's not the job of your boyfriend to provide for you! Blame your parents for not helping you! Nobody owes u any help but your parents!!

blkmum700:
Nigerian girls are very funny,why won't i test the woman i tend to marry,that's how i dated a girl that's was running from sex the day i force her to have sex was the day i know one of her breast not good,now imagine i didn't test her,that's how i will marry someone with one breast looking bad.

not good as in?

Perfectionist11:
SMH for all the guys that said the bf deserves sex..one of the biggest vices in our society is that there aren't many people who are willing to help without expecting anything in return..He shoulda carried his money to f*ck a runz babe...get out of d relationship if he refuses..and please if you can try to return his financial favours..#sEx is overrat3d.

I like this! you are one of the few nairaland guys that has given a very good advise. You are one of a kind.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

If he really wants you,loves you and wants a long term relationship with you that will lead to marriage then he should respect your decision..No sex till marriage is a good decision for christian couples..Every relationship doesn't end up in marriage..stay firm on ur decision..mind you..if you are taking money from him you better stop..you can't be taking money from him and be telling him no to sex..both parties should agree on terms...

Yesterday I read one story dat a guy posted, dat he went to is friend's house an met his friend raping a girl because she refused him sex after spending money on her,my dear is so common with guys everywhere if u see them spending on u it means they want something in return, u shouldn't have collecte money from him, u should have tell him ur conditions first to see if his OK with it.

rosalieene:

I like this! you are one of the few nairaland guys that has given a very good advise. You are one of a kind.

because you want to be a receiver but not a giver.. Typical Naija mentality of taking without adding value. What's the OP actually bringing to the table after listing what she's getting from the supermarket Maga?

That Bros suppose confirm wetin e dey pay for cos dis chk ain't loyal..... Many of dis chk now re scam

rosalieene:

you need not be, I was just stating the obvious
anyways thanks

lmaooo. Okay. I am not impressed.

opedaydydx9:
not good as in?

boss the taste from one of the breast not encouraging at all and the stupid girl won't stop trying to force it to my mouth,i have to run away from her ooo.i swear if i continue with that girl,i fit get mouth cancer.

iwatch:
lmaooo. Okay. I am not impressed.

CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

u can lie 4 africa

blkmum700:



boss the taste from one of the breast not encouraging at all and the stupid girl won't stop trying to force it to my mouth,i have to run away from her ooo.i swear if i continue with that girl,i fit get mouth cancer.

lol this is very funny, u Sha don taste bad breast milk b dt.... I can't stop laffing.

rosalieene:

You know most nairaland ladies feel a guy trying to get their attention is probably one with bad intent. I get that vibes which isn't too far from why your initial reply was woven that way. I just had to laugh.

I have read some of the response and... the truth is you cannot keep him with sex, that's if you think after sex with you he will stay. I will not encourage you to go for sex since you are not yet ready, if you do you will definitely regret every moment. If he continues to act up, am afraid he is yet to ''grow up''. Doing anything for the wrong reasons has never made head way, it will not start from you my dear.

Take care, make decisions and stand by them, that is honor.

SweetJoystick:

I hope say you no dey impersonate me sha? Na me get that name

Obviously na me get d name dats y dem censor ur own...cos u b underage...lols eya

Can't u give advice without insult? ??na WA oooo

so many pervert r encouraging u to go on because its wat they do 1st d words r simple tell him to zip up, plus sex may b fun but trust me pregnancy is not as u r not secure here, he might decide to play SHAGGY " it wasn't me" den u would b all alone and finally bcom another Baby Mama I call after one, and that would be all no marriage for u again except if u r lucky to HV a divorcée. The truth they say is bitter but like patience Jonathan would say should we keep quiet.
some gullible one's would tell u after all there's Condom, marriage is honourable wen d bed is undefiled. if u do it that's it he will keep asking for more And pls don't expect good direction or advice from social media on issues like this cos even rapist now have access and guess wat there advice would b like "give him" don't b stingy, open d gate of heaven na let d king of glory come in.

But why are u lying It's obvious you're an inveterate liar, u said this is ur first post on Nairaland. Haba

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

You are very gbasky jare, am very sure she have a mowe bus bf, Mr Biggs bf, MTN card bf..... Drogba dey your head and dem dey browse for ur head, you better allow him enter and scatter the place ASAP

Paseus:
You claim 2 luv him buh yet ur still referrin to him as ur supermarket boyfriend...yeye dy smell,i blame d guy coz 4 em mind now him get gf b that **spits on this thread**

adconline:

It's not the job of your boyfriend to provide for you! Blame your parents for not helping you! Nobody owes u any help but your parents!!

So I suppose you'll refuse help from people cuz they do not owe ye..the main purpose of relationships is to provide emotional support,and add value to the live of your partner..she said he provided financial aid not like he bought her cars,a house/sponsored her education..in an ideal world helping people financially even those you do not know shouldn't be a landslide achievement but an act of kindness & a display of humanity done willingly without any regret/expectation..but its a pity that we do not live in an ideal world.

Some people out there have rendered unimaginable help to females without expecting to pound em..they may not be many..but they exist.

Very funny comment from ladies...


Guys Abeg stop spending for ladies that refuse to open their legs simple