Stats: 3,190,619 members, 7,941,381 topics. Date: Friday, 06 September 2024 at 05:03 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / A Frustrated Woman (77500 Views)
'Frustrated' Lastborn Tired Of Housework Writes Warning Letter To Family Members / I Become Broke, Frustrated Whenever I Have Sex With My Wife / My Wife Is Driving Me Crazy??? Getting Frustrated Here (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) ... (7) (8) (9) (10) (11) (12) (13) ... (23) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 1:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I fell in love with someone and I don't regret it. If you've ever been in love, you will do extra miles to please them. I was in love with the wrong person. We discussed marriage before I got pregnant, we talked about 2017 and that was one of the reason that made me decide to keep this baby. It was after discussing with his parents, family and friends that he said I should go for an abortion. They thought I was from a poor home and I was trying to trap their son but when they came for the introduction they saw their assumptions were wrong and they gave their blessings. Yes, I used to nag and complain a lot because he was very lazy and spends his money anyhow but I've stopped that. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Pwhitelaw(m): 2:01am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by cooltola(m): 2:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
You do not want to have abortion if you are more than 20 weeks pregnant ![]() ![]() |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Pwhitelaw(m): 2:07am On Oct 26, 2016 |
God has opened your eyes so focus on your baby, your job and yourself. Getting married to him is dangerous because you won't be happy. Forget about what people will say.whats the essence of being marry without happiness 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 2:13am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Go to sleep except if you are not working tomorrow. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 2:16am On Oct 26, 2016 |
euromilion: I'm working but I'll be okay. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by accountbalance: 2:17am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Woman, listen to your mother. This is just an hurdle. And please stop taking your issues to people for advise, you can't tell who has your best interest at heart. Again, I say, listen to your mother. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ogunvic41(m): 2:17am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:I wish I could talk with you personally, I don't really see any mistake here, just that the guy isn't ready for marriage yet. I sent you a PM |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 2:17am On Oct 26, 2016 |
How old is that boy?.i didn't see any man on that picture,all I saw was a small boy. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by accountbalance: 2:18am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Pulcherdee, itelaw: How exactly did God open her eyes? Through comments on nairaland? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 2:21am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I have decided to have one final discussion with him. I know some of you want me to hold on but I believe my sanity is my priority. If he decides to keep the home I'll stay but if he truly does not want to marry me, I'll move on with my life and my baby. I'll raise money and get a new apartment but I won't quit my job. Thank you all for your words. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 2:26am On Oct 26, 2016 |
accountbalance: I also think my mother is biased because of the backlash she'll get from my Dad and also because she endured a bad marriage. I always prayed for a better home than what my mother went through. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mayflowa(m): 2:27am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Shebi dem tie the guy. Don't mind them joor. You are just missing something. Many men don't like taking responsibility for pregnancy whether he is the toaster or toastee. He just got a let out. He would have still be the same guy without you telling him about ur love for him. Shebi he has been forming lovey dovey. Don't worry, he will come around. Just move out of the house and stale the wedding first. Once he sees ur baby, he will come mending things. Sure, he will try to meet the other girl and she won't be too loyal again. He will realised he is crazy and he will come back. But don't marry like this. You will just open a long chapter of disrespected wife. 3 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 2:28am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Acheron: What if it's a girl and looks like her mother? ? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by carammel(f): 2:31am On Oct 26, 2016 |
talktonase: Odani: I know he wasn't married but the Op's attitude defines that of a homebreaker cos she was well aware of the guy's relationship status,if he was married,she might as well do same to the other woman. gustalnov: Point out where she's been put down in my comment,I never insulted her but told her the hard truth. When you make mistake in life,do not expect everyone to be soft on you and just take you as you are,you will never learn that way,if she was my sister,I would tell her harsher things first even if we would exchange words then I would calm down and put myself in her shoes later and we look for a solution,those are the people that genuinely want good for you and not someone that won't be able to tell you the truth so you won't hurt further. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by gabbytabby: 2:34am On Oct 26, 2016 |
@maaamaaa I updated and want you to see this. Shit does happen and it has happened. Do not complicate your life anymore than it is already complicated. Go ahead with the marriage only you have a lot of work to do to bring him round. From today your first name na Patience and the second one perseverance and the third na loveth. Bottom line he is single and so are you. He is just conflicted at the moment and also feeling guilty re the other girl and both will pass. I will say not much talk talk but leave love messages and welcome with a smile. Single mother for 9ja mba mba na last choice be that. Listen to your mama. Please go and sin no more. Maaamaaa: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 2:37am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: I think most women would try "one last time" . . . . No one would walk away just like that. But you are carrying his baby and your families are both involved. So don't think he will cast you away out rightly. Of course he will apologise, play nice for a while, get you to be his wife and then go back to treating you and your children like crap. Bottom line is that this guy never loved you. You were a means too and end for him, but you made it too serious by getting pregnant. He needed you both financially and sexually. I can bet my last kobo that he would not have even considered you if you were broke too. Guys do that all the time and a lot of us fall for it, so don't blame yourself. But if you love yourself and want an atom of happiness in this life, please don't marry that man. No matter what he says! Or you can go for option 2. . . Marry him just to give your child a name. And get ready to take whatever comes your way. 4 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mdaz(m): 2:38am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Turn to God and put in prayers. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 2:39am On Oct 26, 2016 |
@Maaamaaa Please listen to me. That man might just be frustrated. stress of bills and responsibilities . Most men act like this when they r tight with cash. But i will still advice you to have a heart talk and let him know your decision . This will be helpful for your kid in the future. Your relationship is almost the same with mine. but my wife is able to see and determine the cause of my altitude r mostly due to stress . Whenever am stress and bill r pilling up. People close to me will regret knowing me.But am different when things r normal. But talk to him and maybe give him a chance. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by accountbalance: 2:40am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Looks like you still don't get the point, no relationship or marriage is perfect. Do you really think your mother will see a pit and ask you to jump inside. Of course, you deserve a good home and that's why you have to get it right now. There is nothing more than having a woman that loves you, your man will realize this sooner than you think and everything will be fine. However, if you allow yourself to be carried away by the present storm, you won't like the end, trust me. But strong for him and your baby till he comes around. Maaamaaa: I think this is one of the reasons why he is not happy with you, you are not a very calm person . Why would you want to have a final discussion with him this soon. You really need to be calm and understand the law of process. Do you really think a magic will happen all of a sudden. You have to allow him change from the inside, let him want you by himself, don't talk him into it. He is the man, he has ego. You'll only push him away again with your nagging. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by accountbalance: 2:43am On Oct 26, 2016 |
gabbytabby: Maaamaaa , please pay attention to this priceless advice. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 2:43am On Oct 26, 2016 |
accountbalance: Thank you so much. You are actually right, I worry a lot. GOD help me. It's not easy 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fourthworld: 2:50am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Don't worry, he will soon realize that you are his God's chosen wife. He's just pitying the other girl and he will regret it forever if he loses you. He will soon get over the guilty conscience and move along with you. He that pours his sperm into a woman's pussy must be ready to face the consequence of the outcome |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fourthworld: 2:55am On Oct 26, 2016 |
carammel: She's no home breaker, the would have been honest enough to be faithful to his fiancee; why did he want to play a fast one on the girl? Is her pussy just meant to satisfy his libido without paying the price of the outcome? Pussies are for husbands and not for play boys |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by accountbalance: 2:57am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: I know it's not easy, that's why you have to be strong for now. You are going to have a very wonderful family Okay. Be calm and apply wisdom. Talk to your mother on every issue bothering you if you need someone to talk to. Everything will be fine, after the rain, comes the sunshine. You'll remember this period in the future and be happy you made the right decision. He will definitely come around, trust me. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by gabbytabby: 2:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Below gabbytabby: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 2:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I'm so grateful for all your words to me, it is not easy to type or give an advice. GOD bless you all. I love my baby so much and I want the best for her/him, I am ready to do what is best for him or her. My priority is this baby and I pray God gives me the strength to do what's best. I need to work on myself and be happy. Thank you once more. Please, lalasticlala take the post off the front page. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fourthworld: 2:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Hi girl, don't do something stupid, life is so mysterious, and so is marriage between Man and woman. It could be the way you people have been programmed to marry each other, just be patient and endure, in a year time, you will thank me for this advice. It happened to me but today I am thanking God for not dumping my wife for the person I engaged first, just be strong you will soon testify |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fourthworld: 3:01am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Be strong girl and hold on to him and your work, he will soon get over it, he's just infatuated with the other girl and will soon get over it |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 3:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: How is that even possible, ![]() If you paid half the rent, don't waste it in this economy. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 3:08am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I'm so happy. Before I created this post, I was considering killing myself (I'm just too emotional) but I feel so much relieved now. A problem shared is a problem half solved truly. You all saved a soul, I'll be strong. Come may 2017, I'll Grace this page with cute pictures. I truly love and appreciate you all. 7 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fourthworld: 3:10am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Life experience has taught me that the guy is your hubby, now play this little trick on him, just pretendly tell him that you feel like quitting to raise the child as a single mother and watch his reaction, you will thank me for this advice. The guy is just feeling guilty for betraying the other girl's trust but he will not afford to let you go, that's the fact. You are his wife forget about all these negative advices you are receiving here, some girls are just jealous of you, if they are in your shoes, they won't give a damn so better be wise, the world must talk whether you do good or bad No, keep doing your duty as the wife. Life is so mysterious sister so is marriage. 2 Likes |
(1) (2) (3) ... (7) (8) (9) (10) (11) (12) (13) ... (23) (Reply)
Delta Couple Announce Their Divorce On Facebook (Photos) / "My Husband Sleeps With My 16-Year-Old Sister, Impregnated Her & Aborted": Woman / Doctor Divorces His Beauty Queen Wife After Discovering She's A Secret Call Girl
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 103 |