Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.

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Ucheosefoh:
Neither did I attack you too I'm just stating facts. Back when I was naive I do not have much time to stay evaluating a girl's intellectual capacity, back then I date for fun but still value intelligent girls but then we had the misconception that quite girls are intelligent and by the time I must have use my tricks to win her heart and finally discover who I'm dealing with I may have been trapped by the girls not letting go or I will decide to only enjoy the benefit of sex some of them are only good at, after I must have tried my efforts to make them read including introducing them to nairaland and co but come back the next day they will tell you they can not. As I gets older I start avoiding them, the last one I met I lost interest in proposing when I discover it and that end our friendship too cus these days I don't mingle with unintelligent people.

You just sleep with the unintelligent females? Or it does not matter? It does not take a lot of effort on a men's part to learn the depth of a woman's knowledge. I don't have to sleep with a man to know we are not on the same level. I will admit I will not date someone who will frustrate me but would very much appreciate someone who supports and challenges me.

fergieboy:
I didn't read the story .. But since your friend called her a mumu.. Then she is indeed a mumu

You didn't read the story, so how did you know his friends called her mumu.
Boda e ro ra ma paro.

Zetra:


I tell you.... you don't want people to always meet her with you because she is always falling hands(especially when you are highly rated as a mentor/smart). if she is a virgin, she will always feel good marriage / relationship is just to be virgin that's all.
Conversation is always boring, let's go out; No
Let's go to pool (indirectly meet people); No
then what do you want, her reply: I just want us alone
Me: Ok, so tell me what's in your mind(me trying to start a conversation)
she: nothing, I don't know what to say
Me: Oya say anything (trying to not feel frustrated)
She: I don't know, tell me na (I give up)

the worst are those that refuse to be trained/mentored/improve, they just want to remain the way you met them. the next line they will give you is, they don't need to change because of you if you really love them.
Oya let's end the relationship, they will refuse(they can cry for Africa ehn)

Is this an experience you've had?
Bros you try o.

FortuneTeller:
Will she make a good wife? Will she make a good mother? Is she peaceful and kind? Is she thoughtful and loving? Does she get along well with others? Intelligence is good, but it does not guarantee happiness and calm in a home.

See, the primitive minds has arrived.

Majority of these ladies don't know stuffs,
they don't read or listen to news, they don't know what's happening around them.
Let's thank God that some of them use the internet, we hope they shall get informed from there. the truth is that ladies are too complacent with that simple lifestyle they live. that doesn't mean they aren't intelligent but they just don't get informed. take for example; you will hardly find a lady who knows about cars, or who can tell you specifications of phones.
I bet you 98% of ladies don't know the capacity of their phone's battery.
Bear with them and let's continue to help them intellectually.

DarkRebel101:

...But if it were me, I would devolve to her level in order to understand her and also to familiarize myself with the things she fancies.

I love your whole point and this part most...
She already fancied entertainment especially the romantic part of movie industry, why not start

- By buying her romance novels (novels have a way of expanding people's horizon no matter the genre)
- By tasking her to check google, wikipedia for her favorite actor/actresses
- By tasking her to check the internet for her favorite movies
- Taking her through the path of becoming an actress if possible (entertainment industry in niaja is corrupt though)
By this I believe she will have more knowledge about other matters of life
In short she's obsessed with movies to the point she's ignoring every other sensitive part of life.

Bring her to her senses by diversifying her approach to entertainment generally.

Doing all these can be hard, especially if she's unwilling to change.

I dislike boring gf....

take am small small she go change

I am looking for Akiika please oooooo

Bla Bla bla, if a woman meets a man that is termed boring and asks him to change, men would cry foul and say did you not meet him that way? It is okay for a woman to change her life to please a man but a man can remain as he is.... after all she met Jim that way.


Bia OP, your friends call your woman mumu to your face and you are not bothered? Hahahahaha, that shows how docile you are. You can not even protect the woman you bang. Lol. Even if you carried her straight out of yaba left, if you are man enough and not a management friend, your so called friends would not dare call her mumu or cray cray in front of you. They would know better if they cherish your friendship. But it seems they are just managing you, so they can say shii and you would swallow it and blame the person you love. I mean she is the one I pity, she should go look for a real man to date(if there are any single men that do not want to remain the same but expect a woman to change that is)
You are not man enough to date. Wait till you can handle what happens in your home or else you will sit there and watch them grab her vagina like Donald trump and you still won't say anything but blame her for it.
Who cares about Donald trump? Why ask her? You know she isn't learning fast, why not teach her? Why not mention that an election is going on in the Us and these are the parties involved. As for the Out talking about Arab spring, how many men know about Arab spring? Because his babe doesn't know, he dumped her hahahaha, boys boys everywhere. Same man who judging the girl also doesnt know a lot, but it's okay, because he has managed to know Arab spring, every girl in naija should know it too. Many guys here employed google today to know what arab spring is but its okay, they are men, they can be excused of the ignorance but God forbid they were women..........Shebi Na una dey talk say women too do? Now una Don see akanmu una still dey vex again. Tell me why an exposed and poised woman should waste her time with men like you? Should she also dump you if she asks a question she considers simple but you are ignorant of it? Would you agree that just that one incident was enough to call you dumb?

wetin concern me...handle her to me...she go de more intrested to me...if i bang her finish

End that relationship now or else you will live your life with her in misery. Talking from experience!

Bros are we dating same girl?..Though, I broke up with mine last month sha... I cant marry that girl and entrust my children in her care.

You're not going to get very good advices with your title,it should have read my boyfriend is dull and uninteresting. Right now you'll only get more people bashing females, telling you how Nigerian girls are dull.

If it were a dull boyfriend, you for see them motivational speakers.

You are in your early twenties and u r already sleeping around with a girl that is assumably younger than you and nobody thought that could be wrong!!!Which religion or culture supports this?

phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

Boss you just described my girlfriend. At least your girlfriend knows telemundo stuff. mine doesn't know anything about anything music, politics, fashion, lifestyle, sports nothing upstairs except her catering work manual.
But guess what I love her like that because NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!

Hope she's not on NL

Thats women for you. My wife to be graduated with a 2.1 and I a 2.2 and she told me to buy her an iPhone cuz I'm using one myself so I asked her what OS is iPhone and the difference between an iPhone and the android she's using and all she says was she doesn't know that I phone's camera is better

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Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.

just wat I wanted to say.. You can't Ave it all in a spouse. U Ave to build dem up to ur standard.. .and really no frd dare Insult my man nt even my ex....u caused it so fix it and make them stop.

Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.

In addition to this, OP, your problem is about the least you can have with a woman. If she's got good behaviour, respect, fear of God and really loves you, then you have little or no problem.

Just like lucky girl said up here, start a journey of teaching her. Truth may be nobody has positively influenced her and this is your chance to do it. Trust me, you need a prayerful woman, who will take care of you and your children much more than one who will be "public certified".

She loves Telemundo? that is a good place to start.

She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world

I see from you write-up that she has a quality which many of us don't have, that is attention to detail. Turn that into strenght. For example she may turn out to be a fantastic writer of books or films of that genre. She may enroll in a film school (WAP in Oshodi, if you live in Lagos). Get her to start a blog. She may be involved in travels, and write stories about

Finally, if this is the lady you want to spend the rest of your life with, the shield and protect her from the "fangs" of your "friends". This is your life at stake and not your friends' endorsement

I met two girls this year... One had never heard of NORWAY... The other one asked me 'wetin be ZIMBABWE?'.. ain't kidding.

Only dumb people will believe this story. Either that or your so called girlfriend is from the village. Choose the one that best appeals to you.

eezeribe:
It depends on what you want in a woman. Actually, girlfriends are only useful in "the other room".

lol

eezeribe:
It depends on what you want in a woman. Actually, girlfriends are only useful in "the other room".

....

Fxcsk sense into her head, trust me she will catch up after that......or better still luck her in the other room when your friends are around.

See how this guy is treating is wife despite the fact that she is dull
https://youtube.com/watch?v=i3Xl7SrjnB4

eph12:
There are many of them like that. They can be very caring and loving but can't make meaningful contributions to a convo. They hardly have an opinion, always seeking for yours in every decision they want to take. Don't even know what to make of them because they can love for Africa

*dancing to timaya's song....I concur *

If you see her as somebody not up to your standard then work on her to transform her otherwise you maybe failing too. You think everybody got interest in politics? Absolutely no.
If she minces words during a conversation with you or your friends it's your duty to correct and shield her if really you have some quantity of love for her.

It's a pity you allow your friends mock your girl in your own eyes. Bro, she may not be the mumu, later you'll know who is/was actually the mumu.

dose dulladinho girls tho, dem plenti for nairaland. seriously op u dint see all these b4 asking her out? this shows u were never friends with ur babe b4 asking her out. u get to know a couple of things about a girl while being friends here. or mayb op was jst interested in her endowed possessions and forgot that intelligent possessions also matters.

Op why don't you introduce her to nl, who knows that might help, or put a news channel on her bbm,that way she will always get a flash about news headlines and that she is not interested in politics doesn't make her dull, i know some guys who don't like their women arguing over politics,they feel its not womanly and it probably is her up bringing too, no one is born dull,it's a matter of exposure, so don't worry about your kids, they will turn out smart