Joe171:

Why don't you listen to your doctor's advice to always use your glasses whenever you want to read?
I didn't say ladies lack wisdom, I only said they are not well informed.

Gemc3:

The thing is, one may have an idea about what you are talking about but not know what "Arab Sping" is. I just Googled it. Thank you for increasing my knowledge. Anyway, what I want to say is you can't judge someone's intelligence by a single question. We learn everyday. You could have explained to her what it meant instead of running off and then yabbing her. If I were in her shoes, I would have asked you to explain it. And your stereotype about 'naija babes' is so unfair. Almost like you feel we are all stupid. Not cool men.

joycall:
1. You let your friends ridicule your girlfriend and even come here to tell us? You may think you're smart but you're dumb.

2. If you were that intelligent you would know you don't love her.

3. I can tell by your gf's comeback that she's not dull.

4. I do not need to tell you she doesn't have to be politically inclined to be considered interesting.

5. Since you can't identify btw love and infatuation, l can help with that. You're infatuated. Pls stop sleeping with her. Let her go. Trust me another man will love her "stupidity" and would infact be amused by it.

6. You're very silly. It's an insult to say "she's good in bed" but very dull.

7. To be honest, get lost you're not worth it.

8. If it's "fork" you want there are girls who do it for the money. You know where to find them.

9. This is my own way. I'll not pamper you with words. I mean, you don't have to like what I say.

[b][/b]*Ladies pls stop having premarital sex. There's no respect in letting a man bed you before marriage. It's simple like that.

EDITED: I knew from a tender age l wanted to be a chartered accountant. My dad wanted me to pursue science though cos l excelled in science subjects. Point is, my love for commercial and science subjects was unconditional. But history and government l hated with a passion. I genuinely lacked interest. I did not only HATE politics, I didn't understand it. The thought of listening to news or reading those tiny newspaper lines gave me the shivers. Until my 2nd year in the university when I met a man that would change everything.

A man that was unbelievably intelligent and interesting enough to inspire such interests in me. A man that loved me.

I do not only love politics now, l eat newspapers as they come. I'm always the first to grab my hands on them at the office. My colleagues have given me a name for this.

Believe it or not, l'm not only politically knowledgeable but also politically smart. l gave my sister an analysis of how Trump would win the elections before election day.

If someone had told me that I would be an ardent lover of football, l definitely would have shouted them down. Lol. Well, l do not only love football now, I'm a staunch follower of one of the premiership clubs. Football is part of what I eat now.

My point exactly is..with the right person, we grow.

*Ladies pls stop sleeping with men. You shortchange yourselves doing so.

dayosweetness:

receive sense!!!

sukkot:
yeah but you shoulda came up with real wisdom like the cosmos, galaxies, milky way, stars, nebulas etc etc etc not phone and car. knowing phone specs is not wisdom. however if you are a mechanic and you can fix anything inside a car thats wisdom, but just knowing the names of cars is not wisdom. daz all am sayin brah.

Joe171:

I tried as much as possible to bring it to almost the lowest, that is things we see and use everyday. Now check it, what are more complex amongst what we both mentioned. some ladies don't even know about their own body well enough talk more of the universe.
Knowledge is different from wisdom brah.
I didn't say they are not wise. Don't you get it?

PrettyClare7:

Easy bro...there are some things you don't even know yourself. that a person doesn't share a particular interest with you doesn't automatically spell dumb.

Mustiboy:
you're very dumb, I must say.

ladyverere:

And you think you are the sharpest knife in the drawer? Smh. Your dumbness speaks for itself the minute you believe a girl is for your s*xual satisfaction.

amokeme:

Because she doesn't know anything about the Arab spring you concluded she is dumb?? You are being very myopic yourself

ceejayluv:
I met two girls this year... One had never heard of NORWAY... The other one asked me 'wetin be ZIMBABWE?'.. ain't kidding.

DarkRebel101:


Touché. The quantification metrics for intelligence nowadays are that for one to be recognized as an intellectual Titan, one must be involved in the sciences, literature, or politics. How ridiculously parochial and hide-bound!

It's a crass misconception that one is ultimately seen as a dullard because one's interest(s) lie outside society's prescribed boundaries of intelligence -- that was why I descried the OP for adjudging her to be dull.

On this same thread, some guy claimed he cut off connection with a girl because she did not know about Arab Spring. Are these persons not weltered in immaturity's stew?
How in tarnation's flames does being none the wiser about Arab Spring ever become a fly in a person's intellectual ointment? LOL. I'm forced to believe Nairaland is a feast of the bizarre; an aberration-palooza wherein the barmy party-troopers constantly grapple with each other on who can make the dottiest comment.

...

Marilyn Monroe is purportedly believed to have possessed an IQ of 168, yet she was only an actress and a model – two occupations we've been socially-engineered to believe are exclusively reserved for dumb blondes and nitwits. Such unprintable balderdash!
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Your points were quite cogent; OP should try turning his girlfriend into closer approximations of what he wants her to be. He can only hope that she doesn't consider it to be manipulative, thus giving him the rough edge of the pineapple and putting an end to the relationship.

IamLEGEND1:
All these pùssy niggahz.

Raine80:
If I may quote you "I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed"
See right there that's your problem it's taken you a whole year to figure this out? Did you not talk about current affairs in the early days of your courtship? Or were you too bamboozled by the assets to explore her intellectual intergrity? Sorry to tell you that you made your bed lie in it. All this was obvious to you before you chose not to see it. This could potentially be the mother of your children make a decision now rather than later. Don't be one of those men who is embarassed to introduce his wife to his peers and friends.

Mustiboy:
I'll let it slide. But dare me with any insulting word again and witness for your rétarded self how much I'm gonna assail you on here. Asslicker!

IamLEGEND1:
I used to have that same mindset too but I came to realise that life isn't always about me or my interests.
I figured it'll be easy to sit on my hands and complain about how the women of this century have failed to live up to an acceptable intellectual threshold while I'm pretty much holed up in my safe space and not challenging myself enough to know more; to be more.

I watch zee world, extremely sporadically though those instances may be. I despise that nonsense but I know a day may come when I'll have to field a convo that has to do with those characters. these days I find myself reading up on some very weird stuff i have absolutely no interest in,anything from the cold war,Yoruba mythology to space politics.
I may not be perfect but i know dàmn well that I bring something substantial to the table,it isn't unreasonable for me to expect something better than a telemundo-infested brain.

Joe171:

Is this an experience you've had?
Bros you try o.

Zetra:


some of us dont like jumping in and out of relationship anyhow...
please always try to befriend a girl for long before you ask them out or agree to date them.
it will reduce the chances of being in a relationship with selfcentred, nothing-upstairs people

prinzeepule:


Are you sure we are not dating the same babe@op Guy I understand you die.
Dating someone that loves hand bags but knows nothing about bag. Can you imagine someone that's on social media and don't know crazeclown and said Neva seen them before. Me sef don tire.

phlamesG:

When they call her "mumu" they say it jokingly
And I've cautioned them a few times too

DarkRebel101:
She doesn't have to know about Trump; there are many intelligent people that are disinclined toward politics. Her rejoinder does indeed strike a chord; really, of what use is Donald Trump to her?
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I don't think she's uninteresting and dull, I think it's because you two hardly have any overlapping interests that could generate lots of talking points in your conversations. You should have factored intellectual compatibility before asking her to be your girlfriend.
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You could, with tenderness and love, ask her to begin take interest in things you think would enable her make more meaningful contributions; you could send her PDF of books you think would make for a good read, etcetera etcetera.

But if it were me, I would devolve to her level in order to understand her and also to familiarize myself with the things she fancies.

You could do that as well so you wouldn't seem self-centered.

FortuneTeller:
Will she make a good wife? Will she make a good mother? Is she peaceful and kind? Is she thoughtful and loving? Does she get along well with others? Intelligence is good, but it does not guarantee happiness and calm in a home.

IamLEGEND1:
I used to have that same mindset too but I came to realise that life isn't always about me or my interests.
I figured it'll be easy to sit on my hands and complain about how the women of this century have failed to live up to an acceptable intellectual threshold while I'm pretty much holed up in my safe space and not challenging myself enough to know more; to be more.

I watch zee world, extremely sporadically though those instances may be. I despise that nonsense but I know a day may come when I'll have to field a convo that has to do with those characters. these days I find myself reading up on some very weird stuff i have absolutely no interest in,anything from the cold war,Yoruba mythology to space politics.
I may not be perfect but i know dàmn well that I bring something substantial to the table,it isn't unreasonable for me to expect something better than a telemundo-infested brain.

Snipes009:
Actually, you are right. But what's the use of Telemundo to her?

See, it's not about knowing how many votes Trump has or who Ivanka is. But there are some basic things one should at least at know. If not for the sake of your husband, for the sake of your children. How would you feel if your wife has no impact on your children or she can't help out in their homework?

"Mummy, mummy! John in my class said my hair look like Trump's" - your 5 year old daughter. But your wife goes like "Who is Trump?"....etc etc etc. There are many examples lol.

You just have be to be conscious of what is happening "major" around you. Keyword: major.

Goes for men and women.

phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...