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Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by romeoetin(m): 11:32pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: Bla bla bla 3 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by LastProphet: 11:36pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
safarigirl: the women i grew up around never knelt to any suitor and never expected or made a point of a man kneeling to them, they were women of high aptitude who saw beyond the ephemeral symbolisms that matters so much to the empty headed kim kardashian followers we call girls today. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by lhawale(m): 11:40pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
Ifakiland: Then don't marry, ko sa koja be 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Nobody: 11:47pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
You don't even know the meaning of disrespect.... there is a difference between someone saying your write up or point of view is silly and saying that you are silly.... learn the difference. Talk2Bella: 6 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 11:50pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
C stupid bullshit abeg! So if a man doesn't kneel 2 propose, u wldnt accept? So I hv 2 kneel 2 prove dt I possess all those aforementioned virtues? So because oda men r kneeling, I shld act lyk a brainless sheep & follow suit? If I choose 2, gud bt y d Bleep shld it b made mandatory? I blv only an immature woman who holds d notion dt marriage shld b a fairytale wld hold on 2 such balderdash. D same way dey nw compete among demselves 2 get d most expensive engagement rings so dey can flaunt it on Bella 9ja. I swear, let any woman try dt 1 wt me wey I get werey. I fit end dt relationship because I dnt wnt a petty, fallacious-thinking woman as a wife. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Talk2Bella(f): 11:51pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
NubiLove: I know the difference thanks |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 11:53pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
LastProphet:Gbam! Dude chop knuckle dere. Ur head is dere. 1 crate of orijin on me 4 u. 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Nobody: 11:56pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
Talk2Bella, you are almost right. But do you know your real men can use that as your weakness? I prefer the "Selfless Guys." Well, BellaNaija I will update my version of your article but not on Nairaland. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 11:57pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
PabloOmoEscobar:She dey fear say d dude go come 2 im ryt senses b4 im ask d ques finish. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by LastProphet: 12:02am On Dec 18, 2016 |
gemale: my bro i just dey shake my head for the level of stupidity flowing round among today's young girls o, they see something on facebook or E! channel and immediately conclude its right. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Nobody: 12:05am On Dec 18, 2016 |
gemale:hahahaha she quickly grabbed it with a big yes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:10am On Dec 18, 2016 |
TrapHedges:My dream proposal is dt we r both sitting, I open my suitcase, bring out a spiral-bound copy of a prenuptial agreement I wld hv prepared wt a gud lawyer along wt d ring in its box, gv dem both 2 her & tell her 2 review d prenuptial agreement wt a lawyer & if she has any issues, get back 2 me so we can thrash out those unclear areas. If she finds d terms satisfactory, she shld sign & can start wearing d ring. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:19am On Dec 18, 2016 |
francisbiz:Waiter! Bring ds man any drink he wants. Dnt worry, I wld pay. Gud job! U catch op's gbagaun. I applaud ur vigilance. 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by October1960: 12:26am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Nonsense. In today's world the woman should kneel and propose. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:31am On Dec 18, 2016 |
QuietHammer:Toss wetin? As expensive as dt thing b, u wan toss am? Hw many women dey gud @ catching stuff? When last u c women dey toss & catch stuff unlyk we guys? Imagine if she no catch am & d thing lost? U gats go buy anoda 1. 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by October1960: 12:31am On Dec 18, 2016 |
10,000 Likes! Ifakiland: 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:34am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Raine80:Sister e go beta 4 u. Instead make op dey tnk u, she dey busy dey encourage women 2 build castle on top air. 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by InvertedHammer: 12:39am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:/ You put a lot of unnecessary twists to a simple gesture. A man goes down on his knee to beg a lady to marry him just the same way a man is expected to do the toasting. Because the society has made it trendy (especially with all the public display of affection) to seek attention does not warrant opening a Psychology and Philosophy textbooks for it. Until the 2000s, who was doing the kneeling in public? It is a simple gesture that has been abused just like anything else including pre-wedding pictures. Until a few years back, who was doing pre-wedding photo opps? All these na travel-learn behaviours. If in doubt, ask why Nigerians dey do Thanksgiving sales and dey even do Halloween costumes join. Na too much American movies dey cause am. Everybody wan belong. Go and ask your papa and uncles how dey take propose to their wives? \ 3 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by chronique(m): 12:40am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Truck load of gibberish mixed and spiced up with beautiful nonsense. If I choose to go on a knee to propose, it wouldn't be because of this nonsense you wrote. Sometimes, I really do wonder where you guys pull out all these nonsense from. Talk2Bella: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by daclint(m): 12:52am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Tell that to rapper gucci mane |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:53am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:Person tlk im mind (& IMO d truth), u tlk say im disrespect u. Ur post is nt only silly, it is superbly petty & smacks of abject immaturity. It is tantamount 2 chasing shadows & leaving matters of substance. Personally, I find all those gestures (kneeling 2 propose, opening door, pulling out her chair, making sure she sits b4 u) pretentious because in d long run, dey r nt sustainable. D fact is dt u r nt doing d dude a favour by dating/marrying him & vice versa. It's a mutual thing. So stop acting lyk ur $hit doesnt smell & focus on d main issues instead of complicating somtn dts already hard enuf. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by gemale(m): 12:56am On Dec 18, 2016 |
JeffreyJamez:CHAI!!! If na so women wahala b, Shey e no go beta 4 man 2 turn fada? It still neva late 4 me o & besides my mama go happy scatter. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by SafeDavid(m): 1:05am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Ifakiland: lol! You've become a bit narcissistic over time but hey, whatever rocks your boat. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by emirati1: 1:25am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Wow...boyz are not smiling...boyz are vexing...some comments here are just hilarious...but true 2 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by JhyMedex: 1:25am On Dec 18, 2016 |
REAL MAN.... ALL DIS GALS BE COINING WORDS IN A BID TO EMASCULATE MEN.... #NOTOKNEELING 4 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Prince16: 1:34am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: u neffa shi~shun~shin! (Isaiah 4:1 KJV) And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach. e go soon clear 4 ya aiz; my prayer be say make e neffa late 4 u b4 u soji! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Nobody: 1:35am On Dec 18, 2016 |
bigcp:Thank you for that |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Herelefant(m): 2:45am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Although I'd have no problem kneeling, i do question why so much is invested in this standardised, common proposal method. 1. Someone had to have done it first, cannot be the only way to express all the qualities or feelings encompassed by this "gesture". 2. I am certain some women don't need or feel anyway about it. Billions of women do not have this programmed into them- It's a cultural paradigm...thanks Hollywood, and Disney for the fairytale expectations. 3. With high separation and divorce rates, it means sweet Bleep all. Indigenous people didn't kneel - probably had other courtship/copulating rituals though- and they seem to stay married longer. Western influence? In the history of the human race, this is a fad/trend at best. It hasn't been happening for 5000 years, and I doubt it will last much longer. In 150 years, proposal will have taken a different format in all likelihood. Im so indifferent to it (I.e. Whatever floats your boat lady; if that is THE contributing factor that makes you happier than you've ever been, then...; smh) however, it would be reassuring to know that not all women require, what seems patronising. Most guys do it cos they feel they have/expected to, or because it's the societal norm...indicating a willingness to conform to an egotistical, possibly misogynist gesture. Hardly trailblazing. Left to their own devices (if all courting couples were isolated/shielded from external factors) I doubt most men would come to the conclusion that they had to kneel, and most women would probably not even think of kneeling as a copulating requirement. If something else was the norm/paradigm, we'd be all over that, unrepentantly. Then, you have the thing about showing vulnerability once, maybe - as would be the case with casestudy alpha wolf, and then reverting to the norm. Seems to me that, if gender roles were somewhat even keeled, this wouldn't seem like the monumental, role-reversing, gender-equalising, token that it seems. Would a woman prefer a healthy guy who provided, protected, changed diapers and cooked 30-50% of meals, but didn't kneel? See hyena mating rituals, preying mantis and more examples from more species. Im sure there are women out there who do not need this gesture, to trigger chemical/hormonal reactions. However, if it makes the person that makes me happier, happy...then I'd do that and more. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by pocohantas(f): 2:54am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Why is this kneeling paining you people? I've seen lots of proposal pictures, the men that knelt down, you romance sections guys are not in any way up to them. It doesn't make them less men, it doesn't make you any better. OP, it's not a must! |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by Herelefant(m): 3:20am On Dec 18, 2016 |
pocohantas: If majority of people (with same beliefs/background/study group) do the same thing, it doesn't make it right. More often than not, it's wrong. I agree ppl from certain cultural/sub-cultural backgrounds (in this case, nairaland as you have pointed out, and Naija at large) have certain limitations. This arises from how we feel about/want for ourselves...it seems mostly ego/pride related for guys, and romance/equality based for women. This is a reflection of society at large...gender roles and expectations. If I jumped out of a plane with SO and upon approach to a beach...the words "marry me" not even "marry me?" were etched into the sand, with a table for two, or some other commemorative activity/event planned, I fully do not expect to be asked to propose again. Just because I wasn't kneeling. Horses for courses, I guess. |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by jeff1607(m): 4:07am On Dec 18, 2016 |
some ladies aren't worth bending the knee for..... 1 Like |
Re: Why Every Man Must Bend A Kneel To Propose. by nwamehn: 4:30am On Dec 18, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: U were actually the person that made it seem like a woman agreeing to marry a man is doing him a favour. If u said it's good to kneel while proposing, it could have been different, but saying that a man "must" kneel while proposing makes me wonder whether the proposal is more important than the marriage itself or whether the man's kneeling guarantees marriage success. What we should be concerned about is it not whether the couple can live peacefully? What's then the need of this mandatory proposal ceremony if after the proposal and wedding, they still later divorce due to irreconcilable differences? My very good friend knelt to propose to his girl, who is also my friend in the presence of I and some of our other friends, but the whole thing never lasted beyond Introduction due to irreconcilable differences. Second, are u married? If not, I hope u will make it a law to urself that u will never agree to marry any man who doesn't kneel to propose to u? Or advise ur loved one never to marry any man who doesn't kneel to propose to her? 3 Likes |
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