TheMan001:



Is her name Tosin?

Nah though I once had a gf with that name who exhibit a bit of similar attitude. Hers was that she had a man before coming to school, we were dating. She promised that she's gon break up with d home boy but they always get down anytime she travels home. Was still a young lover boy then....long time ago. She got belle for d home guy....today she lost me, d home guy and her little baby

ikp120:
I can relate... I've never had an original gf in my whole life... Always an assistant bf... Chai! Uwa choro ikpu like seriously!

this comment is going to my facebook wall chai

this is wat we call ultimate cycle.... d biitch is just jonzing you... she will also fall for another.... adopt my method of Bleep THE BIITCH... DUMP THE BIITCH

Nma27:
Girlfriend Snatcher!

hahhaha funny how u read the book from the back page funny lady.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKCTYKkyXog

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKCTYKkyXog

OP nd his gurl are juveniles or rather the OP is the small boy while the anty sees him as tissue paper. Who cares?

caukerzee:
he wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?

You and your hoeing 'girlfriend' don't know what you're doing. Better face school and leave sex for now.

I don't know why youths of today have hot pants. A young girl in school is busy sleeping with two boys instead of focusing on making something out of her life.

And you, op, you need a factory resetting slap to restore some sense into your head. She is cheating on a different boy with you, so what does that make you?

The girl is confused, wants to eat her cake and have it, and can't keep her legs closed.

She is just like you and you two are a perfect match. Confused children

donsheddy1:
OP nd his gurl are juveniles or rather the OP is the small boy while the anty sees him as tissue paper. Who cares?

Seriously

She will keep on liking you till you grow old like Methuselah. You no hear say she don get boyfriend? Some ladies can be manipulative. Leave her and go.There are other important things to do in your life. Only God knows what she's looking for by your side.

dairykidd:
Don't know what these other guys above me are saying but Op u got it all wrong from d beginning...she just wanted fun with u..just hot,banging,rough,butt naked s3x n u messed it all up looking for luv/relationship...She already has that brah!! That's why she let u kno abt d existing bf...u r d one with d problems not her...u just made both ur lives complicated when it could have been a beneficial sonthin.I don't kno why some guys can't read signs even when its written in bold.. Gluck

my thoughts exactly. dont mind the guy, they are both confused, im sorry to say this but the guy sounds immature for my liking

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stan241:


Op, as interesting as the proposition of unlimited sex is, I'd advise you end it man, its not going to be worth it in the long run especially seeing as you actually have feelings for her, you'd end up hurt in the end, put yourself in her spouse shoes, the minute she mentioned she had a bf should have been your cue to run away.

Do unto others what you'd like to be done to you.

He is there deceiving himself that she 'compelled' him. He fell for emotional blackmail and doesn't seem to realise it.

The hoe and her side nigga have a lot of growing up to do because their immaturity is blowing a trumpet. My advice to them is look to Mark Zuckerberg, Chimamanda Adichie, Chude Jideonwo, Dora Akunyili's daughter making a name for herself in the US and so many other young people doing amazing things.

Be like them and leave all these nonsense and fvckery. Pun intended.

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@OP I hope you get to read my comment, love can be tricky and twisted, I can see you truly love her and believe me her love for you is also genuine but her boyfriend has a hold on her, she feels indebted to him for reasons best known to her (you could find out though). A lot of us are in similar love triangle where you meet your soul mate but you are already in a relationship with someone that has given up so much for you and you feel like the devil ending things with them. My advice to you is end the relationship now, unless you are patient enough to let her sort things out which might take a long while and the final decision might still not go in your favor. So in short - Free Her!!! You no be Romeo.

Jaynom:

Dude you just took the words out of my thumbs. Back in school almost all the girls I straffd had boyfriends. Ive dated two girls that were engaged. With all the "BODY COUNTS" i have i find it hard to trust women anymore. Ladies will not hesitate to scream "MEN ARE DOGS" but these hoez ain't loyal

That sounds like a punch line

caukerzee:
I wanted it yes, but I'm in the relationship because she compelled me.

brother pls reason. how can u be in a relationship with a girl u met with another man and it's taking her a while to choose. and to make matters worse the greatest gift a woman can give a man which is her body is what she gives u both freely and then one day u too will go down and one knee and ask the ho to be your wife. the boy has been giving it to her from behind, turning her as he likes and when he wants yet that is the girl u want to treat like she's a queen? I'm even sure the guy is not the first to have had her and this is the same person u r opening thread for and having heartache? u r suffering from low self esteem cos u u feel she's the best u can get. u can do better. there are lots of decent girls out there. what u get in relationships is most likely what u get in marriage cos the ceremony doesn't change the personality. this advice will help u and those who read it for life.

me n qizkid fhucking the same hoes.
broke niggis always trynna impress a strange ho.
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th h.i.v everywhere
niggi stil doing raw

caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?

You were blinded by the fact that she looked like someone you used to know and the person must have been more decent for you to have considered dating another guy's lady.You can't judge her because you've indirectly done the same to her.Since,for some reason,you couldn't afford to be with the original babe,you settled for the next best 'Look-alike' and you're getting a like value for your trade .Honestly,if I'm in her shoes and I find that out,even if I had good intentions,I'll mess your heart up.
Now to your dilemma,you're obviously dating a child.You gave her the effrontery to stomp all over your heart when you agreed to date her knowing fully well she was already with someone.Just be on your way as you'll never have peace with her even if she leaves the current guy.

Why are you complicasing issues na...the gal need side action, why not chop and clean mouth like a G and thank ya stars for ya good fortune...it's a win win scenario na....why the complicate?

ikp120:
I can relate... I've never had an original gf in my whole life... Always an assistant bf... Chai! Uwa choro ikpu like seriously!

Onye ara

the beginning of boys and girlfriend is the beginning of sore. iranuuuu

Wowzerful! You guys are something else!


Pls take the majority of advice here, leave with your head and health intact. Things like this don't end well. Imagine if your contender has some bad azzzs affiliations that could hurt you or outrightly kill you? Is she worth that much to you? Most of all those fallen dudes you hear about have babes to thank for it. It is well.

[color=#006600][/color]dude break up with her already, u r interfering in another guy's relationship and karma doesn't forget

sweettease:

Choi! Girlfriend snatcher spotted

You are snatchable

Divay22:
Hmmmm....she likes the both of you equally,she doesn't wanna lose you she doesn't wanna lose him...my advice....
Tell her to list Wat she likes about you and what she dislikes about you,same thing she'll do for the other guy ,she can take a week off and shouldn't talk to any of you,Tell.her to be sincere with herself,Because she can't eat her cake and have it back......
Don't self pity her, be strict,After all this she should come to a conclusion of either dating you or the other guy,Don't let her tears move you,Tell her you can't afford to share her with anybody.........
She's confused,the both of you are equal before her,whatever that happens DON'T BE HER BACK UP PLAN.....

lol, the girl doesn't look like someone who would go through all that stress to decide which guy to keep, she wants both of them and once any of the outlive their usefulness to her, she dumps and replaces him. People of both genders do it a lot and I know just the kind of girl she is.

OP, you don't go into serious relationship wt such bae. She only needs your company and cassava.

Forget feelings and dont be bothered about her bringig up the othet guys matter...

almarthins:


Girl! It is nt easy especially when u r stuck on smbody

yea, I know, that's why I advise he leaves the relationship, one week of them dating was enough for her to know who to choose, she sounds immature and insecure, even if she chooses him which I doubt, it's gonna be from one drama to another

AlexCk:
....but op, she get bf nau,

Why did u even think of going after her, u sef,
Well, imagine say na u be the boy when dem dey cheat on like this, how u for feel??

Just forget it bruh,
If she can do this to her current bf, what makes u think she won't do this same thing she did with you, with another guy if u both start dating.

Oh well, hope everything works out fine for u bro, no1 is perfect tho.

By the last count for every guys ,I thought there is a sayings that goes as.....the birufu& good ones has bn taken. .listen to Joe Thomas ,Good girls....d u expect better girls ,if any,to b without bf?..lol..

TheMan001:


Now dat u have started reasoning like this... u want to stop using condom abi... dat is when u know u have used ur lyf to play nairabet... very big odd for that matter... e must cut...

I hope the op isn't that daft to place that bet sha

This your story is quiet similar to mine, let me hint you if the girl name is blessing kindly PM me

caukerzee:
Well it goes like this; I met this girl some months ago. I instantly had a liking for her reason being that she looked so much like an old friend. We got talking and as time went on, feelings began to set it. I made my intentions clear to her about wanting to date her and she was like "let's see how it goes". We hung out a couple of times, from the signs I was getting it became obvious that she was intrested in me.
One night we got chatting on whatsApp after we came back from an outing. I asked her: "hope you had fun today? " she replied: "yes. Thanks for making my day. It was generally a good day except that I'm having issues with my boyfriend ". ["Did I just hear boyfriend ?"; I said in my mind] Trying to play it cool I said: "Sorry about that". At this point I told many thoughts began to cross my mind. Not wanting to be a girlfriend snatcher I let it pass. We continued chatting. After a few convos she asked me: "Hope you're not hurt ?" "About?" (Pretending not to know what she was talking about ): I replied. "About the boyfriend stuff? "
"Nah...why should I?"
"But I have feelings for you and would have really like if we could work out I'm sorry ".
"Now I'm going to cry in my pillow for weeks (I said jokingly )".
"Lol. You're funny ".
"Do me a favour ".
"what ?"
"You're going to be responsible for getting me the second most beautiful and amazing girl now that I can not have you".
"Lol ".
Long story short, she began trying to convince me to give it a try. Telling me how her boyfriend stays outside town and how they only see once in a while. I let her know that I can't share my woman with another man, how I can't be the side guy. She kept insisting telling me to trust her. I still let her know that more than affection I need comitment and how it's impossible to be commited to two people and all the emotional baggage that comes with it (having witness a similar scenario ). She told me to pretend I didn't know about another man in her life. She kept insisting. I then asked: "If you have a boyfriend what that make me?"
"Boyfriend": she replied. We kept going back and forth about the scenario until I told her to forget it as I cannot be a "Backup plan". She claimed I did not care about her feelings.
The following evening her roommate called me asking me what I did to her friend and how she had been crying all evening. I felt bad and asked to meet so we could talk things over. I eventually agreed to date her giving her the following terms :
1. That she figures which of us she's going to continue with and a day will come when she has to decide or it's over.
2. That she never brings him up whenever we're together.
She was very happy and took the offer. Things got off to a great start. Time went on and we increasingly got fon of each other.
The first day we kissed, she told me she was feeling guilty. Trying not to be a drama queen, I reacted cooly. I just reminded her about our agreement of not bringing stuff like that up. She cries any time we have sextet and as time went on I made her feel comfortable about sex.
The relationship went on. We had fights, we reconciled every time like every other normal relationship.
A few days ago when she was supposed to leave town to her family for the Christmas, we had our goodbye sex and all that. We said our 'byes' and 'i miss you(s)' & parted ways. Latter that evening, she called me and was crying over the phone. I told her to calm down and tell me what the matter was. She told me that what she did with me earlier in the day, she did with the other guy. My heart shattred. I was so furious and didn't know what to say. I just ended the call. She kept calling and texting to apologise saying she won't bring him up again and that she needed someone to talk to at that point that's why she called. Ignored her for a while then I replied her; if she wants us to work out, she we have to meet up and talk about our relationship should be ideally. But she seems not to be able to make up her mind. I feel this is a typical case of trying to eat your cake and have it.
What do I do?