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My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 7:27pm On Jan 25, 2017
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by dingbang(m): 7:33pm On Jan 25, 2017
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by ojun50(m): 7:39pm On Jan 25, 2017
Were did u meet yr wife?

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by multikolour(m): 7:46pm On Jan 25, 2017
@ OP, which work do you do for a living?
which work do your wife do for a living?
who provide for the house the more?

I asked this question because from your narration you do most of the house chore, like washing her clothes, sweeping and bathing the baby.

you also agreed to cook the soup but you declined because you have forgotten how to, if not you will have.
from the look of things she control you and every thing in the house, sorry I don't know what to say to bring solution to your problem because you gave us little information.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by LecciGucci: 7:48pm On Jan 25, 2017
Hmm
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Martinez19(m): 7:48pm On Jan 25, 2017
I smell lies lipsrsealed

Na you marry your wife or na she marry you?

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by johnson232: 7:49pm On Jan 25, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.
Honestly u are a weak man

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Edwinmason(m): 7:50pm On Jan 25, 2017
dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!
you have spoken the mind of the elders

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by femolacqua(m): 7:55pm On Jan 25, 2017
dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!
Man ur talk is on point.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by BrownCookie(f): 7:57pm On Jan 25, 2017
What kinda work does she do that you will be the one who wakes up by 5am to do chores?

Does she make the bulk of the income?

I mean, you can help out but this is getting a little too much ie if you are telling the truth in its entirety.

U really need to man up @ poster.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by delishpot: 8:03pm On Jan 25, 2017
You don marry hitler. Take note it's not because you help her, it is because she is a nasty somebody generally. If she no wahala you for house work, she go wahala you for money or material things. So it is just in her nature. Pkele, where is that other girl you dumped to marry your wife? grin grin grin (just kidding)
Bia Op, what does she do? Let me ask you that one first. If she is a house wife,
Eh, call meeting between two of you and make out new timetable. She is testing her limit . If she refuses to see reason with you (assuming your story is true o)
Do this one thing, when next she does it, go out and buy food, bring it home, eat it all and don't give her. Then wake up and leave the chores undone. When you return, from work, buy take away food, eat and then play with baby. When time to sleep reach, sleep and don't stress yourself about her.

Tell us what she does ie career, is she sick, did she just put to birth without any support except you? so that we can look at the later well o.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by lilmax(m): 8:10pm On Jan 25, 2017
divorce is the way my brother

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 8:22pm On Jan 25, 2017
johnson232 post:
Honestly u are a weak man.


Bros, don't judge me like that; am just following d bible that the woman is a help Meet. I do alway this so that she will b happy and not grow old quickly and i love her.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 9:05pm On Jan 25, 2017
multikolour post=: OP, which work do you do for a living?
which work do your wife do for a living?
who provide for the house the more?

I asked this question because from your narration you do most of the house chore, like washing her clothes, sweeping and bathing the baby.

you also agreed to cook the soup but you declined because you have forgotten how to, if not you will have.
from the look of things she control you and every thing in the house, sorry I don't know what to say to bring solution to your problem because you gave us little information.




I am a Civil servant but she is not working thou she has a Masters Degree.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 9:08pm On Jan 25, 2017
Martinez19 post: I smell lies lipsrsealed

Na you marry your wife or na she marry you?



Guy why shld i lie what will it bring to me. I am not lying.
I knw u can advise me, pls do. Thanks.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 9:10pm On Jan 25, 2017
BrownCookie post:What kinda work does she do that you will be the one who wakes up by 5am to do shores?

Does she make the bulk of the income?

I mean, you can help out but this is getting a little too much ie if you are telling the truth in its entirety.

U really need to man up @ poster.


Thank u Sir. She is not working; and i am a Civil Servant.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 9:14pm On Jan 25, 2017
delishpot post:You don marry hitler. Take note it's not because you help her, it is because she is a nasty somebody generally. If she no wahala you for house work, she go wahala you for money or material things. So it is just in her nature. Pkele, where is that other girl you dumped to marry your wife? grin grin grin (just kidding)
Bia Op, what does she do? Let me ask you that one first. If she is a house wife,
Eh, call meeting between two of you and make out new timetable. She is testing her limit . If she refuses to see reason with you (assuming your story is true o)
Do this one thing, when next she does it, go out and buy food, bring it home, eat it all and don't give her. Then wake up and leave the chores undone. When you return, from work, buy take away food, eat and then play with baby. When time to sleep reach, sleep and don't stress yourself about her.

Tell us what she does ie career, is she sick, did she just put to birth without any support except you? so that we can look at the later well o.




Thanks for the advise. Our baby is 5months old. She is not working and i am a Civil servant.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Martinez19(m): 9:15pm On Jan 25, 2017
Flyingngel:
Martinez19 post: I smell lies lipsrsealed

Na you marry your wife or na she marry you?



Guy why shld i lie what will it bring to me. I am not lying.
I knw u can advise me, pls do. Thanks.
if what you are saying is the truth, then this is what you are going to do:

1) say enough is enough.
2) have a talk with your wife that there should be a change in the house and she take up her roles as a wife.
3) if she refuses or argue, send her packing. Life is too short to worry unnecessarily. If you get high BP, will anyone suffer it with you? Your wife will probably remarry after you die.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by delishpot: 9:25pm On Jan 25, 2017
Flyingngel:
delishpot post:You don marry hitler. Take note it's not because you help her, it is because she is a nasty somebody generally. If she no wahala you for house work, she go wahala you for money or material things. So it is just in her nature. Pkele, where is that other girl you dumped to marry your wife? grin grin grin (just kidding)
Bia Op, what does she do? Let me ask you that one first. If she is a house wife,
Eh, call meeting between two of you and make out new timetable. She is testing her limit . If she refuses to see reason with you (assuming your story is true o)
Do this one thing, when next she does it, go out and buy food, bring it home, eat it all and don't give her. Then wake up and leave the chores undone. When you return, from work, buy take away food, eat and then play with baby. When time to sleep reach, sleep and don't stress yourself about her.

Tell us what she does ie career, is she sick, did she just put to birth without any support except you? so that we can look at the later well o.




Thanks for the advise. Our baby is 5months old. She is not working and i am a Civil servant.

Hmn, she is quite cranky. Maybe postpartum depression is setting in. Have a heart to heart chat with her. She will change. I believe she will. You are quite a good man helping and supporting her. Oya. Go and chat with her about the incident and then, make new time table. While at it, try to understand with her if she skips some things but she should also not expect you to do everything too.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by frostylook: 9:54pm On Jan 25, 2017
Madam is testing your limit to see how far she can go. Stamp your foot down now that it's still early. Tell her you won't tolerate that nonsense next time and mean it.
If you allow her to get away with this behaviour, you will soon become her full time houseboy and ATM machine. Next time she tries that stunt, don't bother eating her food for a week, let her cook and eat alone or stay hungry to make her silly point. Eat out and ignore her. If that doesn't tighten the nuts in her head, stop dropping food money.
Hian!! Imagine starving the man of the house unto agaracha levels? For what? After being the only one hustling and providing, you will come home to cook for her(a housewife) on top to show what a good man you are? Who married who? Keep saying you are weak and you will soon find yourself as a victim of domestic abuse.
It's all in your hands to step up. Na only talk I fit talk from here.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jan 25, 2017
Don't help her again

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by BrownCookie(f): 11:12pm On Jan 25, 2017
Flyingngel:
BrownCookie post:What kinda work does she do that you will be the one who wakes up by 5am to do shores?

Does she make the bulk of the income?

I mean, you can help out but this is getting a little too much ie if you are telling the truth in its entirety.

U really need to man up @ poster.


Thank u Sir. She is not working; and i am a Civil Servant.


I am a lady please.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by krauss: 11:30pm On Jan 25, 2017
Finally, I can now agree that some people can go any length to fabricate stories here on nairaland, but my question is, why do that? smh disappointed.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by pocohantas(f): 1:52am On Jan 26, 2017
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Fortissimo502: 3:51am On Jan 26, 2017
lilmax:
divorce is the way my brother

Something dey worry you.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Fortissimo502: 4:01am On Jan 26, 2017
I smell big, fat, filthy lies.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 5:37am On Jan 26, 2017
frostylook post:Madam is testing your limit to see how far she can go. Stamp your foot down now that it's still early. Tell her you won't tolerate that nonsense next time and mean it.
If you allow her to get away with this behaviour, you will soon become her full time houseboy and ATM machine. Next time she tries that stunt, don't bother eating her food for a week, let her cook and eat alone or stay hungry to make her silly point. Eat out and ignore her. If that doesn't tighten the nuts in her head, stop dropping food money.
Hian!! Imagine starving the man of the house unto agaracha levels? For what? After being the only one hustling and providing, you will come home to cook for her(a housewife) on top to show what a good man you are? Who married who? Keep saying you are weak and you will soon find yourself as a victim of domestic abuse.
It's all in your hands to step up. Na only talk I fit talk from here.



Thanks very much.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 5:42am On Jan 26, 2017
krauss post:Finally, I can now agree that some people can go any length to fabricate stories here on nairaland, but my question is, why do that? smh disappointed.



Well i knw it is hard for u to believe bearing in mind hw fake stories are posted here but i won't force u. I pray u marry someone that will worship u if atall u r not married.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 5:46am On Jan 26, 2017
pocohantas post:As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... [b] Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. [b]She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.



It is not. Marriage as i have seen this few months is totally different frm boy/girl friend own. She is good in other aspect but stubborness is deposited in her full circle.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by SirAweezy(m): 6:54am On Jan 26, 2017
This is unbelievable! whattttttt? Ooooh see as this guy dey make me dey vex sef... haaaaa for reallll you do took this shiit and call it loveeee?

I am even lost for words, I dey vex angry
Man remember you are the driver of the home... you are obviously sleeping on the steering. Please man up abeg... you have taken this bull shiit too far. With time your wife will be looking at you as a weakling and she might go out to be with the man with Authority.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Richy4(m): 7:13am On Jan 26, 2017
johnson232:

Honestly u are a weak man

NO...I do not think he is a weak man.... He is a married man.. There's a huge difference between marriage and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships which I believe you did not know based on your statement....If he doesn't help around the house who would..The wife is a nursing mother that requires help only that she was capitalizing on his goodness..

@ Op just help the best way that you can.. and any day or time u do not feel like it... just hit the ignore button....When some of them wants to pick a fight, that's how it starts...I remembered cooking for my Ex once...she said she loved it...The next time she came to my place she sweetly asked me to cook again and I did...when she asked for the third time... I did but with an extra 4 spoons of salt and a lot of grandnut oil surrounding the whole soup......We ended up ordering Pizza that night.....Through out our relationship, she never asked again....
If you wanna squash the cooking drama, maybe you might just borrow/ learn from what i did...Cook it all wrong once or twice without being asked some times...Next time she will not bother you again...

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 7:28am On Jan 26, 2017
Richy4 post:

NO...I do not think he is a weak man.... He is a married man.. There's a huge difference between marriage and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships which I believe you did not know based on your statement....If he doesn't help around the house who would..The wife is a nursing mother that requires help only that she was capitalizing on his goodness..

@ Op just help the best way that you can.. and any day or time u do not feel like it... just hit the ignore button....When some of them wants to pick a fight, that's how it starts...I remembered cooking for my Ex once...she said she loved it...The next time she came to my place she sweetly asked me to cook again and I did...when she asked for the third time... I did but with an extra 4 spoons of salt and a lot of grandnut oil surrounding the whole soup......We ended up ordering Pizza that night.....Through out our relationship, she never asked again....
If you wanna squash the cooking drama, maybe you might just borrow/ learn from what i did...Cook it all wrong once or twice without being asked some times...Next time she will not bother you again...




Thank u very much. I will definitely put that in motion . I am happy u really understand how marriage works.

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