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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by lodphil(m): 9:08am On Feb 12, 2017 |
But will you expect him to stick with you and marry you when he gets back to his feet without ur help,especially when you know u didn't help him when he needed it,and u had d means. 11 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by bidexcares4u(m): 9:20am On Feb 12, 2017 |
There is love in sharing.. He didn't ask but u wants to assist so go ahead,what will be in life will be,u might be together and might not in life 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Truesapiosexual(f): 9:43am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Help if it's not going to strain your pocket and do so without expecting anything in return, if he stays cool nd if he leaves such is life no hard feelings 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by elexjojo745(m): 9:49am On Feb 12, 2017 |
MrDandy: Shame on you 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by CHARLOE(m): 10:03am On Feb 12, 2017 |
McFabian07:Why all these long story cos a girl wants to help her bf with some money as if he wants to borrow money from bank? If its d other way round, would u advice d guy to do same b4 giving his Gf money? Smh @ Hypocritical & selfish naija girls 15 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:04am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Our relationship was normal, we had no issues, he is down to heart and a contented guy to the best of my knowledge.. olac21: |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:05am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Well he dint ask for it, I just feel I should do so ifex370: 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:06am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Is it the long distance that is an error or helping him? MrDandy: |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:07am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Well I am quite new here, its in my plans if its going to be possible waleyp: 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by mcnewz814: 10:09am On Feb 12, 2017 |
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:10am On Feb 12, 2017 |
what bothers me is not about us ending up together or not, I am bothered cos it might look or sound as if I am enticing him with money, people misconstrue kind gestures at times, I have seen where ladies help their men and the man dumps the lady then the elderly people would say she was using money to buy love. If I make any sense, I want him to love me for me not cos of what I can do or what he stands to gain. Berbierklaus: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 10:11am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Well its been like that since the time of our forefathers ![]() ![]() ![]() jejemanito: 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 10:14am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk:Does he talk about marriage? 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by bitchcrafts: 10:14am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk:dump your fears, clear your head, weigh yo chances and do whatever feels right. Yolo! 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 10:19am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk: For you to think like this means the closeness is not even there. If both of you are really in a relationship and committed to each other, you won't come here seeking for advice. First of all, work on your relationship. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 10:23am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk:Give him a loan with interest. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by futurewise11(m): 10:23am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk: I'm guessing you are on tourist visa or student visa...in both you also still need help in Germany. Help him and forget what ever he thinks. We all need help but unemployed peeps in naija need God's grace to survive.Care more about reward from above...You said he's a down to earth and rational thinking guy, I dont think he will reason along that line of desperation for marriage or u are using money to lure him. If you are on tourist/ visit, u also need to regularize your status here(Aduro/asylum or kids route), If you are om student status, things are changing in Germany, you might also need help in the future here. God bless you as you help him. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by do4luv14(m): 11:16am On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk: hmmm, from ur post it shows hhou love him, but den are you thinking of doing it for love or you jst wanna help him, anytin ma dear , work with a free mind, help him for being a friend in need, NT cos it are in love wit him, or else do it for love |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 11:30am On Feb 12, 2017 |
Yes he does and his plan is for us to get married before the end of the year ToriBlue: |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 11:54am On Feb 12, 2017 |
If you were in the same position what would you expect from him? This is the issue with modern women. You think about what others might think , the views and opinions that do not really enrich your life. Think about the long term, that's what forward thinking is. Where do you want it be with this man? If this relationship has no solid foundation then it will not survive. The chances of getting a job are rather slim with how things are here that's a reality you both have to face. Sending money is a short term solution what happens then? If you guys are serious about setting down then maybe joining you so that he can also support himself and you is the better long term goal. If you are going to help him , help with no strings attached, I mean help because you want to not because you have to. If he can join you don't be be like the many woman who hold that action over the heads of the men they are in relationships with. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 12:15pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk:You could help him and he marry you, you guys live happily ever after or you could help him and tomorrow he dump you for another random girl. Its your choice. Follow your heart! 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 12:16pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
Raine80:Women help alright but men end up leaving them for another lady, yes they do that often. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Odunharry(m): 12:35pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
jejemanito:Imagine.. Only in this part of the world many ladies wilk think n think before helping someone they claim to love. whereas, guys don't evn see it as a big deal doing more for them. 12 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 12:46pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
Well most cases ladies tend to chill with a man that spends on them and its usually the other way round when a lady gives a man, and to set the records straight when he was working and had good pay i have never asked him for money. All my point is would he still love me for me and not love me so many cases I have seen men end up dumping a girl that was financially supportive to them, I dont know why... May be the men here can shed some light on it Odunharry: |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Odunharry(m): 1:06pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
esthertk:The same way ladies dump men irrespective of the fact he spends or not. Don't tell me he's Never given you anytime from the time u met till now. You're really worried and truth be told, it's best you don't help him cos it doesn't seem to come from your heart. Help him if you want to, but mind you, give what you think evn if you lose, you won't be worried. To your question, people's needs differ and can't speak for all guys. can i leave a good woman if i find her? Hell No. 8 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by fergieboy: 1:26pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
You are a very good girl.. Most girls I know traveled out and dump their bfs 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by sben2308(m): 1:42pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
olac21: Instead tell him ur aunt knows a money lender n u will suggest if he can go to her. That way d money is secure for payment . Just my opinion |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 1:50pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
A Mature minded man sees the value in a helpmate than a playmate 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by NLSniper(m): 1:53pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
Oliviaxx:Doing what there? Come inside the house. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by CHARLOE(m): 2:00pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
Odunharry:Abi o! Some will even train their girls thru school only for d babes to dump d guys after graduation 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Escabado: 2:06pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
Feel free to help him 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Odunharry(m): 2:09pm On Feb 12, 2017 |
CHARLOE:Train thru school ke? |
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