pocohantas:

I can't make any sense from this, care to explain better?

all he meant was that; d girl is already fucking else where and distance is the cause, he also meant girls are prone to distance and cannot keep their kpekus for long, and lastly that he is married. so op should nt put his hope on that pussy again.

JustinSlayer69:


Sorry Mophasa.... but this guy is 100% right.

Worst thing you can do is start pleading to her / reasoning with her. It would make you look like a weakling; a beta male.

Show indifference to the breakup and try to distract yourself with lady-friends where you live.

One day, she might/ might not realize her folly. But i am almost sure she's banging another guy and she prefers him to you, SORRY.

All she's doing now is finding filmsy excuses. THE MOST EFFECTIVE WEAPON you can use now is INDIFFERENCE, mark my words.

Delete her numbers and images from around you so as not think too much about her

wow! Bro u understand this relationship thingy pass me sef... I carry weight for u brother

Mophasa:
Please guys I need your advice and suggestions please.
There is this girl I have been dating for over a year now, I love her so much and intend to marry her soon. I think she loves me too.

She's currently doing her Nysc in cross river while I am in the north. We haven't seen each other since last November though we always chatting and talking on phone like everyday. We have been so cool over the past few weeks and we arranged for her to come see me this week, Thursday to be precise. I even sent her 10k for transportation.

Now after we talked last night and she agreed to come on Thursday, she called me early this morning around 6am only to tell me there was a problem, when I asked her what it was, she told me despite the fact she loves me so much and wants to be with me, she's breaking up with me because she doesn't want to be having sex anymore, that she's not okay with her spiritual life.

I was devastated and all my efforts to try talk sense into her has been in futility! Now the problem am having is that this girl happens to be the only woman in my life, for over a year we, ve been together I have not cheated on her despite the distance. I love her so much and I have always wanted to end up with her. I always did everything possible to make her happy and I, ve never hurt her before.

Please guys I don't want to lose her, what do I do.


From a heartbroken Nairalander

LOL....so after she collected your 10k for transport, she suddenly realized she's born again ko?

Please, tell her to return your money to prove she's truly born again. Girls will just be practicing advance fee fraud and using God to cover it

Bia,did she return the money

I guess not

pocohantas:

She knows OP more than we do. The guy too done tire for her matter, no be today we start to see this kind thread for NL.

Oya ooo. You were quick to write off the OP.

Read.

Mophasa:


I truly love her and wouldn't mind staying with her without sex, I even told her but she wouldn't have none of it.
Claiming there is no Way we could be together without having sex.
Am actually ready to do anything just to be with her,

My own ish isn't the sex in a relationship thing. It's how she went about it that's the issue, when she knows the guy is really into her.

There are people in no-sex relationship who get married, as there are people in sex-or-no-deal relationship who get married.

She has thrown the OP under a bus. And it sucks big time. But well, sh*t happens.

-Lord

Guy go to Calabar Period

If you really love her that much, put a ring on her finger at the alter, period.

safarigirl:
LOL....so after she collected your 10k for transport, she suddenly realized she's born again ko?

Please, tell her to return your money to prove she's truly born again. Girls will just be practicing advance fee fraud and using God to cover it

yes, i like it when safarigirl talk like this. she does nt take side with jesus women.

LordAdam16:


None of your friends advise you wen you dey invest so much on top no-sex relationship? Chai kpele!

My own philosophy is that if there's no sex because it's marriage exclusive, then financial and several other things should be marriage exclusives as well.

***

But if you fall in love with some other guy tomorrow, you'll be more careful. Admittedly, some people go all the way with being careful to not caring at all. I wouldn't blame them and I wouldn't judge them. We are a sum total of our experiences one way or the other.

Ladies don't do a favor to guys wen they have sex before marriage. Many ladies do it because they like it. It's innate.

There are times when I agree that ladies are unfairly targeted in this pre-marital sex thingy, like there's a max number of guys a girl can have sex with or a max girth size a girl should take in before marriage. But this is not one of those instances.

I haven't ever being in a relationship, can't and won't give my feelings to anyone who can't be trusted with her own feelings. But I empathize with the OP, having someone change her mind on a whim without doing what is fair sucks. Unfortunately, both genders are fond of this. This is not a gender issue, it is a case-by-case issue.

-Lord

Is it sex that binds a relationship? You make it seem like you can't spend on someone you are not having sex with, sounds like you're paying for the sex.
People make up all sorts to paint another in a bad light, but if this story is true, her break-up pattern is wrong. I feel she knows OP better and there's more to this story. I am surprised guys are not saying their usual 'let's hear the other side of the story'.

When I said I don't do sex in my relationships, not because I am religious or traditional but I like to explore other aspects of a relationship. His friends told him that it's scam. Same way they're telling OP it's a scam now.

She doesn't want sex anymore, they can see and talk it over. I am sure she'll come around. A lady can't keep on fucking every guy she dates to prove she is real...then same guy would turn around to judge her? That's hypocritical.
Does fucking OP guarantee he would marry her? NO.
It's her choice then to choose who Bleep.

Mophasa:
Please guys I need your advice and suggestions please.
There is this girl I have been dating for over a year now, I love her so much and intend to marry her soon. I think she loves me too.


Now after we talked last night and she agreed to come on Thursday, she called me early this morning around 6am only to tell me there was a problem, when I asked her what it was, she told me despite the fact she loves me so much and wants to be with me, she's breaking up with me because she doesn't want to be having sex anymore, that she's not okay with her spiritual life.


Please guys I don't want to lose her, what do I do.


From a heartbroken Nairalander

if you really want to know if she just wants to break up with you or she has seen the light,
Travel to Cross Rivers, take a ring and propose to her. promise to take an oath of celibacy with her. Her response will let you know whether she has a new boo or she is born-again

LordAdam16:


Oya ooo. You were quick to write off the OP.

Read.



My own ish isn't the sex in a relationship thing. It's how she went about it that's the issue, when she knows the guy is really into her.

There are people in no-sex relationship who get married, as there are people in sex-or-no-deal relationship who get married.

She has thrown the OP under a bus. And it sucks big time. But well, sh*t happens.

-Lord

lol, you remind me of my ex when u use the word shit happens. same shit she told me when leaving me, but all d same, am strong n fucking over it. shitz really happen.

pryme:
Her excuse is crap for breaking up the relationship.
if that she told you wants to be in a no sex relationship that would be a different thing, But the Op did not mention that.
Sorry Op your gal has lived a live of fuckery, it's unfortunate is your turn she come get sense.

Just forget her and move on with life.

Don't be surprise to hear she got pregnant for some dude she is not married to some years later

*speakingfromexperince*

Nice post from u, I guess she just got tired fucking the guy's dick and wants to move on because to me that excuse is just to flimsy

Another guy might still be by the corner urging her to quit so that he can move in. Women re so irrational and very few of them know Wat they really want.....

She might still eventually go back to the op by the time she discovers that the grass is obviously not greener on the other side of the divide....It is even funnier that she all of all sudden realizes the need to be born again after collecting ur 10k for T. P...

freecocoa:
Oh dear! If she said this then my friend, she's with someone else.

Duh. From the get go na.

pocohantas:

Is it sex that binds a relationship? You make it seem like you can't spend on someone you are not having sex with, sounds like you're paying for the sex.
People make up all sorts to paint another in a bad light, but if this story is true, her break-up pattern is wrong. I feel she knows OP better and there's more to this story. I am surprised guys are not saying their usual 'let's hear the other side of the story'.

When I said I don't do sex in my relationships, not because I am religious or traditional but I like to explore other aspects of a relationship. His friends told him that it's scam. Same way they're telling OP it's a scam now.

She doesn't want sex anymore, they can see and talk it over. I am sure she'll come around. A lady can't keep on fucking every guy she dates to prove she is real...then same guy would turn around to judge her? That's hypocritical.
Does fucking OP guarantee he would marry her? NO.
It's her choice then to choose who Bleep.

It's not money that binds relationships, but relationships where none of the partners spend on the other is non-existent in Nigeria.

Oh and you can explore other aspects of a relationship while having sex too.

The OP called the girl his Fiancee (it's in the thread title, just caught that).

Also the girl blew up the one chance to actually see and talk it over by calling for a breakup straight up.

We'd definitely have to hear from her to know the full picture, but the comments are based on the information currently available. There have been repeated calls for the OP to reason with her. So only a few people are condemning her outright. But from the narrative, this reeks like the classic "excuse" when one party is tired of the relationship.

-Lord

LordAdam16:


Oya ooo. You were quick to write off the OP.

Read.



My own ish isn't the sex in a relationship thing. It's how she went about it that's the issue, when she knows the guy is really into her.

There are people in no-sex relationship who get married, as there are people in sex-or-no-deal relationship who get married.

She has thrown the OP under a bus. And it sucks big time. But well, sh*t happens.

-Lord

That sex-relationship comment wasn't really directed at the OP but posters who are very aggrieved that a sister is hoarding the t*** .
It goes beyond OP telling her they won't Bleep, because she knows it's a lie, based on how they have been.

He has to make some kind of commitment, since she is going religious...he should put a ring on it, simple!

BoboYekini:
Duh. From the get go na.

Like a girl can't decide not to have sex no more? Don't be silly jor.

zimunachimdi:
it was just a joke,see the lol there.
wishing op the best in convincing his love.

I know I was also joking too

rosalieene:

what is wrong with this one
are you that dumb to notice that I was been sarcastic

There ain't an iota of sarcasm in that comment.

If you were indeed trying to sound sarcastic, never try it again..you are obviously very poor at it.

I don't think she really loves you, but if she does; it means there is someone she just met now and may be the person wants marriage and she loves that person more than she loves you, so for that she has to give you this excuse thinking that you cannot do without sex. If you really loves her, try talking to her to let her know that you are with what she said, but if she persists, telling you that there is no how the relationship can continue wihtout sex, then please let her go, there is somebody in line.

joey150:


There ain't an iota of sarcasm in that comment.

If you were indeed trying to sound sarcastic, never try it again..you are obviously very poor at it.

gerrout abeg!

don't quote me again.

I have better things doing than replying you.

kennygee:
She just got born again and has decided she's not about that fornicating life anymore.

She can't force you to be in the same spiritual level as she is and it won't be fair for her to remain in the relationship denying you sex if you are not ready to come on board the Christian relationship.

Move on with your life to another female who is about the fornicating life.

It sure pays to know Jesus.

. But is she truly born again ?

LordAdam16:

It's not money that binds relationships, but relationships where none of the partners spend on the other is non-existent in Nigeria.
Oh and you can explore other aspects of a relationship while having sex too.
The OP called the girl his Fiancee (it's in the thread title, just caught that).

Also the girl blew up the one chance to actually see and talk it over by calling for a breakup straight up.

We'd definitely have to hear from her to know the full picture, but the comments are based on the information currently available. There have been repeated calls for the OP to reason with her. So only a few people are condemning her outright. But from the narrative, this reeks like the classic "excuse" when one party is tired of the relationship.

-Lord

I prefer to explore it without sex, pays in this judgemental patriarchal society.
She is his fiancee, he should make her his wife. Maybe she is trying to make him marry her faster.
He should go meet her, I definitely won't travel down from Calabar to go meet him in the North because I wanna break up. If he needs me to explain, he would have to come down to me.

If she is tired, life goes on.
People get tired of the other everyday, it's not a must they stay together. She was nice enough to give an excuse, what of the ones that leave you hanging? Or those ones that keep stringing you along?

The girl love u but she has given her life to Christ. so guy, if u love her and want to marry her, just accept and respect her on her decision. if u knw u truly love her. But u don't go ahead with your worldly and unrepented life.

pocohantas:

That sex-relationship comment wasn't really directed at the OP but posters who are very aggrieved that a sister is hoarding the t*** .
It goes beyond OP telling her they won't Bleep, because she knows it's a lie, based on how they have been.

He has to make some kind of commitment, since she is going religious...he should put a ring on it, simple!

Now I'm getting lost and def going into ghost mode.

What happens to the option of break up when the OP does not keep to his words?

She's breaking up because of sex, not because the guy ain't serious. Unless this is a sick ploy to get the guy to fix a wedding date (it backfires most times, because then d guy can treat her like sh*t in the marriage and use the "u rushed me into this" excuse).

Anyway, I'm done with this issue. I've heard enough to know the girl is being insincere with this break up. I've not heard enough to say that the guy is holding on solely for sex. Really? Breakups are hard and all that, but sex is f*king cheap and overrated too.

The OP clearly already knows what line of action to take.

-Lord

freecocoa:
Like a girl can't decide not to have sex no more? Don't be silly jor.

Of course she can. It's your prerogative. But expect to be second(third/fourth) choice for that interlude.


Op, I like to think of women as cars. Na as your money reach your ride go tight. If your maintenance/security isn't right, the experience will break down or she gon get stolen.
You don't see my Corolla telling me how hard not to drive her. Still, I have fond memories of all my cars and I don't take a break down personally. On to the next.

rosalieene:

gerrout abeg!

don't quote me again.

I have better things doing than replying you.

Typical example of arrogant and egotistic people.

They dont own up to their mistakes..quick to lash out at others. Lack the basics sense of reasoning.

I dont know you..infact I'll hate to know somebody like you. But you have some real attitude problem and obviously grammatical problems too . try and get that fixed ok!

Let that better thing you have to do be learning proper use of English expressions as well as behaving polite.. So obviously dont reply me.

THIS POST/ TOPIC MADE MY DAY.... HAHAHAHA... Calabar guys r so endowed down stairs. She has gotten the real deal... lol

Does fucking OP guarantee he would marry her? NO.
It's her choice then to choose who Bleep.
[ what d Bleep? this fucking Bleep thing is getting bleeped up i swear down. sweet heart no offence, pls what other area do u like xploring in a relationship? one might be thinking masturbation if nt open, well i shouldnt be the judge.

ZarZar:


I'm not a man lol. Don't worry though. Karma has a way of teaching these kind of people a valuable lesson. They end up with the trash they deserve. Please, don't take her back when she comes back crawling after being

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You just hit the nail on the head. Nice one

Mophasa:


It's not like she got born again or something, fornication is not the only sin in life and all sins are equal before God.
She still does other stuff too and it's not like I met her a virgin.

Oh i gat it, fornication is not the only sin but it's the only sin that have a caution sign 'flee away'. why because with just one stone ,fornication can kill three birds which include, abortion, infection and finally death. You never met her a virgin will not warrant u to condemn her.Move on!!!

blont:

Does fucking OP guarantee he would marry her? NO.
It's her choice then to choose who Bleep.
[ what d Bleep? this fucking Bleep thing is getting bleeped up i swear down. sweet heart no offence, pls what other area do u like xploring in a relationship? one might be thinking masturbation if nt open, well i shouldnt be the judge.

Masturbation is an area to explore in a relationship?
I will be masturbating together with my guy, does this make sense to you?

Vikky014:
well the truth is dt d girl is no longer interested. i will just advice u to remain single for sme mnths. severe all means of communication wt her. cry alone if u can. then move on u will find sme1 better. since she is nt a virgin i dnt think i can rlate

Hi.. I'm a virgin.. Can we be friends...?