greatnaija01:
If sex is what is so important to you in a relationship then YOU NEED JESUS because you are cheating on HIM.

Since when did sex become LOVE...ehn... biko tell me... who sex epp? rather it weakens you. it is good only when it is right and thats MARRIAGE...

this generation has its values warped... It seems you do not know that LIFE IS SPIRITUAL... will sex protect you from witches n wizards??

this is sad but bros you are not even thanking God that she is becoming a wife material by taking her spiritual life seriously... she will meet more responsible guys WHO CAN WAIT till marriage... then your eyes will clear!!!

bros you gatta know that LIFE IS MORE THAN SEX. if she is the only woman for you then MARRY.... else you are not responsible enough for her.

anyone who thinks dating or relationship is an excuse for sex is not ok at all. LOVE is sacrifice not feelings.... 10 year later the feelings or horniness will die... but its the sacrifices you have both been thru that will keep you.

THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP SUCH A GIRL IS TO MARRY HER.... and i advice you that if you are not ready to change your values and upgrade spiritually do not bother.

Even you that is always looking for women to bleep on this nairaland now have mouth to talk!

Always opening threads looking for females to shag.

Your hypocrisy is oozing, I can perceive it here.
May God forgive you.

Pally...the bottom line is...if she is your missing rib..she won't go and if she does...she will come back..but if she is not...let her go...ur missing rib will come ur way with easy...and u will appreciate it...women are VERY complicated..they will give u one mumu reason whenever they wanna breakup..why didn't she inform you about the breakup before she got the alert...

greatnaija01:
you do not know the definition of hypocrisy... here you are a christian who goes to church sometimes.... but can only post a thread whose main topic is about the fear of being deprived of SEX.... you get mouth sha... but if you do not adjust your lifestyle... SHE WILL LEAVE and you will not get a better girl than her.

SO GROW up and stop looking for sympathy.

After opening threads looking for females to bleep, you still get mouth to talk.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Bloody hypocrite

FaroukM:
Pally...the bottom line is...if she is your missing rib..she won't go and if she does...she will come back..but if she is not...let her go...ur missing rib will come ur way with easy...and u will appreciate it...women are VERY complicated..they will give u one mumu reason whenever they wanna breakup..why didn't she inform you about the breakup before she got the alert...

Thanks man, gotcha

Mophasa:


I truly love her and wouldn't mind staying with her without sex, I even told her but she wouldn't have none of it.
Claiming there is no Way we could be together without having sex.
Am actually ready to do anything just to be with her,

i cant love a gal wey blood dey comot from her smeling toto every 28 days.

Mophasa:


It's not all about the sex, we barely even see each other. It's not like am a sex freak,
I can actually stay with her without sex.
You sound so judgemental and hypocritical.

so woman toto dey sweet u? God forbid

kennygee:


Born again people don't fornicate. Read your bible.

If you know any that claims to be born again AMD is fornicating, that person is a liar.

No true Christian will fornicate.

Gob bless you.

Do born again people lie, do they steal or sin generally or not? From my experience they do. I know also from experience that people who are born again fornicate. They do. Indeed even Pastors fornicate. Far be it from me to accuse or judge anyone but do you know that Jimmy swaggert, Ted Haggard and many others fell prey to the sin of Adultery? Even your Bible recognises that Christians sin. It might be that fornication is the one that gets your hackles up but the fact is Christians, I mean true Christians fornicate and masturbate.

kuchikau1:
so woman toto dey sweet u? God forbid

You sound gay!

Are you one?

2sa2:
She has another boyfriend, this is just her way of breaking up with you. Girls never value faithful guys.

brother I swear you smart die

2sa2:
She has another boyfriend, this is just her way of breaking up with you. Girls never value faithful guys.

And Ladies and gentlemen, finally, my patience paid off. I've been patiently scrolling down, hoping to c the only truthful and experienced comment and now, behold NLder, the wise one has spoken. Take heed and be wise, I say again.

dyydxx:


This is pure rubbish. Fornication doesn't mean or include pre-marital sex. there is no Law against pre-marital sex....besides even if they were, pre-marital sex won't stop you from getting to heaven....if it were so, all people before Christ would surely be in hell now.

The lady is just confused and her supposed spirituality will destroy her life has it leads her to so called 'spiritual' men that will now show her how spiritual the world really is...such a pity

Fornication is specifically PREMARITAL SEX. Before marriage
Adultery is POST MARITAL sexual affair. During marriage.

[1 Corinthians 6:9] [1 Cor 6:18] First
Corinthians and the Epistle to the Galatians also
address fornication.[Galatians 5:19]
[1 Corinthians 7:2]

She exists "after Christ" so this law applies to her.
The above verrses clearly states that "Fornicators will not enter heaven"

You're the one that is confused. You're twisting biblical scriptures to justify your point.

There is warning at the end of revelation for people like you.

clems88:
you again do you want me to invite those guys that finished you in the other thread the other day

So what she said is a lie??

falconey:


Does it matter if the guy shows vehement seriously in settling down with you like the op did?. do you really assimilate the story quite well? both are in different states and have been dating for over a year, that doesn't sound like they'd have coitus_ a lot considering the aforementioned factors.

completely eradicating sex in a formerly sex relationship isn't quite easy and it doesn't seem she wants to work it out if she could postulate they end it like that. I presume she wants out already and sex is an excuse.

So she should partially eliminate sex? Like after making a vow to God, she should be having part-time sex? I am not understanding.

freecocoa:
Maybe it's a phase cos I remember a time I felt same way about sex, but mine wasn't about spirituality or whatever, just had a conversation with myself and decided I wanted to try celibacy, especially since sex wasn't doing any thing for my life nor relationship then.

Who knows, your girl might just be telling the truth or she doesn't love you anymore or she's seeing someone else. It's left for you to figure out which it is.

A comment written fro experience. So how did that phase go for you? Was it for a religious cleansing, spiritual cleansing, psychological or physical cleansing?

Did you get the results you were hoping for?

Mophasa:


It's not like she got born again or something, fornication is not the only sin in life and all sins are equal before God.
She still does other stuff too and it's not like I met her a virgin.

But sexual immorality is different from other sins because all other sins are done outside of the body but sexual immorality is a sin you commit against your body. It makes you one with the adulterer and it destroys and mars the temple of God which is supposed to be your body.That's why Paul said you should flee from it. Let that sink in a bit. The same Paul who said fight the good fight of faith and resist the devil is the same one that said when it comes to sexual immorality just RUN! That should show you the severity of this offense.

LordAdam16:




Funny you.

But madam reason am na.

He is in the North, they've not been together since November (3 months), they've been having good communication for several weeks now, at no point during this time did she say anything about sex and her spiritual life.

Now, yesterday, oga mi said, you know what, why not you come over. Send #10k join. She agree. No talk or thought about sex and her spiritual life.

Morning reach, oga dey whistle dey one arrange room, kon hear from madam say she no want relationship again because of sex.

Why she no jovially call tell the guy say no sex if she come? Then them go start dey reason weda d relationship fit proceed without sex. In one night, the holy spirit ministered to her to not have sex again for spiritual reasons and break up with the guy?

Please, flip the tables. If na guy do girl this thing na, wetin u go talk?

-Lord

Make she go the house?? Hahahahahahahahahahahaha
Except na 2 room and 2 bed dey dat house. I don't see how they want to start reasoning stuff on that one bed that is in his crib.

Mophasa:


It's not like she got born again or something, fornication is not the only sin in life and all sins are equal before God.
She still does other stuff too and it's not like I met her a virgin.

all sin are equal,so you say...yhe sin of blasphemy is the same as lying abi
every sin had its gravity on a situation...why dont they weigh backbitting very much with adultery and fornication as the same when talking about marriage...bible says keep the bed undefiled...lying does not have much gravity as when you fornicate..when you fornicate, the spirit of Lord leaves you totally, you become empty...if you love her, you should change too, both go to a pastor that will counsel you and put you in the right part, you should even be happy that shes gradually changing self

dyydxx:


wetin we no go hear....so God doesn't want you having sex abi....Lwkmd....confused beings everywhere

According to her religion. God doesn't want her to have sex BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Se you're a christian, pls help us confirm if its in your bible?

A lot of us have fallen in love once or twice in our lives or even more. Many people still believe in the saying that there’s only one partner out there for us, which I can say I agree with. Like I often say, there isn’t any manual as to how to find love, and in an ever changing diverse world like ours, our chances of finding it becomes more difficult by the day.

We are lucky to have more channels to find true love through, but our diminishing moral values make these channels futile and turn them from channels to find love to channels to find sex, scam and other ill behaviours. The internet offers us the opportunity to meet and interact with people near and far, thus increasing our chances of finding our perfect match. We have great dating websites dedicated with algorithms to set us up with our perfect matches, but the evil in our hearts have only changed these great innovations to immoral...

Click http://www.confessionsofaplayboy.com/finding-true-love/ to read more

MarieSucre:


Make she go the house?? Hahahahahahahahahahahaha
Except na 2 room and 2 bed dey dat house. I don't see how they want to start reasoning stuff on that one bed that is in his crib.

She no nid to reach house. Simple phone call. "Dear, no more sex o..." Then the expected why from the guy and discussion don start.

But your comment dey funny sha. I jor reason am. Reasoning stuff on one bed after saying no sex in a romantic relationship screams "AWKWARD."

-Lord

NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, If you love this girl, you marry her and after marriage you can have sex.

YOUR GIRLFRIEND MUST BE A REDEEM MEMBER!

thank u ooooo abi u didnt check the date ni? and see my recent posts.... you are a slowpoke.... you think THE PAST counts... who doesn't have a past.

GROW BRAINS and make the last days of your life COUNT FOR JESUS. i am proud that i had such a past cos its gone... I can say to peeps like you that i have tasted it all and found it was worthless..... am not perfect but keep pointing guilty fingers. I only gave the truth..... am not the one who asked for help with a girl who just decided to live for Jesus..... lols...
Hypocrites know hypocrites and thats their hypocrisy.

Mophasa:


After opening threads looking for females to bleep, you still get mouth to talk.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Bloody hypocrite

kennygee:
She just got born again and has decided she's not about that fornicating life anymore.

She can't force you to be in the same spiritual level as she is and it won't be fair for her to remain in the relationship denying you sex if you are not ready to come on board the Christian relationship.

Move on with your life to another female who is about the fornicating life.

It sure pays to know Jesus.

What is fornication sef?

Hmmm, leave her alone. if you want sex then go marry her.....meanwhile i get one ashawo i fit borrow you.

MarieSucre:


Fornication is specifically PREMARITAL SEX. Before marriage
Adultery is POST MARITAL sexual affair. During marriage.

[1 Corinthians 6:9] [1 Cor 6:18] First
Corinthians and the Epistle to the Galatians also
address fornication.[Galatians 5:19]
[1 Corinthians 7:2]

She exists "after Christ" so this law applies to her.
The above verrses clearly states that "Fornicators will not enter heaven"

You're the one that is confused. You're twisting biblical scriptures to justify your point.

There is warning at the end of revelation for people like you.

I repeat you are super ignorant and confused. go and do your own research and checking.. Be like the berean christians and not the assumed pre conceived notions you all are taught.

The Greek term porneia (πορνεία), meaning "illicit sexual intercourse", was translated as "fornication" in the 1611 King James Version of the bible and has also been translated as whoredom, sexual immorality or simply immorality.


come back when you can show me am wrong from the bible and not your head.

Gfish:
Hmmm, leave her alone. if you want sex then go marry her.....meanwhile i get one ashawo i fit borrow you.

No thanks

MarieSucre:


According to her religion. God doesn't want her to have sex BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Se you're a christian, pls help us confirm if its in your bible?

I said oversabi is killing you...you don't even understand what you are spewing you are just going with the crowd...

dyydxx:


I repeat you are super ignorant and confused. go and do your own research and checking.. Be like the berean christians and not the assumed pre conceived notions you all are taught.

The Greek term porneia (πορνεία), meaning "illicit sexual intercourse", was translated as "fornication" in the 1611 King James Version of the bible and has also been translated as whoredom, sexual immorality or simply immorality.


come back when you can show me am wrong from the bible and not your head.

I quoted straight from the bible and you're here using your own "wordly reason" to confuse yourself.

Okay wiseman define for us.
1) What is fornication?
2) What is immoral and illicit sex?
3) How are they different?

I am waiting.

dyydxx:


I said oversabi is killing you...you don't even understand what you are spewing you are just going with the crowd...

I am following the crowd by saying "what is exactly in the bible"??

Shaking my head for you.

Pls bring up scriptural proofs to back that God endorses fornication as you have stated before shiken?
I don't have time to argue aimless argument.

Its A good and beautiful thing to accept christ and this can happen anytime but u dnt ave to do away wit ur guy even after a date has been fixed and #10,000 in ur purse, this shows there is a problem. If actually there is a change in ur heart as a christian, u may nt go for the journey but u wil not call off the relationship on the phone and u will return the cash because its 4 the journey that u did nt make. Be that as it may mr Op if that is her decision take it in good faith; if she made it up to out of the relationship the truth will be revealed in time but i beg u dnt stand or be a stone of stumbble to anyone that want to serve God. One thing is to b in the sin of fornication another is to block others frm christ. Dnt 4get there is a sin unto death!. Stay Clear. Take this advice frm an experience guy.

Mophasa:
Please guys I need your advice and suggestions please.
There is this girl I have been dating for over a year now, I love her so much and intend to marry her soon. I think she loves me too.

She's currently doing her Nysc in cross river while I am in the north. We haven't seen each other since last November though we always chatting and talking on phone like everyday. We have been so cool over the past few weeks and we arranged for her to come see me this week, Thursday to be precise. I even sent her 10k for transportation.

Now after we talked last night and she agreed to come on Thursday, she called me early this morning around 6am only to tell me there was a problem, when I asked her what it was, she told me despite the fact she loves me so much and wants to be with me, she's breaking up with me because she doesn't want to be having sex anymore, that she's not okay with her spiritual life.

I was devastated and all my efforts to try talk sense into her has been in futility! Now the problem am having is that this girl happens to be the only woman in my life, for over a year we, ve been together I have not cheated on her despite the distance. I love her so much and I have always wanted to end up with her. I always did everything possible to make her happy and I, ve never hurt her before.

Please guys I don't want to lose her, what do I do.


From a heartbroken Nairalander

She broke up with u after uve sent her 10k for tfare? How do guys keep getting played by gals? I just don't understand how foolish some boys can bi