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Ayadeji:
Salam alaykum brothers and sisters in islam. All protocols duly observed.

I know Islamically it is allowed for a man to marry up to 4 wives. But if as a wife, you feel you feel you cannot cope in such circumstances, (as resentment towards your spouse or jealousy towards the new wife may make you become sinful) is it permissible to opt out of such marriage?

Pls kindly answer with proofs. Thank you.

Religion is not the basis of marriage. Supremacy of religion above love is a disaster. If you have no love for your husband any longer, then by all means, pack your bag and move out. If Islam permits a man to marry 4 wives, then wives should be permitted to have 4 husbands.

Religion should not be an instrument of bias and inequality. Times have changed. Religion shouldnt be an instrument of Masculine control.

sarahade:


You are welcome my sister. Please do not let anyone bully you or make you feel less my sister.
Only a woman knows where it hurt in this matter
A man will never tell you the truth because of their intention.
What has allah promised them for marrying another wife nothing but even told them not to do it if they can't be just but who can be just.
If a man will be just then there's no need for jealousy look at their reply they will never include the condition of being just in their arguments because they want to twist the words of the prophet.
They will come online to tag me shameless use words to bully you and i because they know nothing is holding you in the marriage except you.
If you have to return bride price no problem I'm sure you are yoruba and bride price is something you can afford pay him if you can't i will gladly support you.
A man that 1 woman cannot satisfy 100 will never satisfy him.
Allah loves us equally. After the divorce my sister dedicate your life to him and see if he will not reward you and bless you.
Its difficult to leave but you will never regret it as long as you are hardworking. Allah will always comfort you.
If you want to know more ask any mother who has been in a polygamous relationship and decide if that's the way you want to live your life. Salaam

You speak like someone who doesn't go to school. Exercise some decorum when speaking on religious issues like this.

Meanwhile, next time try and show some respect when typing the names Allah and Prophet by capitalizing the initial letters. Thank you.

AbdelKabir:
I hope this thread won't be over taken by some overzealous women again like it was in the past...because you never see them contributing in something intellectual and benefiting..... But by the time they see such threads as this, you see them as if they've just been released from their caves..

WAllaahul musta'aan

You don forget una use padlock lock the gate?

sarahade:
Its only a wicked man that will marry another wife when he knows his wife will never be happy with it and such a man does not deserve you.
As a good muslimah i will leave the man so i will not sin against allah by killing both of them.
My sister if he wants to marry he is free and you are free to leave his sorry ass.

Excellent comment

Ayadeji:
Salam alaykum brothers and sisters in islam. All protocols duly observed.

I know Islamically it is allowed for a man to marry up to 4 wives. But if as a wife, you feel you feel you cannot cope in such circumstances, (as resentment towards your spouse or jealousy towards the new wife may make you become sinful) is it permissible to opt out of such marriage?

Pls kindly answer with proofs. Thank you.

My dear sis,I can feel ur pain but u just v to b prayerful because there is no respect for a woman without husband......May Allah b with u.

Can you even imagine the nonsense jealousy part? Like men are not jealous beings. Who knew 'jealousy' is gender specific?

However, I agree that a woman's consent is not paramount but you can't claim to deeply care about someone and do things that hurt the person. The prophet and other men also did it, is not an excuse. At the end of the day, IT IS STILL A CHOICE. Don't be a hypocrite, please.

Also, the verse on polygamy is speaking to men not to women. Basically, I don't think women are under any obligation towards it. It doesn't serve any purpose to some women, why should they be forced to accept it.


I still believed that couples should discuss about this before marriage. Polygamy is not a big deal however don't force on others under BS pretext.

sarahade:
Its only a wicked man that will marry another wife when he knows his wife will never be happy with it and such a man does not deserve you.
As a good muslimah i will leave the man so i will not sin against allah by killing both of them.
My sister if he wants to marry he is free and you are free to leave his sorry ass.

There is respect for women without husband. Women are people not a thing.

Hihdiheart:
My dear sis,I can feel ur pain but u just v to b prayerful because there is no respect for a woman without husband......May Allah b with u.

sarahade:


You are welcome my sister. Please do not let anyone bully you or make you feel less my sister.
Only a woman knows where it hurt in this matter
A man will never tell you the truth because of their intention.
What has allah promised them for marrying another wife nothing but even told them not to do it if they can't be just but who can be just.
If a man will be just then there's no need for jealousy look at their reply they will never include the condition of being just in their arguments because they want to twist the words of the prophet.
They will come online to tag me shameless use words to bully you and i because they know nothing is holding you in the marriage except you.
If you have to return bride price no problem I'm sure you are yoruba and bride price is something you can afford pay him if you can't i will gladly support you.
A man that 1 woman cannot satisfy 100 will never satisfy him.
Allah loves us equally. After the divorce my sister dedicate your life to him and see if he will not reward you and bless you.
Its difficult to leave but you will never regret it as long as you are hardworking. Allah will always comfort you.
If you want to know more ask any mother who has been in a polygamous relationship and decide if that's the way you want to live your life. Salaam

Whose opinion is superior n shld b adhere to? That of Allah n His messenger, or ur own? How can u b so blindfolded wif western cultures at d detriment of ur own faith by ignoring d words of Allah n his prophet? U saw d proofs n u r still arguing, common! I even wonder if u r a true believer or just those types of people who call themselves muslims but never practice islam. My sister, pls is high time u repent n submit urslf to Allah's will cos He made u n can decide to do whatever he wants wif u. May Allah guide us all to d right path

FriendNG:
In addition to what AbdelKabir says: You should know if you insist in separation which the husband is not comfortable with it, You have return back his bride price to him.

Please on the issue of this Mar, what of the Mar received by the sister is not something tangible.

For example she asked him to recite a Surat in the Quran off hand or asked him to memorize the whole Quran. Does it mean she will have to read it back to him or memorize the Quran as well?

What if she can't? Will she have to stay in the marriage until she can?

You can take a cue from the daughter of the prophet Fatima, fight and kick
strongly against it and if he doesn't yield , dump him.
You are a human and you are not to be treated like property.

You can't divorce because our Islamic religion does not respect your right as a woman.

In this our religion, it's all about men's world.

Please someone should teach me how to close my post with Islamic language.

Rashduct4luv:
But the attitude towards the Hadith of Fragrance is not ok. May Allah forgive us all.

With all humility, I think she understood the meaning of the fragrance to just "fragrance" or smell, dennotative meaning.

May Allah embellish us all with better understanding of His words and forgive us all.

sarahade:
Its only a wicked man that will marry another wife when he knows his wife will never be happy with it and such a man does not deserve you.
As a good muslimah i will leave the man so i will not sin against allah by killing both of them.
My sister if he wants to marry he is free and you are free to leave his sorry ass.

so if you leave your husband because he decided to marry second wife what happens to you?
you become a divorcee, who either remains single or becomes a concubine or 2 or 3 wife( nobody really likes marrying divorcee as first wife) is it then not really better for her to be patient and accept his decision in good faith?

Hihdiheart:
My dear sis,I can feel ur pain but u just v to b prayerful because there is no respect for a woman without husband......May Allah b with u.

What kind of hogwash statement you just mentioned at bolded?

"There is no respect for a woman without husband"? Does women life ends with husband or marriage?

Women should learn to be themselves and not allow some dominant syndrome imposed by African culture and religion to think they can't be respected without a husband. Women should never look down on themselves and think they are inferior.

daretodiffer:
There is respect for women without husband. Women are people not a thing.

Just because the foundation of a good society has been bastardized, reasons why everyone wants to claim voltron, no issues.

What is the foundation of a good society ?- family and what makes a family- marriage, we are not talking about gays or lesbians, we are talking about divine relationships, between a men and women.

There isn't respect for both man and woman who are of marriageable ages and means and chose not to for circumstances they caused. It's cultural to say there is no respect for a woman who chose not to marry. WA llahu Alan.

I disagree. Thank you

transient123:


Just because the foundation of a good society has been bastardized, reasons why everyone wants to claim voltron, no issues.

What is the foundation of a good society ?- family and what makes a family- marriage, we are not talking about gays or lesbians, we are talking about divine relationships, between a men and women.

There isn't respect for both man and woman who are of marriageable ages and means and chose not to for circumstances they caused. It's cultural to say there is no respect for a woman who chose not to marry. WA llahu Alan.

How is it.of your business what happens to her?

drmuri:

so if you leave your husband because he decided to marry second wife what happens to you?
you become a divorcee, who either remains single or becomes a concubine or 2 or 3 wife( nobody really likes marrying divorcee as first wife) is it then not really better for her to be patient and accept his decision in good faith?

[quote author=sarahade post=55524149]Its only a wicked man that will marry another wife when he knows his wife will never be happy with it and such a man does not deserve you.
As a good muslimah i will leave the man so i will not sin against allah by killing both of them.
My sister if he wants to marry he is free and you are free to leave his sorry ass.
[/quote
The one in the house doesn't want another one to join her, the one outside want to come in both of them are Muslims. It makes me to remember a case in dutse where the woman does not want a second wife, she was divorced and latter got married to a man that has 2 wife already what an irony of life ]

sarahade:


You are welcome my sister. Please do not let anyone bully you or make you feel less my sister.
Only a woman knows where it hurt in this matter
A man will never tell you the truth because of their intention.
What has allah promised them for marrying another wife nothing but even told them not to do it if they can't be just but who can be just.
If a man will be just then there's no need for jealousy look at their reply they will never include the condition of being just in their arguments because they want to twist the words of the prophet.
They will come online to tag me shameless use words to bully you and i because they know nothing is holding you in the marriage except you.
If you have to return bride price no problem I'm sure you are yoruba and bride price is something you can afford pay him if you can't i will gladly support you.
A man that 1 woman cannot satisfy 100 will never satisfy him.
Allah loves us equally. After the divorce my sister dedicate your life to him and see if he will not reward you and bless you.
Its difficult to leave but you will never regret it as long as you are hardworking. Allah will always comfort you.
If you want to know more ask any mother who has been in a polygamous relationship and decide if that's the way you want to live your life. Salaam

salam sister, but after leaving your husband because he married another wife what becomes of you?
you become a divorcée. 80% of divorcée that I know no fit hold body o. so they usually become concubines to rich men, some end up becoming second or third wife , some unfortunately end of becoming what yorubas term " aja adugbo" public dog who is so loose many strange men have sex with her forbs fee or free.
is it therefore not really better for her to be patient and take it in good faith?

sarahade:
Its only a wicked man that will marry another wife when he knows his wife will never be happy with it and such a man does not deserve you.
As a good muslimah i will leave the man so i will not sin against allah by killing both of them.
My sister if he wants to marry he is free and you are free to leave his sorry ass.

See painment.
Madam. Keep calm before you kill yourself.

Its with Allah's command you want to drag abi.

Okay good luck

Billyonaire:


Religion is not the basis of marriage. Supremacy of religion above love is a disaster. If you have no love for your husband any longer, then by all means, pack your bag and move out. If Islam permits a man to marry 4 wives, then wives should be permitted to have 4 husbands.

Religion should not be an instrument of bias and inequality. Times have changed. Religion shouldnt be an instrument of Masculine control.

Funny some folks will smile and give a million likes for comments like this. No issue, it's a free world brother.

However, luckily for us, our religion has no revised version, it's a divine set of constitution where you are duty bound to practice as laid down or chill out if you are not in sync with. As Islam permits men to marry four, women can as well marry 20 as you are trying to suggest, sure they can, just like we are currently seeing, at least through jumping from one man to another in the guise of partners, girl friends and boyfriends, but not under the umbrella of Islam. This is democrazy, just do as you wish, but we are not for that if you must know again.

Arguments masked by emotions have created discord among us. Everybody wants to be "right". We don't care even if we hurt others.

"And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not dispute (with one another) lest you lose courage and your strength departs," Quran 8:46

Please pass your message nicely with supporting evidence. May Allah grant us understanding. May Allah guide us aright. Ameen

ednut1:
does islam care about women or their feelings

Islam is a practical religion, we face realities on ground.
for instance the male female ratio in US in like 48% 52% respectively. if every man in US marriesva single wife, 15 million ladies will not be married. and believe you me, no lady genuinely wants to remain unmarried. what practical solution is there in this instance? Polygamy.
has it ever occurred to you that every majority christian nation that forbids polygamy allows prostitution? which is really better for the dignity and emotion of ladies polygamy that Islam institutes or prostitution that non Muslim nations permit?
polygamy is not just to satisfy the sexual urge of Muslim men as some erroneously believe but to solve the problem of excess ladies who are prone to being abused or dabased.

Okeji:
Whose opinion is superior n shld b adhere to? That of Allah n His messenger, or ur own? How can u b so blindfolded wif western cultures at d detriment of ur own faith by ignoring d words of Allah n his prophet? U saw d proofs n u r still arguing, common! I even wonder if u r a true believer or just those types of people who call themselves muslims but never practice islam. My sister, pls is high time u repent n submit urslf to Allah's will cos He made u n can decide to do whatever he wants wif u. May Allah guide us all to d right path

Please don't ever quote me in your life.
Women take note of the bullying into keeping quite. Only men will attack me fom saying the truth no one can be just.
Mtcheeeeew

EmmGee:

See painment.
Madam. Keep calm before you kill yourself.

Its with Allah's command you want to drag abi.

Okay good luck

Its Allah's command to be just can you be?
Yes i want to drag.

Zeinymira:


Lol @killing both of them...

That was a weighty statement to make, doesn't really call for a laughter.

We should always help ourselves to do good by encouraging and help ourselves by stopping each from aggression.

WA llahu Alan.

transient123:


Funny some folks will smile and give a million likes for comments like this. No issue, it's a free world brother.

However, luckily for us, our religion has no revised version, it's a divine set of constitution where you are duty bound to practice as laid down or chill out if you are not in sync with. As Islam permits men to marry four, women can as well marry 20 as you are trying to suggest, sure they can, just like we are currently seeing, at least through jumping from one man to another in the guise of partners, girl friends and boyfriends, but not under the umbrella of Islam. This is democrazy, just do as you wish, but we are not for that if you must know again.

Your words confused you, Yes, I mean no mistake. Your statements confuse you. I am not religious. I am a full human being with knowledge of all the religions in this world. I own the Koran, I own the Bible, I own the Sharia-Ki Sugmad, I own the Gospel of Barnabas and many other books belong to Buddhism, Sikkism, Taosm, Hinduism and I have plenty of Science journals on Quantum Dynamics, Digital Physics, Biogenesis, Astrophysics, Astrology, etc.

I had to tell you this, so you can have a brief overview of the Mind that you are interacting with. I am a sane Human Being without the extremism that comes with Masculinity.

I am Soul with a body and you are Soul with a body and we are Spirit at our core. The fact that Soul is birthed into Planet Earth to experience Life and return to source, and soul made choice to be female or male does not mean Female are less humans that must be controlled by men using the instrumentation of Religion.

What locus standi does a man have, to with the instrumentation of ETs institute a religion to control 4 women and impregnate them and send them out on the streets to suffer with kids begging for alms, while a man glorifies himself with his masculine hormones to have sexual intercourse at will and wish while the female entities remain like slaves.

You can choose to hide under the dogma of religion, but as a core Scientist who knows the Origin of Earth and the manipulations of the overlords, I stand against all forms of slavery, including slavery in the name of religions, be it Christianity, Islam, Buddhism etc.

I am above all religions, and I am not bound by the lower earth entities because I know what I am, and I know what you are. Do not allow your Ego to make slavery out of women. I am not interested in your preaching about control of promiscuity, because it is hypocritical to marry 4 wives and expect women to manage your dilapidated dicks because you call yourself a Man. It is idiocy and it is why Islam breed terrorism more than every other religion. Do not defend a religion you did not invent, and do not attack me for Allah. Let Allah fight for himself.

sarahade:

Please don't ever quote me in your life.
Women take note of the bullying into keeping quite. Only men will attack me from saying the truth no one can be just.
Mtcheeeeew

Aunty can you be calm please. It shouldn't go this far.

Never get angry, laa tagdab, don't be angry no matter the circumstance.

Billyonaire:


Your words confused you, Yes, I mean no mistake. Your statements confuse you. I am not religious. I am a full human being with knowledge of all the religions in this world. I own the Koran, I own the Bible, I own the Sharia-Ki Sugmad, I own the Gospel of Barnabas and many other books belong to Buddhism, Sikkism, Taosm, Hinduism and I have plenty of Science journals on Quantum Dynamics, Digital Physics, Biogenesis, Astrophysics, Astrology, etc.

I had to tell you this, so you can have a brief overview of the Mind that you are interacting with. I am a sane Human Being without the extremism that comes with Masculinity.

I am Soul with a body and you are Soul with a body and we are Spirit at our core. The fact that Soul is birthed into Planet Earth to experience Life and return to source, and soul made choice to be female or male does not mean Female are less humans that must be controlled by men using the instrumentation of Religion.

What locus standi does a man have, to with the instrumentation of ETs institute a religion to control 4 women and impregnate them and send them out on the streets to suffer with kids begging for alms, while a man glorifies himself with his masculine hormones to have sexual intercourse at will and wish while the female entities remain like slaves.

You can choose to hide under the dogma of religion, but as a core Scientist who knows the Origin of Earth and the manipulations of the overlords, I stand against all forms of slavery, including slavery in the name of religions, be it Christianity, Islam, Buddhism etc.

I am above all religions, and I am not bound by the lower earth entities because I know what I am, and I know what you are. Do not allow your Ego to make slavery out of women. I am not interested in your preaching about control of promiscuity, because it is hypocritical to marry 4 wives and expect women to manage your dilapidated dicks because you call yourself a Man. It is idiocy and it is why Islam breed terrorism more than every other religion. Do not defend a religion you did not invent, and do not attack me for Allah. Let Allah fight for himself.

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Now I understand you sir. There is no need to waste precious time.

sarahade:

Its Allah's command to be just can you be?
Yes i want to drag.

Okay now i understand you have issues.
Carry your wahala and be goinh