Fadamant:
I don't even know where to start from. It's sometimes very depressing and overwhelming.

I had to start training them in school from primary school to this time of university, because dad and mom died early.

So much to say. It's really tough.

it is well

Maychang:

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

I often heard that many of us go through a lot of challenges which could be fustrating and sometimes, lead to depression.

I also know a handful of my kind who have found it hard in every area of Life- Job, Marriage... infact all areas of life.

I remember how hard it was to scale through secondary school- i remember staying at home for 2 terms for school fees. Even gaining admission to the university was very tough- it was just as though the devil was so interested in my case. After years of struggling , I finally gained admission to the university with many challenges as well.

Now, to the Glory of God Im out of school, Nysc certified, patching up with a small scale company- yet i dont feel satisfied with
what Life has offered me. I feel cheated and its annoying when you have to struggle to get jobs with youths who had graduated at age 20/21... and you are just there looking for vacancies that has no age barrier.

My pastor once said i needed to pray well because the devil targets the first born of the family. he said i had to run to God to rescue me. Well...I did pray for many years but things are worse.

I look at my younger brother sometimes and see how well things went for him; most times without stress. I look at other families as well and see how the younger ones are faring well compared to the Eldest. Its really depressing.

Why is Life not fair to us?

I can relate to your situation.... Mine is even more...I have 5 siblings and I'm still struggling like crazy. Most times, I feel like others are leaving me behind.... I have to struggle to do everything, I mean everything.

VickyRotex:


Really?

Bros, the fact that someone doesnt agree with your ideology, doesnt mean you should totally dispel theirs.

I'm not dispelling your ideology but I'm just being truthful, this is Nigeria, except u didn't grow up in Nigeria.

debonairprinx:


He will surely my dear.

Where have you been?
Long time

That position no be here ooo!!
In no verbose manner,my senior has been the best personality I have ever met,so humble and accommodating.Ever since dad left us he has been the father of the house and doing his responsibilities with your.More grace as he set to graduate by next year.
See him through Lord.

metallisc:



i would think that also being a beautiful first born babe will help make things easier! not so?

lol.. na you talk o

emperormossad:

No being a female ain't as challenging as a male. Trust me, the way devil dey antagonize first males ehhn, if he devotes half that time to others, our world will be a whole lot more reasonable.

well we might not know which is more challenging cause we are seeing it from different perspectives.

Teel012:
I'm not dispelling your ideology but I'm just being truthful, this is Nigeria, except u didn't grow up in Nigeria.

Trust me, I respect your opinion! Quite the contrary, I grew up in Nigeria. I'm not saying there are no challenges. I'm saying these challenges shouldn't be idolised and made to be believed that it's only "first-born's" who go through a lot.
I dont wanna start spelling out examples I've seen, but I hope you will respect my opinion, as I respect yours!

eosigwe:
it is well

sure thing. wehdone sirma

montezz:

Where have you been?
Long time

Lol. Same place dear.

VickyRotex:


Trust me, I respect your opinion! Quite the contrary, I grew up in Nigeria. I'm not saying there are no challenges. I'm saying these challenges shouldn't be idolised and made to be believed that it's only "first-born's" who go through a lot.
I dont wanna start spelling out examples I've seen, but I hope you will respect my opinion, as I respect yours!

Vickyrotex, I definitely respect your opinion, n m not saying it's only firstborns, but the firstborn is d one who's being watched and pressured by everybody, so it's kinda harder. I'm sure u understand.

Reading comments on this thread suddenly remind me that I am a first born too. Its even more serious. I am d first from both family sides. As both of my parents are first borns too. So I'm also d first grandchild of both generations.

Expectations are so freaking high. from your immediate family to the extended.

One thing I am sure of is this. If I have my way, I'll never marry a first child like myself.

VickyRotex:
I'll wait for my twin brother to come, so we can share. Since we are sharing the position.


On a serious note. Op, you need to get rid of such mindset that first borns find it tough to excel. Guard your heart with positivity and what you so desire to see. Everyone got challenges irrespective of the position they fall in.

Moreover, Your case is different!

Challenge the status quo, if at all there's any in this case. Which I doubt!

I love you already

Teel012:
Vickyrotex, I definitely respect your opinion, n m not saying it's only firstborns, but the firstborn is d one who's being watched and pressured by everybody, so it's kinda harder. I'm sure u understand.

Hi, yea sure! I do understand. It's well!

geekybabe:
Reading comments on this thread suddenly remind me that I am a first born too. Its even more serious. I am d first from both family sides. As both of my parents are first borns too. So I'm also d first grandchild of both generations.

Expectations are so freaking high. from your immediate family to the extended.

One thing I am sure of is this. If I have my way, I'll never marry a first child like myself.

so who will marry us now

okhiai1:
Firstborn ehnnn na die check for example my current problem let me list it (2 sisters plus me =3 )
Grandma burial
My school fees next semester
My parent second born admission money I gat support pale
My my last born waec GCE form and preparationfor next year school
Second born needs new phone big Android to be exact
Last born too need Phone before this month end as promised
And me now to top it all I need laptop to get watin dem dey teach me for school


Now imagine all this problem na only 1 of my wahala dey this budget ooo and how much I dey collect sef so now to anybody viewing this my comment abeg u need laptop any body way go dash me him own I go fast and pray for the person till tomorrow cause I need another stream of income ASAP before I feel depressed
#firstbornnobeans

bros abeg in Jesus name, am in ur condition too right now. please I beg u seriously, what is ur source of income. I really need money to support myself nd siblings in sch . please help a brother 07032909591

sod09:
so who will marry us now

Note.. 'if i had my way'
I've dated firstborn sons. And I've dated others dat r not first borns. Firstborn sons can be driven, Hardworking and strong. But they always have divided attention whether they admit or not. The responsibilities, demands..are a lot.

Na we push una come front?

GloriaNinja:
MAY THE LORD HONOUR U AS WELL, SO WHERE MY EASTER CHICKEN NA? ABI E DON FINISH AND U DEY HONOUR WITH THE LORD? LOL

Well, well...e still remain for freezer...wen yu are ready, i go help yu break the ice comot off am...

Thane:

bros abeg in Jesus name, am in ur condition too right now. please I beg u seriously, what is ur source of income. I really need money to support myself nd siblings in sch . please help a brother 07032909591

If you have a laptop go and buy importexpert ebook I swear down you will certainly get another stream of income na laptop me need and by the way am a civil servant and if i tell you say my salary from now till October no be me get am you know go believe but try following my advice

Kdiva:


well we might not know which is more challenging cause we are seeing it from different perspectives.

Of course, that cannot be simply neglected. Different strokes for diffrent folks.

pmatchuks:
Jesus is the Borden bearer, yoke breaker, I am also the eldest guy but my case is different!!! I saw it coming so I had no choice than to run to him at a tender age and He took over the ship, steering me to victory sweetlessly!! U know darkness has no choice than to bow at the instance light appears! Am not trying to brag but under the mentorship of Bishop David Oyedepo over the years, truly our case became Different. There is a popular saying here in Port Harcourt [font=Lucida Sans Unicode]IF YOUR CHURCH CANNOT CHANGE YOU, CHANGE YOUR CHURCH! Who u follow determines what follows you! May Jesus steer you to victory bro.

Ok.

ststyreal:
Most first sons are so irresponsible that they leave all their responsibility to the second son who probably might be doing better than them, (talking from experience). They oftenly allow pride and ego to destroy the blessings God has bestowed on them. They love to be respected and obeyed but reluctant in carrying out their responsibility towards their younger ones. May God restore all irresponsible first sons and also pray for God to liberate them from every bondage they might have placed themselves under.

You just committed the fallacy of generalization

GlobalGisting:
Many firstborn Sons are grossly irresponsible and lazy. No offense to the Firstborns, but their problems starts immediately they start having that idea of "I am the firstborn" so I have lots of inheritance. they start fooling around, acting like a king. some can't even wash their own clothes, waiting on their younger ones to cater to their domestic needs like a prince. Many are just lazy and irresponsible and outright lazy so they fail to start life on time and end up trying to kill their Dad.

Not everyone has lots of inheritance to acquire. Your fundamental basis is flawed.

sharpwriter:

Well, well...e still remain for freezer...wen yu are ready, i go help yu break the ice comot off am...

LOL, OKAY THAT'S NICE.

okhiai1:

If you have a laptop go and buy importexpert ebook I swear down you will certainly get another stream of income na laptop me need and by the way am a civil servant and if i tell you say my salary from now till October no be me get am you know go believe but try following my advice

Boss thanks for ur advise, av been hearing abt these ebooks but the comments abt it has been vague on here. Abeg u fit send me urs pls, I don't have a kobo on me now,spent everything on tfare bk home. No money for food at home. Na only God hand I dey ... thanedominic@gmail.com 07032909591 , pls WhatsApp me sir. I want to call u too so u can explain more. Thanks nd Godbless

shedybaba44:
am the first and only son, is not easy o.... your parents wants you to marry from where they want, and the age they want,the course they wasted 5yrs pursuing medicine even when I was already doing zoology at the end I lost the admission and had to start all over again in another course, now have graduated they want me to marry immediately after service,start live immediately,your mum wants grandchildren immediately,Guys I regret being first and only son, I wish I had other younger brothers or better still I was the last born

You must be an Igbo guy

emperormossad:

You just committed the fallacy of generalization

Please read properly before quoting me. I said" most" not all, ok. I didn't generalise but only said most of them not all of them.

Ugosample:

You must be an Igbo guy

Lol akwa -ibom o...

Thane:

Boss thanks for ur advise, av been hearing abt these ebooks but the comments abt it has been vague on here. Abeg u fit send me urs pls, I don't have a kobo on me now,spent everything on tfare bk home. No money for food at home. Na only God hand I dey ... thanedominic@gmail.com 07032909591 , pls WhatsApp me sir. I want to call u too so u can explain more. Thanks nd Godbless

No worry I go message you

ststyreal:

Please read properly before quoting me. I said" most" not all, ok. I didn't generalise but only said most of them not all of them.

'Most' is generalization.

emperormossad:

'Most' is generalization.

It is not, check your dictionary please, end of discussion.