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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by pu7pl3(m): 10:39am On May 25, 2017
Lewaluv:
You must be a fool.
Why are u insulting the dude..he asked for advice from matured people not insults from shallow minds

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by alizma: 10:40am On May 25, 2017
OP you are lucky if your mother is till alive. go and meet your mum and kneel down for her to pray for you so that you can be free from any bondage to a particular tot. because I see no reason why you are so glue to this one except that you are tied somewhere.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Nobody: 10:43am On May 25, 2017
Am almost in same shoes with you. I love my own girl and would really wanna marry her but am about breaking the relationship of 2years plus cos I don't wanna get married and be scared of sharing my wife with someone else anytime I am not around

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Kingnoble777: 10:43am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME


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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by ipobarecriminals: 10:43am On May 25, 2017
pu7pl3:

Why are u insulting the dude..he asked for advice from matured people not insults from shallow minds
Just ignore the Kid
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by cuchik: 10:43am On May 25, 2017
Gradually u will get over her. but next time safe guard ur heart so that u don't fall easy to the next female. love is a trip.
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by GAZZUZZ(m): 10:44am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii, you are failing in Zaoza room that is why ya woman is eppin her sef, work on ya sef.
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Mcowubaba: 10:44am On May 25, 2017
Break up with her immediately...

Op@ Padiimii
But I don't understand the part of this story, were she is requesting Porn videos from people online undecided

Is it their personal Sex videos, or just normal porn

Why can't she go and download or watch it on porn websites.

Not endorsement of porn, but I wonder why someone at this age and time will ask friends for pornography..
Unless she is very naive or a teenager

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by sukkot: 10:45am On May 25, 2017
grin grin yeye man. you better move on with ya life and leave that demonic woman alone. yeye dey smell grin

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Nobody: 10:45am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:


TRUE im the thermocool guy but this babe was really pure when I met her that was the reason why I could not even be suspecting the whole olosho thing.
And you know, the kind of accolades that society has given those kind of ladies.

That was what really got me confused man.
She was all crying that she loved me and making me feel bad I broke her heart.

You have met a bad type.

The heart is for love and the brain is for reasoning, but it seems you have fallen in love with both your heart and your brain. When this happens, you become a slave of your own emotion. There is no point hurting you more by emphasizing that you are in a relationship with someone whose emotion is not with you. Ask yourself - Before she demands Porns from guys, what is going through her mind ?

The love emotion is one great force which unites the world, but it is also the greatest trap. Know when to love and who to love and when love betrays, its best to terminate and move on without ruining your dignity and pride.

She is meant for the street. Wish her luck and cry for the pain. It is something you must face on Earth before Death calls.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Ikem11(m): 10:45am On May 25, 2017
@OP am sorry forgive me but I still have to say.... You are blinded by foolishness thinking you are in love.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by sukkot: 10:45am On May 25, 2017
[quote author=Kingnoble777 post=56858979][/quote] cheesy
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by cloud9usher: 10:46am On May 25, 2017
Dude forget the tears she is fronting with, its the usual thing a cheat does, ladies who cheat use this to get pity and try to make you feel guilty especially when they notice you are soft and really care about them.

Sorry to say but "most" girls are just cover up prostitutes, the word "boyfriend" is just used to cover up the whole thing.

You are just being used as a fall back guy for the b.itch! These are not the type of girls to keep as your main girl, they only deserve to be those you use them for what they deserve to be used for and not taken serious with.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by fxskye: 10:49am On May 25, 2017
stambouli:
Bro ,you don't need help on this one. It should be a straightforward easy decision to make.let her be a goner . she's obviously manipulating you and you are also acting naive. Man up bro

Just best comment.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Brinxs(m): 10:50am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME



Wah do u guys do for a living??
cuz all I see here is Facebook!

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Aremuagan144(m): 10:51am On May 25, 2017
bro stop falling in luv it is only fools that those that kip on fucking d idiot with tramadol and luk 4 another baby mama. mickey fwosh fbk and instagram dat is d latest olosho in town.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Nobody: 10:52am On May 25, 2017
the irony is this kind of op will meet a loyal lady and will take her for granted ,mteeeew,let me use this opportunity to give a big shout out to my ex,may the lady you cheated on me with treat you the way the op is being treated,may you be infected gonorrhea, staphylococcus and hepatitis c
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by geunik(m): 10:53am On May 25, 2017
She will send your nude one day to her online friends when you are on it unknowingly or asleep
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Kakamorufu(m): 10:54am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:


TRUE im the thermocool guy but this babe was really pure when I met her that was the reason why I could not even be suspecting the whole olosho thing.
And you know, the kind of accolades that society has given those kind of ladies.

That was what really got me confused man.
She was all crying that she loved me and making me feel bad I broke her heart.
you know what crocodile tears is, do you?
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by hahn(m): 10:54am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME



Introduce her to www.pornhub.com and watch it with her

Obviously you lack skills

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by madgoat(m): 10:54am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME



Guy from the way u are talking, e be like say u never even straff or see the girl's pant before. Na wah oh... U be proper assistant boyfriend. O boy do the needful and straff the girl very hard at least once before she fly commot. If u like be forming love and anniversary there... Ur eye go soon clear

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by adajoe555: 10:54am On May 25, 2017
This is a serious case ..these one no be some case oh you better run for your life...that girl has two face .she don't love you oh ...fire on the mountain run run run...

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Xano(m): 10:54am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME



Interesting story.

Op, IF this write up is true:
She flirts openly
Asks for porn videos from guys online(she may have sent videos also), which is disgusting.
She, to a large extent satisfies the guys' online their urges.

She continuously spins your head with answers, you naively accepted.

Op, she would control you. I would put it this way: she is chewing you up several times.

Op, you need to find out what you want.
On a serious note, you need Jesus in your life.

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by kullozone(m): 10:54am On May 25, 2017
Terryindeed:
Una wicked o, una just dey suggests breakup breakup every and everytime, you said it that's she's a good girl except this Fbk stuff, bro from Man to Man, every girl likes attention especially from someone they don't know, she enjoy the attention and making them like her the more is to play their games. Would you be happy if no guy toast your babe? Cmon chill jor. Have it at the back of your mind that she's yours, and your sef stop going through her Fbk unless you wan kill yourself. The best way to get over it is to discipline yourself. The most important is the kpekus n her loyalty to you. My papa say na when woman dey your house na that time she b your own, when she lives, na another person own.


Oga, Please don't take this advice, you'll suffer if you do. DON'T TAKE IT!

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Brinxs(m): 10:56am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Thank you so much guys.
Without you it wouldn't have been easy pulling off the break up.

.

Its now officially over between us and I have more peace of mind after ending it (because it's now clear that it wasn't my fault the relationship didn't work after all)

Nairaland and Nairalanders Una do well o.

don't come back here WHEN u guys get baq 2geda ooh!
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Nobody: 10:56am On May 25, 2017
frenzyduchess:
the irony is this kind of op will meet a loyal lady and will take her for granted ,mteeeew,let me use this opportunity to give a big shout out to my ex,may the lady you cheated on me with treat you the way the op is being treated,may you be infected gonorrhea, staphylococcus and hepatitis c

shocked shocked shocked
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by CaptPlanet(m): 10:56am On May 25, 2017
OP give me your girl's username on fb so I can counsel her

Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by Mkbryants(m): 10:57am On May 25, 2017
Padiimii:
Firstly, I have to admit I created a new account to get this much needed help.
Ok, So I met my girlfriend sometime last year and just recently we celebrated our 1 year anniversary as lovers.
Truth be told, she is an amazing personality; submissive, loving, caring, intelligent and hardworking. Infact, she's got a large portion of attributes that any man would want in a woman.
When we first met, I noticed really that she has alot of online friends whom she usually chat with as close friends (or maybe lovers sha). I kept cool thinking it ll just pass when things get serious between us. During this period she told me how she got close with one of those online guys that she requests porn clips from him. Fortunately or unfortunately, I know this guy ( he is my friend gan sef), I just allowed the matter lay low and warned her never to ask him or any other guy for such things as it reduces the respect any person has for the lady and she promised not to. This is because I dont want anyone disrespecting and disregarding her whenever she s been introduced to family and friends.
Alas! I caught my babe, requesting porn video from another of her online friends (I don't know this guy tho..) Once more. She assured me that she just did it coz she hasn't seen this guy before so its safe to ask him, Unlike the previous guy that they do see.
After this occurrence, I ve caught her flirting with friends on facebook messenger to the extent that they refer to her as 'my love' some even call her 'my wife'. More saddening is that some of them are mutual friends and are guys I really know. She claims they are the ones disturbing her and she has no feelings for anyone of them except me ; Her First love.
Fast Forward to present day, we started having a bigger issue now which is about to bring the relationship to halt. Four days back while we were chatting she asked if I know any guy answering so so name. I check my friends list and answered NO. That question kept pondering my heart so I decided to log into her facebook account. (I Later got to know her password after I helped her change password once). I came to understand that the guy she just asked about and herself had just been friends and as usual, she is showing this guy green light and flirting seriously with him (someone that she's yet to see o and just met for that matter)..
I decided to break the relationship. But surprisingly she kept reaffirming me that there s nothing between her and the guy that its just facebook friendly chatting.

PLEASE ladies and matured people in the house. Is it really possible that she actually mean what she is saying? do ladies still really behave this way after which they are in a relationship with someone they claim to love Or maybe I am the one overeacting here?
EDAKUN EPP ME



What comes to play here is that, the moment u started doubting her is the moment you should have moved on with your life. Women are illogical in life and love, they​ don't think the way a man thinks.

She is just a flirting bee and she is never gonna change that fact and with the way you addressed the issue you wouldn't mind marrying her as soon as this get a bit more Rossy and guess what you wouldn't wanna have a flirty woman as the mother of your kids( for the records I have encountered several ones that are even in love with someone else and just wanna be with you just for the fun with no strings attached). Please dust yourself up and move on with your life, never sell yourself short never never again. You are worth more.

P.S: You are already who you have been with her or without her. You will be fine

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Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by robosky02(m): 10:58am On May 25, 2017
issorite
Re: Am I Foolishly In Love Or Just Over-reacting? by umarshehu58(m): 10:59am On May 25, 2017
My advice for you is

Keep loving her but marry another girl. Thank me later

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