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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by njele: 7:45pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
darlenese: You will understand better after having alot of experience with women, just pray you never experience it |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 7:46pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
A lot of people still don't understand what I meant when I said I've tried everything to make him open up. About making meals... I have a job which gets me back home on time to get food ready. How did he start sleeping in the sitting room? I can't explain it, from watching movies late into the night to "I had a stressful day, just allow me to chill a little here". I can't count how many times I came to wake him to join me inside. He comes in sometimes, other times he gets angry and ask me to leave him. He placed a password on his phone years back, I did all I could to make him see reasons why it's not necessary yet he refused and will rather pick a fight. Initially he calls to inform me he'll be home late if something comes up. Now he doesn't even tell me his whereabouts. I should get back in shape? I'm in shape already.. . I wasn't joking when I said most single ladies have nothing on me. I begged him to join all these social platforms but a lot has changed since he eventually did. I've lost count of waking him up even at night to talk but he won't let that happen, he'll rather humiliate me. Stop asking me to look back and retrace this whole thing. I've done that a gazillion times, yet I can't pinpoint anything. I'm not a saint but the truth is that my parents prepared me for marriage. I came into it with a mindset of making it perfect. I came into it with the knowledge of how to make a man happy for the rest of his life.. . But it's heartbreaking to say I married a man who doesn't need any of that. How else am I supposed to know what the problem is? This is killing me 10 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 7:51pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
I married a man who hates men that keep late nights. I married a man who hates men that don't care for their families. Years back he started hanging out with a bunch of night crawlers, I begged, cried and prayed. It stopped at a point but started again. I don't know if this whole thing has to do with the friends he keeps. |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 7:58pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Do I make our home uncomfortable for him? No!!! How do I know? He kept telling me of how lucky he was to have a wife like me. He says I give him peace that most married men don't have. He sometimes tell me how his friends are amazed when they complain about their wives but he only has positive things to say about me. Can't you people just see? I don't know if there's anything I've done. I don't know where I've gone wrong!!! I'm dying!!! He is all I have. I made him believe he is all to me. Is he taking advantage of my fragile nature? Is he taking advantage of my kind nature? I don't know but God knows 1 Like |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Ogbenimax(m): 8:01pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
gabinogem:no na film trick
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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Gliding(m): 8:24pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
FortuneTeller: Now I believe the story you posted sometime ago. Have you tried finding out why he does that? I wish you a quick solution 1 Like |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by NaijaAI: 8:24pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
My dear, If he is not giving you affection and all, he is getting it from outside. Try and find out, talk to his friends, sneak up on him etc. When you have the facts confront him and involve somebody he respects a lot to talk to him. Somebody he will listen too. E.g. His parent or pastor. Insist he goes you all go to church as a family. Then encourage him to be active and serve in a department in Church. A lot of other good advice has been given by others. If he stays in the parlour, stay there with him, be good to him and RESPECT him, etc... I will be praying for you, but you need to act! PS: Pornorgraphy and maturation will only open you up for more attacks. Ask God to help you stop... |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by YabaLeftist: 9:22pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
AngelicBeing: I tell you, fake people everywhere. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by layzie: 9:24pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
If u are satisfied within u that u have tried everything humanly possible (this includes involving both families, friends, his colleagues etc) to get him to come around and it's not working, then move to the next step. Trial seperation. Inform him of your intention to move out on a trial basis to see if being away from each other can help sort things out. Then move out. 7 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by njele: 9:48pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Option two, I think your husband has fallen in love with another woman but does not have the courage to sent you packing because he does not see any fault in you but want you to make the decision yourself 10 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Connoisseur(m): 10:28pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
njele: Exactly my opinion She is a good woman He knows she is a good woman Sadly he fell in love with another woman He does not want to hurt her He keeps away from her Not knowing he already hurts her Hoping she would get the hint and make it easier for him |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by tuscani: 10:50pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Madam I am so sorry to read this. But just ignore the people blaming you or asking you to retrace your steps and asking when did all started, worse still are people blaming you for coming online to find solace I wish they know how soothing it is to read people's' view and comments when it comes to issue like this. For the fact that you came out for solution already is over 80 percent clear that you are not the cause of this problem. I am man, I know what I are going tru, probably I am going tru same right now. It is tough for a man , not to talk of woman. 1 Like |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 11:06pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
darlenese:If you want the best, be the best. We ain't gonna give you the best jst cos u a woman. Some of u women are funny, u be doing anyhow and still expect the 5-star treatment. |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 11:11pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Brokenangel2:There is someone else in the picture am afraid. |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by addictiv(m): 11:32pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Firstly you have to understand that happiness comes from within, despite your predicament you have to find things to be thankful and grateful for...All is not lost. I can understand your need for attention, but I will only give you to focus on what you can control and ignore what u can't control. You can't control his actions or decisions, but you have absolute control over your actions, decisions and attitude. I think u should focus on becoming your best self. Not just because you want him to retrace his steps but because u owe it to you. Maybe he comes back , maybe he doesn't, it doesn't mean you should stagnate your life and potentials waiting for attention and validation. You have to find a way to thrive .. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by darlenese(f): 11:50pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
Nesso: good, if u want to be treated like a king then treat ur woman like a queen, you can't treat women like slaves and expect a 5 -star treatment as well. shebi you have sisters ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 11:54pm On Aug 13, 2017 |
OP, after reading your posts in this thread, it is clear that your husband has another woman he is seeing. Please don't let anyone tell you it is your fault. He's responsible for his actions. Stay strong. 3 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by isokey: 12:12am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Madam Op..., please don't be so hasty to initiate or have sex with him. Since he isn't faithful, there's possibility he could have contracted STI. God is your strength. Stay strong. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by armyofone(m): 12:19am On Aug 14, 2017 |
FortuneTeller dear Can you invest in a good dild!o. I heard those auto ones are real deal. Do research on the best one out there in the market. FortuneTeller: |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Ranchhoddas: 12:25am On Aug 14, 2017 |
armyofone:Iranu!!! Abasha!!! |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 12:40am On Aug 14, 2017 |
armyofone: Are you mad? Why would I use a machine when there are literally billions of men in the world? I'm a human, not a machine. 6 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by armyofone(m): 12:41am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 12:41am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Nm |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Ranchhoddas: 12:46am On Aug 14, 2017 |
armyofone:You should take your own advice. Emancipate yourself from perverse behaviour. |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by armyofone(m): 12:48am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Whats bad about using it? Take it easy....and lay off the curse. I didn't come to fight you. Reading your post I thought sleeping with another man when still married is not the best options. FortuneTeller: 5 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by armyofone(m): 12:50am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Nothing perverse about using machine-I'm liberal. Ranchhoddas: 3 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Ranchhoddas: 12:53am On Aug 14, 2017 |
armyofone:Fancy word for perverse. 1 Like |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Ranchhoddas: 12:55am On Aug 14, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......... |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Bibors(m): 12:56am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Brokenangel2: While I have personally experienced this and overcame it, I will like to tell you the hard truth. 1. Most marriages go through a story like yours and its a break or make period. 2. The story though very realbwas only told from your perspective. Your husband is human and also has emotions and is silently dying inside while you are here thinking he doesn't like communication. 3. Nobody will help you, not prayers - only you can help yourself with your actions. 4. Its a trying time when the devil wants you to look back and become an irreversible pillar of salt but you have to stand firm and take action. 5. Empty your head and heart and listen to the voice of God within, he will give you the strategy to act. You know your hubby more than anyone and only you know what to act or say and the communication line will open but you are probably too proud to do that now while he is also on his high horse and wouldn't come down to meet you. A wise woman builds her own home. I can go on and on but I believe the message has been passed. 3 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Bibors(m): 1:03am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Brokenangel2: You are indeed still very pained from your comment above. 80% of women in marriages have said worse things and still believe so but you begin to enjoy your marriage when you let go and create a new beginning. I can't speak for your husband but he also acts like most men. To avoid long speech of argument he will say you have done nothing wrong and everything you do is now OK as long as he can have a relaxed brain. May have indulged in drugs, alcohol and adultery to cool off thereby hurting you and himself more- assumption ( He needs help). Because of emotional battery, he isn't withholding sex or affection but cannot give it coz he is still very pained and needs to let go before he can see the damsel in you again. Though marriage is for two and two makes it work but the switch is in your hands. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 1:07am On Aug 14, 2017 |
armyofone: Madam please go somewhere with such nonsense. A machine in the place of a human being? Haba! |
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Bibors(m): 1:07am On Aug 14, 2017 |
Brokenangel2: He needs help, he is not very expressive and doesn't want to pour out his heart so as not to hurt you more. If he has a good and trusted friend, then this is the time to involve a third party for good that will make him open up and get the help he needs. You also need help. |
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