FortuneTeller:


This is similar to my marriage except I'm no longer interested in my husband sexually. The lack of good quality sex turned me away from him. We are just good friends. However I don't like porn. I need the real thing. So I will just meet a nice guy and go from there. Please don't kill anyone. It's better to leave or have an affair.

FortuneTeller:


This is similar to my marriage except I'm no longer interested in my husband sexually. The lack of good quality sex turned me away from him. We are just good friends. However I don't like porn. I need the real thing. So I will just meet a nice guy and go from there. Please don't kill anyone. It's better to leave or have an affair.

spaggyy:


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Brokenangel2:
A lot of people still don't understand what I meant when I said I've tried everything to make him open up. About making meals... I have a job which gets me back home on time to get food ready. How did he start sleeping in the sitting room? I can't explain it, from watching movies late into the night to "I had a stressful day, just allow me to chill a little here". I can't count how many times I came to wake him to join me inside. He comes in sometimes, other times he gets angry and ask me to leave him. He placed a password on his phone years back, I did all I could to make him see reasons why it's not necessary yet he refused and will rather pick a fight. Initially he calls to inform me he'll be home late if something comes up. Now he doesn't even tell me his whereabouts. I should get back in shape? I'm in shape already.. . I wasn't joking when I said most single ladies have nothing on me. I begged him to join all these social platforms but a lot has changed since he eventually did. I've lost count of waking him up even at night to talk but he won't let that happen, he'll rather humiliate me. Stop asking me to look back and retrace this whole thing. I've done that a gazillion times, yet I can't pinpoint anything. I'm not a saint but the truth is that my parents prepared me for marriage. I came into it with a mindset of making it perfect. I came into it with the knowledge of how to make a man happy for the rest of his life.. . But it's heartbreaking to say I married a man who doesn't need any of that. How else am I supposed to know what the problem is? This is killing me

addictiv:
Firstly you have to understand that happiness comes from within, despite your predicament you have to find things to be thankful and grateful for...All is not lost.
I can understand your need for attention, but I will only give you to focus on what you can control and ignore what u can't control. You can't control his actions or decisions, but you have absolute control over your actions, decisions and attitude. I think u should focus on becoming your best self. Not just because you want him to retrace his steps but because u owe it to you. Maybe he comes back , maybe he doesn't, it doesn't mean you should stagnate your life and potentials waiting for attention and validation. You have to find a way to thrive ..

FortuneTeller:


No. Please go away sir.

Brokenangel2:
It's almost 12 midnight and I heard the door to the sitting room open. He walked in and of course slumps into one of the sofa where he'll sleep till tomorrow. It's either the sitting room or the children's room. This life... .. .. I was barely 23yrs old when we got married and he's few years older. I actually thought he was all over me, now I look back and believe all that was pretence. Where have I gone wrong? I love this guy in a manner that makes me doubt my own sanity. Yes.. . I doubt if all is well with my brain. It amazes me why I still put up with a man who doesn't deserve even a prostitute. A man who has no regard for me, not even an iota of it. A man who thinks he is alpha and omega. I literally adores him, even after two kids in our marriage I break necks when I walk the streets. I am neater and sexier than most single ladies out there. I respect him, I'm a good cook, educated, brilliant, smart and beautiful. Nobody who knows me will believe I'm passing through hell in the hands of a man I love with all my heart. This life... It's damn funny how even my female friends jokingly ask me if my hubby let's me sleep at night. Who will believe me that we've been intimate just twice thrice this year. Those were even in the early months. This is not the first time he is depriving me of intimacy for months. It's just that for the first time... I'm seeing possibilities of me having an affair. Did I just say that? *sobs* Me of all women? The one who prides in her fidelity as a married woman? The same woman who brags that even at gunpoint, no other man will have his way? The same woman who says even for a trillion pounds? Hahaha this life is really unfair. The once virtuous woman now stays up late into the night watching pornographic films while masturbating. How I feel like stabbing myself to death each time. The guilt on my face when I look at my innocent kids sleeping peacefully on my matrimonial bed which I now share with them. My husband is now my flatmate. Now that God has taken us to a height of relaxation, he chose to spite me. I've tried all I can to breach the gap between us but to no avail. I've been the one begging for affection and even sex. To hell with sex, I can do without it for years but God knows lack of affection will be my death. I keep telling him that he'll look back one day and regret all of this, it's one thing I'm sure of. I didn't force myself on him to marry me. I didn't tie him with any pregnancy. Why me of all people? I love my kids more than life itself, a thousand times I've made up my mind to walk out. I'm not scared of facing life without him, he knows I'm a legit hustler who can place food on the table for myself and the kids. I'm more scared of becoming everything I swore never to be. I'm more scared of even killing him, myself or the kids out of depression one day. I'm so confused, I'm a shadow of myself. I'm breaking each passing day. I'm loosing hope each passing day. The worst of it is that he doesn't believe in communication. He just won't let that happen. How do I let him know he is slowly rewriting all the plans we had for ourselves and the kids? How do I let him know these kids we both adore will suffer most anyday I lose grip and decide to let go? How do I let him know that I wake up some nights, walk over to where he is sleeping, stare at him with so much anguish, pain and tears... While fighting back the urge to just stab him to death. How do I let him know that the true love I have for him is gradually turning into pure hatred? How do I let him know that I'm not sure of the next thing I might do? How do I open his eyes to see what those strange women have succeeded in doing to us? No ooooo I refuse to join you in the madness, adultery is one sin I've sworn NEVER to commit. I'll take a walk. I don't even know if I'm making sense at all but my chest is sooooooo heavy tonight.

Brokenangel2:
I just came back to see if anyone took out time to drop a word or two for me. I really appreciate your inputs. Prayers? I'm ashamed to say I'm tired of praying. We don't even have our morning devotions again. I'm even afraid that this atmosphere is unhealthy for my kids. I don't even feel like going to church today, though my beautiful new dress was ironed yesterday. I'm just tired of smiling outside when I'm actually dying inside. I wish this is a dream or novel. That's my life ooo, last night I felt like ending it all, this morning I feel like holding on whether he shows me affection or not. Loneliness is my best friend. You know what? I'll appreciate it if you all share this story on every social platform you know, especially Facebook. He's active there, he will read it somehow. He will know I wrote this, he just knows how I can pen down my feelings. God bless you all.

Brokenangel2:
A lot of people still don't understand what I meant when I said I've tried everything to make him open up. About making meals... I have a job which gets me back home on time to get food ready. How did he start sleeping in the sitting room? I can't explain it, from watching movies late into the night to "I had a stressful day, just allow me to chill a little here". I can't count how many times I came to wake him to join me inside. He comes in sometimes, other times he gets angry and ask me to leave him. He placed a password on his phone years back, I did all I could to make him see reasons why it's not necessary yet he refused and will rather pick a fight. Initially he calls to inform me he'll be home late if something comes up. Now he doesn't even tell me his whereabouts. I should get back in shape? I'm in shape already.. . I wasn't joking when I said most single ladies have nothing on me. I begged him to join all these social platforms but a lot has changed since he eventually did. I've lost count of waking him up even at night to talk but he won't let that happen, he'll rather humiliate me. Stop asking me to look back and retrace this whole thing. I've done that a gazillion times, yet I can't pinpoint anything. I'm not a saint but the truth is that my parents prepared me for marriage. I came into it with a mindset of making it perfect. I came into it with the knowledge of how to make a man happy for the rest of his life.. . But it's heartbreaking to say I married a man who doesn't need any of that. How else am I supposed to know what the problem is? This is killing me

WiredLeggings:
OP, after reading your posts in this thread, it is clear that your husband has another woman he is seeing. Please don't let anyone tell you it is your fault. He's responsible for his actions. Stay strong.

Gloriagee:
Or another man....

Nothing wey person no go see

graceberry:



Hello my dear,, tears came rushing out of my eye as i read ur store, marriage in this our time has become war which we all women has to fight and win.. strange women.. hmmm .... side chick, i place curse on all of this who are bent on destroying a beautiful marrige..

I believe you must have been seeing some sign before all this escalates. But you dint bother to address it on time.

Same thing almost happened to me but once i noticed a slight change i prayed to God to revealed all hidden secret and also i went on checking his phone and i found out it was even an Edo lady,,

Am happy my husband has come back to his senses after i confronted him with evidences

and dont forget men will always be men

That is why i still insist on all married women to always snoop into thier thier husbands phone and see what is happening with then before it is too late.. because i still do it till today

Some people may say i want to give myself Hypertension, fine it better i give my self small Hypertension and addresses the issue early than ignoring the signs and end up having biggest hypertension


also if you have not been giving him enough respect pls start doing that because men loves it so much, just be humble to him and see him change

i promise you that anybody can change for good



Jesus help us

My dear with prayer all thing are possible


So my dear you re to blame you actually ignored all those sign and now it has become worse

Please go on ur kneel m fast and pray to God, and you will see how he shall turn it around fir you

I suggest you start watching chnnel 390 on dstv and see lot of story like urs changed for the best, go to synagogue Church of all nation and tell God ,,, prayer answer

May God helpnyou re build your home and please dont kill him ooooo,u will end up regretting that

Prayer is the key

Also if you need someone to talk to send me a mail

MizzD:
Women have too much to give in marriage and this really bothers me. The moment you get married, you get pressured into having kids. You successfully achieve that, you worry about nurturing them, sometimes career sacrifices are made for these kids. You endure sleepless nights to nuture these kids, and while sacrificing it all, you have to worry about getting your body (Tommy, vagina, what have you) back in shape to prevent your husband from straying. You worry about picking up your career or academics where you left it.

If you're unable to bear kids or choose to delay a little to focus more on your career, you are also at a risk of losing this man to aspiring baby mamas or crazy exes.

You are also expected to bring something to the table hustle with the man, while you perform all wifely duties alongside. Sometimes i think these sacrifices can be so challenging and when a woman is unfortunate to have a husband who doesn't appreciate all that is done to keep it all together, you begin to wonder if it's ever really worth it.

Madam Op, the solution to your problem lies between you two. If your husband does not encourage verbal communication, pls write to him. There's no point reaching out to him via social media when you can pen all these frustrations down for him to read too.

Except you are being punished for a sin or you married a robot, you should demand and get a response / reaction or whatever and then you take it from there. Be firm and sort things out. Demand answers. Be ready to accept and admit your flaws. Address ALL related and unrelated issues that got you both to this stage and get yourself out of this misery. The outcome of your communication will determine your next line of action.

Lastly, if you keep nursing the thoughts of killing anyone, pls stay away from that environment to cool off. We have enough murder cases biko.

FortuneTeller:


I don't think it would matter as long as I kept it private and didn't divorce him. I've told him several times but he takes it as a joke. He says I should be careful because HIV is out there.

FortuneTeller:


This is similar to my marriage except[b] I'm no longer interested in my husband sexually [/b]. The lack of good quality sex turned me away from him. We are just good friends. However I don't like porn. I need the real thing. So I will just meet a nice guy and go from there. Please don't kill anyone. It's better to leave or have an affair.

Brokenangel2:
Do I make our home uncomfortable for him? No!!! How do I know? He kept telling me of how lucky he was to have a wife like me. He says I give him peace that most married men don't have. He sometimes tell me how his friends are amazed when they complain about their wives but he only has positive things to say about me. Can't you people just see? I don't know if there's anything I've done. I don't know where I've gone wrong!!! I'm dying!!! He is all I have. I made him believe he is all to me. Is he taking advantage of my fragile nature? Is he taking advantage of my kind nature? I don't know but God knows

eyinjuege:


Your husband is having an affair and is probably in love with the new woman/ his ex.
Its possibly being going on for years, and it will be almost impossible to break away from her. They may even have children together. She may be older, not as beautiful as you, but he loves her. Maybe he couldn't marry her for reasons such as tribe etc, or he married you to spite her when they had a quarrel in the past only to discover he played himself, and will always love her.

Atimes, $#it happens, when you discover you didn't marry your soul mate.
The issue of Prince Charles,Diana and Camilla comes to mind.
People face such issues everyday regardless of social status.

My advice to you is to live your life, and don't waste your youthful years pinning for a man who doesn't even care.

It's time to start thinking of yourself now.

What is the worst possibility that could happen? Maybe he has children outside with a woman he loves? Maybe he will ask for a divorce himself after a while, so he can finally marry her? Then prepare for that scenario.

What will you do if such a thing happens? What have you got in place to protect yourself and secure your children in the eventuality of such? Career wise, how's it going for you? Do everything possible to make sure you can stand on your own. Have you got your own investments or properties? Why not set that goal? It doesn't have to be in an expensive place. Just start something, and go gradually from there

All the warning signs are there. To be forewarned is to be forearmed.

addictiv:
Firstly you have to understand that happiness comes from within, despite your predicament you have to find things to be thankful and grateful for...All is not lost.
I can understand your need for attention, but I will only give you to focus on what you can control and ignore what u can't control. You can't control his actions or decisions, but you have absolute control over your actions, decisions and attitude. I think u should focus on becoming your best self. Not just because you want him to retrace his steps but because u owe it to you. Maybe he comes back , maybe he doesn't, it doesn't mean you should stagnate your life and potentials waiting for attention and validation. You have to find a way to thrive ..

jashar:


hi...

anytime i read your comments on this your husband issue, i feel a tug in my heart.... i've heard you say he's a good man.... but the sex isue seems to be the dealbreaker for you.

the irony is, i doubt it's about his religion...i think it's more of an interest thing. he just ain't interested in sex. cuz some of my married female friends that married good Christian guys sometimes tell me that the sex part of marriage can be demanding. in the church i attend, they have a couples fellowship where they discuss all sorts.... my goodness....

please don't cheat. forget about your husband now and put God in view. Let the fear of God keep you from sinning. take care.

FortuneTeller:


I understand. I feel like we are kindred sisters. Does he have any money? If so, take every bit you can and enjoy yourself. Spare no expense on yourself and your children. Travel if it's affordable to do so. If he has a lot, open a private bank account and put as much as you can in it.

YabaLeftist:


Lmfao!

One of your threads comes to mind: "My Sister Married An Impotent Man"

I think I know who it was that married an impotent man.