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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 9:53am On Aug 16, 2017
ebonflexy:


Hmm...it is possible he is suffering from ED, yet instead of working it out with him, the OP probably said something stupid with her mouth that cut him deeply to the point that his very soul just refuses to have anything to do with her.

Women can damage men like that with their mouths when they run it foolishly, and very few subjects make a man switch off than insulting his manhood. Women should just NEVER EVER do this. It is akin to verbal RAPE.

Chances are she won't even know when she did it. I sense she is the proud type herself given how she spent several paragraphs talking about herself in the opening post.

do you have any idea that the post the person you quoted was referring to was not mine? Try and go through previous comments before quoting people. As for talking about myself in "several paragraphs"... I was only trying to make clear that I have the qualities most men desire in a woman. Do I damage my husband with my tongue? The answer is in one of my previous comments... my parents prepared me for marriage. I'm among the few who knows what a Godly marriage entails. Thanks for your contribution.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:05am On Aug 16, 2017
Vutseck:
if you use any possible tricks to lure a man into marriage you will surly regret it when he realizes he made a mistake marrying you


you either walk out of the marriage or kill him and go to jail

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No sir, I didn't lure him into marriage. He came with an outright intention of marrying me, after investigations and prayers from my family I agreed to marry him. If you had said we didn't really go into courtship before marriage, I'll agree with you but luring him... there wasn't room for that. It NEVER happened.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:10am On Aug 16, 2017
YabaLeftist:


I tell you, fake people everywhere. grin
Were you referring to my story as fake or the story or the story of the other lady? Thanks anyway
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:22am On Aug 16, 2017
AngelicBeing:
Hmmmm, Nairaland is full of such stories, they are referring to themselves but they will say, I am asking on behalf of a friend, next story jare, fake people online cheesy
My story is not fake and the person you quoted wasn't referring to me. Read the previous comments other people made, you'll find out. It hurts to imagine people think my story is fake. It just hurts so much.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:25am On Aug 16, 2017
njele:
what happen the very first day he started sleeping in the sitting room? Most women create problems unconsciously and will never tell themselves the truth instead they will go around gathering support and sympathy from family members and the society. The solution to your problem lies just within. Some women think after 3 years and above in marriage, they can start insulting and disrespecting the man any how and nothing will happen. Some men will beat and forget while others will be quiet but make sure you pay for your actions for the the rest of the marriage. Ask him to forgive you if you have wrong him in any way. A man can not just get up one day and start behaving funny without a reason
You've really not experienced life. A lot of things which you think are impossible to happen.. . Happen daily. Believe me

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Mumben(f): 11:05am On Aug 16, 2017
Brokenangel2:
My story is not fake and the person you quoted wasn't referring to me. Read the previous comments other people made, you'll find out. It hurts to imagine people think my story is fake. It just hurts so much.
Believe me, they were nt referring to u. I believe ur story and so do most pple. It was a mix up with fortuneteller's previous post. How re u doing today? D kids?
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by YabaLeftist: 11:39am On Aug 16, 2017
Brokenangel2:
Were you referring to my story as fake or the story or the story of the other lady? Thanks anyway

Not yours fam.
I absolutely belief your husband turned you to a p0rn addict.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by olagift(f): 2:54pm On Aug 16, 2017
Dear Op, as some people have rightly said that you are the only one that can make yourself happy. Please stop relying on your spouse for happiness. I know it can be painful for someone trying and working hard to impress one's spouse and all what you could get from him is frustration and lack of love. But you have to brace yourself up and take the bull by the horn by shifting your focus from him to God, yourself, children, aspirations and other things of life. I tell you there are things in life that can make you happy other than your spouse. Confess positive utterances to yourself and situation like "The joy of the Lord is my strength" "It is well with me, my marriage, relationship", "I will overcome this situation in Jesus name"etc. Also there is a possibility that he is having a mistress out there that he loves so much or he does not really love you from outset, he only got married to you to fulfill all righteousness or he is tired of the marriage/ union or there is something he knows / heard about you that makes him to develop hatred for you. You can try to involve the people he respects like his parent, siblings etc. If that is not yielding any result, then go for a separation for a period of time and observe what happens. But please you don't need to kill him and you do not need to die because of him for it is not worth it. Make your children your friend, take them out and have fun with them. Let them be in your mind always. It is well with you. Shallom.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by lastmessenger: 8:22pm On Aug 16, 2017
All this long story just because you are not getting bleeped all night. And you are even thinking of stabbing someone.
Common get your fatt ass out of the house and set a goal for your life. Live a life of purpose and see your husband run coming back to you.
The bottom line is that you lack purpose and for that reason life is about sex and intimacy.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 8:48pm On Aug 16, 2017
Mumben:
Believe me, they were nt referring to u. I believe ur story and so do most pple. It was a mix up with fortuneteller's previous post. How re u doing today? D kids?

My dear I do not care if you believe or disbelieve what I write on this website. This is where I vent. If you don't like it, you can read elsewhere.

As for the op, most of these people have never been married and many of them are still kids. They have no idea what it's like to be in a real marriage. However I understand your pain, because I'm going through something similar. People will say at least your husband wants to have sex with you and he's able to. However what's the use of sex if it's no good? As I said, please don't kill anyone. There are other options. As for me, I'm definitely going to find someone that I can enjoy quality sex with.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Xcelinteriors(f): 8:57pm On Aug 16, 2017
I read everything from the first page. Hnmmmmmm my sister, some comment here are from people that knows nothing about marriage. Your story is similar to mine but I have handed everything to God and am waiting for his next action. For how long will you pray for a man's love and affection when it is obvious that he only see you as acquired property. Life is too short jare, forget him and focus on your children and career. Don't even give him attention again, erase him totally from your life and make yourself happy. I treat him now like he doesn't exist and that's how it will be till christ come, I won't ever let any man frustrate me to death. I have prayed and prayed and nothing has changed. Most night, I cry myself to sleep but enough of that. I won't cry because of any man again never. Please make yourself happy for the sake of your adorable kids

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 9:57pm On Aug 16, 2017
Xcelinteriors:
I read everything from the first page. Hnmmmmmm my sister, some comment here are from people that knows nothing about marriage. Your story is similar to mine but I have handed everything to God and am waiting for his next action. For how long will you pray for a man's love and affection when it is obvious that he only see you as acquired property. Life is too short jare, forget him and focus on your children and career. Don't even give him attention again, erase him totally from your life and make yourself happy. I treat him now like he doesn't exist and that's how it will be till christ come, I won't ever let any man frustrate me to death. I have prayed and prayed and nothing has changed. Most night, I cry myself to sleep but enough of that. I won't cry because of any man again never. Please make yourself happy for the sake of your adorable kids
Thanks for stopping by. It's not easy my sister, when you're looking forward to a blissful marriage only to realize your partner isn't thinking alongside. You do everything humanly possible to make it work but he is bent on wrecking everything without remorse.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:01pm On Aug 16, 2017
FortuneTeller:


My dear I do not care if you believe or disbelieve what I write on this website. This is where I vent. If you don't like it, you can read elsewhere.

As for the op, most of these people have never been married and many of them are still kids. They have no idea what it's like to be in a real marriage. However I understand your pain, because I'm going through something similar. People will say at least your husband wants to have sex with you and he's able to. However what's the use of sex if it's no good? As I said, please don't kill anyone. There are other options. As for me, I'm definitely going to find someone that I can enjoy quality sex with.
My dear, marriage is really serious in real life. If he's giving me companion and affection without good sex or no sex at all.. . I won't be here complaining. How do you deal with a lover turned to a complete stranger right before your eyes? I can't even cheat... the thought makes me puke already. I'm just tired.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Brokenangel2: 10:09pm On Aug 16, 2017
lastmessenger:
All this long story just because you are not getting bleeped all night. And you are even thinking of stabbing someone.
Common get your fatt ass out of the house and set a goal for your life. Live a life of purpose and see your husband run coming back to you.
The bottom line is that you lack purpose and for that reason life is about sex and intimacy.
I can with the no sex part...but living with a "complete stranger" without even the most basic of communication will send me to an early grave. Talking about purpose, of course I do have one. I have a job and other things to look up to in life.. . But none will take the place of the man I vowed to love for the rest of my life. Life isn't about sex and intimacy, I concur. So life is about frustrating your fellow human being who has done nothing but good to you? So life is about getting a girl out of her parents house with the promise of being a lifetime companion but turn around to humiliate her? Define life for me bro. Somethings are not for jokes my brother. Think about that.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 10:16pm On Aug 16, 2017
Brokenangel2:
My dear, marriage is really serious in real life. If he's giving me companion and affection without good sex or no sex at all.. . I won't be here complaining. How do you deal with a lover turned to a complete stranger right before your eyes? I can't even cheat... the thought makes me puke already. I'm just tired.

I'm not happy with my husband, but I can say we are still friends. I could never think of stabbing him under any circumstances. However that does not mean I will sit silently, let resentment grow and never have sex again. My path is not your path. However I will say that you need to be careful. You may be thinking of hurting him, but what if he hurts you? What happens if he comes in one day and says it's over? You will feel like your heart has been ripped out and you have wasted years on being empty. The knife you try to use at that moment, will be justification for him to murder you and move on with the other woman. If you are unhappy, just let him go in peace, so both of you can find happiness.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Jahblessme: 1:09am On Aug 17, 2017
A good percentage of men are crap at se x but still feel they are champions in the bedroom.
Hypocrites would never ever advice their fellow man to endure a se xless or crap se x life,they would be encouraging him to find a lover if the wife is rubbish or unable to twist her legs over her head.
Women are sex ual beings too and deserve a satisfying se x life,it's the duty of her husband to work with her to achieve it or face the consequences.Using naija logic,he is pushing her into the arms of another man.So why are people foaming in the mouth when she's talking about finding a lover to give her what she's missing? It's not like her husband is bothered,he doesn't want to do his job naa so maybe he needs an assistant.
I do not know the amount of church going that can quench se xual fever in a young unsatisfied virile woman,something has to give.

@Brokenangel2
If you cannot opt for a trial separation,you must self soothe.Love honey uk will supply equipment to manage the se x part.For the emotional one you have to reach deep down and remember that your joy should never be dependent on another human being.
It is difficult but you may have to discover yourself and immerse yourself deeply in activities that will improve your wellbeing ,soon your husband will stop being your focus and he will cease to matter.What he does or doesn't do will be inconsequential to your happiness.
If someone decides to be a source of misery to you,like a tumour it gets cut out.It takes a strong mind but it's achievable.
You really don't want to have unnecessary high bp or wrinkles because of someone .Face yourself ,your kids,improve and achieve your dreams.
Once you stop paying attention to him,your life will change for the better.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by ebonflexy(m): 1:44am On Aug 17, 2017
FortuneTeller:


My dear I do not care if you believe or disbelieve what I write on this website. This is where I vent. If you don't like it, you can read elsewhere.

As for the op, most of these people have never been married and many of them are still kids. They have no idea what it's like to be in a real marriage. However I understand your pain, because I'm going through something similar. People will say at least your husband wants to have sex with you and he's able to. However what's the use of sex if it's no good? As I said, please don't kill anyone. There are other options. As for me, I'm definitely going to find someone that I can enjoy quality sex with.

What makes sex "not good" for you?
Itemize what you'd like.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 1:50am On Aug 17, 2017
ebonflexy:


What makes sex "not good" for you?
Itemize what you'd like.

I already did. See my previous thread.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by ebonflexy(m): 1:58am On Aug 17, 2017
FortuneTeller:


I already did. See my previous thread.

What kind of investigative homework is that?
Am I to start stalking all your posts in all various threads? Hope you don't think I am one of these jobless Nairaland boys.

If you don't want to repeat it, post a link to the actual post you are referring to.
Don't be disrespectful.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by ebonflexy(m): 2:02am On Aug 17, 2017
Brokenangel2:
do you have any idea that the post the person you quoted was referring to was not mine? Try and go through previous comments before quoting people. As for talking about myself in "several paragraphs"... I was only trying to make clear that I have the qualities most men desire in a woman. Do I damage my husband with my tongue? The answer is in one of my previous comments... my parents prepared me for marriage. I'm among the few who knows what a Godly marriage entails. Thanks for your contribution.

My bad, that was rude/silly of me
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 2:17am On Aug 17, 2017
ebonflexy:


What kind of investigative homework is that?
Am I to start stalking all your posts in all various threads? Hope you don't think I am one of these jobless Nairaland boys.

If you don't want to repeat it, post a link to the actual post you are referring to.
Don't be disrespectful.

Disrespectful? Are you Buhari? Are you Obama? Are you Jesus? Vamoose!

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 2:19am On Aug 17, 2017
ebonflexy:


What kind of investigative homework is that?
Am I to start stalking all your posts in all various threads? Hope you don't think I am one of these jobless Nairaland boys.

If you don't want to repeat it, post a link to the actual post you are referring to.
Don't be disrespectful.

Let me turn investigator.

ebonflexy:
My fav thing to do with a big-booty girl.

http://www.xvideos.com/video9552935/a_dedicated_worshipper_under_this_phat_ass

Take note you dullards. Then do this to your woman.
See how her behavior changes after grin

ebonflexy:
I'll only be able to judge after I stick my tongue in each of their bootyholes and taste each asshole.

ebonflexy:


lol nothing to be ashamed about.
A lot of us actually love giving you girls head more than just fucking.
There's just something about eating out a girl's clean pussy and shower-fresh bootyhole until she cums like she's having a convulsion that just makes our day grin

Please read the following to see the perversion and gayness.

ebonflexy:


I prefer getting my dick, balls and ass sucked... yes.
I wish girls learn these things, cuz it's always frustrating having to train a new girlfriend each time.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by ebonflexy(m): 2:37am On Aug 17, 2017
FortuneTeller:


Let me turn investigator.







Please read the following to see the perversion and gayness.





I don't get. Am I supposed to feel ashamed?
Ofcourse I'm a freak. You didn't know before?
Keep "investigating" my posts and you might have to cum before the night is up. smiley
The black female body is a beautiful thing.

And you are a novice if you think a man that loves his ass getting ate is gay.
Your husband is to blame for not having already turned you into the pervert you crave to be.
I believe we are both freaks, but you're just too chic to admit it.
When you're done with the baby thing, hit me up, and I'll make you crave pleasuring me.
I'll use and abuse you so well baby.
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by PDPGuy: 4:26am On Aug 17, 2017
FortuneTeller:


Let me turn investigator.







Please read the following to see the perversion and gayness.





Lmao
Are you a police investigator? grin

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 5:33am On Aug 17, 2017
PDPGuy:


Lmao
Are you a police investigator? grin

Never bring a water pistol to a gun fight, because I stay locked and loaded. wink
Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Viking007(m): 6:11am On Aug 17, 2017
mazimee:
To get married done dey fear me embarassed
Marriage is a lot like the army, everyone complains, but you'd be surprised at the large number that re-enlist. -- James Garner.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by lastmessenger: 6:36am On Aug 17, 2017
Brokenangel2:
I can with the no sex part...but living with a "complete stranger" without even the most basic of communication will send me to an early grave. Talking about purpose, of course I do have one. I have a job and other things to look up to in life.. . But none will take the place of the man I vowed to love for the rest of my life. Life isn't about sex and intimacy, I concur. So life is about frustrating your fellow human being who has done nothing but good to you? So life is about getting a girl out of her parents house with the promise of being a lifetime companion but turn around to humiliate her? Define life for me bro. Somethings are not for jokes my brother. Think about that.
Sorry for being harsh in my previous post,that was only meant to awaken your sense of awareness that life is far beyond what you are crying about.

I do not know when or why your husband suddenly changed his disposition toward you but whatever the reason maybe I do not care to know.


My concern is that you deserve to be happy and that can be found whether your husband is there or not.


OK let tell me share a line of thought that you know already and that is the fact that energy is life and is an external delight. Anything you can feel and touch in this life is as a result of energy being expended by a source. That means that every expended energy seeks to achieve a result.

Your emotion is energy.your love is for your husband is emotional energy. Hence hence your frustration is coming because your energy toward him is not yielding result.

Here is my advice to you,channel that emotional energy into something else. Have a passion for something else. You are a graduate, you can decide to enrole in a postgraduate course and learn something new and you can even go ahead and get a PhD while he there sleeping alone on a couch. I mean do something that will make him feel you have a plan that is far beyond him. Occupy your time and emotion into something more meaningful. Do you know why chimamanda adichie is a world renowned novelist? The reason is because she is passionate about what she does.Every success you is because of energy channeled properly and yielding result.

The simple advice am given you is use that energy you have for loving your husband into something else and do it like your life depends on it.forget about cheating him with a random guy out there as that will not bring the ultimate solution. Because in the end you will still feel being used.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by teemy(m): 9:10am On Aug 17, 2017
Brokenangel2:
...It hurts to imagine people think my story is fake. It just hurts so much.
i think your main problem as observed from this post is you desire people's approval to justify living and it's wrong. brb.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by teemy(m): 9:36am On Aug 17, 2017
"when you change the way you look at something, that thing you look at begins to change." create your own joy not dependent on any person or status. over time people notice this. no one wants to be around those that ooze of self pity. love thyself.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by teemy(m): 9:52am On Aug 17, 2017
fortuneteller you can get hubby the book "she cums first" to help him up his gameplay. all the best. remember brokenangel2, your life, your joy, your right and your duty. you deserve your own happiness. create it. cheer dear.

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by Nobody: 11:49am On Aug 17, 2017
teemy:
fortuneteller you can get hubby the book "she cums first" to help him up his gameplay. all the best. remember brokenangel2, your life, your joy, your right and your duty. you deserve your own happiness. create it. cheer dear.

LOL. My husband is an avid reader. It's part of his career. I have books for him on this. He took one look at them and put them back in the closet. My husband is not going to change. So the only thing I have the power to change is me. Surprisingly I met someone but I'm pregnant. So I will have to wait until delivery. Enjoy your day. kiss

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Re: How My Husband Turned Me To A Porn Addict by gazilion: 11:54am On Aug 17, 2017
FortuneTeller:


LOL. My husband is an avid reader. It's part of his career. I have books for him on this. He took one look at them and put them back in the closet. My husband is not going to change. So the only thing I have the power to change is me. Surprisingly I met someone but I'm pregnant. So I will have to wait until delivery. Enjoy your day. kiss

You met someone who you want to commit adultery with? I pray for you with all my heart. It will not happen in Jesus name. The consequences are so much. Please, don't do it, don't contemplate it, don't go that way please...

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