FortuneTeller:


Lol. I'm going to stay with him. Bad sex doesn't mean divorce. Other than that we get along fine. I will just have an affair for sexual needs.

That's a sin my dear. You don't believe God will take out His justice on offenders? Adultery is like the sin of worshipping another God my dear. Didn't you know he was deep into religion before marrying him?

Oh my God. No man shd put me in this position biko.

FortuneTeller:


Madam please go somewhere with such nonsense. A machine in the place of a human being? Haba!

A machine can't replace a human. But it's not a horrible idea. Even people with partners who can makes love right, also use intimacy gadgets to spice things up.

cococandy:

A machine can't replace a human. But it's not a horrible idea. Even people with partners who can makes love right, also use intimacy gadgets to spice things up.

is wrong dear u teach ur man wat to do touch or kiss neva use a intimacy gadget

Brokenangel2:
Do I make our home uncomfortable for him? No!!! How do I know? He kept telling me of how lucky he was to have a wife like me. He says I give him peace that most married men don't have. He sometimes tell me how his friends are amazed when they complain about their wives but he only has positive things to say about me. Can't you people just see? I don't know if there's anything I've done. I don't know where I've gone wrong!!! I'm dying!!! He is all I have. I made him believe he is all to me. Is he taking advantage of my fragile nature? Is he taking advantage of my kind nature? I don't know but God knows

Men don't hunt after needy women. You made him see you as very needy. Can you get a job? Get busy. possible get a very busy job. Let him see that you are not home as you were before. Even if he doesn't notice it, just do it.

Pls you are crying and breaking my heart. You are a person first before a wife. What if this man dies in an accident? Won't you live afterwards? He doesn't even know you are hurting yet you are dying. Do not allow any one single human being have this kind of power over you.

Enough of the kids gloves. You are a complete human being independent of him. That man can kill you you know? I have seen two ladies their men brought them HIV, one is dead, one i met here in the Nairaland platform, we are still praying expecting a miracle as she's also taking her drugs.

Don't die becos of a man biko. Live for your kids.

701ecilana:

Men don't hunt after needy women. You made him see you as very needy. Can you get a job? Get busy. possible get a very busy job. Let him see that you are not home as you were before. Even if he doesn't notice it, just do it.

Pls you are crying and breaking my heart. You are a person first before a wife. What if this man dies in an accident? Won't you live afterwards? He doesn't even know you are hurting yet you are dying. Do not allow any one single human being have this kind of power over you.

Enough of the kids gloves. You are a complete human being independent of him. That man can kill you you know? I have seen two ladies their men brought them HIV, one is dead, one i met here in the Nairaland platform, we are still praying expecting a miracle as she's also taking her drugs.

Don't die becos of a man biko. Live for your kids.

She has a job. She's not a full house-wife.
She seems to have the setup of everything in place to give the man what he needs to succeed, but he is falling hand.

But that's naija for you sha.
Out in yankee/jand, guys are looking for good wifey-type women, so it pains me when I read a solid nigerian woman going through ish like this.
I think Naija spoils guys for real.

701ecilana:

That's a sin my dear. You don't believe God will take out His justice on offenders? Adultery is like the sin of worshipping another God my dear. Didn't you know he was deep into religion before marrying him?

Oh my God. No man shd put me in this position biko.

Lyin is a sin. If you've ever lied you have offended God. There is no such thing as a small or big sin. All sins are equal.

FortuneTeller:


This is similar to my marriage except I'm no longer interested in my husband sexually. The lack of good quality sex turned me away from him. We are just good friends. However I don't like porn. I need the real thing. So I will just meet a nice guy and go from there. Please don't kill anyone. It's better to leave or have an affair.

really you have mind oh

blessedqueen:


really you have mind oh

Show me pepper and I will show you fire.

FortuneTeller:


Lyin is a sin. If you've ever lied you have offended God. There is no such thing as a small or big sin. All sins are equal.

I agree. But what if i lie and ask for forgiveness and never lies again? It's different from deliberately lying, knowing i wi lie again and keep lying.

God knows our minds and what he'll judge is motive. Not even the actions, but motives behind the actions. This is not easy for you i know.

Pls i don't want to sound judgemental. So lets drop it.
Pls don't reply. Am sorry.

701ecilana:

I agree. But what if i lie and ask for forgiveness and never lies again? It's different from deliberately lying, knowing i wi lie again and keep lying.

God knows our minds and what he'll judge is motive. Not even the actions, but motives behind the actions. This is not easy for you i know.

Pls i don't want to sound judgemental. So lets drop it.
Pls don't reply. Am sorry.

It's impossible for you to never lie again. However with the same logic, I can commit adultery and ask for forgiveness each time. The truth is that if you are a Christian you have already been saved. You can't earn your way into heaven. Because my husband knows I'm not a religious fanatic, he doesn't try to make me a fool for religion. He tries to approach me with real life consequences when we have discussions. But this discussion is over. My mind is settled, so I won't trouble him with it again.

ebonflexy:


She has a job. She's not a full house-wife.
She seems to have the setup of everything in place to give the man what he needs to succeed, but he is falling hand.

But that's naija for you sha.
Out in yankee/jand, guys are looking for good wifey-type women, so it pains me when I read a solid nigerian woman going through ish like this.
I think Naija spoils guys for real.

Yes. Naija spoils our men. That's why most rich ones marry wives, take them and drop over at Yankee come back here under the guess of business so that they have all the space to be stupid.

This is really breaking my heart. Good women are very few, and they meet stupid men.

701ecilana:

A friend, a guy confided in me that, he doesn't enjoy sex with ladies. He has never cum having sex with a woman even if he is on it for a whole day, lai lai.

If you like be mami wata, na you sabi.

His mind doesn't even go to sex sef. I asked if he was gay? He said no, but men both young and old are begging him promising heaven and earth.

He Said, once a friend slept over his house and at night he starting touching him, kissing his body, he starting enjoying it, had an erection before remembering he was a man and pushed him off. He is afraid, if he ever tries it with a man, he will enjoy it and cum, hence remaining over there.

Tell me, if a man like this marries a woman tomorrow, what will her fate be? Won't that woman die staved?

Many women are married to bisexuals who enjoy sex more with men than with women.
That could be the case of this man.

I am homophobic and I am not apologetic, there is no excuse under the sun or will I say no rational explanation for homosexuality. QED


I wonder what being bisexual has to do with the topic, the lady didn't complain the husband hates sex abi was it implied the man doesn't enjoy sex with his wife

FortuneTeller:


It's impossible for you to never lie again. However with the same logic, I can commit adultery and ask for forgiveness each time. The truth is that if you are a Christian you have already been saved. You can't earn your way into heaven. Because my husband knows I'm not a religious fanatic, he doesn't try to make me a fool for religion. He tries to approach me with real life consequences when we have discussions. But this discussion is over. My mind is settled, so I won't trouble him with it again.

Okay dear.

konfused:


I am homophobic and I am not apologetic, there is no excuse under the sun or will I say no rational explanation for homosexuality. QED


I wonder what being bisexual has to do with the topic, the lady didn't complain the husband hates sex abi was it implied the man doesn't enjoy sex with his wife

My dear, many men married woman, acted like men for a time, then switched off. We are just considering why he is doing what he is doing, not that he is. But what if he is Bi?

Brokenangel2:
My story is not fake and the person you quoted wasn't referring to me. Read the previous comments other people made, you'll find out. It hurts to imagine people think my story is fake. It just hurts so much.

Pls. don't even bother yourself with uncompassionate people. Their lives are just that, dry.

701ecilana:

My dear, many men married woman, acted like men for a time, then switched off. We are just considering why he is doing what he is doing, not that he is. But what if he is Bi?

What if he is Bi??

Then he needs medical attention

There is no logical reason for being BI
QED,

First and foremost whatever will make me put my wife through this kind of emotional trauma knowingly or unknowingly,sweet Jesus take it far from me.
Dear Op a lot has been said that if you filter and string together will actually help you first and your marriage. We may be careful, nice and precautious but that does not rule out the uncertainties of life of something going wrong. You may or may not be the cause of what is happening in your marriage but as it were you are in it already. Don't let your circumstances turn you into who you are not, porn, masturbation or going out to find affection and se x with another man still won't make you happy. What if the guy you meet is "not good in bed or affectionate as anticipated "what then? You hop on to the next then onto the next? You are the only one who can make you happy.it is heartbreaking, frustrating, painful I know but love yourself enough to live for you and to love him in absentia,do your wifely duties as much as he allows you to, pray, trust and believe God for a turn around. No matter how prepared you are marriage uncertainties will one way or the other test you foundation.Our generation is so carried away with the Nollywood marriage mindset that when reality eventually pops up they can't handle it. To my single brothers out there, if your patience, tolerance, perseverance and forgiveness level is still in preschool, please abort the marriage mission o.

i just feel sad going through comments here...i have realised there is no right person or right situation or right decision. You make a decision right with the level of work and commitment you put into it.Nothing is permanent, There are no guarantees in life, people change, life goes on. A lot of persons invest so much in finding the right person but spend little on making themselves the right person. if you listen to most people talk about their choice of life partners, you hear them say "i want someone that will give me.......,someone that will make me......., someone that will buy me...." in other words the focus is on what they will get out of it and not what they will give in it. The problem is approaching it from the perspective of getting something out of it often gets you disappointed and frustrated when that person doesn't give you the desired expectation. Then they try to change the person they got married to, either subtly or forcefully,they become needy and resentment sets in, then it all comes crashing down. However approaching it from a perspective of giving puts you in a superior frame of mind, you give yourself, your time, funds, resources, intellect etc. you do it not because you want them to give back to you in the same exact measure, but because you want to help the other person attain their potentials, dreams and goals, because you want to make life a remarkable experience for them. For you to be able to achieve this you must have it in you. you cant give what you don't have. So your focus should be on empowering yourself, physically, financially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally to be able to meet the needs of this person .you may say "so when and how do i get loved and cared for in return? What if they don't reciprocate?" The truth is there is no guarantee that they will. Its just like you have a million dollars and you see a someone in need and give them one dollar, it doesn't matter to you what the person does with it, it doesn't affect you if they appreciate it, waste it or even reject it and throw it back at you because you have more than enough.So does it mean you go into relationships with no expectations whatsoever? Definitely No, you should have your expectations, goals and visions ensuring that you don't loose yourself while helping the other person achieve their dreams. Happiness comes from within, a Rolls Royce may make you comfortable but it wont make you happy. Living and Loving are choices we make everyday, you cant control what life throws at you, but you have complete control over your decisions and how you respond to life's issues. So rather than craving and bickering for attention, give attention, rather than demanding for love give love, rather than searching for peace, give peace, rather than searching for companionship, become a companion. you will discover that you are more fulfilled and little acts of unruly behaviour by your partner don't get you feeling frustrated as you used to. That Man or Woman who has turned their back on you was once attracted to you, there were qualities in you that made them come close and decide to spend the rest of their life with you, however some how you lost that spark, that drive, those enticing characteristics because you became comfortable, became complacent, forgot your identity,became sloppy(in vin diesel's voice). You have to regain control, work on yourself knowing that you alone are the solution and not the other person. you owe it to you to become your best self everyday.

FortuneTeller:

My mind is settled, so I won't trouble him with it again.

How long will this/these illicit affair(s) gona last ? Women peak sexually in their late thirties early forties and it doesn't seem like you are within this age range yet . That means you'd be a 'sugar mummy' to all these small boys around when that time comes . They have their conquests to validate their virility and ego as men they are - sleeping with a married woman who has kids - and you have your kondo shined properly - brilliant deal . It certainly won't be one guy that's for sure , you gona have lots of affairs since your husband is defiant about the situation and is unlikely to change . A brilliant excuse to match ! You bad

Anyway , have all the fun dear . You only live once . YOLO ! Enjoy


But in case things dont go according to plan , dont forget to update us oo so can we can sympathize with you and your matter go pass .

konfused:



What if he is Bi??

Then he needs medical attention

There is no logical reason for being BI
QED,

Hahahahahahahahahaha. Can it be cured?

Brokenangel2:
Thanks and thanks a million times. I'll keep this to heart but it's not just going to be easy. I'm naturally a very emotional person. I love just too much and that's my weak point.

The problem here is that we can't get him to tell us why he is doing all these. It might not be all his fault. There must be something that needed not revealed by him. From the way you described yourself, you are a dream come true for any man.

Your undoing is that your type can't explore spiritual angle in this. When i said spiritual angle, I'm not talking about herbalists or common prayers you pray in the church or 40 days fasting. There is a limit to what I can say here.

Whatever it is
It can be reversed

Life hasn't ended
If there is life, I believe there's always hope for a better life

Learn to pray also



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KingEbukasBlog:


How long will this/these illicit affair(s) gona last ? Women peak sexually in their late thirties early forties and it doesn't seem like you are within this age range yet . That means you'd be a 'sugar mummy' to all these small boys around when that time comes . They have their conquests to validate their virility and ego as men they are - sleeping with a married woman who has kids - and you have your kondo shined properly - brilliant deal . It certainly won't be one guy that's for sure , you gona have lots of affairs since your husband is defiant about the situation and is unlikely to change . A brilliant excuse to match ! You bad

Anyway , have all the fun dear . You only live once . YOLO ! Enjoy


But in case things dont go according to plan , dont forget to update us oo so can we can sympathize with you and your matter go pass .

You will surely have to sympathize with her, but unfortunately, she will be too ashamed to telll us herself.

KingEbukasBlog:


How long will this/these illicit affair(s) gona last ? Women peak sexually in their late thirties early forties and it doesn't seem like you are within this age range yet . That means you'd be a 'sugar mummy' to all these small boys around when that time comes . They have their conquests to validate their virility and ego as men they are - sleeping with a married woman who has kids - and you have your kondo shined properly - brilliant deal . It certainly won't be one guy that's for sure , you gona have lots of affairs since your husband is defiant about the situation and is unlikely to change . A brilliant excuse to match ! You bad

Anyway , have all the fun dear . You only live once . YOLO ! Enjoy


But in case things dont go according to plan , dont forget to update us oo so can we can sympathize with you and your matter go pass .

Brokenangel2:
Thanks and thanks a million times. I'll keep this to heart but it's not just going to be easy. I'm naturally a very emotional person. I love just too much and that's my weak point.

You can do it. All you need a shift in your thinking. The ideas am giving you will not only make you a better for yourself but also for your kids and eventually your husband(cos he will come to have a different thinking about you).

My mum when she can no longer quarrel with my late dad cos of how money is managed in the house took 4k from my dad and built a business that's is worth over a million naira. my mum had more money and became less dependent on my dad and that brought peace and respect for her.

Just make up your mind to change your situation and take action and you will be glad you did. I wish you success in your journey to a life of happiness and success.

701ecilana:
Hahahahahahahahahaha. Can it be cured?

Yes, it can be cured.
Homosexuality can be cured

@Brokenangel2

I have followed this thread keenly. You need to get up brush your self down and look after yourself.

Nothing wrong with self love but it gets boring after a while.
Find something that stimulates your passion and get on with it.

You need to get your mojo back don't let this turn you into an old woman overnight.

Should you have an affair only you can answer that question.

You need practical solutions...

Sounds like your man is in love with someone else for the moment and does not want to sullie that image in his head with sleeping with you.

He needs to see that you're still a desirable sexy woman. Maybe when he sees men paying you attention he might buckle up.

KingEbukasBlog:


How long will this/these illicit affair(s) gona last ? Women peak sexually in their late thirties early forties and it doesn't seem like you are within this age range yet . That means you'd be a 'sugar mummy' to all these small boys around when that time comes . They have their conquests to validate their virility and ego as men they are - sleeping with a married woman who has kids - and you have your kondo shined properly - brilliant deal . It certainly won't be one guy that's for sure , you gona have lots of affairs since your husband is defiant about the situation and is unlikely to change . A brilliant excuse to match ! You bad

Anyway , have all the fun dear . You only live once . YOLO ! Enjoy


But in case things dont go according to plan , dont forget to update us oo so can we can sympathize with you and your matter go pass .

Lol. Being a sugar mummy means giving a man money. No one has to do that in the US unless you want to. I don't give men money. Never have, never will. As long as the man knows what to do, age doesn't matter to me. I know an 80 yr old woman who still has sex with her 80 yr old boyfriend. Believe me a lot of women have affairs. I know quite a few. Women are just quiet about it.

FortuneTeller:


Lol. Being a sugar mummy means giving a man money. No one has to do that in the US unless you want to. I don't give men money. Never have, never will. As long as the man knows what to do, age doesn't matter to me. I know an 80 yr old woman who still has sex with her 80 yr old boyfriend. Believe me a lot of women have affairs. I know quite a few. Women are just quiet about it.

That is soo true ...all this had been happening since time immemorial.
Come to France....having affairs is the norm and discretion is observed.
One of the reasons the women are well groomed

FortuneTeller:


Lyin is a sin. If you've ever lied you have offended God. There is no such thing as a small or big sin. All sins are equal.

Yes, but the sin of sexual immorality is the only sin God himself supervises the judgement!! Every other sin is outside the body, but he that commits sexual immorality sins against his/her own body which is the temple of God. The judgement has a ripple effect. It's a fearful thing!! Please, change your mind and ask God for HIS GRACE!! He so loved you, he answered your prayers for a baby, now will you spite him by doing what he hates?

gazilion:


Yes, but the sin of sexual immorality is the only sin God himself supervises the judgement!! Every other sin is outside the body, but he that commits sexual immorality sins against his/her own body which is the temple of God. The judgement has a ripple effect. It's a fearful thing!! Please, change your mind and ask God for HIS GRACE!! He so loved you, he answered your prayers for a baby, now will you spite him by doing what he hates?

There is no big sin or a little sin. All sins are equal if you are a Christian. So if you have ever lied, you have committed adultery as all transgressions are equal in the sight of God. If you are a Christian, Jesus has died on the cross for your sins. He cannot die again. It's best you study your Bible before you attack me. I grew up in the church and I used to be a teacher in the church. My dear you can never make me feel guilty with any religion. Enjoy your day.

gazilion:


Yes, but the sin of sexual immorality is the only sin God himself supervises the judgement!! Every other sin is outside the body, but he that commits sexual immorality sins against his/her own body which is the temple of God. The judgement has a ripple effect. It's a fearful thing!! Please, change your mind and ask God for HIS GRACE!! He so loved you, he answered your prayers for a baby, now will you spite him by doing what he hates?

Sin of sexual immortality....what about all the men who do this.
in our culture it's ok for the man ...but heaven forbid a woman does it, the quotes and everything come out.

It should be the same rule for all men and women.