One word, run.

You have seen the SIGNS it would get WORSE after marriage. If you talk to her she would pretend till you get married.

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

Aya ye ya ni, Obi ati ebi eni kii ko ni.

She said yes when you are OK financially, sit her down & talk senses to her bit you need to apply wisdom. Women of her type can go extra mile to turn your families to your enemy through black power

All good advice taken. I will not betray my family and I will not treat her bad but I pray she listens when I will talk to her to avoid getting me angry. Thanks everybody here. God bless you all and give you a good and peaceful wife and husbands.

amliftedhigher,

I wish you can see the bigger picture. This lady will isolate you from your family. Even if you talk to her, she will only pretend that all will be well so that the marriage can hold. This is close to what happened to someone I know.
I wish my friend had the opportunity to listen to his neighbours, his family would have been there for him today.

You are in a long thing...just bid your family a remarkable farewell after the wedding.
I can wager anything, your relationship with your family will never be the same just like my friend.
The wedding day might be the last time you will ever sit and smile with your family.

coolcatty:
Smh

This marriage is so so heading to the rocks.... See massive red flag.

10k bet that this marriage won't get to 1year mark.

Who's betting with me on this?

I'm

mike404:
YOU SOUND LIKE A WIFE MATERIAL

Thanks, actually 30 yards of wm

Opakan2:
You're probably a Yoruba guy that married an igbo lady.

[s]Igbos teach their kids to hate other tribes especially Yorubas for no reason.[/s] But they expect absolute love in return.
Better carry your cross like that. Very soon, the only family your kids will know will be hers.

Sorry for you

Trash.

And u think she truly loves u?trust me,u can't please that lady.av dated someone like dat so am talking 4rm xperience.

She had to wait for you to do the traditional marriage before she unveiled her mask.

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

With this your last statement, I feel like slapping you. Leaving your family for a girl. What nonsense!

Lomantics:
She might not really hate them.
My husband is from a very nice and loving family but i am not close to them, i give them their space cos i like mine
One day i had an argument with my husband about his parents and the next thing he said is "I have always known you hate my mother"
I didnt even bother to explain any thing to him i just ignored the statement.

But whatever your situation is, you have to manage it very carefully so as not to be drawn between your mom/sisters and your wife

you Said you don't hate them but you give them space? Why the space? So u give your own family space? What's there drawing them closer, afterall you guys are now families

Opakan2:
You're probably a Yoruba guy that married an igbo lady.

Igbos teach their kids to hate other tribes especially Yorubas for no reason. But they expect absolute love in return.
Better carry your cross like that. Very soon, the only family your kids will know will be hers.

Sorry for you

Mindless comment.
'Hate' is loosing it's meaning to y'all, really?

Have noticed this in families long before now...

When in laws like d wife ...she in turn will hate them then in the scenario where wife like the in laws low and behold d family will hate her...


And I now wonder is it the Nigeria mentality or
this have to do with the way one is brought
up?
Love is the most expensive thing in Nigeria now


Charity beginnings at home

Opakan2:
You're probably a Yoruba guy that married an igbo lady.

Igbos teach their kids to hate other tribes especially Yorubas for no reason. But they expect absolute love in return.
Better carry your cross like that. Very soon, the only family your kids will know will be hers.

Sorry for you

Pls don't tribalise this thread. Where did you get that from?

Is one thing to hate someone and pretend you like them and is another thing to openly hate them without fear,...oga that your fiance abi wife na your undoing if you dont reach a proposed agreement with her...


Okay lets put it this way...

would you like a situation where your children will not know their aunties or uncle from your side.... becos your wife will certainly turn them against your family.... With time nobody will like to associate with you, then the marriage will be like any marriage, less interesting,, soon novody will support you if casala burst between you and your wife,, i mean who will u talk to?

the sister you turn your back on ??


Better check who is paying for the bride price and grow a pair of dickk damn...

Oyindidi:
Why do I have the huge to insult you for your last sentence.
That girl is wicked for hating your family for no reason. Where was your wife when they were training you? Weak men everywhere.

No man is weak and by the time you see a strong man do you strong thing, you will come to this platform to report him. Omo mind your sef oooh!

You are a coward and cowards die hundred time before their death. How can someone that pisses from behind turn you against your family and you are here begging for advice. Tell me who is your comrade? Comrade of what sort? They sent you to higher institution and now one with monthly blood stain under her opening decided to turn you to your family who will never leave you in life but she who can leave you at any point in time when things are no more bubbling... I am not your comrade boy, look for your type here on nairaland and form comradeship. Coward and smelling girl wrapper.

Lomantics:
She might not really hate them.
My husband is from a very nice and loving family but i am not close to them, i give them their space cos i like mine
One day i had an argument with my husband about his parents and the next thing he said is "I have always known you hate my mother"
I didnt even bother to explain any thing to him i just ignored the statement.

But whatever your situation is, you have to manage it very carefully so as not to be drawn between your mom/sisters and your wife

you give them their space cause you like yours?
and you expect him to be cozy to your family abi?
selfish women everywhere....

mrblessed:
Which good lady will snub the company of a 'good and nice family?' I think your hubby is correct; you hate his family without a reason. lf you ask me, I think you are suffering from a psychological problem.

Fact!!

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

See.....this marriage can't proceed ...do u understand me ? It can't proceed no matter what.. Love can never xure the damage this woman will do .
No matter the begging both sides do stand your ground
Avert a terrible disaster or be prepared to have a bitter divorce or very unhappy marriage
Ehen

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

To slap you dey hunger me with this your last statement. Dump your family for a girl, what nonsense!

The lady you married is a Jezebel, simple. The kind that would poison her husband's mind against his people.

You're making a terrible mistake marrying that bitch. She go show you pepper.

amliftedhigher:
All good advice taken. I will not betray my family and I will not treat her bad but I pray she listens when I will talk to her to avoid getting me angry. Thanks everybody here. God bless you all and give you a good and peaceful wife and husbands.

Your wife doesn't hate your family.. On the contrary, she's in awe of them. The relationship you have with your family is splendid and she's scared the relationship she has with you might never get to the level of the one you have with your family.

You guys need to talk. You just need to allay her fears. You have to make her understand that you'll always respect and cherish your family for all their sacrifices. But she's your wife and she's number 1.
Please, do not listen to anybody telling you to call off the marriage.

Goodluck and may God bless your home

is better to forget the lady is not your wife....is better to be single planing wedding that to get wed and not praying to be single....use your head... I will not say more than that....

niggi4life:
you Said you don't hate them but you give them space? Why the space? So u give your own family space? What's there drawing them closer, afterall you guys are now families

God bless you brother. I wanted to quote and reply that post but I just deleted it. It does not deserve any logical response.

drealcivilceno:

No man is weak and by the time you see a strong man do you strong thing, you will come to this platform to report him. Omo mind your sef oooh!

Taaar, nothing will make me create that kind thread.

Bigsteveg:

With this your last statement, I feel like slapping you. Leaving your family for a girl. What nonsense!

Leave him ! This woman will cause a painful separation...she might end up stopping him from even giving gifts to his own family except hers

I already dislike his wife ...for the love of God I hope he cancels this wedding

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

Put your house in order-if she cannot change towards your family that saw you through school, then you will have to let her go! Here in Africa,you dont just marry an individual, but also the entire family. That shows that hatred towards your family is hatred towards you too. Safe yourself the future drama by putting her to order or letting her go.

Op, dont be involving your family much in your marital life, it is always bound to create animosity. If you must consult family members on certain issues do so discreetly and dont mention this to your spouse. And try as much as you can to reconcile her to your family because you unwittingly created that mindset in her at the onset of the relationship be tactful about it she has come into your life there is nothing you can do to reverse it just try to change her mindset tell her she is the owner of the home, she is your caretaker and no one can take her place. Your sisters has their own families you are starting yours.

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

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You are a coward and cowards die hundred time before their death. How can someone that piss from behind turn you against your family and you are here begging for advice. Tell me who is your comrade? Comrade of what sort? They sent you to higher institution and now one with monthly blood stain under her opening now decided to turn you to your family who can never leave you in life but she can leave you at any point in time when things are no more bubbling... I am not your comrade boy, look for your type here on nairaland and form comradeship. Coward and smelling girl rapper.

She has listened to the common idea that the wife of an only son is hated.
It is a case of self-fulfilling prophesy