YelloweWest:

Lol.

I am a woman who has worked hard and by the grace of God I can say I have it all.

missyadorable:


Go and sleep!
Empty barrel...Noise maker

YelloweWest:

Lol.

I am a woman who has worked hard and by the grace of God I can say I have it all.

Tuham:


The guy did wrong for not picking calls bro but that doesn't mean he had duped her. They've been in a relationship for long bro and how about looking things in a different way like; the guy might not have found his feet back

thesuave10:


You're making a problem which is a big issue. You already came into the argument with a stereotype in mind. I didn't say that's why he is doing it. I'm bringing out other relevant options. It's just being objective. You've already programmed your mind and I do not blame you to the fact that once you borrow money to someone and the person stops picking your calls then what next is to question transparency and this is A very big problem. Take note that the guy replied to her text and not her calls ,maybe he doesn't like the way her voice sounds when she's sad which might make him feel bad about himself. He's making a mistake and I agree by not communicating his reasons because running away from an issue will make matters worse. now the bigger and more relevant problem is her threatening to end her relationship that's near marriage. That is very foolish

supersystemsnig:


The recession is affecting the mental stability of many guys these days, do you think noodles and two eggs every night and garri and groundnut afternoons will nourish the brain?

kimbraa:
Lol, they're just displaying foolishness on a public forum. I hope the op learns sha 'cause ladies have been duped ostensibly with marriage proposal.

Blackhawk01:


Yeah, you did which is quite unusual. Why? Because your man is the guilty one here

I don't care about the mumu relationship between them, dude disregarded that relationship the moment he failed to keep to his words and kept his mouth shut about it. This could have been avoided if he kept updating her about the whole issue, you know that right?

Hahaha .. Na where the guy no pick calls him fucck up

Shey you saw one guy's comment on the first saying if you must borrow money, please avoid borrowing from a woman you're romantically involved with cos she'll rub it on your face and spite you if for any reason you don't pay back as agreed.


Do you agree with that assertion?

supersystemsnig:


My dear, I'm first of all sorry you're in the situation you're in. But just 500naira can settle this situation.Simple, communication is key in relationships and when there's a lack of genuine communication, it is not unusual for one party to become unsettled. While your bf ought to be the one that should give you updates, you can also make the first call my dear. Perhaps something went wrong, and he's ashamed of communicating with you.

The money can be lost but you can preserve your relationship. Call him, or send him an SMS saying i don't know what's happening between us, if there's a problem honey please let me know. I'm worried about us, our communication has become bad, and i'm unsettled about us. If it's the business issues, if there's a problem, we can talk about it. I don't want you to handle any pressure you're in all alone, don't be selfish about keeping your struggles to yourself. Please honey get in touch, you can win your bf back and reap the rewards on the long run. Please don't be quick to imagine even though it is warranted. Give him the benefit of a doubt.


People are capable of good as much as they are of bad, so let's not always be fast to imagine people in the bad light ( i.e. you have been defrauded ). you said it yourself, he's good, intelligent, knows his stuff, perhaps he ran into murky waters...Hear from him, go see him and save yourself from the misery of his silence...abeg

Sterope:
Women discuss too. They discuss how stupid men really are, how gay the most heterosexual man is and how men suffer from inferiority complex. They talk like you do. Everyone talks, not my business

1) He would still cry. Blue sea or not. If he cared for that relationship, he will care about it if she jilted him

2) Financial status does not matter. If there was a relationship, he will care


Loving women does not stop you from being a sexist.

nkwuocha:


Lol.She is not engaged.
Forget about that marriage ish,its not a do or die affair.The guy may not be interested as much as she is.
Please forget that marriage ish!Someone who is broke ,how can he get married? She borrowed him money to revive his company, pray tell,how is he going to cope with paying back with interest and the expenses that comes with marriage? .Except he sees the lady as a bail out fund of course.

Let's be realistic now,remove the idea of "marriage' from this discourse. How is she going to get her money back?

whitetiger511:


yimu. what stupid relationship is she saving. why didn't communication change before he collected the money, afterall he was under pressure then. All I see here is you asking op to buy marriage with 500k. they haven't even been together for up to a year.

this is no different from those Facebook scammers that will message you from the abroad, do long distance relationship with you, when you start catching feelings they then give you one cock and bull story about their mama being ill, so baby send money to my mom. I'll pay you back. after which they stop answering.

I see they are now operating in real life.

Gloria3389:
I think you should try and be there for him as a lover and not as a business partner. .Then you'll know what's actually wrong with him...Guys try to deal with certain situations alone(that's often misinterpreted by ladies sha) especially if their so called lover is part of the situation

Asking him for ur money almost immediately after production started is not so polite to him as a wife-to-be to him and that might be giving him a second thought about the relationship self

the fact that he didn't keep his promise doesn't mean he has duped u

come to think of it, you have been dating him and planning to get married soon..will you throw it all away because of business (money)

Don't let village pple win o...take hold of the issue as a humble matured independent wife material..

Goodluck!

supersystemsnig:


I agree, i hope you can see why the country is stuck in mediocrity, just like me, i hope you're seeing the mindset of the so-called leaders of tomorrow...

kimbraa:
Lol, they're just displaying foolishness on a public forum. I hope the op learns sha '[/b]cause ladies have been duped ostensibly with marriage proposal[b].

whitetiger511:


yimu. what stupid relationship is she saving. why didn't communication change before he collected the money, afterall he was under pressure then. All I see here is you asking op to buy marriage with 500k. they haven't even been together for up to a year.

this is no different from those Facebook scammers that will message you from the abroad, do long distance relationship with you, when you start catching feelings they then give you one cock and bull story about their mama being ill, so baby send money to my mom. I'll pay you back. after which they stop answering.

I see they are now operating in real life.

Why can't people speak without horrendous fallacies

Sanchez01:

Most ladies can't even keep relationships and it is often times annoying that they can't really see afar. The emboldened are not far from the truth. There must have been an emotional disconnect at this point because money has been prioritised. She claimed she thought of visiting just so she could go and get her money! Who does that?? How about a friendly visit to find out if there are financial hiccups since he is just bouncing back.

The interest part soiled everything and clearly tells a whole lot about her. Perhaps she agreed to assist the guy all because of the interest, perhaps not. However, it speaks volume so much that it is disturbing.

Daeylar:


Don't mind them, look at how hard some fools are trying to make it seem like the lady alone is at fault or both are at fault but of course with more blame going to the lady,
Mtchhhhheeeeeeeewwwwww. NONSENSE.
Very few are saying the truth that the guy is at fault,(thank God for those guys)

but let it be a lady that did what the guy did now, you will see how they will come out in full force to condemn it, rubbish.

dingbang:
You dont mind losing your Rship because of 500k...


May the lord forgive you of your sins.. Amen

supersystemsnig:

I've realized i don't even know women thesedays. One has to deal with them carefully...

tosyne2much:
Hahaha .. Na where the guy no picks calls him fucck up

Shey you saw one guy's comment on the first saying if you must borrow money, please avoid borrowing from a woman you're romantically involved with cos she'll rub it on your face and spite you if for any reason you don't pay back as agreed.


Do you agree with that assertion?

kimbraa:
Some comments would make you cringe, like that of the person with the most "Likes" on front page. That being said, I used to have a lost friend on here called Supersystem. I'm just wondering if you're the one and reincarnated.

supersystemsnig:


abeg bros... you get hatred for women, look at how you went straight for her...she asked for advice and not judgement.

Gloria3389:
I think you should try and be there for him as a lover and not as a business partner. .Then you'll know what's actually wrong with him...Guys try to deal with certain situations alone(that's often misinterpreted by ladies sha) especially if their so called lover is part of the situation

Asking him for ur money almost immediately after production started is not so polite to him as a wife-to-be to him and that might be giving him a second thought about the relationship self

the fact that he didn't keep his promise doesn't mean he has duped u

come to think of it, you have been dating him and planning to get married soon..will you throw it all away because of business (money)

Don't let village pple win o...take hold of the issue as a humble matured independent wife material..

Goodluck!

sekem:


I figured out women a long time ago

When you are dealing with someone who is NATURALLY selfish, you need to learn how to be extra careful.

Can you imagine, you will do everything for a woman thinking you're helping a human being but watch what will happen when it's her time to pay you back

Trust no woman even the one you call your wife

The day she will surprise you with her true nature which is wholly irrational and of course, unbridled selfishness, sorry will be your name

tosyne2much:
Hahahahaha But na the truth I yarn so nah

A story is usually sweet without hearing from the other person nah

whitetiger511:


if this ain't the truth.