elantraceey:
I wonder the kind of relationship people go into these days. Do you love him at all? have you even ever loved him?


If you didn't know the job he does I'll understand, if you didn't know where his company is located I'll understand, if he was jobless and lazy I would have reasoned with you but come on! You know this man, you've been to his company, you know the issues he's facing and rather than being a support to him at this you chose to add to his problems, I was him I won't even reply your text at all and break the relationship immediately after I'm able to pay you because there's no trust at all.



How sure are you that he's finally stable now? Do you know if he incurred losses when he was out of production? You yourself admitted it was a big issue and you helped out (I think) mainly because your money is already involved not even because of him so you can't even say he planned that. You were supposed to understand that the circumstances when the agreement was reached changed hence I think that the reason why he couldn't meet up with what you both agreed on.



I'll only advice you to get your mind off money, money is not all there is, send him a text message and apologize for your lack of trust and support then give him a call and if he's a good guy he'll apologize to you too for explaining things better , when you both reconcile, give him some time, weeks, months, whatever but don't put pressure on him, you'll get your man and your money that way, you don't need to lose any.

Ishilove:

All suppositions. It's her money and she reserves the right to do what she pleases with it.

She says he has made the money back so why doesn't he want to return it??

kimbraa:
Please, shut up!. You've been quoting people upandan with your biased opinion.
They had an agreement he'd remit her account weekly, when she failed to get what they agreed upon she called his line, he didn't pick. She sent messages, he didn't reply. If you loan someone money and gets treated this way, what would be the first thing that'll occur to you?.

What kind of communication are you referring to when the debtor is avoiding any communication with her?. Use your brain.

pedrilo:
sorry, u sound like a liability woman!
ur sis, ur husband, everybody spending on u, who u help?

Blackhawk01:


Superpack

Iyamm running away from you nii, before you'll borrow my money and run away first.

How have yoh been?

ireneony:
do u think is easy to give out 500k..
why didn't he asked his friends or colleagues.
the lady try abeg.
has ur girl ever given u 20k?

not everyone is a giver.
The guy should at least appreciate her by returning her calls.
put urself in her shoes.

Fuuucvk marriage.
who marriage help.
I don't joke with my hard earned coins.

humilitypays:
Believe me, for the guy to have stopped calling her like before being his girlfriend, fiance per se, she must have knowingly or unknowingly insulted the guy because she lent him money. You should know your sisters very well na, they can't fail to scream to heavens anytime they spend their kobo on their Nigerian boyfriend; it's not new.

And why this sounds funny to me is because as we speak, a close friend told me to transfer around 650k to his fiance, guess what for For her family house rent that expired and her dad couldn't pay cos he has not been paid salary since April. He even added extra money to what she demanded....and don't think my friend is a mugu...nope, he is a soji guy but he's doing it out of the love he has for the girl and if she decides to fuckup tomorrow, he will smile and move on cos we do know about all those shit.

But it baffles me when Naija ladies give a Meagre from their kobo and make so much noise about it to make it look like Nigerian guys are all scammers or bad‎


....and where Nigerian ladies meet all these their broke, senseless, classless boyfriends that disgrace other Nigerian men's awesome image is what I don't know

YelloweWest:

I'm not a broke girl. I'm a married woman with kids. A lawyer and successful business woman.

My hus is self made. He hustled like the way real men do.

There was a time my sister took me shopping and Spent a considerable amount of money on me. My hus sent her back the money as a birthday gift. He said it touches his ego...

That's the kind of man I'm married to. A real man's man.
Not the ones I see here on nl.

kimbraa:
Some have the temerity to call the girl "Callous". I swear!, Some people don't deserve help.

tosyne2much:
This relationship is already dead bro. Trust me!

alexialin:




My experience ke! I reject such experience!

Have never borrowed any bf money, be it ex or recent.


I rather dash than borrow.. I cant shout abeg

And i cant start pursuing someone upandan


But my female friends were the ones borrowing such huge amounts to their bfs when they were dating.

One of. My female friends back then when she was single fainted in my office with tears after narrating how her bf back then stopped answering her calls after transferring 500k to him. Mehn she was a nervous wreck and to worsen the whole issue, the mother of the guy was then saying she cannot accept her as daughter inlaw cos she dreamt, she wont be a good wife to her son..


Na now, after collecting 500k the mum now knows she cant marry her son and her useless son stopped picking her calls.

I just weak as she was crying and collapsed in my arms


I had to quickly call my security guard and colleague to help carry her into my car and rushed her to the hospital.

Mehn! It was terrible heartwrenching thing to see on my friend.

I can never place myself in That's situation. Never!


Anyways to cut story short .shes married now to one of his friend. And they are doing well.

Can you listen to yourself Alex? How does this help her case Now? How does this prove that this guy and that your friend's guy are the same thing?

YelloweWest:

I'm telling u! Hungry bastards!

They have no shame. No sense of pride as young men. Back in the day it was every man's goal to be successful.
But know we have young men just looking for every possible means to milk a hard working girl dry.

Just imagine the comments. The op gave her bf 500k with the promise that he will payback.
Since then he stopped taking her calls and is acting up. Isn't it obvious that the guy is a scam?

elantraceey:
I wonder the kind of relationship people go into these days. Do you love him at all? have you even ever loved him?


If you didn't know the job he does I'll understand, if you didn't know where his company is located I'll understand, if he was jobless and lazy I would have reasoned with you but come on! You know this man, you've been to his company, you know the issues he's facing and rather than being a support to him at this you chose to add to his problems, I was him I won't even reply your text at all and break the relationship immediately after I'm able to pay you because there's no trust at all.



How sure are you that he's finally stable now? Do you know if he incurred losses when he was out of production? You yourself admitted it was a big issue and you helped out (I think) mainly because your money is already involved not even because of him so you can't even say he planned that. You were supposed to understand that the circumstances when the agreement was reached changed hence I think that the reason why he couldn't meet up with what you both agreed on.



I'll only advice you to get your mind off money, money is not all there is, send him a text message and apologize for your lack of trust and support then give him a call and if he's a good guy he'll apologize to you too for explaining things better , when you both reconcile, give him some time, weeks, months, whatever but don't put pressure on him, you'll get your man and your money that way, you don't need to lose any.

ireneony:
do u think is easy to give out 500k..
why didn't he asked his friends or colleagues.
the lady try abeg.
has ur girl ever given u 20k?

not everyone is a giver.
The guy should at least appreciate her by returning her calls.
put urself in her shoes.

Fuuucvk marriage.
who marriage help.
I don't joke with my hard earned coins.

Who told you his friends have not given him? And what if he chose her instead because he felt Immee would be more patient and understanding?

Brugo:
The guy made a big mistake. He should never have borrowed from his girlfriend. Nigerian girls don't need to see their men in difficult situations because these babes of nowadays....

Guys, try not to let your babes see you vulnerable.

thesuave10:


Can you listen to yourself Alex? How does this help her case Now? How does this prove that this guy and that your friend's guy are the same thing?

Jung:
Then wetin you dey find for Nairaland ma?? Pride na die
Must you tell u say u get money? Later now when somebody start using ur facebook profile picture to fan body... U go start to cry

HEFAIROHLUWA:
Thank you for this sir..

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

alexialin:






Am telling you.

Its a shame but thats the kind of men we have these days

No sense of pride or honour.

To even marry sef? Am not even hungry for it anymore.

Bunch of lazy parasitic men. They full everywhere.

Only very few are like the days of our fathers.

The bf is pure scam!

supersystemsnig:



Which one is i should shut up. Did i stratify myself before you ma'am? Yet another stereotype..

alexialin:






Its similar, they each borrowed their bfs 500k.

And both bfs no longer picks their calls.

So whatelse remain again?

YelloweWest:

I said u guys should man up. I never said shut up.

ireneony:
do u think is easy to give out 500k..
why didn't he asked his friends or colleagues.
the lady try abeg.
has ur girl ever given u 20k?

not everyone is a giver.
The guy should at least appreciate her by returning her calls.
put urself in her shoes.

Fuuucvk marriage.
who marriage help.
I don't joke with my hard earned coins.

thesuave10:


Who told you his friends have not given him? And what if he chose her instead because he felt Immee would be more [b]patient and understanding? [/b]

YelloweWest:

I help my family.

I help in being my husbands back bone and support system. He calls me his anchor!

I help by caring my husbands children in my stomach for 9months and bringing them forth in hard labour and pain.

I help in raising and training God fearing children making us proud in sch.

I help by cooking his meals, making sure our home is always clean.

I help by playing the perfect host to his friends and business partners.

I help in taking care of my father in law.

I help my husband by being trust worthy. He trusts me with everything.

It's called being a WIFE!
I don't need to give my husband money before it can he said that I have helped he.

Hope you get that.