Sterope:
If you were more than the phone, you would have returned it at the agreed date and time. You wouldn't have borrowed the phone to begin with. If you also had any shred of humility, you wouldn't have taken offence over a property that is not yours. If you had integrity, you would have kept to your word.

A girl does not need to be above 30 to NOT be a prodigal child. It is her property. She can shout from morning to night over it. It is none of your business. Please return her phone to her.

YelloweWest:

Don't mind the silly hungry boys here on nl. The truth is no responsible man will comfortably take money from his gf.
If he has no other option but to take from his girlfriend he certainly won't be an asś.

I hope u get ur money back and dumb him. That's not a man. He will wreck u.

nkwuocha:


How can one establish communication without picking calls?Look, there's no need making this lady feel she is all guilty of some sort...

According to her,he doesn't call or communicate like he use to?what changed?Money?Common guys, if he doesn't have the money yet,why can't he communicate that to her in a more appropriate and matured way like how lovers should?

thesuave10:


Agreed.. But he may have his reasons which I'm as much as it is inappropriate they stand a chance to be very understandable .the issue is that how she wants to handle it is fûcking absurd

Ishilove:

How do we know that she's not sure? She is the one interacting with him and knows the business.

Besides it doesn't explain why he has stopped picking her calls.

Look, she's human. What would you do if you were in her shoes?

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

chynie:

Is your brain paining u? u cant even praise her for giving him in the first place.
issues like this is why girls don't give guys financial support until they are rightfully married.
if she has lost her trust in him, then don't blame her, something caused it

thesuave10:


You clearly don't understand my comment.

1) I don't give a rat's ass about whether the guy hasn't explained it not. Wanting to end a relationship because of phone calls us stupid and not proper

2) don't jump to an issue that is irrelevant . When the guy is here we will address him. Ideally he should communicate the reasons why he can't pay but he is not here so I can't tell him that

3 as he is not here, she should make the right decision and not threaten to end a relationship because of a flimsy and highly horrible excuse

Sterope:
I am not going to judge because I feel there may even more to what she has written however whether or not he has made the money back, he should have communicated that to her.

thesuave10:


Take note she gave him part of the money, what if he sourced the remaining from somewhere else and has to pay them back first plus his workers. What if business is not moving. Just swerve. Immee read this

Linux007:

And some broke girls suddenly have an opinion. Come back and advise us when u have a responsible entrepreneur boyfriend u can 500k to run a business.

thesuave10:


Take note she gave him part of the money, what if he sourced the remaining from somewhere else and has to pay them back first plus his workers. What if business is not moving. Just swerve. Immee read this

EMMAUGOH:


And pls when people are in love what does it entails... Since she can have mine and I won't disturb why would having hers become a problem.
If she can share what she have with me, that's the essence of two becoming one in the first place..

LOL a man is good to share but when it comes to a woman.. We lose common sense

Sterope:
So far she claimed she as tried her possible best to talk to with him and he has refused to communicate . What else would you advice her to do?

Ginaz:
But the guy didn't try on his part too, for those of you criticizing her but giving lame excuses for the guy are not being fair.

You have the guts to borrow money, not the guts to explain your position? How will she be able to trust him? At least you read where she said she hasn't taken a dime from her man, it shows she is responsible and not the materialistic person who only cares about money.

She worked hard for the money, helped him with it. But look what he did. Not picking her calls and not even feeling bothered to cool her temper. His show of gratitude would have gone a long way.

Let's try to show gratitude abeg, whether man or woman. We should show we appreciate.

Girl run for your life, that man doesn't deserve you. You have a giving heart and it's not bad to help your man when he is in need. His actions doesn't speak of someone worth trusting at all.

Find a way to talk to him to ascertain the reasons for his uncalled actions , if it proved abortive, count the money as a offering to him and move on with your life.

Blackhawk01:


Somewhat selfish and she lent him her own money? Do you guys read threads upsidedown or what? Dude brought up the idea of an interest not the babe, stop trying to pin this on her. Put the gender aside, let's make Op MrX, how would you have him deal with this.


If I lend you 100naira with you promising to give it back at a particular time, failure to do so without you giving me reasons will put a strain on our relationship. Don't give promises, you can't keep.

This is total dishonesty, nonchalant attitude, ungratefulness, two faced ediotism(pardon me) on his part.

YelloweWest:

I'm not a broke girl. I'm a married woman with kids. A lawyer and successful business woman.

My hus is self made. He hustled like the way real men do.

There was a time my sister took me shopping and Spent a considerable amount of money on me. My hus sent her back the money as a birthday gift. He said it touches his ego...

That's the kind of man I'm married to. A real man's man.
Not the ones I see here on nl.

sambisa5:
I have read people's comment, unfortunately no one understood your plight.
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A woman knows when a man loves her, cares for her and always wants to be with her..although' she may not know how real his intentions are.
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A woman also knows when all start falling apart,when the man no longer shows interest, or done with her.
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I can also sense many things about you two.
-you guys have not dated for so long
-u love him more than he loves you.
-u wishes he marries you,,,he may not really wish the same as you wish it.
-financialy, you are well placed than him.
-you did all you did cos you feel he will marry you in the end, although you had your doubts anyway.
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And U gave him the money becos of his nice altutudes towards you which you felt was going to be forever,,,(FEAR MEN).
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Now it is very possible he never liked you for something serious, but got attached to you cos he wants to have intimacy and get some of your money,,,,,
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He is done now, and it glaring to u. He doesn't pick ur calls, and don't even call again.,,,and i know you are the one trying so hard to have conversations, that is why u keep sending sms to him.
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My advice,,,
forget about him. He is done with you,,,,(AN AVERAGE MAN DOES NOT WANT TO MARRY A WOMAN THAT IS RICHER THAN THEM-COS OF THEIR EGO) unfortunately money is involved in this case now, big money for that matter.....devise a means to collect your money, you can involve the police,letting the guy understand that you know he is done with you, but you can't leave your money for him, you need it back.
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(i know of a case like this, even after police involvement for many months, the guy didn't return the money,,,police have to beg the lady to leave the money,,,till tomorrow, the guy no return the money). So if can forget it, pls do and move on.

OTEGA1:
I guess she's an Ibo girl looking for every opportunity to collect. She only invested cos of returns not cos of helping d business stand..
It's weird a guy with a recycling plant will run away with ur 500k..
Are u saying his biz not up to 500k..
Dear forget about the money let it be a seed u sowed into up s company u are more interested in d money dan ur relationship...

I pray u get wisdom

alexialin:





The buisness will not move and its not a curse.
That's how it always end up, the buisness is not moving. Men never pays back any amount borrowed them.

So its best to dash what she can give to bf.. Than to borrow such huge amount.

Me i know i cant borrow a bf such money. Heavens forbid!

I rather dash my husband. Than borrow a boyfriend.

Guys these days are so unreliable its astonishing


That's my two cents.

Are you judging this case with your experience of less than 2% of the male population Not in the world o but your state? . Why not stick to this issue rather bringing stuffs that cannot add to this issue

YelloweWest:

I'm not a broke girl. I'm a married woman with kids. A lawyer and successful business woman.

My hus is self made. He hustled like the way real men do.

There was a time my sister took me shopping and Spent a considerable amount of money on me. My hus sent her back the money as a birthday gift. He said it touches his ego...

That's the kind of man I'm married to. A real man's man.
Not the ones I see here on nl.

alexialin:





My dear, God will keep blessing your husband..hes a real man!

Amen!


Most Guys here are vultures.. I pity ladies who take them serious.

They are up for one chance!