supersystemsnig:


I'm the one .... Long story..

The society is stuck in average, and guys and babes alike, many need to work on their mental acquity... God help us...


I'm back for good..I hope i don't deactivate this account soon...

Alright, welcome back.

kimbraa:
Alright, welcome back.

supersystemsnig:



Well....the matter get as he be. I really want to see how this ends, i'll bookmark this thread and don't mind waiting for one year ( God preserve me life )

I will also like to know where the story will end. But believe me, the guy will pay her back. It might just take a little time

supersystemsnig:


Lol,you're the victim of your flawed thinking.Speculation from start to finish, why not give the benefit of a doubt that this isn't the situation?

it is NOT speculation and no I'm not making sh!t up, real life experiences of people close to me. most of them over 30 and desperate for marriage, once they hear I'll marry you like this-they stop thinking right. once money changes hands; brother starts to misbehave.

I hope op comes back with the concluding story. It's one of two things- the relationship continues with marriage in view while op is being milked, or uncle doesn't answer at all.

thesuave10:



Your inability to comprehend is a problem. The marriage part there is just there to show you the seriousness and commitment level in the relationship. Immee should be patient. Let her ask him one more time and be just a little bit more aggressive but understanding and get his response Cuz he told her earlier via text that he will pay back. I don't give a rat's ass about marriage. As long as your my friend or I'm in a relationship it doesn't change anything.

You're the one with a very shallow mindset.This is not the kind of problem that is expected of people planning to get married.It's so unfortunate you don't understand the way the world of humans is.Your argument makes no sense,as first this is a business deal that's not tied to emotions. That part where she asked for interest says it all.Any woman I'm planning to get married to that asks me to pay interest on a loan is trying to tell me the simple but bitter truth, she doesn't mix business with pleasure. But then,according to her post,he initiated the business idea to be like a partnership. What I don't understand is why he is running away from his business partner?Who happens to be the financier?So because say him talk say him go marry her be say she go carry her money dash am?Kilode?I told three ladies I will marry them,but I'm presently married to just one.

The test thing came up as a result of his inability to pick her calls.Why are you blaming the lady,damn it!Its her money,she worked hard for it.It was a fucking loan!its strictly business! Why all these built up emotions?

tosyne2much:
I will also like to know where the story will end. But believe me, the guy will pay her back. It might just take a little time

Yes, but should that be how a human being should behave? If the lady thinks and imagine the worst, should anyone blame her?

whitetiger511:


it is NOT speculation and no I'm not making sh!t up, real life experiences of people close to me. most of them over 30 and desperate for marriage, once they hear I'll marry you like this-they stop thinking right. once money changes hands; brother starts to misbehave.

I hope op comes back with the concluding story. It's one of two things- the relationship continues with marriage in view while op is being milked, or uncle doesn't answer at all.

Well, it's the regular stuff happening around. But this guy has a company which means he has production facilities that are obviously worth more than 500k....

supersystemsnig:



Sure, i'm grateful i've found a lady that has depth. You're smart bae, nice one. I feel the guy just revealed how he responds to crises, and somewhere he has crushed into a cave, trying to figure things out...obviously he's lost the money and wants to repay it to get his pride back...

Wisdom!!!..
All this ladies that think with there private part, come over here and learn a little bit of psychology.

I have heard you.

humilitypays:
ewo, I don enter 1 chance today o. I am not a sexist o!!! I love women, including u typing....i come here to unwind and to read about ipod and Buhari lol

Then read romance stories to catch up with what's up in the society and love kini.

Of course if the girl decides to quit, he will feel bad emotionally but never financially I meant ok.

But girls don't breakup or quit with good-looking, financially able, educated, wise and smart guy na. Ladies dump mostly dumb, dull, shallow, unkempt broke guys

The first guys I described do the dumping, while the ladies in their life pray daily not to lose them to cutier, hotter, sharper chicks

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Did you sign any financial agreements? At the time of giving him the money, did you make him realise it was a loan and not a gift?

Linux007:


Wisdom!!!..
All this ladies that think with there private part, come over here and learn a little bit of psychology.

tosyne2much:
Even though I haven't heard the guy's part of the story, I don't think the guy has duped her, or has any dubious intention. What I think here is that the guy is actually disappointed that his fiancee is demanding for her money so soon just because production kick-started. Therefore, he has been running round to get the money for her

As per ignoring her calls, I think maybe he feels he doesn't owe her any explain as regards the uncertainties that prevented him from paying as promises. He only wants to get the money at all cost and hand it over to her

I may be wrong tho

Thumbs up bro

In fact you deserve a beer

Goldberg or 33 Export?

rosalieene:


I am telling you!!

if it's a LAdy now, you will see them coming out enmass to insult ladies.

Let it just be a lady that did want the man did. Sister you will fear the comments that day, LMAO

We have seen something on this nairaland sha,

I'm hoping and praying for op that she is able to collect her money soon, her boyfriend apologizes and hopefully they also make up, settle and better their communication, I hope she comes back to give us update.

OP...
Nairalanders can only air their opinions, you would need to make your decision by yourself.
But 1st ask yourself what you want, cos you sound like you wanted to buy a husband.
If you truly want an honest marriage/relationship, i suggest you find out what his challenges are & help out. But if it's your money that is most important, then please exercise patience for as long as possible, you'll get paid eventually, though it may not be 100%.

supersystemsnig:



Sure, i'm grateful i've found a lady that has depth. You're smart bae, nice one. I feel the guy just revealed how he responds to crises, and somewhere he has crushed into a cave, trying to figure things out...obviously he's lost the money and wants to repay it to get his pride back...

Thanks for the compliment



I feel for the lady though, for me I won't like to be with someone who can't share his problems with me no matter how big or little, there's a lot for them to fix if they get back together.

whitetiger511:


thats all I see here. the guy smelt it and did a quick one on her.

Her desperation to get married messed things up. Surely, if I had a lady friend come to me with this issue, I would ask she dash him 200k -300k and ask him to get the rest of the loan from elsewhere.

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

my dear u just said my mind. Dont mind the bingo. This is a typical example of my ex wife.

supersystemsnig:


Okay let's hand out...I heard you're close to Palm Grove...Let's gist in person..I wanna hear it all...

Sighs... Trust me, gisting about it only opens up memories have already buried and cemented.

Remembering my friend own sef tonight just gave me heartache few mins ago.

I dont want to talk about old wounds.

I was in a happy state before i saw this op thread about giving 500k to bf, and the guys were blaming and insulting her for expecting her money back is so appalling.

Am like for real?


In this recession? Guys here are looking at 500k like peanuts??

Na wa o


Anyways we can gist but not about the past.. Am done with it.

Blackhawk01:


Somewhat selfish and she lent him her own money? Do you guys read threads upsidedown or what? Dude brought up the idea of an interest not the babe, stop trying to pin this on her. Put the gender aside, let's make Op MrX, how would you have him deal with this.


If I lend you 100naira with you promising to give it back at a particular time, failure to do so without you giving me reasons will put a strain on our relationship. Don't give promises, you can't keep.

This is total dishonesty, nonchalant attitude, ungratefulness, two faced ediotism(pardon me) on his part.

Ya know, there is a very high chance there is a very high chance that the guy has not broken even and the babe has been pestering him for the cash so he tried to reduce communication because of the stress. He should have communicated better but for someone to assume that her Fiance has who I s well of has duped her of and destroyed their relationship because of 500k shows a distrustful mind. For somebody you want want to trust for the rest of your life I think that her actions are poor. I might be wrong though.

missyadorable:
Sharp Naija guy has duped you!

He promised to do introduction soon and marry you next year,so that you will feel relaxed and secured to give him such amount of money.

You are lucky you didn't transfer N1million.

Dude might just be using your money to marry another lady!

Relationship is scam!

Either woman scam man or man scam woman

Use your head.How can you give such money to a lover?

Well,hope you learn your lessons.

Next time,Dont show a man that you have money,not such amount of money.
Else same will repeat itself..

exactly, dont ever show a man you have money or else ..............gold diggers everywhere

elantraceey:



Thanks for the compliment



I feel for the lady though, for me I won't like to be with someone who can't share his problems with me no matter how big or little, there's a lot for them to fix if they get back together.

Babe, can i have ya number?

missyadorable:


Even many marriages these days are organised scam!
The lady is foolish! because of "I love you,i will marry you,and some sweet jargons that the man tells her which are all lies,she threw away 500K...

I am married but I can never give my husband 5K loan or dash,he will use my sweat to flex with other ladies outside.

I made my own money before I got married and still make my own money.

Everybody hold your pocket,abeg!

Pleasure and business don't mix!

Lol... baby giving them as it is hot, my third favorite person after amarabae and poco..... I love u cos there is always wisdom in your comment even though at times can be harsh and need to be filter.
Oya gentle men insulting OP, may be she also has a pressing need in mind, do well to donate money no matter how little to her acct too na... huh..

alexialin:






Sighs... Trust me, gisting about it only opens up memories have already buried and cemented.

Remembering my friend own sef tonight just gave me heartache few mins ago.

I dont want to talk about old wounds.

I was in a happy state before i saw this op thread about giving 500k to bf, and the guys were blaming and insulting her for expecting her money back is so appalling.

Am like for real?


In this recession? Guys here are looking at 500k like peanuts??

Na wa o


Anyways we can gist but not about the past.. Am done with it.

This comment got me rolling on the floor...No one wants to re-visit the past, trust me, i've got my own past-phobia too....

Yeap, could hookup, but not about the past...Far from Union Homes?

Ishilove:

How do we know that she's not sure? She is the one interacting with him and knows the business.

Besides it doesn't explain why he has stopped picking her calls.

Look, she's human. What would you do if you were in her shoes?

I would honestly not assume that my wife-to-be would end our relationship by duping me of 500k. She has trust issues.

NoToPile:


So he can't open his mouth to say he has not gotten back to his feet, no picking of calls no communication because of that? If he had communicated to her she won't be thinking of the word dupe, you go blank on your fiancee because of money.


Its an irresponsible person that does that.

That's where he made the mistake. In life, we should be ready to face responsibility be it good or bad

tosyne2much:
Even though I haven't heard the guy's part of the story, I don't think the guy has duped her, or has any dubious intention. What I think here is that the guy is actually disappointed that his fiancee is demanding for her money so soon just because production kick-started. Therefore, he has been running round to get the money for her

As per ignoring her calls, I think maybe he feels he doesn't owe her any explain as regards the uncertainties that prevented him from paying as promises. He only wants to get the money at all cost and hand it over to her

I may be wrong tho

What you said is exactly what I'm thinking. Small thing don scatter relationship. She go need to continue her search for husband, I guess.

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

Shuooo Oga take it easy na, it's not your money. Don't be pained na but Sïr some ppl do this for 50k even and u are calling 500 meager I'd like to be like you when I grow up

Maduawuchukwu:


I would honestly not assume that my wife-to-be would end our relationship by duping me of 500k. She has trust issues.

Such can be avoided nae, e easy, don't ask for loan from your wife-to-be....

supersystemsnig:


Babe, can i have ya number?

why not?

But hope you ain't going to ask me for 500k too o ?
You just registered today, did you do so because of this thread?

Tuham:

Thumbs up bro
In fact you deserve a beer
Goldberg or 33 Export?

That's what I think my bro

elantraceey:



why not?


But hope you ain't going to ask me for 500k too o ?

You just registered today, did you do so because of this thread?

Not really, i deactivated my former account spontaneously, i needed a new moniker that's similar to the old one...

Please and please, tread carefully because of yourself and loved ones, to avoid story that touched. With so many stories all over, when money is involved with two or more people, one has to be vigilant. Try to persuade him to pay you back without using force, but if he is not yielding, just leave him in the hand of God and move on.