Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;








Update: October 5 2017, she just called 10 minutes ago, saying she wanted to hear my voice when i asked why she called this is after 4 days of my no contact.. she has finally realized I'm not a white Knight.. hahaha!!!!!! Now i see, i don't need opinions of sheeps.. thanks to all the real guys here that gave me high quality advice.. you have a place reserved in heaven....

Stop being a kid. .. If u can't initiate a bootycall another guy will...

dingbang:
Stop being a kid. .. If u can't initiate a bootycall another guy will...

lol guys like you who will probably spend on her while she splits the money with guys like us.. haha

bro if you call a girl too much you're just lame.. she's supposed to call you much don't be silly.. you're a man not a gay..

I don't spend on girls bro

babtaima:

lol guys like you who will probably spend on her while she splits the money with guys like us.. haha

dingbang:
I don't spend on girls bro

you're lame.. i spend for my female friends as they're humans too just like you and me.. everything is not about getting laid.

babtaima:

you're lame.. i spend for my female friends as they're humans too just like you and me.. everything is not about getting laid.

you are confused....

dingbang:
you are confused....

anyway you will call her everyday like a slaveboy? what are your personal reasons sir?

IamKashyBaby:
If u know the game is tight..its either u gotta step ur game up or juz GIVE UP...

Communication is very important to make any relationships work.. NO COMMUNICATION, NO RELATIONSHIP..

If a person doesn't bother to call u, its bcoz they don't give a fvck about u...#bittertruth

lol.. you clearly didn't read.. she's mine. i do whatever i want, except for this communication issue.. she calls but she's used to guys calling her thus the communication issue.. i control her social media, not because i asked for it, but because she uses my device to login regularly.. why do some girls prefer the guy do all the contact initiation? now that's the question..


Stop sounding like that dingbang firstbank junior staff

mumu...she loves u yet she dosnt miss u enough to call
check ha contact u r mugu no 12

Titheman:
mumu...she loves u yet she dosnt miss u enough to call

check ha contact u r mugu no 12

oga you need to check your head

You clearly the type of guy that begs your gf to call you.. weak man...

babtaima:

lol.. you clearly didn't read.. she's mine. i do whatever i want, except for this communication issue.. she calls but she's used to guys calling her thus the communication issue.. i control her social media, not because i asked for it, but because she uses my device to login regularly.. why do some girls prefer the guy do all the contact initiation? now that's the question..


Stop sounding like that dingbang firstbank junior staff

Definitely u dont own her even u control all her social media, thats wat P.A.(Personal Assistant) do but u cant control her mind...She is still having her own world..#bittertruth

Any sane woman, who is in a "exclusive relationship" wont be bothering herself picking up calls from her other suitors..but lets be real here, she keep her option OPEN.

IamKashyBaby:





Definitely u dont own her even u control all her social media, thats wat P.A.(Personal Assisant) do but u cant control her mind...She is still having her own world..#bittertruth

Any sane woman, who is in a "exclusive relationship" wont be bothering herself picking up calls from her other suitors..but lets be real here, she keep her option OPEN.

eh.. lol.. I'll break up with her and she'll definitely beg again.. i have other options and she knows it..

ps: everywhere she goes they kiss her foot.. calling her sweet names and all that gay stuffs.. maybe it has gotten into her head too deep that she expects me who can get 100 other prettier girls to do same.. craxy..

Anyway i guess she's with me because I'm different from all the other guys being the same old white Knights..

babtaima:

oga you need to check your head

You clearly the type of guy that begs your gf to call you.. weak man...

beg?

u sef get dick?
y would u beg a girl to call u
if she ahv any feelings for u and she doesn't hear from u for long she must call u.

Op, ur post down to ur qoutings is filled wt pride, hv u calmed down to study her and no her kind of person , weda she is an introvert or extro , if u ar dating an introvert, it usually takes time b4 dey cn get used to u, open up and share conversations wt u. Dat doesn't make her bad person, hw many gals wl b sincere enoff 2 let u handle dia social media , u ar here talking of hw u wl break up wt her and go 4 prettier gals instead appreciating d one u hv.

Titheman:
beg?

u sef get dick?
y would u beg a girl to call u
if she ahv any feelings for u and she doesn't hear from u for long she must call u.

dude you're confusing yourself..

safiaa what? are you facing what I'm facing?

if a girl loves you or is even serious with you,she won't stay 2days(tops) without either calling or chatting u up,doesn't matter if you guys are quarelling

You wrote a story.But, your comments was full with pride and ego.If you aint perturbed about the 'situation' why bringing it here for opinions from folks.

IAMSASHY:
Op, ur post down to ur qoutings is filled wt pride, hv u calmed down to study her and no her kind of person , weda she is an introvert or extro , if u ar dating an introvert, it usually takes time b4 dey cn get used to u, open up and share conversations wt u. Dat doesn't make her bad person, hw many gals wl b sincere enoff 2 let u handle dia social media , u ar here talking of hw u wl break up wt her and go 4 prettier gals instead appreciating d one u hv.

Yeah you might be right... she looks very introverted.. she's had a very rough childhood and was abused severally and almost had an incestuous abuse from her family member, could this be a reason? she opens up with me about a lot of things and I've met her family on different accounts.. could this be why she's taking advantage of me wanting me to initiate all the contact?

walepackage:
You wrote a story.But, your comments was full with pride and ego.If you aint perturbed about the 'situation' why bringing it here for opinions from folks.

sorry bro if it seemed that way... I'm bp.
she still hasn't called, she wasn't in her work place yesterday, maybe she has issues? or oh, the holidays... ... at this point I'm fed up with her. Maybe she doesn't love me.. she's just feeding off my energy and attention from every meeting we make.

babtaima:
Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;

If u want her to call as much as u do, the step u are taking isn't the right one. Women hate to be ignored which is exactly what u are doing, it isn't same as not giving attention. Mellow down the attention u usually give her, that she can respond to and not u ignoring her which she would likely interpret as something else

fayded:
if a girl loves you or is even serious with you,she won't stay 2days(tops) without either calling or chatting u up,doesn't matter if you guys are quarelling

you see, the problem here is you speak as if you're really experienced, have you met every girl in Nigeria and had first hand experience of each and every one of them and their characters? if a girl loves you The bolded is your opinion anyways, sadly i don't agree to it as you don't have a degree with knowing what every female can do if they love you.

babtaima:
Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;

bro leave that pride shit...atleast she suppose don call u nah since una no quarell

wh33z:
bro leave that pride shit...atleast she suppose don call u nah since una no quarell

Thats why i opened this thread.. she's probably playing games and I'll end it. i won't call, that's the sad part.
ps: i did mention that she's used to being on the receiving end of everything.. we're talking about a girl here of whom i control her social media and gets to pay for some things for both of us when we go out on a date. Be civil man, don't be like the trolls.. She thinks if she calls everytime I'll get bored of her!?

babtaima:

Thats why i opened this thread.. she's probably playing games and I'll end it. i won't call, that's the sad part.
ps: i did mention that she's used to being on the receiving end of everything.. we're talking about a girl here of whom i control her social media and gets to pay for some things for both of us when we go out on a date. Be civil man, don't be like the trolls.. She thinks if she calls everytime I'll get bored of her!?

see broda dont end that relationship..tryna talk to her about these things it doesnt make u a weakman#just call her bro...call her

babtaima:

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .

Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

op show us her pics,make we see.

Advise? Ok, don't call again so that it will 50:50. And ignore her calls completely.

Biggie225:
op show us her pics,make we see.

. lol I'm not that dumb

ibkayee:

Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

As a girl, what do you think is going through her mind now that I've cut contact?

boastful op,,why do you even need help when you can help yourself then?abeg

sekxy:
boastful op,,why do you even need help when you can help yourself then?abeg

Hate if you want, advice is all i seek, if you can't say anything substantial then the door is open.. i don't have energy to argue over nonsense with you

babtaima:

As a girl, what do you think is going through her mind now that I've cut contact?

It's probably one of these (not necessarily saying for sure):

1. If she genuinely loves you she's probably craving for your attention, but if she's also stubborn she may also be able to hold out even though it pains her. But then, it's not like you guys are newly dating to be honest (as far as I've read), this sort of play should've died out by now, if she holds out for more than a week it seems a bit childish and kind of shows that she isn't taking your feelings into consideration which is a bit telling, especially if you're in a full fledged (as far as I've read) relationship and it's something you've spoken to her about. This is when the 'forming' is no longer cute and I can see why you'd be frustrated

2. If she doesn't actually like/love you the way you think then she may not even be fussed

What did she say when you spoke to her about it?