=babtaima post=61108083]
Yeah you might be right... she looks very introverted.. she's had a very rough childhood and was abused severally and almost had an incestuous abuse from her family member, could this be a reason? she opens up with me about a lot of things and I've met her family on different accounts.. could this be why she's taking advantage of me wanting me to initiate all the contact?

sorry bro if it seemed that way... I'm bp.
she still hasn't called, she wasn't in her work place yesterday, maybe she has issues? or oh, the holidays... ... at this point I'm fed up with her. Maybe she doesn't love me.. she's just feeding off my energy and attention from every meeting we make. [/quote]ok my man,but the truth is dont quickly give up on her.Thou,its kinda strange not hearing from someone who claim to be inlove with you,cos ladies are more emotional.But,have you ever tought of her rough childhood experienced may precipitate her cold attitude towards you.I sugest you should talk to her now.

ibkayee:


What did she say when you spoke to her about it?

Thanks for your positive response..
When i spoke to her about it she apologized whole heartedly, started calling again then now she's slowed down again.. it's like a game and I'm not playing with that silliness.

babtaima:

Thanks for your positive response..
When i spoke to her about it she apologized whole heartedly, started calling again then now she's slowed down again.. it's like a game and I'm not playing with that silliness.

No problem, hmm, maybe mention it again and if she improves and then slows down again, start mirroring all her actions. If she calls, you call and if not you do the same, if it becomes ridiculous and it's clear that she won't change....you may need to consider leaving, since it clearly bothers you as much as it does and I personally don't think you're even asking for too much

ibkayee:

No problem, hmm, maybe mention it again and if she improves and then slows down again, start mirroring all her actions. If she calls, you call and if not you do the same, if it becomes ridiculous and it's clear that she won't change....you may need to consider leaving, since it clearly bothers you as much as it does and I personally don't think you're even asking for too much

Hahaha you're right.. i really admire your intelligence!

Hahaha guys guys... she just called 10 minutes ago though her credit was really low (according to her) so i called back.. She didn't ask me why I haven't called her for like 4 days now lol she was really soft and sweet with the phone call.. she says she's not feeling too well.. i asked why she called and she said: Nothing.. just wanted to hear your voice hahaha... she lost.. anyway she's probably learnt her lesson and said again on the phone call that she'll call tomorrow when she loads her phone.. i lied to her though, i told her i was sick as well yesterday and was vomiting too.. she was now telling me to get well soon and all that... i told her to get well soon as well and that I'll call her tomorrow..

Hopefully all the guys will learn from me and adopt this mindset that will make them get the respect they deserve from their SO.
Peace.


ibkayee, walepackage, sekxy, Maiconyoung, wh33z, Apina, IamKashyBaby, fayded, dingbang, Titheman

babtaima:
Hahaha guys guys... she just called 10 minutes ago though her credit was really low (according to her) so i called back.. She didn't ask me why I haven't called her for like 4 days now lol she was really soft and sweet with the phone call.. she says she's not feeling too well.. i asked why she called and she said: Nothing.. just wanted to hear your voice hahaha... she lost.. anyway she's probably learnt her lesson and said again on the phone call that she'll call tomorrow when she loads her phone.. i lied to her though, i told her i was sick as well yesterday and was vomiting too.. she was now telling me to get well soon and all that... i told her to get well soon as well and that I'll call her tomorrow..

Hopefully all the guys will learn from me and adopt this mindset that will make them get the respect they deserve from their SO.
Peace.


ibkayee, walepackage, sekxy, Maiconyoung, wh33z, Apina, IamKashyBaby, fayded, dingbang, Titheman

happy for you..better treat her right and avoid those things that promote break ups. .
btw,mellow your shoulders too.

babtaima:
Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;








Update: October 5 2017, she just called 10 minutes ago, saying she wanted to hear my voice when i asked why she called this is after 4 days of my no contact.. she has finally realized I'm not a white Knight.. hahaha!!!!!! Now i see, i don't need opinions of sheeps.. thanks to all the real guys here that gave me high quality advice.. you have a place reserved in heaven....

White knight, beta hmmmmm Red Pillerr and MGTOW spotted

sekxy:

happy for you..better treat her right and avoid those things that promote break ups. .
btw,mellow your shoulders too.

Gucci on your feet... guess who bought you that? me.. sekxy

pcguru1:


White knight, beta hmmmmm Red Pillerr and MGTOW spotted

hahaha... you seem like a cool guy that used the Internet back in the days just like me.. i started using forums before nl became popular so this are slangs we use alot back in the days

babtaima:
Hahaha guys guys... she just called 10 minutes ago though her credit was really low (according to her) so i called back.. She didn't ask me why I haven't called her for like 4 days now lol she was really soft and sweet with the phone call.. she says she's not feeling too well.. i asked why she called and she said: Nothing.. just wanted to hear your voice hahaha... she lost.. anyway she's probably learnt her lesson and said again on the phone call that she'll call tomorrow when she loads her phone.. i lied to her though, i told her i was sick as well yesterday and was vomiting too.. she was now telling me to get well soon and all that... i told her to get well soon as well and that I'll call her tomorrow..

Hopefully all the guys will learn from me and adopt this mindset that will make them get the respect they deserve from their SO.
Peace.


ibkayee, walepackage, sekxy, Maiconyoung, wh33z, Apina, IamKashyBaby, fayded, dingbang, Titheman

Don't call her tomorrow. Call her next tomorrow or sunday evening

babtaima:

hahaha... you seem like a cool guy that used the Internet back in the days just like me.. i started using forums before nl became popular so this are slangs we use alot back in the days

as in we don't old for this forum, I know a lot about those slings I used to be a member there and read a lot of the articles that's why I made the shout out nice signature bro, though not a Nodejs fan too much dependency and packages wahala

ibkayee:

Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

lol you deserve a gift you're special and intelligent unlike that kashy who posts for likes.. she was forming shit.. she gave up and called when she realized I'm not ready for games.. hats off to you milady.. for being so knowledgeable.

Betmaster3:
Don't call her tomorrow. Call her next tomorrow or sunday evening

oga but that's wickedness the four days no contact never do.
forget all my ego.. i actually love this girl but I won't show it fully yet till I'm sure. i don't want to screw things by not calling tommorow.. I need to strike a balance between trustworthy/honest and WiseMan.

pcguru1:
as in we don't old for this forum, I know a lot about those slings I used to be a member there and read a lot of the articles that's why I made the shout out nice signature bro, though not a Nodejs fan too much dependency and packages wahala

Lol NodeJs really cool hahaha.. i got paid really good as a node developer this year.. i wanna settle down with a good girl hahaha

babtaima:
oga but that's wickedness the four days no contact never do.
forget all my ego.. i actually love this girl but I won't show it fully yet till I'm sure. i don't want to screw things by not calling tommorow.. I need to strike a balance between trustworthy/honest and WiseMan.

Girls always call back if you don't call them as before, it's just normal. You don't know the game well, yet you claim to know, I didn't speak with my babe for 1 month plus straight on one occasion and 2 months plus straight on the other occasion, she was the one that first called me back on those two occasions, Calling her tomorrow will make her feel you can't do without her and you'll have yourself to be blamed, learn from the elders. Call her on Sunday boy!

Betmaster3:
Girls always call back if you don't call them as before, it's just normal. You don't know the game well, yet you claim to know, I didn't speak with my babe for 1 month plus straight on one occasion and 2 months plus straight on the other occasion, she was the one that first called me back on those two occasions, Calling her tomorrow will make her feel you can't do without her and you'll have yourself to be blamed, learn from the elders. Call her on Sunday boy!

lol nice analysis.. but bro please don't be rude to me.. i wasn't rude to you. I'll call on Saturday then.

babtaima:
lol you deserve a gift you're special and intelligent unlike that kashy who posts for likes.. she was forming shit.. she gave up and called when she realized I'm not ready for games.. hats off to you milady.. for being so knowledgeable.

Aww thanks

Congrats

Best way to handle people like that is to mirror their actions. Also, don't let her know you were trying to test her etc, if she switches back to not putting any effort in, just act indifferent lol

I wouldn't advise you keep up this act forever though, if she keeps going back to old habits, at some point you've got to put in the towel, let her go and try your luck with someone else, else you'll just be tired lol

babtaima:

Lol NodeJs really cool hahaha.. i got paid really good as a node developer this year.. i wanna settle down with a good girl hahaha

I won't lie am bothered too , wanna settle down too yeah NodeJS pays I write node but mostly CLI and to automate stuff not Web, but am liking Golang I dey reason resign and do all these remote jobs or relocation but mehn really need to get a gig that pays well. Let's see how it goes I go follow you and buzz from time to time, nice one and congrats on the settling down part too.

Enjoy broda...try swallow ur pride sometimes make he no go choke u

ibkayee:

Aww thanks

Congrats

Best way to handle people like that is to mirror their actions. Also, don't let her know you were trying to test her etc, if she switches back to not putting any effort in, just act indifferent lol

I wouldn't advise you keep up this act forever though, if she keeps going back to old habits, at some point you've got to put in the towel, let her go and try your luck with someone else, else you'll just be tired lol

see sense...u get sense abeg